Discipleship Training on Congregational Conflict: Understanding Personality

Discipleship Training on Discipleship Training on Congregational Conflict: Congregational Conflict: Understanding PersonalityUnderstanding Personality

Have nothing to do with godless myths and old Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives' tales; rather, train yourself to be godly.wives' tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. 1 Tim. 1 Tim.

4:7 (NIV) 4:7 (NIV) Dr. Ben Barnett, AMCCDr. Ben Barnett, AMCC

“Know thyself”—Socrates

“Know yourself and seek self-improvement”—Army Leadership Principle

“Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you--unless, of course, you fail the test? –2 Cor. 13:5 (NIV)

Dr. Ben Barnett, AMCCDr. Ben Barnett, AMCC

Self-KnowledgeSelf-Knowledge

InstructionsInstructions

1.1. Discover your MBTI score.Discover your MBTI score.

2.2. Pay attention to the following Pay attention to the following subgroups:subgroups:

SJSJ SPSP NTNT NFNF


Measure of our dominant preferences for taking in information and making decisions

You can be “a little of both” No profile is better or worse than another Helps explain our working style preferences Based on the theory of Carl Jung

What the MBTI isn’t: • A measure of abilities – it’s not a test • No right or wrong answers • Tool is an ‘indicator’ – you can agree or disagree

What is the MBTI?


Personality Typology

Extraversion (E) Introversion (I)

Sensing (S) iNtuition (N)

Thinking (T) Feeling (F)

Judging (J) Perceiving (P)


He answered: " 'Love the Lord your He answered: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love and with all your mind'; and, 'Love

your neighbor as yourself.'" your neighbor as yourself.'"

Luke 10:27 (NIV) Luke 10:27 (NIV)


Holistic View Holistic View

Four Core Functions of Four Core Functions of MBTIMBTI

1.1. Sensing (S)—loving God with all your strengthSensing (S)—loving God with all your strength

2.2. Intuition (N)-loving God with all of your soulIntuition (N)-loving God with all of your soul

3.3. Thinking (T)—loving God with all of your mindThinking (T)—loving God with all of your mind

4.4. Feeling (F)—loving God with all of your heartFeeling (F)—loving God with all of your heart


Direction of your Energy Direction of your Energy ForceForce

Extraversion (E)Extraversion (E)

You prefer to direct your energy

towards people, and/or situations. Draws energy from action.

Active, Outward People, Expressive

InteractionSpeak to think

Introversion (I)Introversion (I)

You prefer to direct your energy towards ideas, information, explanations and/or beliefs. Draws energy from reflection.

Reflective, InwardPrivacy, Contained

ConcentrationThink to speak


Balance in Christ (E)Balance in Christ (E)

Matthew 4:25 (NIV) Large crowds from Galilee, the Decapolis, Jerusalem, Judea and the region across the Jordan followed him.

Matthew 8:1 (NIV) When he came down from the mountainside, large crowds followed him.

Matthew 13:2 (NIV) Such large crowds gathered around him that he got into a boat and sat in it, while all the people stood on the shore.

Matthew 19:2 (NIV) Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.


Balance in Christ (I)Balance in Christ (I)

Matthew 14:13 (NIV) When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. Hearing of this, the crowds followed him on foot from the towns.

Mark 1:35 (NIV) Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.


Information Gathering & Information Gathering & ProcessingProcessing

Sensing (S)Sensing (S)

You prefer to deal with facts, proven You prefer to deal with facts, proven procedures, what you know; a realist in procedures, what you know; a realist in the here and now. Uses (5) senses. the here and now. Uses (5) senses. Lets “the eyes tell the mind”.Lets “the eyes tell the mind”.

Details, Present Details, Present

Practical, SequentialPractical, Sequential

Familiar, Actual, Craving Familiar, Actual, Craving enjoymentenjoyment

Intuition (N)Intuition (N)

You prefer to deal with ideas, look You prefer to deal with ideas, look into the unknown, generate new into the unknown, generate new possibilities, and/or anticipate possibilities, and/or anticipate what isn’t obvious; future what isn’t obvious; future oriented. Let’s “the mind tell the oriented. Let’s “the mind tell the eyes”.eyes”.

Patterns, Future Patterns, Future

Imaginative, RandomImaginative, Random

New, Possible, Craving New, Possible, Craving InspirationInspiration


Balance in Christ (S)Balance in Christ (S)

Matthew 9:36Matthew 9:36 (NIV) When he saw the crowds, he had (NIV) When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.

Matthew 21:12Matthew 21:12 (NIV) Jesus entered the temple area (NIV) Jesus entered the temple area and drove out all who were buying and selling there. and drove out all who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves.the benches of those selling doves.

Mark 5:31Mark 5:31 (NIV) "You see the people crowding (NIV) "You see the people crowding

against you," his disciples answered, "and yet you can against you," his disciples answered, "and yet you can ask, 'Who touched me?' " ask, 'Who touched me?' "


Balance in Christ (N)Balance in Christ (N)

Mark 2:8 (NIV) Immediately Jesus knew in his spirit that this was what they were thinking in their hearts, and he said to them, "Why are you thinking these things?


