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Susan Weidener, creator of the Women’s Writing Circle, inside the bookshop where the group meets monthly. Hospital Gowns Get a Redesign page 6 Crafting the Roads and History of New Hampshire page 8 Inside: By Chelsea Peifer Sometimes you create a life you’ve dreamed of and worked for, and something comes along that changes everything. In the aftermath, a person can choose to give up and stay put or to keep going forward, to find new meaning in a life with different circumstances. As a writer and journalist, Susan Weidener had not only heard the stories of people from all walks of life, but she had also articulated and retold their stories so others could hear and understand. Writing had always been a way for Weidener to connect with others and to nurture her own soul. So when Weidener was 44 and lost her husband—and love of her life—to a seven-year battle with cancer, she turned to writing as she chose to move forward. Weidener and her husband, John Cavalieri, had two sons, who were ages 7 and 11 at the time John passed away. “There were all of these messages then—and still are—that a single woman can’t raise boys alone,” said Weidener. “It’s not true. All a child needs is one charismatic adult in his or her life.” Weidener’s perspective on single parenting might sound like effortless perseverance, but she applies her hard work ethic to whatever she approaches, embracing the reality that one person can make a difference in a person’s life. please see DRAFT page 14 Widowed Journalist Encourages Healing with Writing Circle Life’s Second Draft Cumberland County Edition July 2013 Vol. 14 No. 7

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Susan Weidener, creator of the Women’s Writing Circle, inside the bookshop where the group meets monthly.

Hospital Gowns Get

a Redesign

page 6

Crafting the Roads and

History of New Hampshire

page 8

Inside:

By Chelsea Peifer

Sometimes you create a life you’ve dreamed of and worked for, andsomething comes along that changes everything. In the aftermath, a personcan choose to give up and stay put or to keep going forward, to find newmeaning in a life with different circumstances.

As a writer and journalist, Susan Weidener had not only heard the storiesof people from all walks of life, but she had also articulated and retold theirstories so others could hear and understand. Writing had always been a wayfor Weidener to connect with others and to nurture her own soul.

So when Weidener was 44 and lost her husband—and love of her life—toa seven-year battle with cancer, she turned to writing as she chose to moveforward.

Weidener and her husband, John Cavalieri, had two sons, who were ages 7and 11 at the time John passed away.

“There were all of these messages then—and still are—that a singlewoman can’t raise boys alone,” said Weidener. “It’s not true. All a child needsis one charismatic adult in his or her life.”

Weidener’s perspective on single parenting might sound like effortlessperseverance, but she applies her hard work ethic to whatever she approaches,embracing the reality that one person can make a difference in a person’s life.

please see DRAFT page 14

Widowed Journalist Encourages Healingwith Writing Circle

Life’sSecond Draft

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Icelebrated my 62nd birthday on April29, and I am still having troubleunderstanding how I could be two

years immersed in my sixth decade. When I think about birthdays, I can’t

remember a time when I said, “I wish Icould be in my 60s.” I do remembersaying that I wish I could be 21, for allthe obvious reasons.

I even thought that 30 was prettygood. By then I had a good job; I wasmarried; I had a newborn son and adaughtertwo yearslater; I hada house andaninexpensivenew car;and I feltthat thingswere goingwell. It washectic andchaotic,though.

When Ihit my 40s,things hadbegun to gowrong. I mean, I had been in my job for12 years and I was actually makingsome money. A couple of bucks left overafter household expenses were paidhinted that I was getting somewhere.

But some serious health problemsinterfered with our lives by the time Iwas 43, and a couple of years later, theteenagers living in our home wereovercome by hormonal madness and anomnipotent wisdom of all things thatever were and ever shall be.

Controlling the demonic forcesturned me into an unrecognizable figureof a man. Did I say there was anger?Oh, yes, and it was a righteous anger.

With the patience of a saint, I taughtboth of my children to drive. And wheneach one passed their driver’s test, I wasalmost willing to buy each a good carand provide a year’s rent somewhere onthe opposite side of the country.

“Get there safely but get there as fastas you can,” I wanted to say, “and don’tcome back until you realize how smartyour mom and I actually are.”

I remember when I was a teenager

how folks who were the age that I amnow would say, “Enjoy being young.Each new year flies by faster and faster.”And I would say, “Blah, blah, blah andblabbity, blabbity, blabbity.”

