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“Here’s How To Approach ANY Girl Without Fear…”
Destroy Approach Anxiety
A Step-By-Step System For Absolutely Destroying Approach Anxiety and
Losing Your Fear of Talking to Girls in LESS Than 33 Days!
Hunter Riley
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Introduction
Approach Anxiety is NORMAL.
Yes, you read that correctly. Approach anxiety is normal. Every single
guy has some form of approach anxiety, also known as “AA”. Approach
anxiety is that feeling or fear you get just before you approach a girl you
don’t know. Anyone can EASILY beat approach anxiety.
But before we get into that, let me first introduce myself. Good Morning
Gentlemen, I’m Hunter Riley. I’m kind of a “no nonsense” dating coach that
specializes in psychology, social dynamics, self-improvement and of
course…..how to pick up girls.
You bought this system to learn how to ABSOLUTELY DESTROY that little
bastard of a feeling that sometimes causes you to freeze up with fear and not
introduce yourself to a girl who could be PERFECT for you. This little bastard
of a feeling I’m talking about is approach anxiety.
Before getting into the system, let me first give you a slight warning…….I
don’t EFF around. This means that I like to get straight to the point as quickly
as possible. I create my eBooks and systems using only the information that is
essential to get the job done. Because of this, my eBooks are very short and
direct. They also happen to be very cheap ☺
So if you’re looking for some pick up “guru” that’s going to fill his eBooks
with 500 pages of cool graphics, hot girls, fluff and bullshit, return this eBook
right now, I’m not your guy. I also believe that learning pick up really isn’t
that hard and therefore shouldn’t cost you a ton of money. My simple systems
are all you need. You will not find any $100 plus eBooks or $1000 plus
coaching programs from me and you’ll also be able to try each one of my
products for $1.
What learning pick up does take however is a little bit of effort and work. You
must be willing to put in a relatively small amount of work to succeed. You
must ACT on this information and actually complete the system. It’s hard to
believe, but about 70% of guys NEVER do the work! So I want you to commit
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yourself right now to taking action. If you aren’t willing to take even a small
amount of action then save your money and return this eBook right now.
Here’s the thing, beating approach anxiety is the hardest thing to learn in
pick up. But compared to learning anything else outside of pickup its easy!
Learning how to ride a bike or learning how to speak French is much harder
than learning how to beat AA.
And the best thing is that once you destroy approach anxiety (which this step
by step system will show you how to do in 33 days or less), you’ve learned the
hardest part of pick up! Everything else is easy. You can become a pick up
master in less than a year. So, let’s get started with learning how to destroy
approach anxiety……
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Table Of Contents
Introduction ............................................................. 2
Chapter 1: Exactly What is “Approach Anxiety” ................. 5
Chapter 2: How to Create a Habit .................................. 6
Chapter 3: Destroy Approach Anxiety Overview ................. 8
Chapter 4: The Destroy Aproach Anxiety System ............. ..10
Chapter 5: Approach Anxiety Extra Credit ...................... .17
Chapter 6: PUA Secrets for Destroying AA ....................... 20
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Chapter 1: Exactly What is “Approach Anxiety”?
Approach anxiety is the pickup community’s most common problem. 95%
of guys have approach anxiety. Approach anxiety is a combination of a few
different things. It’s important first realize that these “things” exist only in
your mind.
First, AA is simply the natural, built in fear of approaching and talking to
strangers. This probably came about a long time ago when we were cavemen.
Approaching a stranger or someone’s mate could get you smashed over the
head with a club.
Talking to strangers also pushes you outside of your comfort zone. The
problem is that you have a natural tendency to stay in your comfort zone.
Breaking out of it takes a little bit of effort, not much though.
Approach anxiety is also the result of years bad social conditioning that says
that hot women are these perfect human beings. This causes you to feel all
sorts of crazy things before going up to a girl like getting all nervous,
imagining all the things that could possibly go wrong, feeling inadequate in
some way, turning into a pussy, heart pounding, pulse racing etc.
And finally, approach anxiety also comes from the fear of loss. Deep down
inside, some of you don’t approach because you want the girl so much. You
think that if you do take action and approach her, you could lose her. So you
take the easy road and just sit there and hope she approaches you. If she
doesn’t approach you (which is what happens most of the time), then it’s
easy to just write it off and say she wasn’t your type anyway.
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Chapter 2: How to Create a Habit
The easiest way to learn pickup is to create a habit out of it. Creating a habit
out of it is how you are going are going to destroy your approach anxiety.
