Coaching Journey 2015-16
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MY PERSONAL COACHING JOURNEY 2015-16
DISCOVERING MORE ABOUT ‘WHO I AM’ AS A COACH
The first two years of a new career as a qualified Solution Focused Motivational NLP coach
have been full of learning experiences. My initial diploma training in Coaching and NLP
finished at the end of 2014. Since then it has been increasingly clear to me that at the centre
of my personal coaching philosophy lies my core belief in the ability of people to realise
and exceed their own expectations of themselves ie ‘People are amazing! However, it has
been interesting to note that at least 60% of my coachees have come for coaching because
they have been sabotaged by debilitating limiting assumptions which need re-framing if
they are to successfully engage with who they really are. It’s become increasingly clear
during 2015-16 that the essence of my coaching is to unlock people’s potential in order to
enable them to maximize their performance.
Another important influence on my coaching journey since qualifying has been the
principles of Positive Psychology. Seligman’s PERMA model for achieving happiness has
had a big influence on the way I approach the Appreciative Inquiry coaching sessions with
clients whose goal is to increase their self-esteem and achieve greater happiness.
We are, as John Whitmore has suggested, like ‘acorns’ – full of latent potential – but we
need the right encouragement, light and nourishment to become magnificent oak trees. My
job as a coach this year has been to enable my coachees to experience this for themselves.
My coaching sessions with a wide variety of individuals this year have led me to the
conclusion that too many people see themselves [and are seen by others] in terms of their
past performance, not their future potential. This results in insecurity, a lack of confidence,
compromised self-belief and frustration both with themselves and their circumstances. One
coachee in particular had been so undermined by a bullying culture in the workplace that
she couldn’t see, feel or believe in her many strengths and resources. Building my coachees
self-belief using a combination of the PERMA model and an Appreciative Inquiry approach
has been the bedrock of every coaching session. Perhaps it’s not altogether surprising that it
has often been coachees with the greatest obvious abilities who have found it most difficult
to discover what happiness really means for them. Once they have gained insights during
the coaching sessions into who they are and what they are meant to be doing [and why],
the transformation to their self-esteem has been remarkable.
One of the most important aspects of my current work as a Coach is to ‘facilitate’ self-belief
and increasing self-awareness in my coachees. This has encouraged coaches to take
responsibility for their own development in pursuit of their goals. So often clients have
come to a session feeling they don’t have choices but have left knowing that they do have
the strengths and necessary resources to make those choices!
The many models and concepts I have used from my training portfolio, including the
learning surrounding ‘surface’ & ‘deep’ language structures from the NLP practitioner
course, have encouraged me to increasingly embrace a sense of professional satisfaction in
my new role as an ‘Awareness raising facilitator of strengths & positive psychology
principles’ for my Coachees. Every coaching session leads towards a solution which is
‘owned’ by the coachee. Focusing on the problem rarely works. It only succeeds in deeply
embedding the undesirable thoughts and behaviours!
My learning journey has certainly been exciting. What a relief it is to go into every coaching
situation [whether formal or simply as part of the conversations held during a working day]
knowing that there are seldom right answers, just honest ones. The release from the
straightjacket of needing to find THE right, precise answer immediately has affected the way
I ask questions of my students in my ‘other’ role in the classroom. The responses I give to
the students feedback now seeks to draw out THEIR learning rather than to convey mine.
My coaching philosophy has affected the conversations I’ve had with many colleagues
where ‘listening deeply’ to what they are saying [verbally and through body language] has
had liberating results for them – they have loved their experience of a ‘Thinking
Environment in action’. I have been deeply grateful to Nancy Kline for her ground-breaking
book ‘The Thinking Environment’. Her wisdom regarding the art of listening ‘with rigour,
imagination, courage and grace’ has inspired me ‘to listen to ignite the human mind.’ In this
way I’ve developed my ability to be ever more present and congruent during coaching
conversations.
Mrs E.M.Paul
Solution-Focused Motivational NLP Coach
Teacher of History & Politics [Wells Cathedral School]