Just like my teenagers, I kneweverything. How frivolous and carefreeand invincible I was. It’s the universalstory of youth, isn’t it? I told my brotherthe other day that my new favorite songis “Yesterday, When I Was Young” byRoy Clark. Listen to it; you’ll see what I

mean. A

fadedcelebritysingersaid onetime on atalk showthat therewasn’t onedarnedthing thatwas goodaboutgettingold. Isupposethat’s true

for once-famous people who have losttheir luster and have been forgotten bythe public.

But I have never been famous orwidely known by the public. Gettingolder for a regular guy like me is justroutine; I have no delusions orflashbacks of glory.

Look, I’m not saying that gettingolder is a dream. The inevitable loss ofyouth can be difficult. Many of youalready know it; many more soon will.In sad resignation, I have often saidgood riddance to much of thefoolishness and turmoil of that earliertime, while in my heart I yearn for onemore stab at it.

I don’t ever remember saying that Iwish I could be in my 60s, but I surehope I can be in my 70s. The alternativeis difficult to ponder.

Mike Clark writes a regular column for TheGlobe Leader newspaper in NewWilmington, Pa. He lives outside Columbia,Pa., and can be contacted [email protected].

Birthday Thoughts

The Way I See It

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If you’re a fan of old movies,you’ll recognize what the classicsGilda, Blackboard Jungle, The

Courtship of Eddie’s Father, andFastest Gun Alive all have incommon: Glenn Ford. Oddlyenough, though he appeared inaround 100 feature films, the firstbiography on Ford was onlypublished in 2011.

Ford’s son, Peter, authored GlennFord: A Life and talked about his dadand the book, which is an insightfulHollywood bio filled with stories ofone of film’s most underappreciatedactors.

In addition to acting, Ford had anumber of other interests, includinga great fondness for women, whichPeter approaches with objectivecandor without ever turning thebook into a trashy memoir.

“He’s perceived by the public as aJimmy Stewart—a wholesome, all-American guy,” Peter told me. “Hewas that, but he also had a lot ofErrol Flynn in him. In reviewing allmy sources, I counted 146 womenhe had a dalliance with, includingMarilyn Monroe.”

Those sources included Ford’sown writings.

“My father kept a diary every dayof his life since 1933, and I haveevery one of them. So there was anenormous amount of material there,”explained Peter. “If you picked anyday since then, I could tell you whathe had for breakfast, where he went,what he did, what he thought, whohe talked to, etc.”

Glenn Ford was also a packrat ofmonumental proportions. When Forddied in 2006, Peter says he donatedmany of his father’s personal items tocharities. Other items he sold,including a piano given to Ford byJudy Garland, a slot machine fromFrank Sinatra, and a couch on whichhe “entertained” Monroe.

In fact, an auction house hauledoff two 26-foot-long trucks filled with“stuff ”—and that still barely touchedthe surface of the contents of Ford’s9,000-square-foot home in BeverlyHills.

“He saved everything,” said Peter.

“I have every letter he ever receivedand copies of letters he wrote. I havehis baby teeth, the lock of hair fromhis first haircut, the dish he used as ababy, and every report card fromschool. There [were] also thousandsof photographs and thousands ofbooks.

“Wherever he went, he wouldtake scraps of paper and write histhoughts. Often, he would stickthese randomly in books, along withletters, Christmas cards, and evenmoney.”

Peter donated hundreds of thosebooks to libraries but had to checkeach one in case his father had leftsome long-forgotten treasure within

its pages. In one, he found manyletters from singer Sophie Tucker.

Another Ford “hobby” was tosecretly record telephoneconversations. In the late 1950s,Ford, unbeknownst to his family andfriends, installed a phone tap on thefamily’s phone. After his father died,Peter discovered hundreds of oldreel-to-reel and cassette recordings ofcelebrities and politicians.

“He has some of PresidentRichard Nixon,” said Peter with achuckle. “Isn’t that ironic? The mostinfamous taper himself gettingtaped!” Maybe we now know whereTricky Dick got the idea!

Peter also recalls childhoodSunday-morning walks with his dadalong Santa Monica Boulevard. Thetwo would often stop under a leafyfichus tree, and Ford would ask hisson if he wanted some chewing gum.

Adept at sleight-of-hand tricks,Ford would appear to pull somechewing gum from the tree, leadingyoung Peter to believe there reallywas such a thing as a “gum tree.”

In another story, Peter remembersflying in a private plane with his dadto Cody, Wyo., for the dedication ofthe Buffalo Bill Museum. Theceremony culminated with a livebuffalo dangling in a harness from ahelicopter, flying over the crowd.

But as the pilot hovered above theassembled dignitaries, the terrifiedanimal’s bladder and bowels provedsomewhat unstable. When combinedwith the downward force of thechopper’s rotor blades, Peter says itwas a most memorable event!