Making DecisionsMaking Decisions

Thinking (T)Thinking (T)

You prefer to decide on the basis of logic, using an analytic and impersonal approach.

Head, ObjectiveClarity, Task

Analyze, Criticize

Feeling (F)Feeling (F)

You prefer to decide using values and/or beliefs; using an objective people-oriented approach.

Heart, SubjectiveHarmony, RelationshipEmpathy

Appreciation


Balance in Christ (T & F)Balance in Christ (T & F)

John 8:3-11 (NIV) The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman

caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group [4] and said to Jesus, "Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. [5] In the Law Moses (Lev 20:10, Dt. 22:22) commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?" [6] They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. [7] When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her." [8] Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

[9] At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. [10] Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?"

[11] "No one, sir," she said. "Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin."


Organizing your Organizing your (lifestyle)(lifestyle)

Judging (J)Judging (J)

You prefer your life to be organized in a planned, stable way.

Make decisionsOrganized, Control

ScheduledGood Finisher

Perceiving (P)Perceiving (P)

You prefer to go with the flow, having a flexibility and responding to situations.

Gather informationFlow, Flexible

Experience, SpontaneousGood Starter


Balance in ChristBalance in Christ

Judging (J)Judging (J) Luke 9:51 (NIV) As the time approached for him to be taken up to heaven, Jesus resolutely set out for Jerusalem. Luke 13:32 (NIV) He replied, "Go tell that fox, 'I will drive out demons and heal people today and tomorrow, and on the third day I will reach my goal.'

Perceiving (P)Perceiving (P)

John 2:4 (NIV) "Dear woman, why do you involve me?" Jesus replied. "My time has not yet come."

John 6:15 (NIV) Jesus, knowing that they intended to come and make him king by force,

withdrew again to a mountain by himself.


Balance in Christ (P)Balance in Christ (P)

Matthew 19:13-14 (NIV) Then little children were brought to Jesus for him to place his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples rebuked those who brought them. [14] Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these."


Balance in Christ (P)Balance in Christ (P)

Matthew 14:25-26 (NIV) During the fourth watch of the night Jesus went out to them, walking on the lake. [26] When the disciples saw him walking on the lake, they were terrified. "It's a ghost," they said, and cried out in fear.


U.S.A. Population Breakdown

ISTJ11.6%

ISFJ13.8%

INFJ1.5%

INTJ2.1%

ISTP5.4%

ISFP8.8%

INFP4.3%

INTP3.3%

ESTP4.3%

ESFP8.5%

ENFP8.1%

ENTP3.2%

ESTJ8.7%

ESFJ12.3%

ENFJ2.4%

ENTJ1.8%

Personality Breakdown by Population


David Keirsey & Marilyn David Keirsey & Marilyn BatesBates

Research demonstrated certain letter combinations have such a strong bond that the (2) remaining letters played a minor role.

2nd letter determines temperament. If 2nd letter is S, then next most important letter is either J or P.

If 2nd letter is N, then the next most important letter is Tor F.

Thus; SJ, SP, NT, or NF


Type ESTJThe Overseer

ESFJThe Supporter

ISTJThe Examiner

ISFJThe Defender

Strength Enthusiastic people are driven to fulfill their obligations. They are committed to relationships they consider life-long.

Warm hearted persons who value their relationships. They tend to bring out the best in people.

Honors their commitments and takes constructive criticism well.

Warm, friendly and affirming by nature. Excellent organizational capabilities.

Weakness Tendency to always needing to be in charge. As a result, maybe controlling of friends and colleagues.

Can be self-sacrificing; thus ignoring their own needs.

Tendency to believe they are always right. Their value for structure may seem rigid to others.

Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism. Unlikely to express their needs which leads to pent up frustration.

Protectors (SJ)

Overall: Long to be dutiful. They feel the best when they are bound and obligated; they are the caretakers of the world. They feel more comfortable giving than receiving—backbone of most institutions, family, church, clubs, etc.Dr. Ben Barnett, AMCCDr. Ben Barnett, AMCC

Type ESTPThe Persuader

ESFPThe Entertainer

ISTPThe Craftsman

ISFPThe Artist

Strength They love action and always seem to be doing something. Enjoy giving love ones gifts and are good people to have on your side.

Generous and will go out of their way to help friends. Lives for and makes the most of the moment.

Usually self-confident and are not threatened by conflict.

Flexible and laid back. Usually will defer to their mates. Warm, friendly and affirming by nature.

Weakness Gets bored easy. Lavishes loved ones with BIG gifts.

Can take conflict personally. Resists relationships that require intuition and thinking.

Thrive on action and excitement and may stir it up things to create it.

Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism. Tends to hold back thoughts and feelings, unless drawn out.

Creators (SP)Creators (SP)

Overall: Desire to be engaged, involved, and frequently bored with the status quo. They are impulsive and would much rather deal with a crisis than practical, down-to-earth issues. Perpetually young, they never grow up.