Again, for a very small percentage of you, creating a habit is easy, but for the
other 80% of you it’s going to take about 30 days to create a habit that will
stick. There are three phases to creating a habit that sticks. This is exactly
what you are about to go through.
During the first phase which lasts about 10 days, the work will be very hard
for you to do. Your mind will do its best to convince you that this system is
never going to work. Even though you bought this system to learn how to
destroy AA, you may feel a strange urge not to complete this system! The key
is to know in advance this is how you’re going to feel and push through it!
The next phase in building a habit comes in days 10 to 20. You’ll find things
starting to get a little easier to do. You may actually even find yourself
looking forward to doing the exercises. However there will still be a bit of
resistance in your mind and that little voice in your head may still be trying to
convince you that what you’re doing is crazy, but don’t give in. You’re almost
done. Keep going.
In the 3rd and final phase of building a habit, days 20 to 30, you’ll actually
start to like building the habit. Things will be much easier to do than they
were at first. You will feel very little resistance and this won’t feel like a
“chore” anymore. This habit will now become part of your life!
So when you’re doing the approach anxiety exercises, remember that the first
20 days may be hard to do mentally. You may not want to do them. You might
want to quit. Don’t! Realize that this is just how your mind works and if you
can just get to that 20 day mark, things will get a hell of a lot easier. By day
30, you will have conquered approach anxiety…the hardest part of pickup.
Then prepare to boggle your friends minds because becoming great at picking
up girls is all downhill from there.
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By the way, if you’d like to use the exact same time management and habit
building software that I use to put my pickup learning on light speed, you can
get it for free by going to:
www.destroyapproachanxiety.com/Simpleology.html
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Chapter 3: The Destroy Approach Anxiety System Overview & Rules
Ok, you become a social person and destroy approach anxiety through
experience. Anyone can easily do it! You get better by practicing a little at a
time each and every day. It’s just like working out to build muscles or boiling
a frog alive. If you throw a frog into a pot of boiling water, he’ll jump right
out. But is you put the frog into a pot of cold water and slowly heat the pot,
he’ll never make it out alive because the changes that take place to the
water are so subtle.
This is the beauty of the system. We start out with slow and simple steps that
don’t feel like much but they add up to destroy approach anxiety in the end.
Here are the rules:
RULE #1: If you have a serious case of approach anxiety, for the next 30 days,
I want you to do nothing but this exercise. You can go out with your friends
and whatever, but the only pickup related training I want you to do is this
approach anxiety exercise.
RULE#2: Try to take a half hour break each day and get out of the house, out
of class or out of work and take a walk. While you’re on your walk, complete
your exercises. If you can’t walk for a half hour, try to make it two 15 minute
sessions.
Overview of Your Daily Exercises
• Step 1- Wake up in the morning and “visualize” for 2 minutes.
• Step 2- Get out of the house/work/school and walk around for a
total of at least 30 minutes every day. Walking in the deep forest
or some disserted hallway doesn’t count. You must go for a walk
in an area where there are tons of people.
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• Step 3- Always “SWW”. Smile while walking. I want you to have
a huge effin grin on your face for the entire 30 minutes of your
walk.
• Step 4- During the first half of your walk, say hi to at least three
living people that speak your language.
• Step 5- Say hello to the first girl you see after you’ve said hi to
three people.
• Step 6- Keep track of your results each day for 33 days.
• Step 7- Do a visualization before you go to bed each night.
That’s it. Destroying approach anxiety is really that simple. Doing this for
33 days will break down the social barriers that are deep within you and crush
your approach anxiety. Of course, there is some extra credit that you can do
to accelerate the process, but first let’s take a look at these steps in detail.
Oh…and for you guys who have really bad approach anxiety, I want you
to remember these words and say them out loud. And mean it when you say
it, and feel it when you say it……YOUR PAST IS NOT YOUR FUTURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You may have been a mental pussy in the past, but that all ends today.
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Chapter 4: The Destroy Approach Anxiety Step by Step System
Step 1) Your Secret Morning Visualization
This is super easy and super effective. Each morning, before you get out
of bed, just visualize or imagine yourself doing the 30 minute walk each day.
Just about two minutes of visualization in bed will do the trick.
This is based on a very effective and proven psychological principle.
Your mind can’t really tell the difference between something you imagine
and something you actually do. Every single top athlete in sports does
visualizations every day. They imagine themselves hitting the winning shot or
making the perfect pass over and over again.
