Cyber Safety:Cyber Safety:““Keeping Your Keeping Your Kids SafeKids Safein a in a High Technology High Technology

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Cyber Safety:Cyber Safety:““Keeping Your Keeping Your Kids SafeKids Safein a in a High Technology High Technology

World”World”Crime Prevention Bureau

Thousand Oaks Police Department

Sgt. Eric Hatleeeric.hatlee@ventura.org

Tonight’s AgendaTonight’s Agenda:: Tonight’s AgendaTonight’s Agenda::

“Internet 101”Cyber-BullyingSocial MediaInternet PredatorsParenting Tips

Becoming Computer Becoming Computer Savvy –Savvy –

Internet 101Internet 101

Becoming Computer Becoming Computer Savvy –Savvy –

Internet 101Internet 101Blog – Short for weblog

Browser – A program that allows you to search the world wide web (WWW)

Chat room – Chat with others over the web messages and/or live video

Blocking software – Computer programs that filter content from the internet base on specific criteria

File sharing – Accessing files from one computer to another

ISP – Internet Service Provider – a company that sells direct access to the internet

HTTP- Hypertext Transfer Protocol if there is an “S” at the end this is a secure site.

IP Address – Set of 4 numbers; uniquely identifies every computer

IM – Instant Message

URL- Uniform Resource Locater, basically an internet address

Router – Access point to hook computers to the internet

101 – Continued101 – Continued101 – Continued101 – ContinuedA/S/L – age, sex, location

POS – parent over shoulder

53x – sex

GNOC – get naked on camera

IBN – I’m buck naked

(L)MIRL- (let’s) meet in real life

OLL- online love

TDTM – talk dirty to me

F2F – face to face

WYRN – what’s your real name

ILU or ILY or 143 – I love you

GNBL4U – got nothing but love for youwww.noslang.com

101 – 101 – ContinuedContinued 101 – 101 – ContinuedContinued

BRB-Be right backGNOC-Get naked on cameraP911-Parent EmergencyPIR-Parent in roomPOS-Parent over shoulderW/E-WhateverGTG-Got to goDTG-Don’t go thereWTGP?-Want to go private?

Typical Emoticons Typical Emoticons; ) Winking:*( Crying#-) Wiped-out-partied all night%*} Inebriated%\ Hangover8-# Death:-d~ Smoker:->< Ready to kiss:/I No smoking

Cyber Bullying is bullying that takes place online using cell phones, computers and tablets through social media sites, text messages and websites.

Cyber-Bullying, What is Cyber-Bullying, What is it?it?

Cyber-Bullying, What is Cyber-Bullying, What is it?it?

Cyber-BullyingCyber-BullyingCyber-BullyingCyber-BullyingOver half of teens have been bullied online

70% of teens report seeing frequent bullying online

90% of teens who have seen social-media bullying say they have ignored it.

Girls are twice as likely as boys to be victims

About 1 in 5 teens have posted or sent sexually suggestive or nude pictures of themselves to others. This often leads to being harassed and teased

Cyber-BullyingCyber-BullyingCyber-BullyingCyber-Bullying

What should we do?What should we do?What should we do?What should we do?Talk to your kids. Become computer savvy.Internet ControlsConsequencesComputer in common areaLook for signs Save evidence and try to

identify the bully. Take screen shots

Notify the school and police department

Social Media

What is Social Media?What is Social Media?

Social Networking Sites are a group of Internet-based applications that allow the creation and exchange of user generated content.

Purpose: allows users to establish friendships, romantic interests, or make business connections

Teens and Social MediaTeens and Social MediaTeens and Social MediaTeens and Social Media95% of teens regularly access the internet / social media*

3 out of 4 teens access the internet on mobile devices*

Teens spend an average of 7 1/2 hours per day checking social media status, texting, browsing internet, watching videos, listening to music, etc.^

Average age seems to be getting younger

*Commonsensemedia.org, ^WashingtonPost.com

Social Media TrendsSocial Media TrendsSocial Media TrendsSocial Media Trends

As more parents embrace Facebook they’re driving teens away to look for more secretive social media sites or apps

Why Do Kids like these Sites?Why Do Kids like these Sites?

Exposes them to the entire world Accesses people anywhere at anytime Create and showcase who they are Can keep tabs on their friends and on the latest hot

topics and what is “in” Social Networking sites are THEIR OWN SPACE Gives a sense of empowerment in controlling their own

world without their parents

Monitor you teen’s online activity

Monitor you teen’s online activity

Set up privacy settings prior to giving your teen a mobile device. (It’s your phone…It’s your rules)

Use monitoring software (PhoneSheriff) It’s ok to snoop / spy on your teens activity 67% of teens say they are confident they have successfully

hidden their online activity from their parents* 34% of parents say they monitor teens activity* You now have to become Social Media savvy*facebook-parental-controls-review.toptenreviews.com

What did my teenager What did my teenager just say ??just say ??

