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PASTORAL EMPOWERMENT
11-12 SEPTEMBER 2017
CONFLICT RESOLUTION FOR THE CHURCH?
REALLY !
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THE PRESENTER
Joseph Thee - CCMA Senior
Commissioner, Mediator and Arbitrator.
Managing Director- Mutual Gain Africa Ltd.
Panelist on Public and Private tribunals
e.g. SAFA, SA Rugby disciplinary
Committees. Studied law at the UWC and
UNISA. Diplomas’ in Business, Human
Resources Management and Labour law
Henley University and UNISA. Formerly:
Executive member in City of Cape To, wn
responsible for corporate services, South
African Local Government Association.
Ambassador to Republic of Cuba.
Detachee to Embassy in Nigeria
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Purpose of this programme
I am sure your expectation was to develop an understanding of
conflict and dispute management and all the tools to create a
peaceful and harmonious assembly. An all academic approach.
Should the church be interested in dispute resolution?
Different answers to the question or views:
Perhaps you have all the answers
Man of God ordained
Given the authority, Anointed
I only listen to my Father in heaven
Are we part of the worldly doctrines.September 2017
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Attended bible school
Perhaps an issue for others not for me
My view:
this is not a side issue
the church name is being brought into disrepute
simple self interest suggest we will be better off
Christian churches have a mandate from their founder, Jesus
said to the disciples, blessed are the peacemakers for they shall
be called children of GOD (Mat 5:9)
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He goes further and says. “Let your light shine that others may
see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven”
In other words, Christians children of God – show the family ,
likeness to their Father when they are taking active steps in
building peace.
I’m happy that the AFM is leading the way. Our pastors are true
men of God.? They are a shining light and lead by example!
I know right now people walk into churches and are changed by
the love of God
they are struck by the togetherness
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Need for dispute res cont..
many are being changed by jus a visit
Reality this is not the whole story: why ?
Some church meetings are degenerating into shouting matches
Some Christians are nothing than being straight forward
The church is making the news head lines for wrong reasons
Is it not time that the church start listening or have we became
to arrogant.
Was it not James (Jam 1:19) who wrote to Christians who were
fighting and says: Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to
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Question: why do so many churches around the world are
involved in conflict and dispute resolution. Well if you in search of
a better health certain steps will be taken. Exercise, balance diet
etc. is it simply a question of fix it My answer will be conflict in life
is not predictable. Its about people , not just problems.
Its not a quick fix. Peace makers are people who breathe grace,
and draw continually on the goodness and power of Jesus Christ ,
and bring his love, mercy , forgiveness , strength , wisdom to the
conflicts of their daily life. CCMA story…… , traditionally, who are
commissioners recent changes, disputes referred, misconduct ,
breaches, consequences
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Relationship with God and pursue a God fearing disciplined
lifestyle
daily prayer, study and reading
love , care , protect
not seek separation
promote brotherly love
to refrain members to resign and abide by the rules of the
church. This oath was signed by ordained pastors.
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AFM pastoral code of conduct
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CONFLICT SOURCES
(conflict causes)
AGGRAVATORS/MODERATORS
(conflict triggers)
CONFLICT BEHAVIOUR
(manifest conflict)
Differing goals
Differing values
Scarce resources
Ambiguity
Co-ordination
Aspirations
Perceptions
History of relations
Use of strategies
Constituencies
Tolerance
Balance of power
Acceptable procedures, forums, standards,
third party institutions
Violence
Coercion
Sabotage
Strikes
Negotiation
Co-operative problem solving
Use of third parties
Litigation
Termination of relations
Sources of conflict
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Approaches to handling conflict
Confronting
Avoidance
Compromise
Capitulation / Accepting
Problem Solving
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AVOIDING
APPROPRIATE INAPPROPRIATE
when the issue is trivial
when the relationship is insignificant
when time is limited and a decision is not necessary
when you have limited power but
wish to frustrate the other side
when you both care about the relationship and the issue
when this is a standard response to conflict
when negative feelings may linger
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Do and dont’s of various styles
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When is conflict-handling behaviour
(in)appropriate? (cont’d)
CONFRONTING
APPROPRIATE INAPPROPRIATE
when an emergency looms
where imminent harm is to be avoided
when you are sure you are right and being right matters more than the relationship
when the issue is trivial and the
other party doesn’t care happens
when joint problem solving has not yet been attempted
when co-operation of others if important
when it becomes a standard response to conflict
when self-respect is damaged as a result
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When is conflict-handling behaviour
(in)appropriate? (cont’d)
COMPROMISING
APPROPRIATE INAPPROPRIATE
when cooperation is important but time or resources are limited
when finding a solution, perhaps not the best one, is better than deadlock
when creative problem solving is essential
when you or your constituency can’t live with the outcome
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When is conflict-handling behaviour
(in)appropriate? (cont’d)
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avoidance seeks to put off disputes indefinitely
delaying
ignoring , hoping the problem resolves itself
those doing this has low power, low esteem
this only works if the target is unproductive for a while
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When is conflict-handling behaviour
(in)appropriate? (cont’d)
PROBLEM SOLVING
APPROPRIATE INAPPROPRIATE
when the issues and the relationship are important
when future cooperation is important
when a creative outcome is important
when it is possible to meet all interests
when time is limited
when the issues are unimportant
when the goals of the other side are not bona fide
when the other party refuses to disclose information
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Negotiation is an alternative to several other decision-making
alternatives. It’s a process where mandated groups meet together
in to order to resolve their differences and reach agreement.
