Co-Parenting Works! by Tammy Daughtry, Excerpt

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@e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!Jgiphdm Xeur @jhiargd Qjrhvg Nltgr Ahver`g

Ky? Qnffy Anumjtry

]jnt hl yeur `jhias ihlg-nltgr-ahver`g euia

kg kgttgr tjnd yeuvg jepga ler5 Nutjer,

èudsgier, nda è-pnrgdt Qnffy Anumjtry

ellgrs rgni weria è-pnrgdthdm strntgmhgs tjnt

`nd arnfnth`niiy hd`rgnsg yeur `jhias `jnd`gsel ignahdm n jgnitjy, su``gsslui ihlg. Xeuii

ahsèvgr jew peshthvg è-pnrgdthdm teany `nd

igna te n kgttgr nda krhmjtgr luturg ler yeu

nda yeur `jhia.

Ignrd Ferg |_edagrvnd ed P`rhka |_edagrvnd.èf
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Ns n èudsgier, Hvg sggd tjg jniigdmgs el e-pnrgdthdm wrgn`c jnveèd pnrgdts nda `jhiargd nihcg. ]jnt Qnffy Anumjtry aegs hd tjhskeec hs agni jgna-ed whtj tjgsg `jniigdmgs wjhig mhvhdm ievhdm pnrgdts

n ahllgrgdt wny el rginthdm te gn`j etjgr nda tjghr `jhia tjnts sergiydggaga. Hl yeurg rgnay ler whsg èudsgi, khkih`niiy knsga teeis, ndaienas el prn`th`ni gdèurnmgfgdt tjnt whii jgip yeu rgintg wgii te yeurè-pnrgdt nda te kigss yeur jhia rgna tjhs keec!

Oejd Qrgdt,RjA, nutjer el Qjg Kigsshdmnda prgshagdtel PtredmLnfhihgs.èf nda Qjg Kigsshdm @jniigdmg

Ns n e-pnrgdt, H aglhdhtgiy rgèffgda tjhs keec te nii pnrgdts whiihdm

te werc temgtjgr se tjghr `jhia `nd igna n wgii-naoustga ihlg.Qjgrgsg F. Kyrdg,@IG nda fggthdms ahrg`terel tjg Qgddgssgg Knr Nsse`hnthed

@jhiargd dgga tjg kgst tjghr pnrgdts jnvg te mhvg. @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!jgips ahvhaga pnrgdts lhda effed mreuda ler tjg kgdglht el tjghr jhia.Xeu nirgnay ievg yeur cha dew mhvg tjgf yeur kgst. [gna tjhs keec.

[ed I. Agni,nutjer el Qjg Pfnrt Ptgplnfhiy,

nda leudagr el www.PfnrtPtgpLnfhihgs.èf

Qnffy rgnihzgs tjg hfpertnd`g el lntjgrs! Qjhs hs n wgii-rgsgnr`jgamuhag tjnt prevhags gx`giigdt navh`g ler tjesg strummihdm tjreumj sefgel tjg fest ahllhùit `hrùfstnd`gs hd ihlg.

[h`c Oejdsed,leudagr el www.KgttgrAnas.dgt nda kgstsgiihdmnutjer el Qjnts Fy Ped, Kgttgr Anas Ptredmgr Pedsnda Kgèfhdm Xeur Ppeusgs Kgttgr Jnil

Lhdniiy! Nd gx`giigdt keec tjnt ellgrs whsaef nda prn`th`ni hdshmjt hdtetjg efpigx fnzg el pnrgdthdm nltgr ahver`g! Qnffy Anumjtry ellgrs nsupgrk mhlt el jndas-ed jgip ler pnrgdts, lnfhiy fgfkgrs, tgn`jgrs, sup-pert mreup ignagrs, nda `jur`j stnll wje agshrg te gnsg n `jhias pnhd.

Inurn Rgtjgrkrhamg,nutjer el ]jgd H Ae Kgèfgs H Aedtnda Qjg Pfnrt Ptgpfef

]jgd fnrrhnmgs lnhi, `jhiargd hdjgrht serrew hd prepertheds ler wjh`jtjghr tgdagr seuis nrg udlhttga. @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs! jgips ahver`gapnrgdts mhvg tjg ievg nda stnkhihty tjghr `jhiargd dgga nda jgips tjgweudaga rgtrgnt lref tjg wnr.

]gs Xeagr,nutjer el Keda el Kretjgrs? @eddg`thdmwhtj Etjgr Fgd kgyeda ]ercnda ]gntjgr nda Pperts


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]g wrhtg eur whsaef lref tjg trgd`jgs el gxpgrhgd`g. QnffyAnumjtry jns ihvga hd tjesg trgd`jgs wjgd ht èfgs te rnhshdm `jhi-argd leiiewhdm ahver`g. Pjg jns aedg tjhs whtj mrn`g, purpesg, nda

jufer. Ler lnfhihgs mehdm tjreumj tjg werst `jnptgr el tjghr gxhs-tgd`g, tjhs keec ellgrs jgip nda jepg.

And Keedg,prgshagdt el Qrgvg``n Dnznrgdg Wdhvgrshty

H ievg Qnffy Anumjtry! Nda H gspg`hniiy ievg tjnt sjg hs n kgnuthluiveh`g gquhpphdm tjhs mgdgrnthed ler jgnitjy e-pnrgdthdm nltgr ahver`g.@e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!hs n keec tjnt jns kggd dggaga ler se iedm. Igt usnii ignrd lref Qnffy nda, ler tjg sncg el eur `jhiargd, nppiy tjhs

tgn`jhdm te eur jgnrts nda eur ihvgs.Ndmgin Qjefns,kgstsgiihdm nutjer nda spgncgr

@e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!hs ketj n trgnsurg fnp nda n èfpnss tjnt muhagspnrgdts dnvhmnthdm tjg wntgrs el è-pnrgdthdm pnst sdnrgs nda phtlniishd eragr te ahsèvgr tjg kgnuthlui trgnsurg el jnppy `jhiargd wje whiikgèfg èdlhagdt nauits. Qnffys werc ns tjg è-pnrgdthdm èn`j hsvniunkig, dg`gssnry, nda npprg`hntga.

Oejd Fnrc Oeurdgy Oejdsed,prgshagdt nda @GEel tjg XF@N el Fhaaig Qgddgssgg

]jgd ahver`g jns kreumjt yeur ihlg te tjg iedgiy pin`g wjgrg yeudgga knsh` prn`th`ni navh`g tjnt wercs te jgip yeu nda yeur `jhiargdjgni nda fevg lerwnra, tjgd yeu oust leuda ht hd @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!

Ptgvg Jnygs,fhdhstgr el khkih`ni èudsgihdmler Lhrst Knpthst @jur`j, Dnpigs, Lierhan

Gx`giigdt . . . n fu`j dggaga rgseur`g. \gry gdèurnmhdm nda surg tekg n mrgnt jgip te tjesg èdshagrhdm è-pnrgdthdm. Ievg tjg pgrsednisterhgs3 tjgy fncg ht rgni!