Glenn Ford was a complex man,which led to difficulties andintricacies in his professional andpersonal lives. Peter’s revelationsabout his dad—as well as his mom,the great dancer Eleanor Powell—provide a fascinating glimpse of thegolden age of Hollywood.

Thomas’ features and columns haveappeared in more than 300 magazinesand newspapers, and he is the author ofRaised by the Stars, published byMcFarland. He can be reached at hisblog: http://getnickt.blogspot.com

Ford with Rita Hayworth in Gilda (1946).

Photo credit: Peter Ford

Peter Ford, center, with his parents,Eleanor Powell and Glenn Ford.

Photo credit: Peter Ford

Ford, right, with Peter Ford onthe set of Heaven with a Gun

(1969).

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Joseph Switaj, 88, of Camp Hill, wasa gunner on the destroyer USSMarshall, which took part in many of

the major battles of WWII against theJapanese navy and air force.

Switaj served aboard the destroyerfrom the time it was commissioned in1943 until just before the Japanesesurrender. During that time, the shipparticipated in eight major operations aspart of Task Force 58, including:

• Asiatic-Pacific raids on Palau, Yap,Ulithi, Woleai, Truk, Satawan, andPonape

• Western New Guinea (Hollandia)Operation

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• Okinawa Operation –Assault and occupationof Okinawa

Switaj said his destroyer was creditedwith shooting down or assisting in thedestruction of five enemy aircraft. He

said the Marshall rescued21 pilots and aircrewmen, some ofwhom ran out of fueland had to ditch theirplanes in the sea, unableto make it back to theircarriers.

His ship also pickedup 44 Japanese survivorsof the cruiser Natori,which had been sunk byone of our submarines.

The POWs, who hadspent 22 days at sea in alifeboat, were transferredto one of our carriers as

we did not have the facilities to detainthem.

From November 1944 through January1945, our task force was hit by some very

bad typhoons, and many of our shipssustained damage with heavy loss of life,although our destroyer escaped seriousdamage.

During one particular typhoon, theMarshall rolled 62 degrees, and we thoughtwe would capsize. Fortunately, it did nothappen. Our ship was tossed in the air andcame crashing down. I was afraid our bowwould break off. I had a top bunk andended up on the floor more than once inriding out the storms.

Despite the displacement of 2,050 tons,the Marshall was no match for thepotential fury of Mother Nature. That’swhy, with imminent bad weather, our ship,when low on fuel, filled its empty tankswith water to give it more ballast.

Our destroyer had a complement of 329men. We suffered no fatalities, but three

His Ship Took Part in the Major Pacific BattlesDuring World War II, Part 2

Beyond the Battlefield

Alvin S. Goodman

Joseph Switaj, USN.

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Hospital Gowns Get a Redesign

NurseNews

Gloria May, M.S., R.N., CHES

OK, maybe it isn’t in the sameleague as the invention of themicroscope, the discovery of

penicillin, or the formulation ofvaccines, but the creation of the hospitalgown that closes in the back will certainlybe applauded by every patient who hasever had to wear one and who has had toreach, pull, or twist it just so he can getto the bathroom without exposing hisrear end to the world.

When I was caring for patients in thehospital, we often used two of thoseflimsy, thin cotton gowns on ourpatients, one tying in the back and thesecond one over it, tying in the front.

The patients were not as exposed asthey were when they were forced to wearthe single gown, and in addition,wearing two gowns made them feel a bitwarmer. Sometimes we would let thepatients bring pajama bottoms or boxershorts from home and wear them under

the gowns.The tie-

in-the-backversion ofthe gown ishandy fornurses anddoctors, as itprovides easyaccess to thepatient’sback andmakes itquick andsimple to,for instance,listen to apatient’slungs orheart or togive an injection. And it makes it easierfor the patient to use the bedpan ifnecessary.

However, patients hate thosedarn gowns. And with goodreason. And although they haveprovided fodder for cartoons foryears, it’s time for them to go.

I saw pictures of one kind ofnewly designed gown, and it

looks morelike awrap-around spabathrobe.It has acrisscrossV-neckclosure inthe frontand elbow-lengthsleeves.There aresnapsinstead of

ties and, while it does close in the back,it also has an “access flap” from the neckdown to the lower back.

The particular gown I saw and readabout was created at the Henry FordInnovation Institute and is currentlybeing used at a hospital in Detroit. Sofar, patient reviews have been positive.The goal now is getting the designlicensed and sold to a manufacturer whocan get this going on a grand scale. (I dida little research on the Internet andfound that other designers andcompanies are working on this issue aswell.)

