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Communicating Confidently & Effectively
Soft Skills Training for Women in Construction
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Learning Objectives
Look at what really happens when we communicate
Explore communication styles and how we tend to communicate with others
Review a range of tools and techniques that help promote confidence and effective communication
Understand the importance of building rapport during communication
Realise the effect of using positive and negative language
Understand and paraphrase
Understand the importance of active listening
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Some truths…
We all say we need better communication skills, but often we don't know exactly what that means or how to make it happen
Most of us have had very little “training” on communication skills
Sooner or later, communication will go “wrong” when dealing with others
Often there are some people at work that we find very difficult to communicate with
Even the best communicators could face difficulties while communicating
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Some thoughts on communication…
The meaning of communication is not simply what you intend, but also the response you get from the other person(s).
"You have to communicate. Everything you say/do, or don't say/don't do, sends a message to others.“ John Woods
“Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.”Jimi Hendrix
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Communication problems
We encode and decode messages based on:
Our beliefs and values
What is important to us
How we feel about the person we communicate with
How much we know about this person
Our emotional state during communication
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Basic Communication Process
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Information richness of communication channels
Low channel richness High channel richness
Routine Nonroutine
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Six processes during communication
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Principles of effective communication
Open - reasoning behind decisions is clear and accessible
Clear - the information is accurate and expressed in plain language with minimal use of jargon - this applies to all communications (from reports to policy documents)
Credible - the communication is responsible, realistic, trustworthy
Timely - accurate and relevant information is provided when needed
Planned - when possible, communication is proactive and planned to ensure that the right messages would reach the right people at the right time
Consistent – communication messages, within an organisation and among its members, are clear and consistent
Dialogue - people are encouraged to contribute with ideas and to give feedback
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Four elements of effective communication …
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How do we absorb information?
Most people use language that includes visual, auditory or kinaesthetic “feelings”/ words
All of us use language that represents our interpretation of what we perceive about an experience
We think & code
information Feelings Communication
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Working on your communication skills
Using empathy - the ability to share your feelings and understand other people's emotional state
Separate the person from their behaviour
Express your expectations
Be aware of different communication styles
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Rapport
An emotional bond or a friendly relationship between people, based on mutual sympathy, trust and a sense that they understand and share each others’ concerns.
Key words: relationship, understanding, bond, link, affinity, connection, empathy
Build rapport so that you cancommunicate effectively
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Why is the rapport important?
In all types of communication and work relations:
help get things done
demonstrate that you understand someone else’s world view
demonstrate that you communicate well and understand other people
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Building a rapport
95% of the time we achieve it easily Believe that the other person wants rapport too Have confidence that you will achieve rapport Have a sense of curiosity
Use a technique called mirroring: voice, tone, pace of speech breathing rhythm movement rhythm body posture
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Why is the rapport so important?
Rapport is like money - increases its
importance when you don’t have it, and
when you do it increases your opportunities!
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Communication styles
1. RED – Action & What2. GREEN - Process & How3. YELLOW - People & Who4. BLUE - Idea & Why
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Watch your language!
Negative wordsAfraidAnnoyedBlockedCan’tDepressed
Positive wordsExhilaratedImpassionedTemporarily impededChallengedPrimed for change
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Consider the dialogue…
Negative phrasing and language: tells the recipient what cannot be donehas a subtle tone of blameincludes words like can't, won't, unable todoesn’t express positive actions or positive consequences
Positive phrasing and language: tells the recipient what can be done suggests alternatives and choices available sounds helpful and encouraging rather than bureaucraticstresses positive actions and positive consequences
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Getting & Using Feedback
Prepare yourself Ask for feedback in a systematic way Accept the feedback you’ve received and repeat it in order to verify it and confirm
your understanding is correct Ask the person to give specific examples Do not reject the feedback Do not question the feedback or say: “Yes, but…” Thank the person providing feedback Take the feedback (positive and negative) and learn from it!
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Providing feedback…
Always ask (positive or negative): “May I give you some feedback? May I share something with you?”
Talk about their behaviour: “When you…”
Describe the impact: “Here’s what happens…”
Ask them to suggest change: “How could you do this differently?”, or “Thanks, keep it up.”
Remember that feedback is always about future behaviour. It’s NOT about the past, because there’s nothing we can do about the past.
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Nonverbal Body languageFacial ExpressionsToneListeningTouchAppearancePostureSilence
Verbal Oral (informal conversation, presentation, public speaking, debate)Written (text, report, email) - formalFace-to-face/Distant
Communication types
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Written communication could also elicit positive
or negative response in the recipient.
Written communication
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It’s also important how we LISTEN…
Look interestedInquire with questionsStay focusedTest understandingEvaluate the messageNeutralise feelings
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Listening skills
The ability to listen is vital to understanding what is meant, what is being expressed, what hasn’t been said, different emotions, etc.
There is an important distinction between passive and active listening.
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Wrong assumptions about listening
It is a passive activity
“You” always know what I mean
“I” should always know what “you” mean
Communication happens naturally
The meaning of the communication, is the
meaning that the recipient elicits!
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Barriers to effective listening
The speaker: accent, volume, articulation, etc.
You: your ability to concentrate, your level of anxiety, emotional state
Your mind: your inner voice, your focus on what you are going to say, your preoccupation
Environment: stuffy room, levels of comfort, noise
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Physical attention:
Face the other person SQUARELY - conveys that they have your attention
Keep your pose OPEN - conveys that you are open to listen, non defensive
LEAN forward - conveys that you are engaged, don’t forget your body language
Lots of EYE contact - helps build trust, don’t stare! RELAX - trust that you will achieve a high level of rapport, helps to convey an
engagement and improves the listening and the level of understanding
Good listening techniques
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Good listening techniques
Psychological attention:
Keep an OPEN mind - don’t judge
Listen FULLY don’t jump into conclusions
Practise shutting down - EXTERNAL distractions
REFLECT about the person who speaks and think how they were feeling
SUMMARISE what has been said, recap the main points
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Understanding & Paraphrasing
Ways to help understand the other person Paraphrasing - review of what has just been said Clarifying - openly present doubts or concerns without challenging the other person Echoing - pick up on words and present them back as questions Encouraging - nod, “Go on…”, “I see”, “Yes”, etc. Listening between the lines – don’t judge, listen the way things are said, body language,
etc. Use silence - a pause doesn’t always mean that the speaker has finished, sometimes
demonstrates that you are keen to hear what they have to say Don’t interrupt
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Avoid personal prejudice - don’t get irritated by what has been said, don’t allow persons’ manners, or characteristics to distract you
Remove distractions - focus your mind on what is being said, don’t doodle, tap or shuffle papers
Limit your own talking - you have 2 ears and 1 mouth!
Be prepared - give yourself a structure and prepare questions in advance, this would allow you to listen
Understanding & Paraphrasing
Make statements that help create an agenda for how the rest of the discussion could be structured
Practise conscious listening
OR
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Nonverbal messages impact
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Body language
Match your body language, talk speed, voice tone
Match your body posture Be aware of your own mismatches
Watch for skin colour changes, flushing, etc.
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And finally…
NB!
It’s not what you say, it’s the way you say it!
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