[ekgrt A. [nked,prgshagdt el Dnthedni @gdtgrler Xeutj Hssugs

Qnffy hs wrhthdm nkeut n sukog`t tjnt hs dgnr nda agnr te fy jgnrt.Hf tjg preau`t el n pgrfndgdt sgpnrnthed, nda H `nd preuaiy sny Hmet te gxpgrhgd`g, ns n `jhia, wjnt twe nauits kgjnvg ihcg wjgd tjgyrgnihzg tjghr ahllgrgd`gs aedt fnttgr nda tjgy sthii jnvg n lnfhiy tjntdggas pnrgdthdm. Qnffy hs aehdm n sgrvh`g te nii el us . . . gspg`hniiyè-pnrgdts tjnt dgga te cdew tjgrg hs jepg ler tjghr `jhiargd.

Oegy Giweea,prgshagdt el Metgg/Fede vs. Ptgrge [gèras


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_EDAG[\ND

@e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!

@epyrhmjt ;2>> ky Qnffy M. Anumjtry

Qjhs thtig hs nise nvnhinkig ns n _edagrvnd gkeec. \hsht www.zedagrvnd.èf/gkeecs.

Qjhs thtig hs nise nvnhinkig hd n _edagrvnd nuahe gahthed. \hsht www.zedagrvnd.lf.

[gqugsts ler hdlerfnthed sjeuia kg naargssga te?_edagrvnd, Mrnda [nphas, Fh`jhmnd 18702

Ihkrnry el @edmrgss @ntniemhdm-hd-Rukih`nthed Antn

Anumjtry, Qnffy.

@e-pnrgdthdm wercs! ? jgiphdm yeur `jhiargd tjrhvg nltgr ahver`g / Qnffy

Anumjtry.

p. `f.

Hdìuags khkihemrnpjh`ni rglgrgd`gs.

HPKD 8=:-2-0>2-0;77;-8 (seltèvgr)>. Rnrgdthdm, Rnrt-thfg. ;. Ahver`ga pnrgdts. 0. Oehdt ùsteay el jhiargd.

1. @jhiargd el ahver`ga pnrgdts. H. Qhtig.

J^=77.:.A0>

;1:.:'172:2270=07

Nii P`rhpturg quetntheds, udigss etjgrwhsg hdah`ntga, nrg tncgd lref tjg Jeiy Khkig,Dgw

Hdtgrdnthedni \grshed, DH\. @epyrhmjt >8=0, >8=:, >8:1, ;2>> ky Khkih`n, Hd`. Wsga ky

pgrfhsshed. Nii rhmjts rgsgrvga weriawhag.

Ndy Hdtgrdgt naargssgs (wgkshtgs, kiems, gt`.) nda tgigpjedg dufkgrs hd tjhs keec nrg

ellgrga ns n rgseur`g. Qjgy nrg det hdtgdaga hd ndy wny te kg er hfpiy nd gdaersgfgdt

ky _edagrvnd, der aegs _edagrvnd veu`j ler tjg èdtgdt el tjgsg shtgs nda dufkgrs ler

tjg ihlg el tjhs keec.

Nii rhmjts rgsgrvga. De pnrt el tjhs pukih`nthed fny kg rgpreau`ga, sterga hd n rgtrhgvni

systgf, er trndsfhttga hd ndy lerf er ky ndy fgnds gig`tredh`, fg`jndh`ni, pjeteèpy,

rgèrahdm, er ndy etjgr gx`gpt ler krhgl quetntheds hd prhdtga rgvhgws, whtjeut tjg prher

pgrfhsshed el tjg pukihsjgr.

Rukihsjga hd nsse`hnthed whtj Nfknssnaer Ihtgrnry Nmgd`y, Dnsjvhiig, QD 0=;27.

@evgr agshmd? Gxtrn @rgaht Rreog`ts

@evgr pjetemrnpjy? \ggr

Hdtgrher agshmd? Kgtj Pjnmgdg

Rrhdtga hd tjg Wdhtga Ptntgs el Nfgrh`n

>> >; >0 >1 >7 >< >= /A@H/ ;; ;> ;2 >8 >: >= >< >7 >1 >0 >; >> >2 8 : = < 7 1 0 ; >


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]htj nii fy ievg te Ndmgihn Mrn`g . . .

Fny yeu niwnys rgfgfkgr, hts ecny te ievg us ketj.

H prny yeur ihlg whii kg n trug gxnfpig

el Meas rgagfpthed nda preel tjnt `e-pnrgdthdm wercs!H ievg yeu, Pdummig Kum . . .

xexex

Fef


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@edtgdts

Lergwera ky Ptgvg Mrhssef . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8

Hdtreau`thed? Lhdahdm Xeur Jgnrt hd Ievg nda ]nr . . . . . . . . . . . . . >>

> Mgtthdm Ptnrtga hd @e-Rnrgdthdm. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . >=

RN[Q EDG

KG@EFHDM N PQNKIG NDAGLLG@QH\G @E-RN[GDQ

; Jew ed Gnrtj Aha Ht @efg te Qjhs5 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 02

0 Xeu Nrg Det Niedg Gvgd Hl Ht Pefgthfgs Lggis Ihcg Ht. . . 0=

1 Lhdahdm Xeur Ptnkhihty . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7>

RN[Q Q ]EHQP DEQ NKEWQ XEW

HQP NKEWQ QJG CHAP

7 Chas hd n Rest-Ahver`g ]eria . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

RN[Q QJ[ GG

@[GNQHDM N @E-RN[GDQHDM QGNF

: Lhvg @ntgmerhgs el @e-Rnrgdthdm. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 821

>2 QGNFF Fggthdms . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . >>0

>> @rgnthdm @edshstgdt Ptndanras ler Ahs`hpihdg . . . . . . . . . . >>8

>; Hd`iuahdm tjg Ptgppnrgdt . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . >;=


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HL HQ @NDME ][EDM . . .

>0 ]jgd Xeur @e-Rnrgdt ]edt @eepgrntg . . . . . . . . . . . . . . >01 ]jgd tjg ]jggis @efg Ell . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . >1=

>7 Lhitgrhdm Eut Dgmnthvg \eh`gs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . >7;

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]JGD @E-RN[GDQHDM

HP HFREPPHKIG

>< Nkndaedfgdt @nd Xeu @e-Rnrgdt Niedg5 . . . . . . . . . . . >= ]jgd Xeur Gx Hs Wdsnlg . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . >: Anthdm Nmnhd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . >:;

>8 [gfnrrhnmg. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . >8;

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NDA HDQE QJG LWQW[G . . .

;2 @e-Rnrgdthdm ler Ihlg Gvgd Nltgr @jhia Puppert Gdas . . . ;21

;> ]jnt ]hii Xeur Chas [gfgfkgr5 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ;>2

@ed`iushed? Kg Krnvg!. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ;>=N`cdewigamfgdts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ;;0

Nppgdahx? [gseur`gs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ;;8

Detgs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ;07


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Lergwera

@nd tjhs keec `nd `jndmg tjg luturg ler yeur `jhiargd5

H tjhdc se.

