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  • MH Institute 2018 Shelly Dohlby

    Compassion, Resilience & the

    Persistence of Integrity

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    I. Compassion and Resilience

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    WELCOME BAC K!

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    A few Weeks Later...

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    What DO I need to feel successful?

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    H f N

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    H f N

    1. Basic 2.Safety

    3. Social

    4. Esteem

    5. Self-Actualization

    * Self- Transcendence

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    Basic Need

    s

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    Let go of stress

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    Low Impact Debriefing (LID) Decreasing Stress we Carry

    1. Increased Self Awareness ~Limit Shock and Awe ~Omit Gory details

    2. Fair warning ~Foreshadow

    3. Consent and the debrief ~ “Is this a good time?”

    4. Limited Disclosure ~Outer details first, core trauma last

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    Compassion Fatigue (CF)

    The overwhelming emotional and physical exhaustion, inability to re-energize.

    Sufferers start seeing changes in our personal and professional lives; we may

    contribute to a toxic environment and become short-tempered with our loved ones.

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    Compassion Fatigue (CF)

    “Compassion Fatigue is a disorder that

    affects those who

    do their work well.” Charles Figley

    “An occupational hazard”.

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    Vicarious Traumatization

    The profound shift in worldview due to the repetition of traumatic stories and images.

    This cumulative process affects us with the most difficult and horrific stories altering the way we see the world.

    Laurie Anne Pearlman and Karen Saakvitne

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    Primary Trauma

    Direct exposure to

    trauma.

    Secondary Trauma

    Second-hand exposure.

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    BURN OUT

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    Compassion Fatigue induces…. Cynisim and Apathy

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    Posttraumatic Embitterment Disorder Following a single negative life event that continues to cause prolonged bitterness, anger, feelings of injustice and distrust for extended periods of time.

    -Michael Linden

    Note the hazard risk for some of us to get locked into a pattern of obsessing about wrongs done to us.

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    Perceptions of Stress

    Every larger system has an obligation to the people who make it work, as well as to the people it serves.

    At the same time, each of us must recognize that we have a role to play in shaping the organizations and social systems we participate in.

    -Laura van Dernoot Lipsky

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    Letting go of Stress ● Define your pain, understand its source ● Express it, slime-free. ● Stay in the present, don’t relive the stress ● Stop re-telling the story ● Forgive yourself ● Stop playing the blame/victim game ● Don’t let the pain be your identity ● Reconnect with who you were before the stress ● Focus on things that bring you joy in the moment ● Share that joy with other people

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    Workplace Obstacles

    ● Ins ufficie

    nt tim e to r

    ecove r

    ● Fr eque

    nt tra uma

    expo sure

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    How to Make Stress Your Friend

    Kelly McGonigal

    https://www.ted.com/speakers/kelly_mcgonigal

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    Where can you improve to be at the top of your game?

    Nature of Helper ~Social life fulfilling ~Time for self ~Healthy coping strategies ~Aware of own history

    Nature of the Work ~Control over sched. ~Satisfied with sched. ~Healthy workplace ~Feel supported ~Colleague support ~Helpful supervisor

    Nature of the Clientele ~Work fulfilling ~See student progress ~Well suited for task ~Balance in workday ~Students satisfied

    Saakvitne, K.W., Pearlman, L.A., & Staff of Traumatic Stress Institute

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    Priorities Conceptualized

    One study sights many parents spend less than seven minutes daily talking with their children. Others suggest less than one hour...

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    What can you Control?

    ★ Organize Your Schedule

    ★ Gain Insight on WHAT is Draining your

    Energy

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    Be Intentional Create time between

    events and reactions using breathing or a 90 second moment.

    Time creates opportunity for

    intentional responses

    Free Mindfulness Center for Health Minds, UW-Madison

    http://www.freemindfulness.org/home https://centerhealthyminds.org/

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    Mindfulness... Why? BE in the present…

    Decrease the creation of ADHD symptoms.

    How Much of your “inner dialogue” is in the past or future?

    Ten Ways to Have a Great Conversation

    https://youtu.be/R1vskiVDwl4?t=2m58s https://youtu.be/R1vskiVDwl4?t=2m58s

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    Self Care??????????

    Sleep, rest, proper diet, exercise, vacations Renewal: Activities that replenish you Working hours Nourishing activities every day Access to a regular debriefing process

    Be Intentional

    Sleep, Rest, Healthy Diet, Exercise, Vacations, Renew, Replenish & Nourish You

    Action Steps

    Acces s to a

    regula r

    debrie fing pr

    ocess

    Slime- FREE

    Comm unity

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    II. The Persistance of Integrity

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    Be Intentional

    ★ Learn to say no or yes more often

    ★ Listen to your critical voice

    ★ Appreciations

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    Stay focused

    Beware of the “must be nice…”

    “Must be nice to have that kind of time.” “Must be nice to have that kind of help.” “Yeah, right. Like that is realistic in my life.”

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    Stress Removal Using Conversation Techniques Find solutions that represents OUR WAY.

    Move from the “I wish I would have said…” or “I meant to say…” or “I wish I didn’t get so emotional.”

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    Collective Conversation

    Mutual Purpose

    As people perceive that others don’t respect them, the conversation immediately becomes unsafe and dialogue comes to a screaching halt.

    Respect is like air. As long as it is present, nobody thinks about it.

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    Conversation Techniques

    Addressing Risky Issues

    Dialogue Free flowing meaning between people

    A. Begin with a focused mind

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    Conversation Techniques

    Addressing Risky Issues

    B. Keep it Safe

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    Conversation Techniques

    Addressing Risky Issues

    C. Notice when safety is at-risk

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    Creating a Story “So it is…”

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    Focus Forw

    ard

    in the Prese

    nt

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    Refrain from…...

    Silence Violence Withdrawing Aggressive, Attacking Words Masking Labeling Avoiding Controlling

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    Collective Conversation

    When conversational mistakes are made….

    Apologize when Appropriate

    Contrast Technique Critique Colleague Example

    The Don’t Want: “The last thing I want to do is to devalue your work….” The Do Want: “I think your work has been great.”

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    Self-Efficacy

    Believe in the power in your own creative

    ability

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    Seek Out a Peer Partner

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    Finding Joy

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    Learning to Fly

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    What is my current capacity

    individually vs.

    collectively?

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