What did my teenager What did my teenager just say ??just say ??

“I got a toro! I’m gonna swoop my dank tank. HMU, let’s chief.”

Toro (Toro glass) = Brand of blown glass pipe / bong

Swoop = To pick up

Dank Tank = Jar containing weed or term for HQ weed

HMU = Hit Me Up

Chief = To smoke weed

Use advanced search

GOOGLE your child…GOOGLE your child…GOOGLE your child…GOOGLE your child…

To find photos

Security ImplicationsSecurity Implications Since these sites rely on connections and

communications, you are encouraged to provide information about yourself. People are usually not cautious because:

The Internet provides a sense of anonymity The lack of physical interaction provides a

false sense of security People tailor information for friends to

read and forget others may see the information

People offer insights to impress potential friends and associates and give out more information than is prudent

Protect Yourself Using SIPPS

Protect Yourself Using SIPPS

Strangers-Be wary of strangers. The Internet makes it easy for people to misrepresent themselves and their motives

Internet-It is a public resource. Only post information that you are comfortable with anyone seeing and knowing about you—especially in your profile and in your blogs

Personal Information-Do not post information that will make you vulnerable (address, age, routines, schedules, etc.) This also includes information your connections may post about you

Privacy Policies-Some sites share information such as email addresses or user preferences

Skepticism-Do not believe everything you read. Misleading and false information is always posted, including a user’s own identities. Take precautions and verify information

Safe Blogging TipsSafe Blogging Tips Be anonymous as possible - Avoid posting any

information that can enable a stranger to locate you Protect your info - Use the service’s privacy controls Avoid in-person meetings - It is never risk-free. If you do

decide on a meeting, always meet in a public place and take your friends

Check comments regularly - Do not respond to mean, offensive, or embarrassing comments. Delete them and block those people from posting further comments

Be honest about your age - Membership rules are there to protect you

Safe Blogging TipsSafe Blogging TipsThink about how different sites work -some allow a defined

community while others allow anyone to view postingsHave control over info you post -restrict your page to a select

group of peopleScreen names -make sure your screen name does not say

too much about youPhotos -consider not posting one. Photos can be altered or

broadcasted through other mediumsInformation posted -post only info that you feel comfortable

with others seeing. It may came back to haunt you in the future for jobs, school applications, law enforcement, etc.

Once sent, always out -you can never take back information once it is posted

Safe Blogging Tips Safe Blogging TipsBe wary of new online friends -ask your friends if they

know any new person and do your own research via search engines

Flirting -Unacceptable to flirt with strangers. You never know who they really are, who you are communicating with, or the motives of the other person

Always trust your instincts - if your inner person is giving you warning/danger signs that something is wrong—LISTEN TO YOUR INSTINCTS

How to save evidence How to save evidence to take to the police.to take to the police.How to save evidence How to save evidence to take to the police.to take to the police.

Go to page, hit shift key and print screen key at the same time.

Evidence saving Evidence saving continuedcontinued

Evidence saving Evidence saving continuedcontinued

Open up Microsoft paint.

Click on “Edit”

Click on “Paste”

File will then paste onto screen

Internet PredatorsInternet

Predators

“Hi, You sound real cute!! How old are you and what do you like doing after school?”

“I am 14 and a bit of a fitness fanatic, I often go power lifting after school. Do you want to meet?”

Insight into PredatorsInsight into PredatorsInsight into PredatorsInsight into Predators

Only 18% of youth use chat rooms, however, majority of crimes initiated in chat rooms

82% of online sex crimes against minors used the victim’s social networking site to find likes and dislikes

65% of the offenders used victim’s social networking site to gain home and school information

Majority of victims between 13-15. 75% were girlsSolicitations occur in Chatrooms (37%), I/Ms (40%), other

including gaming devices (21%)Internetsafety101.org

What you do reflects on What you do reflects on you…foreveryou…forever

What you do reflects on What you do reflects on you…foreveryou…forever

Teen brains are still developing and they can’t control all of their impulse behaviors

Not thinking about implications of pictures

What about future employers? College applications? Police investigations? Schools?