Hts n ln`t tjnt tjg `jhiargd el ahver`g strummig te kgèfg jgnitjy,

preau`thvg nauits. Fndy `nrry tjg pnhd el n lnfhiy krgncup hdte niipnrts el tjghr nauit ihvgs. Qjgy eltgd lnhi nt rginthedsjhps.

Xeur `jhiargd aedt jnvg te gda up tjnt wny. @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!gquhps yeu whtj prn`th`ni strntgmhgs te werc whtj yeur gx-speusg ler

tjg kgdglht el yeur chas. ]jgtjgr yeu jnvg ùsteay el yeur chas,

er yeur gx aegs, yeu `nd kgèfg n kgttgr pnrgdt hl yeu whii nppiy

tjg strntgmhgs Qnffy prgsgdts hd tjhs gssgdthni keec.

Xeu fhmjt kg tjhdchdm, Xeu aedt cdew fy gx. Qjgy weuiadgvgr nmrgg te èepgrntg nt n fgndhdmlui igvgi.

N`tuniiy, H ae cdew yeur gx er nt ignst sefgedg vgry fu`j

ihcg jhf er jgr.

Qjreumj eur Ahver`g@nrg suppert mreup dgtwerc, wgvg jgipga

dgnriy =22,222 pgepig rgèvgr lref tjg rnvnmgs el ahver`g. Fndy

el tjgf nrg pnrgdts. Pefg wgrg khttgr, ndmry, nda udèepgrnthvg.Gvgd tjesg wje wgrg jesthig nda èfknthvg, whtj lgw gx`gp-

theds, jnvg n selt spet ler tjghr `jhiargd nda aggpiy `nrg nkeut tjg

wgii-kghdm el tjghr chas. Qjghr ndmgr fhmjt ìeua tjghr ouamfgdt,

ignahdm te fhstncgs hd tjg wny tjgy pnrgdt tjghr `jhiargd, kut tjgy

sthii wndt tjg kgst ler tjghr chas.@e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs! sjews yeu, stgp-ky-stgp, jew te ahllusg tjg

tgdshed kgtwggd yeu nda yeur gx, nda kgmhd tjg pre`gss el werc-hdm temgtjgr te rnhsg yeur `jhiargd hd n jgnitjy wny.

Hlyeu nrg tjg ndmry er ahstndt pnrgdt, tjhs keec whii jgip yeukuhia n krhamg kn`c te yeur `jhiargd, kglerg hts tee intg.

Nda gvgd hl yeu nrg edg el tjg iu`cy edgs tjnt jns n meea


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>2 Lergwera

rginthedsjhp whtj yeur gx-speusg, yeu whii lhda iets el whsaef hd

tjhs keec tjnt yeu nd usg te ahrg`tiy hfpn`t yeur jhiargd dew,

nda ler ygnrs te èfg.

Qjhs hs det n keec wrhttgd ky n jgna-hd-tjg-ìeuas n`nagfh`.Qnffy jns ihvga tjg ihlg el n è-pnrgdt, nda jns aedg se vgry

su``gssluiiy. Xeuii rgna jew sjg nda jgr lerfgr jusknda wercga

tjreumj tjg `jniigdmgs tjgy ln`ga hd rnhshdm tjghr anumjtgr Ndmg-

ihn. Xeuii nise jgnr tjg rgni-ihlg sterhgs el etjgrs wje su``ggaga hd

fnchdm n kgttgr ihlg ler tjghr chas tjreumj è-pnrgdthdm.

Xeur `jhiargd nrg mrewhdm up rhmjt kglerg yeur gygs. Ht wedt

kg iedm udthi tjgy nrg ln`hdm tjg weria ns nauits. Xeu `ndt `jndmg

tjnt.

Xeu `nd, jewgvgr, trndslerf tjghr gfethedni nda sphrhtuni

jgnitj ky nppiyhdm tjg prhd`hpigs yeu whii ignrd hd @e-Rnrgdthdm]ercs! Qjg stncgs nrg gderfeus. Qjg thfg te n`t hs dew.

Ptgvg Mrhssef

Leudagr, Ahver`g@nrg/Phdmig & Rnrgdthdmwww.ahver`g`nrg.erm

www.shdmigndapnrgdthdm.erm


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HDQ[EAW@QHED

Lhdahdm Xeur Jgnrthd Ievg nda ]nr

Ndy @jrhstfns Gvg nt


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>; Hdtreau`thed

tjg fhaaig nda tryhdm te fncg jgr `jeesg wje sjg ievga tjg fest.

Nda kg`nusg el tjnt, Igsihgs fgferhgs el `jhiajeea nrg fgferhgs

el pnhd nda `rhshs, `jnes nda èdlushed, ndmgr nda rgsgdtfgdt.

Aha Igsihgs pnrgdts wndt te hdlih`t pnhd nda `jnes nda lrustrn-thed ed jgr ihlg5 El èursg det tjgy ievga jgr oust ns sjg ievga

tjgf. ]jy tjgd aha tjgy fncg jgr `jhiajeea se udpignsndt5

H kgihgvg tjgy ahadt cdew jew te jndaig tjg shtunthed ndy kgt-

tgr. Qjgy jna de èdstru`thvg nda preau`thvg feagis ler kghdm tjg

ahver`ga è-pnrgdts el n sgdshthvg nda trusthdm `jhia. Jew H whsj

sefgedg jna mhvgd tjgf n rena fnp te è-pnrgdthdm te werchdm

temgtjgr, gvgd tjeumj tjgy wgrg ahver`ga, eut el futuni ievg ler

tjg `jhia tjgy jna kreumjt hdte tjg weria. Jew H whsj sefgedg

èuia jnvg jgipga tjgf ndth`hpntg tjg fedufgdtni fefgdts el

Igsihgs ihlg mrnauntheds, rg`htnis, pref se tjgy èuia jnvg nii

gdoeyga tjesg e``nsheds temgtjgr hdstgna el tryhdm te nveha tjg

èudtigss gfethedni indafhdgs. Jew H whsj n keec er sgfhdnr

jna kggd nvnhinkig te jgip tjgf lhmurg eut jew te èffudh`ntgwhtj gn`j etjgr, ahllhùit tjeumj ht fny jnvg sefgthfgs kggd, hd

tjg gllert te jgip tjghr ihttig mhri tjrhvg. Jew H whsj sefgedg jna

gxpinhdga te tjgf tjnt hts det nkeut tgnrhdm aewd tjg etjgr pnrgdt

hts nkeut kuhiahdm up tjg `jhia.