Type ENTJThe Chief

ENTPThe Originator

INTJThe Strategist

INTPThe Engineer

Strength Enjoys lively, intellectual conversation—welcoming learning opportunities. Strong church teacher (54).

Laid back and can get along with a diverse group of people

Not threatened by conflict. Able to leave relationships that should be ended.

Approach things which interest them enthusiastically. Richly imaginative and creative.

Weakness Can be direct and confrontational.

Can initiate arguments because they enjoy the debate.

May be insensitive at times and unwilling to accept blame.

Tends to be distrusting of others. Tends to blow of conflict by ignoring it or else they blow up in anger.

Intellectuals (NT)Intellectuals (NT)

Overall: Has a desire for power—not necessarily over people but the environment. They love abstract theory and building great plans for the future and are known for their competence.


Type ENFJThe Mentor

ENFPThe Advocate

INFJThe confidant

INFPThe Dreamer

Strength Warm sociable people who are keenly in tune with other’s feeling & perspectives. Most popular in church ministry—combination of NF (spirituality and human relationships) with EJ (administrative/managerial skills) (53).

Sees the best in people and likely to bring out the best in people. Is a reconciler.

Has very high expectations of themselves and others.

Have driven to meet other’s needs. A win-win person. Natural mystic (52).

Weakness

Well defined value systems can make them inflexible in some areas.

The most sexually seducible and most seductive (131-32).

Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism.

Tends to be shy and reserved. Perfectionists tendencies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit

Visionary (NF)Visionary (NF)

Overall: Searches for authenticity and self-actualization. Idealistic and romantic. They are natural seekers, in search of true self. They have a great capacity for empathetic listening. Often NF’s have high verbal skills. Dr. Ben Barnett, AMCCDr. Ben Barnett, AMCC

HeresyHeresy(124-127)(124-127)

Sexual Sexual ImproprietyImpropriety

(127-135)(127-135)

SpiritualitSpiritualityy

(96-119)(96-119)

TemperameTemperament & Prayer nt & Prayer

(90-95)(90-95)

NFNF

Gospel of Gospel of LukeLuke

Deism, Deism, Humanism, Humanism, PietismPietism

NF’s are people of NF’s are people of the heart who the heart who must balance must balance warm feelings warm feelings about God with about God with specific, orthodox specific, orthodox teachings.teachings.

Feelings are more in the Feelings are more in the moment with people; moment with people; therefore susceptible to therefore susceptible to sexual temptations. sexual temptations. Coupled with (E), (F’s) Coupled with (E), (F’s) need caution. NF’s are the need caution. NF’s are the most seductive of allmost seductive of all

Natural hunger and Natural hunger and thirst for the thirst for the spiritual. Content spiritual. Content when outer life is in when outer life is in harmony with inner harmony with inner life.life.

Augustinian—creative Augustinian—creative imagination, looking imagination, looking for hidden meaning to for hidden meaning to apply to current apply to current situation.situation.

NTNT

Gospel of Gospel of JohnJohn

GnosticGnostic

DualismDualism

ScientologyScientology

UniversalismUniversalism

Everything happens in the head, including sex. NT’s may fantasize an affair in vivid detail. The greatest temptation for NT’s will be a brilliant mind in an attractive body.

Approaches Approaches Scripture like a Scripture like a detective trying to detective trying to solve a mystery.solve a mystery.

Thomistic—scholastic Thomistic—scholastic approachapproach

SPSP

Gospel of Gospel of MarkMark

SanguineSanguine

Less concerned Less concerned with doctrine and with doctrine and structure than structure than they are about they are about taking action.taking action.

An attitude of An attitude of openness to the openness to the directives of the directives of the Holy Spirit.Holy Spirit.

Franciscan—”spirit-Franciscan—”spirit-filled” use of all (5) filled” use of all (5) senses; free-flowing senses; free-flowing prayers, spontaneous prayers, spontaneous responsiveness.responsiveness.

SJ SJ

Gospel of Gospel of MatthewMatthew

PhlegmatiPhlegmaticc

Pelagianism (earn Pelagianism (earn salvation)salvation)

LegalismLegalism

Less tolerant of other clergy’s sexual acting, not realizing that their own temperament makes them less vulnerable.

Carefully organized Carefully organized regimen of striving regimen of striving towards relationship towards relationship with God. Discipline with God. Discipline and order are key.and order are key.

Ignatian—projecting Ignatian—projecting oneself back into event oneself back into event of salvation history.of salvation history.


Possibilities Possibilities

Romans 12:3-8 (NIV) For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do

not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you. [4] Just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, [5] so in Christ we who are many form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. [6] We have different gifts, according to the grace given us. If a man's gift is prophesying, let him use it in proportion to his faith. [7] If it is serving, let him serve; if it is teaching, let him teach; [8] if it is encouraging, let him encourage; if it is contributing to the needs of others, let him give generously; if it is leadership, let him govern diligently; if it is showing mercy, let him do it cheerfully.


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