•A recent study by ExucuNet, 83% used web searching as a part of the job applicant-screening process. •43% eliminated applicants

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Tools to Use:Tools to Use:Tools to Use:Tools to Use:Filtering and

blocking softwareTime monitoring

SoftwareKey Logging /Key

Stroking Software

• Net Nanny

• Web Watcher

• McAfee Safe Watcher

• Profil Parental watcher 2

• PC Pandora

• Family Protector

• Spytech SpyAgent

• eBlaster

• Spector Pro

• Phone Sheriff (Mobil devices)

Parenting = Values and Parenting = Values and StandardsStandards

Parenting = Values and Parenting = Values and StandardsStandards

Safe internet behavior starts in the real world, with focus on imparting values and standards

Help them understand their actions can cause harm to people, even if they can’t see them.

Help them to learn ethical decision making.

Challenge unhealthy values and standards

Staying Safe Online:A Young Person's Contract

1. I will ALWAYS tell a parent or another adult immediately, if something is confusing or seems scary or threatening.

2. I will NEVER give out my full name, real address, telephone number, school name or location, schedule, password, or other identifying information when I'm online. I will check with an adult for any exceptions.

3. I will NEVER have a face-to-face meeting with someone I've met online. In rare cases, my parents may decide it's OK, but if I do decide to meet a cyber-pal, I will make sure we meet in a public place and that a parent or guardian is with me.

4. I will NEVER respond online to any messages that use bad words or words that are scary, threatening, or just feel weird. If I get that kind of message, I'll print it out and tell an adult immediately. The adult can then contact the online service or appropriate agency. If I'm uncomfortable in a live chat room, I will use the "ignore" button.

5. I will NEVER go into a new online area that is going to cost additional money without first asking permission from my parent or teacher.

6. I will NEVER send a picture over the Internet or via regular mail to anyone without my parent's permission.

7. I WILL NOT give out a credit card number online without a parent present.

Young Person_________________ Date______Parent/Guardian_______________ Date______

PARENT / CHILD CONTRACTPARENT / CHILD CONTRACTPARENT / CHILD CONTRACTPARENT / CHILD CONTRACT

Red Flags, Warning Signs

Red Flags, Warning Signs

Internet addictionSecretive behaviorEmpty history file after internet useEmotionally upset appearance during or

after internet useDisturbed relationships with parents,

family, and friends.Receipt of packagesSubtle comments (Cyber-Safe Kids, Cyber-Savvy Teens, Nancy Willard)

Red Flags - ResponsesRed Flags - ResponsesSubtle comment – ask them , “What do you think you

should do?”Investigate furtherCalm down before talking.Initiate your discussion carefullyRespond to evidence of unsafe or irresponsible use of

Internet with effective disciplineIf you find your child is involved with an online stranger,

DO NOT confront, they could erase evidence, runaway with person or alert stranger, CALL POLICE

(Cyber-Safe Kids, Cyber-Savvy Teens, Nancy Willard p55)

Know the rules, Know the rules, the lawsthe laws.

Know the rules, Know the rules, the lawsthe laws.School Rules

Terms of Use AgreementsCriminal Law

Threats of violence to people or propertyExtortion or CoercionObscene or harassing phone calls or text messagesHarassment or StalkingGang related activity Child PornographySexual ExploitationSale of an illegal substance or itemComputer security violations

Know the rules, Know the rules, the lawsthe laws.

Know the rules, Know the rules, the lawsthe laws.

Civil Law StandardsDefamationInvasion of privacyIntentional infliction of emotional distressCopyright infringement

C.O.P.P. A.C.O.P.P. A.Children’s Online Privacy Protection Act 1998States that any website trying to get ANY personal

information from a child under the age of 13 MUST have parental permission.

Your consent isn’t necessary if the website is collecting your child’s email address simply to respond to a one time request for information.

You may revoke consent at anytime.

Computer Safety TipsComputer Safety Tips Use password strategies -Create alphanumeric

passwords that are hard to crack and create different passwords for each account. Change passwords periodically and never give out your passwords to anyone—including your friends

Install a firewall -Absolutely necessary if you share-file programs, helps prevent hackers and the theft of information on your computer,

Never open suspected attachments -Regardless of how intriguing they are or curious you are—delete them

Computer Safety TipsComputer Safety Tips Be a cyber citizen -use the Internet to share

knowledge and make lives better. Keep safe, use good manners and respect the laws

Do not open e-mail from unknown sources -delete them especially ones with ‘exe’ extensions

Back-up -use external media Security -Evaluate security setting at least twice a

year and use security patches, Use security patches and check for virus updates

Computer Safety TipsComputer Safety Tips Anti-virus software - get regular updates. Viruses

are always changing Sharing access to your computer - DON’T! Disconnect -When not using the Internet, shut down or

cut off the Internet connection

Resources / LinksResources / LinksResources / LinksResources / Links www.netsmartz.net www.isafe.org www.onguardonline.gov www.cybertipline.com www.connectsafely.org www.getnetwise.org www.ncpc.org www.toakspd.org