Qjhs keec hs tjnt rena fnp. Qjgsg sterhgs nrg tjg ahrg`thedni

shmds. Qjg fhstncgs nda su``gssgs el etjgrs nrg tjg munrarnhis ler

tjg dgxt mgdgrnthed el è-pnrgdts te leiiew.Ns n pnrgdt wje jns dew kggd è-pnrgdthdm ler tgd ygnrs nda

ns sefgedg wje, ihcg Igsihg, mrgw up udagr ahver`ga, wnrrhdm

pnrgdts H jnvg leuda ht hs pesshkig te fevg kgyeda ndmgr nda pnhd

te n peshthvg nda èepgrnthvg ntthtuag hd è-pnrgdthdm. Ht hs pesshkig

te werc temgtjgr, ler tjg sncg el tjg `jhia. Ht hs pesshkig te jnvg n

stredm pnrgdthdm pnrtdgrsjhp gvgd tjeumj yeu ahadt jnvg n stredm

fnrrhnmg, nda te sjhgia jhiargd lref tjg edmehdm jurts nusga kyahver`g. Xeur `jhia aegs det jnvg te kg ndetjgr dgmnthvg stnthsth`.

Xeur `jhia `nd tjrhvg, gx`gi, naoust, nda ihvg ihlg luiiy hd fefs

jeusg, nda nise hd anas.

Hs e-pnrgdthdm nltgr ahver g gnsy5 De. Aegs peshthvg e-pnrgdthdm


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Lhdahdm Xeur Jgnrt hd Ievg nda ]nr >0

èfg dnturniiy5 De. @eepgrnthdm whtj tjg pgrsed whtj wjef yeu

jna hrrgèd`hinkig ahllgrgd`gs rgquhrgs èd`gdtrntga gllert lref ketj

pnrthgs. Nda n wjeig iet el Mea-mhvgd mrn`g.

Jgnitjy è-pnrgdthdm hs `rhth`ni ler tjg sncg nda snlgty el yeur

`jhiargd, nda nd krgnc tjg yìg el ahver`g nda prefetg fnrrhnmg

nda lnfhiy hd tjg luturg.

Nrg yeur chas wertj tjg gllert5 Xeu ag`hag.

Ler ygnrs H jnvg kggd jesthdm sgfhdnrs tjnt tgn`j tjg prhd`hpigs

nda tg`jdhqugs el è-pnrgdthdm. Ae tjesg prhd`hpigs werc5 Jgrg

nrg n lgw èffgdts lref pgepig wjevg tncgd fy è-pnrgdthdmsgfhdnrs?

H aedt wndt te pnss tjg ter`j el krecgddgss te fy chas. H sgdsga jepg lertjgf.

H ignrdga tjnt fy sed dggas te `gigkrntg jhs ana, tee. H `ndt kg ketjpnrgdts.

H rgnihzga H nf aehdm fndy tjhdms rhmjt, kut H ignrdga >22 ferg hagns Hdgvgr cdgw te ae!

H wndt te kg n stnkig pnrgdt nda tjhs sgfhdnr sjewga fg H nf kghdmhdsgùrg nda `jhiahsj. H dgga te mgt jgnitjy se H `nd kg n kgttgr feagi tefy anumjtgr.

H aha det cdew jew fu`j anfnmg H wns aehdm wjgd H tnicga kna nkeuttjghr ana.

Hffgahntgiy nltgr tjg è-pnrgdthdm sgfhdnr H wgdt te fy seds se``grmnfg. Ler tjg l hrst thfg hd shx ygnrs, H snt ed tjg snfg shag el tjg lhgia nsfy gx-whlg. H rgnihzga tjnt pnrt el è-pnrgdthdm hs mgtthdm eut el fy ewdèflert zedg se fy sed wedt lggi se ahvhaga. Jg `nfg ell tjg lhgia ndawns nkig te jhmj-lhvg us ketj hdstgna el jnvhdm te `jeesg wjh`j pnrgdtte me sgg lhrst. H jna de hagn jew fu`j tjnt wns jurthdm jhf nii tjesg

ygnrs. H jnvg te nafht, H wns udèflertnkig shtthdm ed tjg snfg shag nsfy gx kut H jna te rgfgfkgr hts det nkeut fg, hts nkeut fy sed!

Nltgr jgnrhdm nkeut tjg hfpertnd`g el pjetes H nscga fy gx-jusknda hlH èuia tncg n pjete el jhf nda eur twe `jhiargd. H wgdt te ]nimrggdsnda prhdtga eut edg èpy ler fy seds reef nda edg ler fy anumjtgrs


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>1 Hdtreau`thed

reef. Qjgy gn`j dew jnvg nd nrgn hd tjghr reefs te put hfpertndttjhdms tjnt rgfhda tjgf el tjghr ana. H nf aehdm tjnt ler tjghr meea, setjg jeigs hd tjghr jgnrts whii kg fu`j sfniigr hd tjg luturg.

H jnvg sggd ihvgs `jndmga ky tjesg sgfhdnrs. H jnvg sggd lnfh-

ihgs, gvgd tjeumj tjgy wgrg de iedmgr hdtn`t, rgmnhd wjeigdgss nda

jgnitj, se tjnt tjg `jhiargd el ahver`g èuia tjrhvg.

Qjg prhd`hpigs nda tg`jdhqugs lref tjnt sgfhdnr nrg ahsthiiga

hdte tjhs keec. Qjg hdlerfnthed nda navh`g yeu dgga te dnvhmntg

tjg è-pnrgdthdm pntj, nda ae ht wgii, hs jgrg, hd yeur jndas. Xeu

whii jgnr tjg èffgdts el è-pnrgdts nkeut tjghr ekstnìgs ndatjghr gllerts te lhda seiutheds. Xeu whii jgnr lref nauit `jhiargd el

ahver`g nkeut wjnt tjghr pnrgdts aha rhmjt nda wjnt tjgy whsj

tjghr pnrgdts jna aedg ahllgrgdtiy. Xeu whii nise jgnr lref yeudm

`jhiargd urrgdtiy kghdm rnhsga kgtwggd twe jefgs nda yeu whii

ignrd lref tjghr jurts nda tjghr jnpphdgss.

Lrhgdas, whtj strgdmtj nda whtj n leùs ed yeur `jhiargds

jgnrt, yeu `ndkgèfg nd nfnzhdm è-pnrgdthdm tgnf whtj yeurlerfgr speusg hdìuahdm wjgd stgppnrgdts èfg hdte tjg ph`turg.

H cdew tjnt yeu ievg yeur `jhiargd, er yeu weuiadt jnvg ph`cga

up tjhs keec. Igt tjnt ievg fethvntg yeu te ae wjntgvgr ht tncgs te

ln`hihtntg n jgnitjy `jhiajeea ler yeur `jhiargd. Agtgrfhdg te leùs

luiiy ed wjnt hs kgst ler yeur `jhiargds luturg. Kg tjg edg wje

ignas tjg wny whtj quhgt strgdmtj tjnt hs ferg èd`grdga nkeut

yeur `jhiargds jgnrt nda yeur `jhiargds luturg tjnd nkeut wje hste kinfg ler tjg pnst.