The current tie-in-the-back designgoes back to the early 20th century, andwhile they were a great idea in a timewhen patients stayed flat in the bedmuch more than they do today, theyhaven’t changed much since then, andthey certainly don’t offer any measure ofprivacy.

Photos courtesy of Henry Ford Innovation Institute

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And here’s another benefit of the spa-like gown, beyond preserving patientdignity: The new gown is made of athicker fabric, so using two gowns onpatients who are cold (in addition tobeing embarrassed) would no longer benecessary, thus saving on the number ofgowns the hospital needs to purchase.The manufacturing cost of the newgowns is comparable to those of the old

ones, and yes, the new gowns launderup well.

So, while it may not win the NobelPrize, a gown that closes in the backwill be dearly loved. Way to go,designers!

Gloria May is a registered nurse with amaster’s degree in adult health educationand a Certified Health Education Specialistdesignation.

CDC Urges You to Stay Cool

The Centers for Disease Control andPrevention (CDC) is urging people toprepare for extreme heat this summer bystaying cool, hydrated, and informed.

“No one should die from a heat wave,but every year on average, extreme heatcauses 658 deaths in the United States—more than tornadoes, hurricanes,floods, and lightningcombined,” said RobinIkeda, MD, MPH,acting director ofthe NationalCenter forEnvironmentalHealth andAgency forToxic Substancesand DiseaseRegistry.

Extreme heat canlead to very high bodytemperatures, brain and organdamage, and even death. People sufferheat-related illness when their bodies areunable to compensate and coolthemselves properly.

Extreme heat affects everyone, but theelderly, children, the poor or homeless,persons who work or exercise outdoors,and those with chronic medicalconditions are most at risk.

An analysis of 2012 data indicatesthat deaths are on the rise. In a two-week period in 2012, excessive heat

exposure resulted in 32 deaths in fourstates, four times the typical average forthose states for the same two-weekperiod from 1999-2009.

More than two-thirds of the deaths(69 percent) occurred at home, and 91percent of those homes lacked air

conditioning. Most of those whodied were unmarried or

living alone, and 72percent were male.

CDCrecommends thatlocal governmentsengage inadvancedplanning, such asincreasing access to

air conditioning,cooling stations, or

other public locationsthat can be used by

residents for temporary relieffrom heat, particularly whentemperatures are elevated for severalconsecutive days.

CDC is offering new resources,including a new website to prepare forextreme heat, new data on heat-relatedemergency room visits andhospitalizations, and a Climate Changeand Extreme Heat Events guidebook.

For more information on extremeheat and heat safety, call (800) CDC-INFO or visit www.cdc.gov/extremeheat.

“The Upper Hand”This phrase originated with the advent of

sandlot baseball. In order to determine whichteam would bat first, one player would graspthe baseball bat at the lower end. A playerfrom the opposing team would then place hishand directly above the first player’s hand.

They would alternate hands up the batuntil the end was reached and one of the

players had the “upper hand.”

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Traveltizers Travel Appetizers: Stories that Whet the Appetite for Travel

Rhonda Besaw carefully placesthree small pouches on herdining room table.

They are meticulously adorned withvery tiny beads. One has three flowers,another has a geometric design, and thethird—my favorite—has sparkles oflight that swirl across a blackbackground.

Besaw explains that the sparklesrepresent her people as they cross overthe Milky Way to a place where theywill be reborn.

Besaw’s people are the Abenaki, atribe that has lived in southern Quebecand northern New England since beforethe beginning of oral history. Yet manypeople are unfamiliar with their cultureand contributions.

Besaw, an award-winning Nativeartist whose work is regularly shown ingalleries throughout the Northeast, ison a mission to change this.

“The Abenaki are still here,” she says.“Through these beads, I hope to sharethe story of our survival.”

My husband and I are visiting Besawin her home, which is in a small villagein the north woods of New Hampshire.The drive took us through the Notch, anarea where you can’t communicate by cellphone but where you can—if you’regood at this sort of thing—talk withmoose and bear.

We were, in all respects, on a “roadless traveled,” and this, for us, is part ofthe joy of “crafting,” a word that wecoined more than 20 years ago.

Crafting is the art of getting to knowa place—its history, its traditions, itspeople—through its handmade objects.

New Hampshire is the perfect placefor this type of travel. In 1932 it becamethe first state to officially support itsartists by establishing The League ofNew Hampshire Arts and Crafts, and thestate’s craft tradition—which includesNative, Colonial, Shaker, andcontemporary work—is among thenation’s finest.

