Dating questions and_answers

Dating Q & AWhat You Have Always Wanted to Know

But Were Afraid to Ask

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What’s the Big Deal with Dating?



Why do people date?

It’s all about ________.NEEDS



What are your needs?

Rearrange your needs into the three categories: spiritual, emotional, and physical.



Mark 2:3-12

What spiritual needs did this man have?

What emotional needs did this man have?

What physical needs did this man have?

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1 Thessalonians 4:18__________________________

James 5:16 __________________________

John 13:35 __________________________

Galatians 6:2 __________________________

encouragement

confession & prayer

love

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1 Corinthians 12:25 __________________________

Hebrews 10:24 __________________________

1 John 3:11 __________________________

have concern

encourage to love & service

love


Who are You Looking for?


Who are You Looking For?

What do you look for in a date?



List the godly characteristics of the men in these verses:

1 Peter 3:7-9

1 Timothy 5:1-2

1 Timothy 3:8-9



Check out what these passages say about being a woman of God:

1 Peter 3:1-6

Proverbs 31:10-30

Titus 2:4-5


Does God Have Someone Picked Out for You?



Do you believe you have a soul mate?



Look at how God worked in Isaac’s life in Genesis 24.

[1] This servant believed that God had ________________ a wife for Isaac. (v. 14)

[2] Abraham believed that God would ______________________ to help him find a wife. (v. 40)

chosen

send an angel



[3] Rebekah’s parents believed God ______________________ for her to become Isaac’s wife. (v. 50-51)

arranged



Check out the Book of Ruth and her love story.

[1] Ruth’s first husband, Malhon, led her to _______________. (1:16)

[2] After Malhon died, God’s law said she should marry her ____________ _________________________. (4:3-5)

God

closestnext-of-kin



[3] After the person who should have married Ruth refused, Ruth married ________________. (4:9-10)Boaz



Check out Hosea’s love story.

[1] God asked Hosea to marry a woman who would ___________________. (1:2)

[2] Hosea obeyed God and chose to marry _____________. (1:3)

cheat on him

Gomer



How do you find that special someone God has for you?

Return to the story of Isaac in Genesis 24.

[1] Choose someone with a __________________ foundation. (v. 3-4)

[2] ____________ for God to bring you someone. (v. 12)

spiritual

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[3] Look for someone with a _________________ heart. (v. 13-14)servant


How Do You Build a Spiritual Relationship?



What kinds of things do you like to do on a date?



How do you keep your dating relationship God-centered?

Here are 4 dating secrets:

[1] Spend time _______________ with God. (James 5:13, 16)

[2] Spend time ______________ with God. (Luke 5:16)

together

alone



[3] Give God ______________. (Luke 6:46)

[4] _________________ God together. (Matthew 25:34-36)

control

Serve


Do You Believe In Love at First Sight?



Do you believe in love at first sight?



[1] At first, Jacob and Rachel’s relationship began with a __________________ attraction. (29:17)

[2] Their relationship soon was based on an ___________________ attraction. (29:18-20)

physical

emotional



[3] After they were married, _______________ set in. (30:1-2)

Rachel became _____________.

Jacob became ______________.

[4] Their _____________________ lasted to the end. (33:1-2; 35:16-18)

reality

commitment

angry

jealous


What Do You Need?


What Do You Need?

What are your emotional needs?

Here are two of your greatest emotional needs that often go overlooked:

___________ and ________________trust reassurance


What Do You Need?

When you trust or do not trust, you usually judge someone’s:

___________________ (1 Timothy 3:8-11)

___________________ (Hebrews 11:6)

sincerity

reliability


What Do You Need?

Here are just a look at some of the “trust” dilemmas that people face:

Can I trust _________ person?

Can I trust that I am ________ ____________ for a Christian relationship?

Can I trust ___________?

Can I trust ________?

good

another

enough

myself

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What Do You Need?

What do these verses say about listening?

Proverbs 12:15

Proverbs 31:28,31

1 Timothy 3:7


What Do You Say?


What Do You Say?

What kinds of things do you talk about on a date?


What Do You Say?

Girls talk to get information and to connect or to gain rapport. They talk about people rather than things. They convey feelings and details. They are relationship oriented.

Girl Tendencies

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What Do You Say?

In general, boys talk to give information or to report. They talk about things -- school, sports, and food -- rather than people. They convey facts, not details. They are goal-oriented. They focus on solving problems.

Boy Tendencies

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What Do You Say?

List the communication principles found in the following verses:

Proverbs 31:28 Proverbs 28:13





What Do You Say?

Emotional Benefits

Saying the right things in the right ways lead to your partner being:

__________________________

__________________________

__________________________

noticed

valued

loved


How Do You Know if Someone Really Loves

You?


How Do You Know if Someone Really Loves You?

How do you know if someone loves you?

How does a person learn to love?


What Do You Say?

Show Me Love

Here are three ways in which people show other people love:

__________________________

__________________________

_________________________

what they say

touch

what they do


How Do You Know if Someone Really Loves You?

Check out God’s pictures of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7:

Love ... Love does not ...

is patient is kind

keeps no record of wrongs rejoices with the truth

always protects always trusts always hopes

always perseveres

envy boast

act proud act rude

act self-seeking get easily angry

delight in evil


How Do You Keep the Relationship Together?



What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do to maintain a relationship?



God’s Super Glue

God offers one thing that will keep relationships together and strong. Check out the answer in Ephesians 5:21:

_____________________________SUBMISSION



What it is.

1. _____________________________

2. _____________________________

yielding your rights

willing to suffer



What it isn’t.

1. _____________________________

2. _____________________________

3. _____________________________

4. _____________________________

weakness

use and abuse

inferior

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Peter offers these submissive tipsfor both women and men in

1 Peter 3:1-7:

Women Men

_____________ _____________

_____________ _____________

gentle

quiet spirit

considerate

respectful


What are You Waiting For?



List all the physical needs you have.



Sex principles from Genesis 2:

[1] You are not an _______________ (2:18-20)

[2] Best in _________________ (2:24) Hebrews 13:4 by definitions ______________________

______________________

animal

marriage

fornication

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[3] Sex is about becoming ________ (2:24)

one



God gives at least three reasons why sex is so good.

[1] Sex is ___________________

[2] Sex creates ______________

[3] Sex is ______________________

spiritual

babies

fun and romantic


How Far is too Far?


How Far is too Far?

Where would you draw the line?

How far is too far?


How Far is too Far?

sexual boundaries principles:

[1] Avoid ___________________ ___________________ . (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5)

[2] Don’t look __________________ . (Matthew 25:27-30)

sexualimmorality

lustfully


How Far is too Far?

You are probably going too far when you experience sexual _________. arousal


How Far is too Far?

How can you stay pure and not go too far?

[1] Determine where you are going to ________________________ before you are on a ____________.

[2] ________________ about your boundary with your date.

draw the linedate

Talk


How Far is too Far?

[3] Take it _________________.

[4] Take steps __________________ when you feel like you are about to go too far.

slow

backwards


What if You Have Already Gone too Far?



List 5 Reasons You Should Wait



Set a Game Plan

[1] You do not have to ___________.

[2] Let Jesus and others meet your ________________.

date

needs



[3] Choose to date someone for ______________________ than because he/she is HOT, will say yes, and your friends will like him/her.

[4] Meet each others’ _____________ needs first, then _______________ needs, and last — ___________________ needs.

deeper reasons

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