Communication

*Bell Ringer

“Assumptions are the termites of Relationships”

What do you think this means?

*Styles of Communication

*Aggressive: overly forceful, pushy, or hostile.

*May involve bullying or intimidation

*May not pay attention to others’ thoughts, feelings, or needs.

*Passive: unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm manner.

* Putting others’ needs ahead of your own

*Dislike conflict/ will go out of way to avoid arguments

*Assertive: expressing your views clearly and respectfully.

* Standing up for your rights while respecting the rights of others

*Negotiating and compromising

*3 Ways We Communicate

*Speaking

*Listening

*Nonverbal

*Speaking Skills*“I” message: a statement that takes ownership of your feelings and allows assertive communication between two people.

*Replace “You” messages with “I” messages

*“I” Messages

3 INGREDIENTS

*Feeling (I Feel…….)

*Event (When…..)

*Consequence (Because….)

*Changing a “You” message to an “I” message*Partner Activity (10 minutes)

*You are always late!! Why are you so inconsiderate? You made me miss my recital!

*“I feel unimportant (feeling) when you are late (event) and I miss my recital (consequence).”

*Listening Skills*Active Listening: paying close attention to

what someone is saying and communicating.

4 Listening Skills

*4 Listening Skills

*Role Playing Scenarios

*Activity

*Have students get in partners

*Come up with a situation where one of you is talking and the other one practices ONE of the four listening skills.

*The class guesses what skill it is.

*15-20 minutes

*Nonverbal Communication*Body Language: nonverbal communication through

gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and posture.

*Sometimes what we say is not as important as HOW we say it.

*Everything we do sends a message!

*What Different Nonverbal Cues Mean* Crossed Arms

* Closed off. Implies resistance. Not listening or interested.

* A nose rub

* Linked with deception. Could mean you’re lying or trying to hide the truth.

* A barrier

* You’re too close. Back off.

* A hand placed under the chin

* Contemplative. Making a decision.

* Feet pointed toward the door

* Ready to leave. The feet are the most honest part of the body. What direction are they facing?

* A back of the neck scratch

* Concerned or have questions.

* Mirroring

* Shows interest. You find the speaker favorable.

* Forward lean/decrease in backwards lean

* Indicates positive sentiment and interest.

* Eye Contact

* Shows interest, attention, and involvement.

* Raised Eyebrow

* May indicate skepticism or interest, depending on how it is done.

* Avoiding Eye Contact

* dishonesty or discomfort

*Cultural Differences in Nonverbal Communication*Read Article (10 minutes)

*Discuss (5 minutes)