Besaw’s work includes beaded bags,moccasins, leggings, and drool-worthy

Crafting the Roads and History of New Hampshire

Award-winning artist Rhonda Besawuses beads to tell stories of her

people.

Crafting takes people along the back roads,where scenes like this abound.

Dartmouth history professor Jere Daniellcalls Hillsborough “a quintessentialNew Hampshire town.”

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necklaces and earrings. Her images arenot reproductions of traditional designsbut rather interpretations of ancientthemes. In this way she passes on notonly stories of her ancestors, but alsotheir spirits.

Our quest to glimpse NewHampshire’s colonial heritage takes us toHillsborough Center, a town that is NewEngland to its core, right down to thewhite-steepled church and stacked-stonefences.

Jon Gibson, a second-generationpewterer, greets us with a smile.

“I’ll show you the old schoolhouse,and then we’ll go into my studio,” hesays.

This is how we come to spend themorning in a 200-year-old schoolhouseas well as in an equally old post-and-beam barn, all the while learning about acraft that was essential to the daily life ofthe early settlers.

I pick up a porringer and admire itsdecorative handle.

“Paul Revere worked in silver ratherthan pewter, but he made some of themost famous colonial porringers,” saysGibson.

The Museum of Fine Arts in Bostonhas in its collection several pieces madeby Paul Revere as well as a few itemsmade by Jon Gibson, a fact of which

Gibson is rightfully proud. Some ofGibson’s pieces—which include bowls,plates, mugs, tankards, andcandleholders—are cast, some arehammered, and some are spun on anantique lathe.

From Hillsborough Center we travelto Amherst, where we meet SumnerBennett, who painstakingly craftsindividually fabricated Shaker boxes. The

Shakers, who arrived in the colonies inthe late 1700s, believed in devoting their“hands to work and their hearts to God,”and thus became known for items thatwere made with utmost love andprecision.

I look at a set of oval nested boxes,perhaps the most well known of theShaker crafts, and quickly realize thenecessity for such precision. The top of

each box must not only fit snuggly ontothe bottom of its handcrafted mate, buteach box must also be sized to fit intothe next larger one. Bennett makes setsthat consist of up to 10 nested boxes.

He is relaxed as he demonstrates thevarious steps required to make the boxes,from preparing the wood to cutting theovals and distinctive finger-shaped jointsthat keep the boxes from buckling.

As with Besaw and Gibson, Bennett’swillingness to share his knowledge, bothtechnical and historical, gives me insightinto the past, teaching me not only howpeople lived, but also how they thought.

Like all our crafting journeys, we runout of time much too soon. There aremore crafts to explore, more history tolearn. We haven’t even begun to delveinto the state’s thriving contemporary artscene. For that, we’ll have to return.

The Annual League of NHCraftsmen’s Fair, which showcases thework of more than 350 craftspeople,takes place this year Aug. 3–11.

Rhonda Besaw: www.rhondabesaw.comJon Gibson: www.gibsonpewter.comSumner Bennett: www.sbshakerbox.comOther NH craftspeople: www.nhcrafts.org

Photos © Irv Green unless otherwise noted;story by Andrea Gross (www.andreagross.com).

Arched stone bridges near Hillsboroughare examples of the dry-laid masonry

that is a hallmark of what is aptlynicknamed “The Granite State.”

Jon Gibson uses an old lathe to makepewter vessels in the traditional way.

Sumner Bennett recallsNew Hampshire’s Shakertradition as he makes setsof nested boxes.

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In my June column I described how Ihad sent a third DNA sample toAncestryDNA (a subsidiary of

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Since then, I received a third rejectionemail, asking me to send still anothersample. The original order was about$100 for Ancestry.com subscribers, andalthough there was no extra cost forsending in the additional samples, Idecided that three tries was enough. Iasked for a refund.

Ancestry’s first response was “that isnot our policy,” and they suggested Ihave someone else’s DNA tested on mydime. That was not acceptable, as I wantmy DNA tested, not someone else’s, noteven my son’s, whose DNA wouldcontain genetic material (his mother’s)that is different than mine.

When I explained this to Ancestry,they graciously agreed to refund mymoney.

Unfortunately, this episode throws amonkey wrenchinto my plan togive acommentary onthese pagesabout my DNAtesting and itsresults. I’ll take amoratorium onDNA columnsand resume themwhen I havedecided which DNA testing venue to usefrom the many available candidates.

