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Transcript of Conscious Parenting
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Conscious parentingConscious parentingBy Formative AgeBy Formative Age
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Introduction
• The first 2 yrs of life are very important for the development of the child>
• Learning the right answers may get a child through school but learning how to become a life long independent learner will take the child anywhere.
• So are we as parents going to entrust this important job to the school, teachers or are we going to partnership with them
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Philosophy of “The Montessori Method”
• The Montessori Method was started by Dr. Maria Montessori.
• Dr. Montessori taught us to look at each child as a unique being.
• Each child is born with a predetermined pattern of unique potentials.
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Philosophy cont.
• Children carry within themselves a key to their own development
• Hence education must march to the tune of their development.
• Environment helps this process.
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Creating Just The Right Environment
• Engaging Cooperation• Encouraging Independence• Freedom Within limits• Rewards• Punishments• Praise• Role Modeling
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Activity
Take a few mins to think about what it is that you insist your children do or don’t do during a typical day.
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Commonly used methods to get children to cooperate
• Blaming and accusing.• Threats.• Commands.• Lecturing• Warning• Comparison• Sarcasm
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5 Skills
Helps create a climate of respect in which the spirit of cooperation can begin to grow.
• Describe• Give information• Say it with a word• Talk about your feelings• Write a note
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Describe
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Give Information
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Say it with a word
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Talk about your feelings
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Write a Note
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Encouraging Independence
• To encourage Independence• Allow children to do things by
themselves• Let them wrestle with their own
problems.• Learn from their own mistakes.• Let them make their own choices
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Independence cont.
• Show respect for a child’s struggle/efforts.
• Don’t rush to answer questions.• Don’t take away hope.• Don’t talk about a child in front of
him.• Encourage children to use sources
outside the home.
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Freedom within limits
• For the child’s personality to unfold itself he has to be given the freedom within limits.
• Give the child an opportunity to choose the food he eats, the clothes he wears, etc.
• When there is a difference in opinion see it from the child’s perspective before you say no.There may be a point
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Rewards
• Children are intrinsically motivated with a desire to become independent and competent beings.
• Rewards create a dependency on external motivation.
• Observation of Dr. Montessori.
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Punishments
• Punishing deprives a child of the very important inner process of facing his own behavior.
• Mistakes are an opportunity for learning
Common Punishments Given• Spanking,scolding,depriving.
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Alternatives to Punishment
• Help your child develop a friendly relationship with mistakes.
• Express strong disapproval without attacking character.
• State expectations.• Take action.• Allow the child to experience the
consequence of his misbehavior.
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Praise and self esteem
• The nature of a child’s self evaluation has profound effect on his thinking process, emotions , desires values and goals.
• Self esteem is the single most significant key to his behavior.
• What can parents do to enhance self esteem?
• Story of Bruce and David
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Being a Role model
• Children look up to parents as their role models.
• Do not get defensive when your child catches you misbehaving.
• Take responsibility for your misbehavior.
• Children learn by experiencing things in their surroundings.
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How to Praise
• Describe what you see/ not blanket praise
• Describe what you feel• Sum up the child’s praise worthy
behavior with a word.
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TO SUM UP
• We communicate volumes about how we feel about our children by the kind of home we make for them.
• By including children in our family and showing concerns for their feelings and respecting their interests, we tell them how much they really mean to us