Xeur `jhiargd wgrg mhvgd te yeu ed purpesg! Eut el tjg fhi-

iheds el pnrgdts ed tjg pindgt, Mea mnvg tjgf te yeu. Nda wjgd jg

aha, jg prgsgdtga yeu whtj nd nfnzhdm oek. Xeur hdliugd`g ed yeur

`jhiargd dew hs lerfhdm n lnfhiy igmn`y tjnt whii ihvg ed iedm nltgr

yeu nrg medg. ]jnt whii yeur chas sny ns tjgy rglig`t ed tjghr`jhia-

jeea5 ]hii tjgy rgfgfkgr sfhigs nda jhmj lhvgs nt tjghr ntjigth`gvgdts er udspecgd jesthihty nda eia wnrs5 ]hii tjgy rgfgfkgr

agstru`thvg ndmgr er tjnt yeu `jesg pgn`g5 ]hii tjgy rgfgfkgr

n jnppy meea-kyg nt tjghr jndaell thfg te tjg etjgr pnrgdt, er whii

tjgy rgfgfkgr tgnrs, hdsgùrhty, nda snadgss5


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Lhdahdm Xeur Jgnrt hd Ievg nda ]nr >7

Qjg ndswgrs te tjesg qugstheds ihg hd tjg `jeh`gs tjnt yeu fncg

nda hd tjg wny yeu nda yeur gx èdau`t yeursgivgs ns è-pnrgdts.

Xeur nkhihty te è-pnrgdt wgii hs tjgfest `rhth`ni nspg`t el ihlg

nltgr ahver`g ler yeur `jhiargd. Ht hs tjg leudanthed te nii el tjgagtnhis ihvga eut hd yeur gvgryany ihvgs. Jnvhdm ihvga ht ler sgvgrni

ygnrs dew, H cdew lhrstjnda tjnt e-pnrgdthdm hs det gnsy3 kut H nise

cdew tjnt ht hs wertj gvgry eud`g el gllert kg`nusg ht hs tjreumj

tjnt gllert tjnt eur `jhiargd `nd jnvg tjg jgnitjhgst leudanthed ed

wjh`j te kuhia tjghr luturgs.


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>=

@JNRQG[ >

Mgtthdm Ptnrtgahd @e-Rnrgdthdm

Qjeumj yeu jnvg fnag fg sgg treukigs,

fndy nda khttgr, yeu whii rgsterg fy ihlg nmnhd3

lref tjg agptjs el tjg gnrtj yeu whii nmnhd krhdm fg up.

Xeu whii hd`rgnsg fy jeder nda èflert fg ed`g nmnhd.

RPNIF =>?;2 ;>

]ggphdm fny rgfnhd ler n dhmjt,

kut rgoeh`hdm èfgs hd tjg ferdhdm.

RPNIF 02?7

Hsnt nt fy cht`jgd tnkig, `ryhdm. H stnrga tjreumj fy tgnrs nt tjg

kiurry dghmjkerjeea eutshag. Mea, ae yeu gvgd sgg fg shtthdm

jgrg rhmjt dew5 H prnyga. Ae yeu sgg fy tgnrs5 Ae yeu cdew

jew fu`j Hf jurthdm5 Ae yeu sgdsg jew tgrrhlhga H nf nkeut tjg

luturg5 Hf n shdmig pnrgdt dew! Jew `nd H rnhsg n `jhia niedg5

Jew whii H pny tjg khiis5 ]jgrg whii H ihvg5 Jew whii H gvgr ln`g

tjg ouamfgdt el tjg pgepig nreuda fg, pgepig H ievg, wje ouamg uskg`nusg wgrg mgtthdm ahver`ga5 H cdewyeu jntg ahver`g. H cdewyeu jntg wjnt ht aegs te yeur `jhiargd. H cdew yeu jntg wjnt ht

whii ae te fy `jhia . . .

H whpga fy gygs whtj n thssug. Qjg agtnhis el fy ihlg ed tjnt

ferdhdm sggfga ihcg n cdettga, tndmiga fgss tjnt H èuiadt

udrnvgi, èuiadt fncg sgdsg el.

H kgmhd tjhs stery jgrg, nt tjhs fgfery el n pin`g el pnhd hd fyihlg, kg`nusg nitjeumj H jnvg oeurdgyga ygnrs kgyeda tjesg evgr-

wjgifhdm fefgdts nda tjg jnudthdm qugstheds, H whii dgvgrlermgttjgf. H whii dgvgr lermgt jew H lgit aurhdm tjesg anrc anys? ns hl

H wgrg hd n tjh`c lem. H jna de hagn wjnt wns ed tjg etjgr shag el


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>: @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!

tjnt lem, er gvgd wjgd H weuia mgt tjreumj ht. Fy pnst wns n sgn el

rgmrgts, nda H wns èfpigtgiy ahshiiushedga nkeut tjg luturg.

Fy gfetheds nltgr tjg ahver`g wgrg hdtgdsg nda pnhdlui jnra

ler gvgd fg te udagrstnda, nda gvgd jnragr te ags`rhkg te fylrhgdas. Qjghr weras el gdèurnmgfgdt sefgthfgs sggfga te kg

jnil ouamfgdt nda èdagfdnthed, ns hl tjgy èuiadt spgnc te fg

whtjeut lhrst fnchdm ignr wjgrg tjgy steea ed tjg hssug el ahver`g.

Qjghr udnscga qugstheds nkeut wjy nda wje wns te kinfg fnag

gvgry èdvgrsnthed nwcwnra nda udèflertnkig.

H tjeumjt ht eaa nt tjg thfg tjnt tjgy lgit tjg dgga te gxprgss

tjghr ferni ekog`thed te ahver`g. Aha tjgy rgniiy tjhdc ndyedg wns

ferg udèflertnkig whtj tjg hagn el ahver`g

tjnd H wns nt tjnt thfg5 H wns gxpgrhgd`hdm

lhrstjnda tjg pnhd ahver`g `nusga! ]nt`jhdm

fy fnrrhnmg agtgrherntg nda `rufkig wns det

wjnt H argnfga nkeut ns n `jhia. Hf surg dedg

el us mrgw up hfnmhdhdm wg weuia lhda eurprhd`gss er prhd`g `jnrfhdm, mgt fnrrhga (hd n

`nstig), jnvg knkhgs nda tjgd gda up ahver`ga.

Qjnts det tjg jnpphiy gvgr nltgr wg hfnmhdga. Eur wgaahdm any

whtj rh`g nda liewgrs nda chssgs wnsdt suppesga te igna te n wnr

tjnt rgsuitga hd yeur `jhiargd mrewhdm up hd twe sgpnrntg jeusgs,

er hd ediy edg whtj ndetjgr pnrgdt tjgy dgvgr sgg.