Instead, I’d like to revisit a subject Ihave addressed previously: onlinegenealogy resources. My reason forreturning to this topic is a conversation I

had recently. I volunteer as a librarian at my local

Mormon FamilySearch Center. RecentlyI was helping a patron with an online

search for informationabout the death of hergrandfather. When Isuggested that we trythe subscription siteFold3(www.fold3.com), shereferred to FamilySearch(www.familysearch.org)and asked, “Doesn’tFamilySearch haveeverything?”

In this day and age of information, Isuppose it’s easy to fall into the notionthat everything about everybody issomewhere online. So, shouldn’teverything concerning genealogy be onone of the foremost online genealogy

sites? Not quite!FamilySearch has millions of records

of all sorts on microfilm, and it isdiligently indexing its images of originalrecords so that they will be viewableonline. However, I venture to state that“everything” will never be online, neitherthere nor at any other site.

Some sites will have voluminousnumbers of ships’ passenger manifestsbut nothing else. Some will have CivilWar pension records but no passengermanifests. Some will have Irish recordsbut no German records, and so on, andso on.

Just as every family is different, itshistory is different, and a genealogyresearcher must be prepared to dig outwhatever sources are available that applyto his or her unique ancestry.

I believe another widely heldmisconception is that, because many of

DNA Interrupted

The Search for Our Ancestry

Angelo Coniglio

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concerning genealogy

be on one of the

foremost online

genealogy sites?

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shipmates sustained shrapnel wounds andreceived the Purple Heart.

I suffered an injury to my fingers whenthe gun mount door slammed shut on myhand.

We had one close call when one of ourcrew, who was doing some deck painting,accidentally triggered a depth charge rack.The barrels rolled into the sea while wewere anchored, but they were in the safemode and did not explode. Had theyblown up, our ship could have beendestroyed or badly damaged. Whenactivated, they are programmed to go offat certain depths.

Some of our frogmen retrieved theexplosives from the shallow water andreturned them to the ship.

On March 19, 1945, during theOkinawa Operation, enemy air attackswere heavy and our carrier, the Franklin,was hit by an enemy bomb, resulting infire and tremendous explosions throughoutthe ship.

Our destroyer was one of the shipsdesignated to stand by the stricken carrier.After rescuing 212 men in the face ofrecurring air attacks, we joined thespecial group screening the carrier, whichwas then listing badly but still afloat.

Her crew assigned to damage controlput out the fires and she was taken intow. Later, she got up steam and was ableto sail out of the danger area under herown power, although not before two nearmisses had been scored on her.

Of those plucked from the water, 17crewmen of the Franklin subsequentlydied while onboard our ship and receivedthe traditional burial-at-sea services. Thecarrier’s survivors were delivered to Ulithion March 24.

On April 14, 1945, ours was one ofseven destroyers attacked by 18 kamikazeplanes. Two of our destroyers were hit,

and our vessel suffered minor casualtiesfrom two bomb near misses, but allkamikazes were accounted for by the ships’combined gunfire and friendly airsupport.

On June 17, 1945, our squadronreceived the long-awaited orders to returnto the U.S. On July 6, we entered SanFrancisco Bay for a much-needed NavyYard overhaul. The Japanese surrenderwas announced toward the end of theoverhaul period, and the Marshall wasordered to an inactive status at the U.S.Naval Repair Base at San Diego.

Since her commissioning, our ship hadsteamed 176,465 engine miles, theequivalent of more than sevencircumnavigations of the globe, at anaverage speed of 17 knots, and weengaged in every major invasion andbattle in the Pacific since the MarshallIslands campaign.

Switaj said that, in addition to itscrew, the ship was home to a mascot, adog named “Mac,” which had boardedthe destroyer at Pearl Harbor in March1944.

“He won the affection of everyonewith his cheerful disposition,” he said.

After discharge from the Navy,Switaj went to work as a truck driverand retired from Roadway Express atage 65 after 22 years with the firm.

On Sept. 6, 1947, he marriedDorothy Slota, who passed away in1988. Switaj has two sons, John andStephen; one daughter, Rose AnnaKepp; and seven grandchildren.

If you are a mature veteran and haveinteresting or unusual experiences in yourmilitary or civilian life, phone Al Goodmanat (717) 541-9889 or email him [email protected].

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the records we pursue are publicdocuments, they should be availablefree of charge. Folks object to payingfor copies of birth records or payingsubscriptions to online venues beforethey can access information.

This philosophy ignores the fact thateven with public records, someone hasto find them (labor), copy them(equipment and material), mail them(postage), and, in the case of onlinevenues, digitize and organize them(labor and equipment), etc.