Other methods include:
Persuasion;
Instruction;
Coercion;
Litigation;
Mediation and Arbitration.
Successful negotiators are successful people and are trained as
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Negotiations as a tool. Why negotiate ?
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Negotiation skills
Negotiation is the process by which two parties adjust their stated
positions so that they can reach a mutually satisfying agreement.
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Applying the interest-based approach to
managing conflict
Separating the people from the problem.
Focusing on interests, not positions.
Generating a variety of possible options and suggesting them as
a possible solution.
Insisting that the outcome of the negotiations be based on a
mutually agreed objective standard.
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Applying the interest based approach to
managing conflict (cont’d)
THERE ARE TWO ASPECTS TO DEAL WITH CONFLICT
THE SUBSTANCE THE PROCESS
What you are negotiating about
How you negotiate
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Applying the interest based approach to
managing conflict (cont’d)
• Separate people from the problem
Approach one
• Focus on interests, not positions
Approach two
• Generate options for mutual gain
Approach three
• Use objective criteria
Approach four
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Negotiation Styles
WIN-LOSE approach
AGREEING TO DISAGREE approach
AVOIDING approach
WIN-WIN approach
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Difference between interests and positions
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What we really want
What we must have
What we say we want
Conflicts Hierarchy
Interests
Needs
Positions
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Dealing with threats
1. Consider the threat
2. Let the words sink in
3. Repeat, rephrase or recap
4. Review your plan
5. Choose your response.
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Suggestions on how to enhance your
negotiating skills
Awareness of the negotiating framework
Be aware of your negotiating style(s)
Immediately after a negotiation, analyse the way you feel about
the negotiation and how you managed it
Respond as naturally and instinctively as possible
Develop your listening skills
Be conscious of the reaction of others
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Inventing options for mutual gain
Normally negotiations end up as win-lose outcomes, why?
How can we improve our outcome?
Separate the inventing of options from making decisions.
Look for mutual gain.
Make their decisions easy by putting yourself in their shoes.
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The process to be followed when generating
options
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Preparing and planning for negotiation
BATNAWATNA
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Preparing and planning for negotiation
INVENT IMPROVE TURN SELECT
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How to become an effective negotiator
Work at your listening skills
Choose questions wisely
Be aware of how you respond
Giving too much information at once
Rejecting alternatives
Not using team members effectively
Assess and re-assess after the negotiations
Seek feedback from colleagues
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Typical mistakes made in negotiation
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Key learnings
Effective listening enables conciliators to create supportive
environments for parties.
Body language is critical in listening skills.
Asking questions helps to understand a problem.
Conciliators must be informed & driven by a social justice vision
for role in the church and in leadership positions
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Key learnings (cont’d)
Mediators and leaders have an ethical duty requiring them to act
in the church best interests.
It is important for mediators and leaders to understand their own
prejudices, intolerances and attitudes.
The purpose of the Code of Conduct is to assist in maintaining
the good reputation of the office of the Ministry and to provide
guidance to all administrators and ministers on matters of
professional conduct and practice generally.
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Purpose of section 4
To develop an understanding of:
A six stage model conciliation process
1. Pre-conciliation Tasks
2. Introductions and Rule Setting
3. Preliminary Issues
4. Story-telling
5. Problem-solving
6. Closure
What is expected of a conciliator during these stages.
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Be impartial and declare any conflict of interest
Acceptance of the conflicting parties
The ability to gain trust and respect of the parties
Clear thinking in identifying the real problem
Offer practical solutions
Knowledge about the organisation, structures, strategies
Know the constitution, policies and agreements
Be tactful, diplomatic with persuasion skills , strong character
Be a good listener
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How to be an effective mediator
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Introduction and rule-setting
Welcome Introductions Explain process
Set ground rules
DisclosureSet ground
rules
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Story - telling
Clarifying the dispute.
Reducing the tension.
Developing a strategy.
Determining which party should start.
Ensuring the dispute is understood.
Side caucuses.
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Problem solving
Assisting members, leaders to better understand the dispute.
Assist to generate options to resolve the dispute.
Managing separate sessions.
Extracting needs.
Reality testing & clarifying.
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2. Introduction
Welcome and Introductions
Explain the process
Setting ground rules
Disclosure
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Outlining the conciliation process
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Six stage conciliation model checklist (cont’d)
3.Procedural Rulings (where necessary)
Appropriate person
4. Story-telling
Explanation
First party tells story
Ensure you understand
The other party tells story
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Six stage conciliation model checklist (cont’d)
5. Problem-Solving
Using skills
Looking at options
6. Closure
The agreement
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Six stage conciliation model checklist (cont’d)
Pre-conciliation Introduction
Procedural Rulings
Story Telling
Problem solving
Closure
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Key learnings (cont’d)
The story-telling stage entails each party “telling their story” with
the other party being given the opportunity to clarify details & the
conciliator checking to see whether the parties have correctly
understood the dispute.
The problem-solving stage involves the conciliator assisting the
parties to identify their real needs, options & BATNA.
When mediating mutual interest disputes the parties have
additional requirements from a commissioner.
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Questions and Answers
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The end …
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