For the first 33 days, all you have to do is imagine or visualize yourself on
your walk, with a big smile on your face. Really make this picture vivid in
your mind. Imagine yourself saying hi to 3 people and them smiling and saying
hi back. Maybe ask one of them for the time. Finally, imagine yourself smiling
and walking up to a girl you see on your walk, introducing yourself, asking her
name and maybe making small talk with her. Then imagine yourself saying
“Hey thanks, it was nice meeting you” and imagine her saying “It was nice to
meet you too” and that’s all you have to do.
Do this each morning when you wake up and make it as vivid, positive and
real in your mind as possible. It should take about 2 minutes. AFTER the 33
days are up, you can use this visualization technique to become better at
anything you want. You just have to imagine yourself being good at whatever
it is you want to become better at.
Step 2) Your 30 Minute Daily Walk
Whatever you do, try to take your 30 minute daily walk every day for 33
days! If you have to break it up into two 15 minute walks that’s ok. If you’d
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like to take a walk that lasts longer than 30 minutes, that’s ok too. You can
go for a walk indoors or outdoors, just make sure you walk in an area with a
lot of other people. Indoor or outdoor malls are great, so are parks, town
squares or centers, beaches, boardwalks, campus quads or downtowns.
Step 3) SWW: Smile While Walking!
I really want you to always have a big, shit eating grin on your face. If
you don’t like to smile (I don’t), try to force yourself to smile. Even if it feels
weird.
A couple funny things happen when you smile. First, smiling changes your
energy and your mood. It’s almost impossible to smile and think or feel a bad
or mean thought at the same time! Go ahead, try it right now. I’ll wait. Put a
big smile on your face and try to think nasty or mean thoughts and really
mean it. You can’t do it, can you? Now put a huge frown or scowl on your
face and try to think those mean, nasty thoughts. It’s much easier, isn’t it? At
the same time, it’s going to be hard to think any happy, positive thoughts
when you’re frowning. This crazy phenomenon affects how you feel and,
more importantly, how people feel towards you before you even meet them!
Always smile!
The second thing that happens when you smile is that any normal girl will feel
as though she has to return your smile. So before you even say a word to her,
she is already smiling back at you because you are smiling at her.
You remember the neat trick above about what happens to yourself when you
smile, right? Well, because she is now smiling, the same thing will happen to
her and therefore anything you say to her is going to be much more
acceptable than if she wasn’t smiling. This makes her, almost automatically
and uncontrollably, give you a good response! So make sure to smile early and
often.
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Step 4) Say Hi to at Least Three People
Saying hi to three people is going to warm you up and get you used to
opening strangers. At the beginning of your walk every day, before you do
anything else, say hi to at least three people you do not know. Nothing
special here. Just look three people in the eye, smile, and say hi while you
are walking. That’s it. You don’t even have to stop walking. You don’t need
them to answer or even acknowledge you. I just want to get you used to
saying hi to strangers and subconsciously realizing that it ain’t no thing.
Step 5) Meet a Girl
This is the fun part. For some of you it may be the hard part, but after a
few days, you’ll see that it is really no big deal. After you’ve said hi to at
least 3 people on your walk, stop and introduce yourself to a girl. Realize that
you’re not trying to “get” anything from her, you don’t want her number.
Just say hi, introduce yourself, ask her name, make small talk or compliment
her then say goodbye. That’s it. If this is still a major issue for you, find the
ugliest girl you can and introduce yourself. She doesn’t have to be hot. She
doesn’t even have to be your age at first. Going up to an ugly, older woman is
easy for most guys.
Here’s what an average interaction will look like:
You: See a girl. Smile. Say “Excuse me…Hi……I’m Hunter, what’s your name?
Her: “Hi Hunter, I’m Amanda.”
You: “Amanda, nice to meet you. Hey, do you know a good place to eat
around here?”
Her: “Sure, Chucks Palace of Corn Dogs, its right around the corner.”
You: “Ok, thanks Amanda! It was nice meeting you”>>>>>>>>Leave.
That’s it! That’s all you have to do. Now of course you could stay and talk if
you wanted to, but you don’t have to. Most guys when they start out say
thanks and leave pretty quickly, but after about 10 or so days of doing this,
you’ll probably want to stay and talk. You could also ask other questions like:
“Where are you from?”
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“Do you have the time?”
“Do you know where a cool clothing store for guys is?”
“Have you by any chance seen the new ____ movie this month?”
“Take me to your leader.”
Just kidding about that last one. Complimenting her on some unique piece of
clothing she’s wearing or something unique about her (like her smile) is also
acceptable.