I pay for an online service for nosmall annual fee. Using that service, Ihave found dozens of images of originalbirth, marriage, and death records for

my ancestors, as well as for my wife’s. Much as I love visiting Sicily, If I

had had to travel there to collect thesame information, my family treewould be bare indeed.

Next time, I’ll review previouslyanalyzed online sources, coveringchanges and additions to their sites.

Write to Angelo at [email protected] visit his website, www.bit.ly/AFCGen.He is the author of the book The Lady ofthe Wheel (La Ruotaia), based on hisgenealogical research of Sicilian foundlings.See www.bit.ly/ruotaia for moreinformation, or order the book atwww.amzn.to/racalmuto.

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Calendar of EventsBig Spring Senior Center – (717) 776-447891 Doubling Gap Road, Suite 1, NewvilleMondays in July, 2:15 p.m. – Group Painting SessionJuly 5, 10 a.m. – Dan Dorty, OrganistJuly 31, 9:30 a.m. – Rails to Trails Senior Citizen Walk

Carlisle Senior Action Center – (717) 249-500720 E. Pomfret St., Carlisle

Mary Schaner Senior Citizens Center – (717) 732-391598 S. Enola Drive, Enola

Mechanicsburg Place – (717) 697-594797 W. Portland St., Mechanicsburg

Southampton Place – (717) 530-8217,www.seniors.southamptontwp.com56 Cleversburg Road, Shippensburg

West Shore Senior Citizens Center – (717) 774-0409122 Geary St., New Cumberland

Please call or visit the centers’ websites for additionalactivities.

Programs and Support Groups Free and open to the public.

AARP Driver Safety Programs

For a Safe Driving Class near you, call toll-free(888) 227-7669 or visit www.aarp.org/findacourse.

July 2 and 3, 9 a.m. to 1 p.m.Camp Hill Borough Building2125 Walnut St., Camp Hill(717) 737-4548

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Mondays and Wednesdays, noonto 12:45 p.m.Silver Sneakers Class: MuscularStrength and Range of MovementLiving Well Fitness Center207 House Ave., Suite 107Camp Hill(717) 439-4070

July 2, 7 p.m.CanSurmount Cancer SupportGroupHealthSouth Acute RehabHospital175 Lancaster Blvd.Mechanicsburg(717) 691-6786

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July 9, 7:30 to 10 p.m.New Cumberland Town BandPerformanceDauphin Lions Club Carnival202 Church St., Dauphinwww.nctownband.org

July 10, 11:30 a.m.NARFE West Shore Chapter 1465VFW Post 67044907 Carlisle Pike, Mechanicsburg(717) 737-1486www.narfe1465.orgVisitors welcome; meeting is free butfee for food.

July 10, 1:30 p.m.Parkinson’s Support GroupHealthSouth Rehab Hospital175 Lancaster Blvd.Mechanicsburg(717) 877-0624

July 10, 6:30 p.m.Amputee Support Team AnnualPicnicHealthSouth Acute RehabHospital175 Lancaster Blvd.Mechanicsburg(610) [email protected]

July 16 1 p.m.Caregiver Support GroupMechanicsburg Church of theBrethren501 Gale St., Mechanicsburg(717) 766-8880

Cumberland County Library Programs

Amelia Givin Library, 114 N. Baltimore Ave., Mt. Holly Springs, (717) 486-3688

Bosler Memorial Library, 158 W. High St., Carlisle, (717) 243-4642July 17, 1 p.m. – Afternoon Classic Movies at Bosler

Cleve J. Fredricksen Library, 100 N. 19th St., Camp Hill, (717) 761-3900

East Pennsboro Branch Library, 98 S. Enola Drive, Enola, (717) 732-4274

John Graham Public Library, 9 Parsonage St., Newville, (717) 776-5900

Joseph T. Simpson Public Library, 16 N. Walnut St., Mechanicsburg, (717) 766-0171

New Cumberland Public Library, 1 Benjamin Plaza, New Cumberland, (717) 774-7820July 4, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. – Fourth of July Celebration, Band Concert, and Vintage Quilt RaffleJuly 6 and 20, 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. – Book SaleJuly 24, 6 to 9 p.m. – Pennwriters Writing Group

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Her positive mind has forged the way fora positive life.

And her natural charisma may bewhat prompted so many women to jointhe Women’s Writing Circle thatWeidener began in November 2009.

The Women’s Writing Circle beganout of Weidener’s hope and dream offinding kindred spirits who couldconnect as a community of writers.