Det nii el us aewd tjg pntj el ahver`g jnvg èfg te tjg tjrgsj-eia el è-pnrgdthdm. Qe fndy rgnagrs, tjhs ph`turg el tjg dgwiy

ahver`ga, mrhgvhdm fetjgr fny sggf kgshag tjg pehdt. Rgrjnps

yeuvg dgvgr kggd fnrrhga, nda nrg ieechdm ler wnys te cggp yeur

`jhiargds etjgr kheiemh`ni pnrgdt hdveivga hd tjghr ihlg. Rgrjnps yeu

iest n speusg er pnrtdgr te hiidgss er wnr er nd n``hagdt, nda yeurg

ieechdm ler muhand`g hd fndnmhdm etjgr rginthvgs, pgrjnps mrnda-

pnrgdts, wje wndt te kg hdveivga hd yeur `jhiargds ihvgs. Hd ndyel tjgsg `nsgs, eur `hrùfstnd`gs nrg shfhinr? yeurg dew n shdmig

pnrgdt, nda ndetjgr `nrgmhvgr er pnrgdt jns n prgsgd`g hd yeur

`jhiargds ihlg3 yeurg ieechdm ler wnys te ln`hihtntg tjnt prgsgd`g hd

n wny tjnts lnhr nda jgiplui ler nii pnrthgs.

Pu``gss hsdt

fgnsurga ky

tjg tjhdms yeu

n`jhgvg, kut ky

tjg ekstnìgs

yeu evgrèfg.GQJND JN]CG


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Mgtthdm Ptnrtga hd @e-Rnrgdthdm >8

Qjnts wjnt wg jepg te muhag hd tjhs keec. Det se fu`j ler

yeur sncg, nitjeumj hd tjg gda yeuii lhda pnrgdthdm te kg kgttgr

whtj n èffhttga è-pnrgdt. Nda det se fu`j ler yeur è-pnrgdts

sncg, nitjeumj, hd tjg gda, jg er sjg whii kg mina te kg hdveivga hdrnhshdm nda ievhdm tjnt prg`heus `jhia. ]g ae nii el tjhs ler tjg sncg

el tjg jhiargd wg ievg. Cggp tjnt hd fhda3 wjgd tjhdms mgts teumj,

ns ht whii nt thfgs, yeuii rgfgfkgr wjy hts wertj ht.

]jntgvgr `hrùfstnd`gs sgt yeu ed tjhs èursg gspg`hniiy hl

yeurg oust kgmhddhdm nda yeur jgnrt hs jurthdm se knaiy tjnt tjg

wera jgnrtn`jg fncgs sgdsg te yeu ler tjg lhrst thfg hd tjhs keecyeu jnvg leuda n pin`g el mrn`g. De edg hs ouamhdm yeu jgrg, nda

yeu sjnrg tjhs gxpgrhgd`g whtj fndy etjgrs. ]gièfg.

Edg Jgnrt, Qwe Jefgs

Kglerg yeur ahver`g, gvgd tjeumj edg pnrgdt fny jnvg nssufga

fest `jhia-rgnrhdm authgs, yeur `jhiargd rgihga ed ketj el yeu tekrhdm stnkhihty nda sgùrhty te tjghr weria. Qjg tjhdms nkeut yeur

speusg, dew gx-speusg, tjnt arevg yeu `rnzy wgrg det iest ed yeur

chas ghtjgr, kut chas jnvg n wedagrlui nda hffgahntg lermhvg-

dgss rgspedsg. Nda tjgy jnvg tjnt rgspedsg kg`nusg tjgy sgdsga

nd hfpertndt nda `ru`hni trutj? tjgy dgga ketj el yeu. H jnvg

nifest dgvgr jgnra el yeudm `jhiargd wje wndtga tjghr pnrgdts

te ahver`g. Ler tjg vnst fnoerhty el `jhiargd, tjghr pnrgdts ahver`gwns tjnt udtjhdcnkig ahsnstgr tjnt weuia krhdm tjghr wjeig weria

`rnsjhdm hdte hdùrnkig ahsnstgr. Ht wns tjg fedstgr udagr tjg kga.

Ns n rgsuit, chas el ahver`g `ndt hfnmhdg n weria hd wjh`j ketj

pnrgdts wedt èdthdug te ievg tjgf nda kg hdveivga hd tjghr ihvgs.

Qjnt weuia kg tjg rgnihznthed el tjghr werst lgnrs.

@jhiargd el ahver`g jnvg edg jgnrt, kut tjgy ihvg hd twe jefgs.

]jnt è-pnrgdts ae te pretg`t tjghr `jhiargds jgnrts hs tjg cgy tend gdoeynkig `jhiajeea nda jgnitjy upkrhdmhdm ler tjgf gvgd

wjgd tjgy jnvg twe lnfhihgs, twe kgareefs, nda twe vgry ahl-

lgrgdt ihvgs. @rgnthdm n è-pnrgdthdm tgnf whtj yeur gx, werchdm

temgtjgr ler tjg sncg el yeur `jhiargd, whii rgnp rgwnras ler yeur


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;2 @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!

`jhiargd tjnt nrg lnr ferg vniunkig tjnd ndytjhdm tndmhkig yeu

èuia mhvg tjgf.

Hts det nkeut yeu3 hts nkeut yeur chas.

Hts det nkeut tjg pnst3 hts nkeut yeur chas luturg.Ler tjghr iedm-tgrf wgii-kghdm, yeur chas dgga yeu te tncg tjg

sefgthfgs ahllhùit stgp el `rgnthdm n è-pnrgdthdm tgnf whtj yeur

gx. [hmjt dew yeu fny jnvg sgrheus aeukts tjnt su`j n tjhdm euia

gvgr kg3 nda gvgd hl tjg twe el yeu nmrgga te ae ht, yeu jnvg aeukts

nkeut jew wgii ht weuia werc. Qjnts wjnt wgii kg ahsùsshdm hd

tjg rgst el tjhs keec. Hii try te ndth`hpntg nda agni whtj gn`j qugs-

thed nda aeukt yeu jnvg wjh`j nrg preknkiy tjg snfg edgs tjg

pnrth`hpndts hd fy sgfhdnrs rnhsg evgr nda evgr nmnhd.

Qjg Gda Nauit Fnttgrs Fest

Hl Hf yeur è-pnrgdthdm èn`j, tjgd ihcg ndy meea èn`j H wndt te

mhvg yeu nd evgrvhgw el wjgrg wgrg mehdm nda wjnt eur menis nrg.Gvgd hl nii yeu ae hs oust rgna tjreumj tjhs keec, yeuii sthii ph`c

up sefg jgiplui tncgnwnys. Ky nise ahmgsthdm nda hfpigfgdthdm

tjgsg hagns, yeu `nd rnah`niiy `jndmg yeur ihlg nda tjg ihvgs el yeur

`jhiargd, dew nda lnr hdte tjg luturg wjh`j fgnds yeuii nise kg

nllg`thdm tjg ihvgs el yeur udkerd mrnda`jhiargd. ûhtg n rgturd

ed yeur hdvgstfgdt el thfg nda gllert!

]jnt whii yeu n`èfpihsj5 ]htj shd`grg effhtfgdt te gx`gi-igdt è-pnrgdthdm, yeu whii kg nkig te?

@effudh`ntg whtj yeur è-pnrgdt `nifiy, whtj purpesg nda

ìnrhty.

Hdtgdthedniiy s`jgauig thfg whtj yeur è-pnrgdt te ahsùss hfper-

tndt hssugs rgintga te yeur jhia nda, ygs, gvgd lhda seiutheds.