You: (smiling) “Excuse me…Hi…I’m Hunter. Whats your name?”
Her: “Hi Hunter, I’m Julie”.
You: “Hey Julie, I just wanted to say you’ve got a great smile.”
Her: “Oh, why thank you Hunter.”
You: “No problem, Julie. It was nice meeting you. See you later.”
The point of all this is not to pick her up, but just to get your brain used to
the fact that nothing bad happens when you talk to strange girls. After you
introduce yourself and ask her name and a simple question, you can go.
Pretty soon you’ll feel comfortable talking and having a normal conversation
with any girl. After 33 days of positive interactions, your brain will “rewire”
itself and you’ll now have a new model of the World. A model that says
approaching strange women isn’t scary at all. Your AA should be reduced by
at least 90%.
Oh, and feel free to introduce yourself to more than one girl on your walks if
you want. You don’t have to, but it will speed up the process if you do……
Step 6) Keep Track of Your Results
Being able to see the progress you are making in real time is a huge
motivator. You’ll feel the need to do better, increase your performance and
beat your best times if you keep track of your progress.
Just print out the results table that I’ve included for you at the end of this
chapter and write down your results every day. Give yourself a star for going
on a walk, a star for each person you say hi to and a star for each girl you
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meet. You don’t have to, but I find it fun to try to beat all my previous best
scores.
Seeing your results add up over time lets you know that the system is working
and gives you a subconscious boost to complete the system in 33 days. You
can use my results table to track your progress or you can use the special
Simpleology 101 Time Management and Habit Forming Software I told you
about earlier. I would suggest printing out my sheet and using it and at the
same time, taking the Simpleology 101 course and learning how to use their
free software. Doing this will take less than 15 minutes per day and you will
learn pickup in 75% less time than it normally takes to learn.
To sign up for the Simpleology 101 course and get the software, set up your
free account at www.destroyapproachanxiety.com/Simpleologyy.html
Step 7) Secret Night Visualization
For the first 33 days, your night visualization is going to be the exact
same as what you do in your morning visualization. Just take two minutes and
visualize going on your walk the next day. Try to do this every night just
before you go to bed. If you have to, write down what your perfect walk
would look like in great detail on a piece of paper and just read and visualize
it a couple times to yourself each morning and night.
Again, after you complete this 33 day system, you can use these visualization
techniques to get insanely better at any part of pickup you want. This is
exactly what superstar pro athletes do.
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Day # Walks # of Say Hi’s Girls Met
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Day # Walk # of Say Hi’s Girls Met
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Chapter 5: Approach Anxiety Extra Credit
This is the extra credit section. It’s not required, but if you have very
severe approach anxiety these three tactics will help you out immensely. I’ll
also give you a tactic that you should try to do all the time after you
complete the 33 day system.
Tactics to Do if You Have SEVERE Approach Anxiety
Tactic 1- CALL RANDOM PEOPLE AND GET THEM TO SUGGEST A GOOD RESTAURANT
Take out the phone book and pick out 10 random numbers in your area. Dial *67 if you want (dialing this before you call blocks caller ID). Choose a number, dial it. When someone answers just say “Hi, is Mary there?” When the person you called says “no, you have the wrong number”, IMMEDIATELY say something like “I see, well…Just let me quickly ask you this question because I’m out of ideas……Could you recommend a good restaurant around here?” Be nice and polite the entire time and SMILE while you’re asking the question.
The object is to get a complete stranger to suggest a good restaurant to you. This will increase your social skills and decrease your fear of talking to strangers. Of course, it doesn’t have to be a restaurant. You could ask your phone friend to suggest a movie or vacation destination or whatever. Once you feel comfortable enough doing this, then move on to the next tactic.
Tactic 2- MAKE EYE CONTACT WITH GIRLS AND HOLD IT
Before you start saying hi to people on your walks, just practice making
eye contact with girls as you pass them by. Here’s all you have to do. As you
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are walking (make sure you are smiling), make eye contact with a girl who is
approaching you and hold it. DO NOT look away until she does. Do this every
day on your walks until you get to a point where you can at least say hi. Some
of you may have to do this exercise for a few days before you go up and
introduce yourself to a girl.
Make sure you smile when you do this otherwise you’ll look like a serial killer.
I kind of like to squint my eyes and smile at the same time when I do it.
