Coping with Bullying Dr Brendan Byrne Intermediate School Killorglin Wednesday 14th October 2015 Dr...
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Coping with Bullying
Dr Brendan Byrne
Intermediate School Killorglin
Wednesday 14th October 2015
Dr Brendan Byrne
Introduction You can never see inside
somebody else’s head Each person has a right to be
who and what they are
Definition
Bullying is unwanted negative behaviour, verbal, psychological or physical conducted, by an individual or group against another person (or persons) and which is repeated over time. Anti-Bullying Procedures for Primary and Post-Primary Schools. Department of Education and Science. September 2013.
Descriptions
Bullying is an abuse of power
Bullying is the breaking down of a person
(16 year old boy)
General Points Bullying affects everyone in the
classroom Name calling/Slagging Advice: Ignore/Answer back Best Advice: Assertiveness
especially with reference to eye contact
Parents Why people don’t tell if they
are being bullied:
Ratting
Shame
Different advice especially with reference to retaliation
Listening Contact with the school
Telephone
Letter
Exception Keep a written record-
When, where, who, what
Signs/Symptoms A child who has been happy at
school losing interest and enthusiasm for school. This may be reflected in school performance
Requests for parents to drive them to school, or collect them
Damage to bicycles or personal property, e.g. clothes, books, or loss of same
A child returning from school in very bad humour but reluctant to say why
Unexplained changes of mood. These will often occur before the restart of school e.g. at the end of a weekend
Frequent minor illnesses, especially headaches and tummyaches
Helping a Child who is a Victim of Bullying Not your problem Self Esteem-Confidence
Activities
Abilities
Appearance Assertiveness-
Body language,voice
Helping a Child involved in Bullying Behaviour Try to find out why Offer alternative ways of
behaving:
Responsibility
Sport Punish the behaviour not the
person
What is Cyberbullying?
Cyberbullies use the internet or mobile phones to send hurtful messages or post information to damage people’s reputation and friendships
Cyberbullies can be classmates, online acquaintances, and even anonymous users, but most often they do know their victim
Cyberbullying is an example ofbullying keeping pace with
technology
Cyberbullying blocks out thenuance of tone of voice and body
language
This type of behaviour oftenhappens outside school on homecomputers or via mobile phones
Young people are afraid often totell for fear it will make it worse
They can also be afraid to tell forfear that adults will take awaytheir mobile phone, computer
and/or internet access In most cases, cyberbullies know
their targets, but their victimsdon’t always know the personbullying them. This can lead to
severe feelings of isolation
Tips for Parents
Be the one to introduce your child to the web.
Don’t be too critical of your child’s exploration of the internet.
Encourage them to be careful when disclosing personal information
Keep the computer or laptop in a shared area of the house
The positive aspects of the internet outweigh the negative
Report online material you may consider illegal to the appropriate authorities
Talk about the risks of meeting online friends. Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr(blogging) and the new chat apps such as WhatsApp and Kik Messenger(where groups can share pictures and messages are now snapping at the heels of Facebook as the top networking site).
Encourage your children to be critical of information they find online.
Encourage respect for others as in everyday life.
Know your child’s internet use. This generation’s digital footprint will
have begun at 10 or 11. Children of 10 or 11 are now
clamouring to be on Twitter or Instagram.
Young children should never access the digital world without an adult there to hold their hands.
Two hours’ screen time a day(including TV) is increasingly accepted by experts as a healthy maximum.
Two worth avoiding are: Omegle which sets up conversations with strangers, and Snapchat, where you can share pictures which then disappear(but there is nothing to stop someone taking a screen shot of the picture and sharing it.
Watch out for things like absenteeism from school; sad or angry especially after using phone or PC; sudden disinterest in computers; rapidly switching screens when you enter the room
Key Advice for Young People
Don’t reply to messages that harass or annoy you even though this might be your first reaction
Keep the message. You don’t have to read it. Keep a record that outlines the details, dates and times of any form of bullying that you experience
Tell someone you trust. The worstpart of bullying is the loneliness.
You can also call Childline on1800 66 66 66
Block the Sender. On your Beboprofile or on MSN you can blockthe person by simply clicking the
block button On some mobile phones you can
restrict communications to anapproved list of contacts. You canalso have your number changed
Report Problems. Responsiblewebsites and mobile phone
operators provide ways for theirusers to report things such as
pornography, bullying content, orother offensive material
If you feel it necessary you canreport serious incidents to theGardai. Illegal issues include
someone making inappropriatesexual suggestions, racist remarks,
or persistent bullying that isseriously damaging to the victim’s
well-being
Useful Websites www.webwise.ie Provides parents, teachers
and students with educational resources, advice and information about potential dangers on-line
www.watchyourspace.ie Advice on managing children’s profiles on social networking sites
Office for Internet Safety. Get With It. A Guide to Cyberbullying. Can be downloaded