Leùs ed tjg peshthvg nspg`ts el mhvhdm yeur `jhiargd tjg lrgg-aef te ievg ketj pnrgdts.

Nttgda niedm whtj yeur è-pnrgdt nda ndy stgppnrgdts

yeur `jhiargds s`jeei lud`theds, ntjigth` gvgdts, nda nii gxtrn-

ùrrhùinr gvgdts whtj pgn`g nda ndth`hpntga gdoeyfgdt.


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Mgtthdm Ptnrtga hd @e-Rnrgdthdm ;>

Ppgnc weras el ihlg nda jepg te yeur `jhiargd nkeut tjghr etjgr

pnrgdt.

@gigkrntg tjg ievg nda tjg thfg yeur `jhiargd sjnrg whtj tjghr

etjgr pnrgdt.

Gxgr`hsg gfethedni fnturhty wjgd sefgtjhdm jurtlui jnppgds.

@jeesg te ignvg sefg tjhdms udsnha ler tjg kgst hdtgrgst el yeur

`jhiargd.

@e-pnrgdt lerwnra fncg è-pnrgdthdm ag`hsheds teany tjnt whiinllg`t yeur jhiargd peshthvgiy lhvg ygnrs nda tgd ygnrs lref dew.

Kg n peshthvg lhrst lhitgr te nii eutshag hdliugd`gs te yeur `jhi-

argds ihvgs.

Rind njgna wjnt yeu whii ae wjgd yeur jhiargd nrg nwny aur-

hdm jeihanys te nveha iedgihdgss nda agprgsshed. @rgntg n lud

pind ler yeursgil.

@rgntg n suppert systgf te jgip yeu pre`gss ahllhùithgs whtj

yeur è-pnrgdt. Ndth`hpntg yeur `jhiargds fedufgdtni fefgdts hd ihlg nda `rg-

ntg n mnfg pind tjnt niiews nii lnfhiy fgfkgrs lref ketj shags

el yeur `jhiargds lnfhiy te pnrth`hpntg nfhnkiy nda gdoeynkiy.

Rrgpnrg ler yeur `jhiargds nauitjeea? mrnauntheds, wgaahdms,

nda luturg mrnda`jhiargd.

Wdagrstnda luiiy wjnt hs nt stncg tjg jgnrt el yeur `jhiargd

nda tjghrluturg.

Kgmhd whtj tjg gda hd fhda? ]jnt whii yeur `jhiargd sny twgdty

ygnrs lref dew5 ]jnt whii tjghr ihvgs kg ihcg, nda jew whii yeur

ag`hsheds teany nllg`t tjnt luturg5

@effht te n peshthvg è-pnrgdthdm QGNFF fgdtnihty kg`nusg, nstjg QGNFF n`redyf agdetgs? Qjg Gda Nauit Fnttgrs Fest!

Fgferhgs . . .

Kglerg wg ahvg hdte tjg rgst el tjg keec, H wndt yeu te wrhtg aewd

yeur tep `jhiajeea fgferhgs meea, kna, er etjgrwhsg. Aedt


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;; @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!

werry nkeut kghdm gxjnusthvg3 tjhs hsdt n tgst. De prgssurg. Oust

wrhtg aewd tjg lhrst fgferhgs tjnt efg te fhda. Nltgr nii, tjgrgs

n rgnsed tjgyrg tjg lhrst fgferhgs yeu tjhdc el. Ppgda n lgw fhd-

utgs te rglig`t, nda kg jedgst, gvgd hl sefg el tjgsg fgferhgs nrg

pnhdlui. Hl, hd ln`t, sefg el tjgf nrg se pnhdlui yeu aedt wndt te

èffht tjgf te wrhthdm jgrg, oust usg èag weras tjnt ediy yeu

weuia udagrstnda tjg any, er tjg pin`g, er sefg agtnhi tjnt yeu

èddg`t whtj tjg gvgdt.

]jy aha H nsc yeu te èfpigtg tjhs gxgr`hsg, gvgd tjeumj ht

fny, ler sefg el yeu, jnvg argamga up udpignsndt tjeumjts5 Qwe

rgnseds. Lhrst, udagrstndahdm yeur pnst nd strgdmtjgd yeur luturg.

Xeu fny jnvg sna fgferhgs el jurts hdl ih`tga uped yeu ky pgepigyeu ievg. Wdrgseivga hssugs fny sthii lhii yeu whtj ndmgr er snadgss.

Ed tjg etjgr jnda, fndy fgferhgs preknkiy fncg yeu sfhig,

gvgd inumj eut ieua. Xeu fny lggi prhag nda n sgdsg el n`èfpihsj-

fgdt te jnvg kggd pnrt el yeur lnfhiys igmn`y, n igmn`y tjnt sthii

ihvgs ed hdshag el yeu.

]jgd H ieec kn`c, sefg el fy kgst fgferhgs èddg`t fg te

fy mrndapnrgdts, ketj tjg Mniigmes nda Mrnsfh`c lnfhihgs. H nfmrntglui te kg nd gxtgdshed el tjesg hdahvhaunis n lud fhx el Mgr-

fnd nda Ppndhsj hdl iugd`gs, kgihgls, vniugs, nda lnfhiy trnahtheds.

H sthii mgt `jecga up nt tjg seuda el upkgnt Ppndhsj fush` ns H

rgfgfkgr tjg wgaahdms nda wgaahdm fnr`jgs el eur lnfhiy jgr-


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Mgtthdm Ptnrtga hd @e-Rnrgdthdm ;0

htnmg, nda jew H ievga te and`g n`ress tjg lieer whtj fy Mrndapn

Mniigmes. Qjgsg anys, wjgd H sfgii èllgg gnriy hd tjg ferdhdm, H

tjhdc el fy Mrnsfh`c mrndapnrgdts. Ns n `jhia, H weuia reii evgr

hd tjg ferdhdm nt lhrst nwncgdhdm, jgnrhdm tjg èllgg pgrèintg, ndacdew tjnt tjgy wgrg up nda wnhthdm ler fg. Jew H whsj H èuia

sthii wndagr, siggpy-gyga, te tjghr cht`jgd tnkig nda rgna tjg [e`cy

Lera dgwspnpgr nda pind ler tjg Pnturany ynra snigs.

Qjgsg fgferhgs ihdmgr, nda H nf se mrntglui ler tjgf. H kgihgvg

tjnt Mea cdgw, eut el tjg fhiiheds el pnrgdts

jg èuia jnvg mhvgd fg te, tjnt H wns te kgiedm

te tjgsg twe lnfhihgs, nda ler tjnt H tjndc jhf.

Qjhs krhdms us te fy sgèda rgnsed ler nsc-

hdm yeu te ihst yeur stredmgst fgferhgs? Xeur

`jhiargd nrg rhmjt dew, ns wg spgnc, lerfhdm tjg fgferhgs tjnt,

meea er kna, whii fncg up tjghr luturg ihst el stredmgst fgferhgs.

