Developing Responsibility in our Children

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“for whoever much is given much is expected.”

Developing Responsibility

Develop – Step by step process

Responsibility – Being accountable for one’s actions

Developing Responsible Children

Whose role?

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Whose role?

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

Developing Responsible Children

How?

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• Set clear rules and consequences• Give tasks• Build relationships – be a friend first then a

parent second• Allow them to make some decisions and

choices• Teach by example – role model• Give feedback• Involve them in finding solutions to challenges

Required! Time, time and more time

What determines time available?• Priorities

– Careers– Friends

– Social life

– Church– Relatives– Personal development

– Household chores…etc

• School, etc

Time Priority Matrix

Personalized Nurturing – Boarding School

Hours in a day 24

Sleeping time 8

Lessons time 8

Time available for personalized nurturing(assuming 12 hrs working day) 4

Average staff/students ratio 1:20

No of hours a year 4 hrs X 7 days X 14 weeks X 3 terms = 1176

Average no of hours available annually per child = 1176/20 = 58.8 hours

Others (preps, play, etc) 4

Personalized Nurturing – Day School

Hours in a day 24

Sleeping time 8

Lessons time 8

Time available for personalized nurturing by parents/guardians 2

Average no. of children per home 3

No of hours a year 2 hrs X 5 days X 14 weeks X 3 terms = 420

No of hours a year 4 hrs X 2 days X 14 weeks X 3 terms = 336

Others (homework, traffic jams, play, etc) 6

Weekdays

Weekends(assuming 4 hours a day)

Total number of hours available in a year 420+336 = 756

Average no of hours available annually per child = 756/3 = 252

An Opportunity ahead… for Personalized nurturing by parents

• Perceptions

• Prestige• Peer influence

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In developing responsible children time andcommitment are keyIf we can plan for our finances we can plan forour children and subsequently for the family. It is a worthwhile course.

Your legacy will be largely defined by others…. those that you coached, mentored, taught, helped rather than yourself…….Brendon Cassidy