“It is very important when you are awriter to ease the loneliness and isolationof the work and find a community oflikeminded souls,” Weidener said. “All ofthese women have given me a new leaseon life.”

The group of women meets on thesecond Saturday of each month at a localbookshop. They share their writing witheach other and offer support andvalidation—things essential to anywriter’s success, both in their careers andas individuals.

“The emphasis is on how writing canlead to healing, self-discovery, andempowerment,” she said.

To merely say that Weidener loveswriting would be an injustice to her truefeelings, as she loves every aspect of it—“even the blood, sweat, and tears” that gointo it.

“I found that writing was a journeyinto the soul—a path to self-discovery, aswell as a way to develop understandingand empathy for others,” she said.

“When you put on paper what hastormented you, you take away the power

of painful memories and put thembehind you.”

Weidener is quick to point out thatthe group meets to connect not only aswriters, but also aswives, mothers,daughters, sisters,and friends sharingtheir journeys.

The group hassince evolved into amonthly critiquesession with aconcentration ondeveloping pieces ofwriting for potentialpublication,explains Weidener.Workshops havealso been formedfrom the Women’sWriting Circle,where the focus is on the craft andalchemy of writing.

The group recently published ananthology of stories and poems, calledSlants of Light: Stories and Poems From theWomen’s Writing Circle. The anthologycan be purchased in some localbookstores or at Amazon.com, and it willbe available as an e-book on Aug. 1.

Weidener brought in outsideworkshop instructors to teach on topicslike fiction and memoir writing andjournaling. She shares her own skills andexperiences as well. Weidener worked asa news and feature writer for The

Philadelphia Inquirer before leaving thepaper in 2007.

While she is committed to freelycheering others on in their journeys—no

matter what agethey may be—Weidener has alsobeen so bold as toshare her own lifejourney in its rawestform in twomemoirs.

Her first book,Again in aHeartbeat, waspublished in2010—the sameyear that she turned60. It is a memoirof love, loss, anddating again.

Weidener has notremarried since losing her husband butstill dates occasionally.

“I never met a man as strong or asconfident, as kind and as honorable asJohn,” said Weidener. “What has keptme going since John’s death is thememory of how he believed in me, mystrength as a woman, and he neverdoubted for an instant that I could raisehis sons on my own.”

She learned a lot about herself as shewrote Again in a Heartbeat and hopes thebook can help anyone who is goingthrough the loss of a loved one.

“When a person we love has cancer, or

any chronic illness, we may not alwayslive up to our own set of personalstandards,” she explained. “My anger andgrief should not have been directed atmy husband for dying but at the cancerand how the disease impacted our family,our two little boys, and my own naïvedream of a happily-ever-after.”

She points out in the book that whena person you love is dying, they willoften distance themselves from you.

“It would have helped me at the timeif I had had someone to talk about it andwhy I felt so abandoned by him.”

Weidener’s second memoir, Morningat Wellington Square, published in 2012,is the story of a woman’s search to findherself beyond traditional roles. Shediscusses the beginning of the Women’sWriting Circle and the end of her careeras a journalist. Leaving the newspaperwas painful in its own way; her time inthe newsroom was so rewarding and feltlike more of a calling than it did a job.

“I am always amazed when I think ofhow an idea to start a writing circle hasturned into a place where, over the lastthree and a half years, more than 200women have read their work,” Weidenersaid.

“Some come once or twice and don’treturn to the circle, while others havebeen coming steadily for a year, twoyears, even three.”

To follow the happenings of theWomen’s Writing Circle, you may visittheir blog at www.susanweidener.com.

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dementia in the United States in 2010were between $159 and $215 billion,and those costs could rise dramaticallywith the increase in the numbers of olderpeople in coming decades, according to

estimates by researchers at RAND Corp.and the University of Michigan, AnnArbor.

The researchers found these costs ofcare comparable to, if not greater than,those for heart disease and cancer.

The study, supported by the NationalInstitutes of Health and publishedrecently in The New England Journal ofMedicine, totaled direct medicalexpenditures and costs attributable to thevast network of informal, unpaid care

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Summer NocturneAs the sun curtsies

Then descends behind the hillSoon the darkness closes in

And everything is still.We hear the chorus of the insects

As in unison they humAnd the world becomes a playground

For creatures on the run.Trees like dancing ballerinas

Cast their shadows on the wallWhile moon and stars glow down upon

This lovely festival.We’ll know night’s show is ending

When the darkness bids adieuAnd a new day breaks as we awake—

To the sound of the morning dove’s coo.

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