Tactic 3- COMPLIMENT HER ON THE FLY
You don’t have to introduce yourself, you don’t even have to stop and
say hi. All you have to do is give a sincere compliment. Look for something
unique about the person and compliment her on it as you are walking by. An
article of clothing, a piece of jewelry, the way move, their accent, the color
of their hair, the book they are reading. Whatever.
Make it a specific compliment like “I love that bracelet you’re wearing” and
NOT like “You are very pretty”. If you’re still freaked out by doing this to
strangers, start off by complimenting girls you already know. Don’t expect
her to say anything back, just smile, say it and move on.
Complimenting a girl while you are walking past her will force you to “think
on your feet” and come up with something to compliment her on quickly. It
will also slowly let you realize that talking to a girl really is no big deal and
you’ll be able to escape if she trys to eat you ☺
Tactics for AFTER You Complete the 33 Day Mission
Tactic 1- FOLLOW THE “ARMS LENGTH” RULE
This is a very simple rule that will ensure that you are continually
developing your social skills and preventing approach anxiety from ever
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coming back again. The “Arms Length” rule is simple. Reach out both of your
arms like you’re a bird and take a mental image of how far out your arms
reach. Any time anyone EVER comes within an arms length of you, you MUST
say smile and say hi. I’d prefer if you commented on something or made a bit
of small talk, but you must at least say hi. Do this constantly, never stop and
your social skills will become almost unhuman eventually.
AFTER You Complete the 33 Day Mission & Extra Credit
Now that you’ve completed your 33 day approach anxiety mission, your AA
should be 80-90% less than it originally was. A small percentage of you, less
than five percent actually, will need to do the walking exercise for another
week or two. So go back and do another week or two of the walking exercise
now if you feel you have to. If you feel you don’t have to then congratulations
for passing the destroy approach anxiety course!
But we’re not quite finished yet. I’ve been doing pickup for over five years
and every once in a while, when I’m out at night, I sometimes get AA! It
doesn’t happen that often, but approach anxiety will come back every once
in a while if, especially if you stop approaching regularly, if you don’t follow
the “Arms Length” rule or if you just get into your old habit of not being
social.
So I’m going to finish off this training by giving you the Advanced Secrets to
Destroying Approach Anxiety. These secrets are exactly what all the top
PUA’s (Pick Up Artists) use “infield” when they get AA from time to time.
Just one warning before we move on. If you HAVEN’T completed your 33 day
walking mission yet, don’t read any further. I suggest you go back, do the 33
day mission and then come back here. The 33 day mission is key. It’s like
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learning to walk before you run. You NEED to learn the fundamentals. So go
back and do it now!
Chapter 6: Top PUA Secrets for DESTROYING Approach Anxiety
Just in case you don’t know, PUA stands for pick up artist. The following are their secrets for destroying approach anxiety. Every PUA has already gone through the 33 day walking mission or at least the equivalent of it. So remember, you’ve got to put in your 33 days before you start using these techniques. You need to learn the fundamentals. Go back and do that now if you haven’t done it yet. That being said, here are the seven secrets.
Secret 1- GET INTO “STATE” BEFORE YOU GO OUT
You’ve got to be in the right mood to approach. “State” is just another
term for mood. So before you go out, you should always get into “state”.
Basically pump yourself up. This is a simple thing to do. Every night before I
go out, I usually put on my favorite music, go over some of my opening lines
or attraction routines in front of a mirror and even do about 30 push ups. On
the way to the bar or club, I say hi to every person I see. When I get to where
I’m going, I will just compliment two or three girls before I do any
approaches. Doing all this will get you into the right “state” of mind which
will make approaching girls the easiest.
Secret 2- THE THREE SECOND RULE
Some guys have a 3 second rule, some guys have a 1 second rule, some
guys have an “if she’s hot or not rule”, it really doesn’t matter. All this
means is that you have to approach any girl you like within 3 seconds of
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seeing her. We do this because if you see a girl that you think is hot and
approach her right away, your mind doesn’t have time to make up excuses
not to approach her or get you scared.
The key to making this work is to turn it into a habit and always do it. Go out
for the next 30 days and follow this rule.
Secret 3- REFRAME THE THOUGHTS IN YOUR HEAD
We all get the same type of negative thoughts. “She’s too hot for me”,
“What happens if she says no?”, “I’m too short”, “I’m too old for her”, “I’m
scared”. Let’s face it; listening to this nonsense in our head has made all of
us not approach at one time or another. These are called “Limiting Beliefs”.
So whenever one of these limiting beliefs or negative thoughts pops into our
heads, we have to turn it into a positive thought or belief. So if the thought
“I’m too ugly for her” pops into your head, drown out that thought with
positive thoughts. Imagine how good it will be kissing her. Focus on the
positives and forget about the negatives. Focus on why you should approach
instead of why you shouldn’t.
Another way to do this is when you first feel AA coming on and your pulse
starts racing and thoughts start popping into your head, just accept it! Tell
yourself, “Ok, I have approach anxiety and I don’t care!”. I actually say to
myself “Hahahaha……I have approach anxiety…and you know what…I don’t
effin care…nothing bad is going to happen because of this……now get your ass
moving and approach her”. Then I immediately approach the girl. Combine
this type of thinking with the 3 second rule and you will turn into an approach
machine.
Another type of reframe or refocus is just telling yourself before you start
your approach that talking to the girl is either going to be hella fun or really
dumb. Your only goal is to find out if she’s fun or dumb. So instead of you
going up to her and waiting for her to either accept or reject you, you flip the
tables. YOU are approaching her to find out if she is acceptable to you, if she
is fun or dumb. If she’s fun, stay. If she’s dumb leave!
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Secret 4- KNOW WHAT TO SAY IN ADVANCE
Just knowing what you are going to say in advance to a girl will decrease
AA by at least 35%. So come up with what you’re going to say to girls in
advance and practice it in front of a mirror until you have it down.
When you approach a girl in a club or bar, you need to be doing most of the
talking for the first 3-5 minutes of the conversation (this is sometimes
referred to as the attraction phase). Soooooo, create an opener. The opening
line I use the most is simply “Hey there, you girls look fun, I had to come say
hi.” After saying that, I do most of the talking for the next 3 to 5 minutes. If
you don’t know what an attraction routine is or you don’t know what to talk
about for 3 to 5 minutes, you can find out at www.fiveminuteattraction.com
Basically, during those first 3 to 5 minutes, you want to playfully tease her,
tell an attractive or funny story and basically do anything that will give her a
stream of good emotions.
Secret 5- MEDUSA’S STARE
When you find yourself feeling AA coming on, quickly look around the
room for any non-living object and just stare at it for 30 seconds to 1 minute.
As you’re staring at the object, think about its color, think about its shape,
how much it costs, how much it might weight, whatever. Then pick another
object close to it and do the same thing. This whole process should take
about a minute.
IMMEDIATELY after you do this, turn around and approach the girl! Focusing
on the objects will take your mind completely out of its approach anxiety.
Even better, try staring and thinking about an object WHILE you are
approaching the girl. Your mind won’t be able to get AA because you’ll be
busy thinking about the object.
Secret 6- THE 4-7-8 DEEP BREATHING METHOD
The moment you feel AA, do four repetitions of 4-7-8 deep breathing.
4-7-8 deep breathing is simply taking a deep breath for four seconds, holding
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that breath for seven seconds and blowing that breath out for eight seconds.
Just do this sequence four times in a row and it should calm your nerves
down, loosen you up, clear your mind and really invigorate you.
Secret 7- BLOW YOURSELF OUT
This is actually a very fun game to play. For your first approach of the
night, deliberately try to get blown out. Deliberately try to make the girls ask
you to nicely leave them alone. Wear a stupid hat on your head; make animal
noises as you talk to them. Don’t be completely insulting, be playfully
insulting. Do whatever you can to get them to tell you to go away. The neat
thing is that once you get rejected or “blown out”, you realize that it’s really
not that bad and all of the sudden you become super powerful and you
approach anxiety will hover around ZERO for the rest of the night.
YOU’VE DESTROYED APPROACH ANXIETY, CONGRATULATIONS!
So that’s it, gentlemen. You now have all the information you’ll EVER
need to absolutely destroy approach anxiety. Whatever you do, make sure
you do the 33 day exercise/mission. Once you complete that, walking up and
talking to random girls will be no problem.
Use the PUA Secret tactics anytime AA ever pops back up. As long as you
consistently follow the “Arm Length” rule, approach girls or just be social, AA
should never be that much of a problem again.
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So go out and congratulate yourself. You’ve just conquered the HARDEST part
of pickup. Becoming a master pick up artist is all downhill from here. Please
email [email protected] if you have any other questions
and make sure to check out my other products, you can try them all for a
buck.
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By learning Simpleology, you’ll be able to get 3 times the amount of things
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Simpleology consists of a 30 day Simpleology 101 course and a very cool piece
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As one of your bonuses, I’ve set up a special deal for you with the
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-Hunter Riley
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