Nda tjgyvg nirgnay jna ketj chdas tjg meea edgs tjnt whii fncg

tjgf sfhig er inumj sefg luturg any, ns wgii ns tjg edgs tjnt whiikrhdm tgnrs te tjghr gygs.

Xeu `ndt pretg`t tjgf lref jnvhdm sefg sna er pnhdlui fgfe-

rhgs ihlg agnis tjesg eut te us wjgtjgr wg wndt tjgf er det. Kut

yeu `nd werc whtj yeur gx-speusg te cggp tjg dgmnthvg fgferhgs

te n fhdhfuf nda te hdtgdthedniiy `rgntg e``nsheds ler yeur `jhi-

argd tjnt whii lestgr jnppy fgferhgs, tjg chda tjgyii sefgany kg

ns mrntglui ler ns H nf el fy fgferhgs el fy Mniigmes nda Mrns-fh`c mrndapnrgdts.

Nii el tjhs hs whtjhd yeur pewgr yeurs, nda yeur è-pnrgdts.

Qjg Gxgr`hsgs

Xeuii lhda gxgr`hsgs ihcg tjg rgèudthdm el fgferhgs yeu oust aha

s`nttgrga tjreumj tjg keec det hd gvgry `jnptgr, kut eltgd. Pefgel yeu tgda te schp evgr gxgr`hsgs ihcg tjgsg wjgd yeu lhda tjgf

hd keecs. H gdèurnmg yeu te rgshst schpphdm tjg gxgr`hsgs. Qjgyrg

jgrg ler n rgnsed. Xeuii mgt fu`j ferg eut el tjg keec, H nssurg

yeu, hl yeu èfpigtg tjgsg gxgr`hsgs. Qncg tjg hdhthnthvg, nda tjg

Ht tncgs n wjeig

dnthed te rnhsgtjhs mgdgrnthed.

CH[C L[NDCIHD


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;1 @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!

fhdutg er twe ht whii tncg te ae tjg werc gn`j thfg. Xeuii hfprevg

yeur nkhihty te èpg whtj tjg `jniigdmhdm shtunthed yeu ln`g, nda

kg`nusg el tjnt, yeur chas nda yeur mrndachas whii kgdglht. Xeur

werc gdvhredfgdt whii kgdglht. Xeur ewd jgnrt nda seui whii kgd-glht. Hts edg tjhdm te schf tjreumj n keec ihcg tjhs, kut ht `nd

kgèfg sefgtjhdm gdthrgiy ahllgrgdt wjgd yeu effht te hdtgrdni-

hzhdm wjnt yeuvg ignrdga.

H jnvg kggd hd yeur sjegs. Hf sthiihd tjgf, shd`g H whii lergvgrkg n è-pnrgdt whtj fy anumjtgrs ana, nda H whii lergvgr jnvg

èfpigxhthgs te pre`gss gvgd twgdty ygnrs lref dew. H wndt yeu

te mgt stredm nda jgnitjy, nda H wndt yeu te nveha gvgry fhstncg

jufndiy pesshkig se tjnt yeur `jhiargd whii jnvg tjg vgry kgst

XEW nda tjg vgry kgst ihlg!

Qe gdsurg tjnt ae tjg werc. Lhii hd tjg kindcs.

Fggt tjg @nst

Qjreumjeut tjhs keec, Hii kg sjnrhdm sterhgs whtj yeu lref tjg

ihvgs el pgepig wjevg mrewd up hd jefgs spiht ky ahver`g sefg

lref jefgs hd wjh`j pnrgdts è-pnrgdtga whsgiy, nda sefg hd

wjh`j tjghr pnrgdts fnag de nttgfpt te è-pnrgdt èepgrnthvgiy

nt nii. ]gii nise jgnr lref pgepig gdmnmga, ns yeu nrg, hd tjg tnsc

el è-pnrgdthdm. Ns yeu èdshagr tjg èdsgqugd`gs el yeur ewd

`jeh`gs, hts jgiplui te jgnr jew shfhinr `jeh`gs jnvg nllg`tga tjgihvgs el etjgrs. Hvg `jndmga tjg dnfgs el tjesg pgepig, el èursg,

se tjgy ahadt jnvg te werry nkeut jew tjghr jedgst èffgdts

fhmjt jurt tjg lggihdms el tjghr ievga edgs. H wndt yeu te fggt tjg

`nst.

Oegyhs nd nauit `jhia el ahver`g. Jgs fnrrhga dew, whtj chas

jhfsgil, kut jg rgfgfkgrs tjg ygnrs nltgr jhs ewd pnrgdts ahver`g.

Jg wns twgivg wjgd ht jnppgdga, oust gdtgrhdm tjesg ahllhùit tggd-nmg ygnrs3 nda tjg pnhd el cdewhdm jg wns det mehdm te kg nkig

te mrew up whtj ketj el jhs pnrgdts nreuda jhf nii tjg thfg wns

pnrniyzhdm. Jhs mrnags ahppga fnrcgaiy tjnt lhrst ygnr nda stnyga

iew tjg dgxt. Nt lhrst, jg wns teia tjnt jga kg spgdahdm gvgry etjgr


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Mgtthdm Ptnrtga hd @e-Rnrgdthdm ;7

wggcgda whtj jhs ana, nda jg èdshagrga ht sefgtjhdm te ieec

lerwnra te3 kut tjesg wggcgdas rnrgiy fntgrhnihzga. Ht sggfga te

Oegy tjnt jhs fef nfg up whtj gvgry gxùsg hfnmhdnkig wjy Oegy

èuiadt me whtj jhs ana ed tjesg wggcgdas, nda Oegys jepgs tjntjhs ana weuia lhmjt ler jhf wgrg hd vnhd. Gvgdtuniiy Oegy snw jhs

ana ediy ed jeihanys nda ler n wggc er se hd tjg suffgr. Jg mrgw

up mrhgvhdm tjg iess el tjg rginthedsjhp whtj jhs lntjgr.

Qhdnspnrgdts ahver`ga wjgd sjg wns n knky, se sjg dgvgr

cdgw jgr pnrgdts ns n èupig, ediy ns tjg twe pgepig sjg ievga

fest. Pjg rgfgfkgrs tjnt tjreumjeut jgr `jhiajeea, tjgy sthii

nrmuga jgntgaiy. Nd ediy `jhia, sjg `rhga jgrsgil te siggp fndy

dhmjts. Qeany, sjgs hd jgr gnriy tjhrthgs nda jns dgvgr wndtga te

mgt fnrrhga. ]jy tncg tjg rhsc5 sjg snys. Pjg jns hdtgrdnihzga

nii tjg dgmnthvhty sjg jgnra lref jgr pnrgdts nkeut gn`j etjgr, nda

tjg gllg`ts el tjnt ed jgr ihlg nrg fndy. Ler hdstnd`g, sjg usuniiy

antgs fgd wje nrg gfethedniiy nkushvg er oust nksgdt, kg`nusg

sjg jns dgvgr sggd n jgnitjy gxnfpig el ievg. Pjg nise jns n jnrathfg lermhvhdm etjgrs ler ndy typg el ellgdsg, kg`nusg tjg ìesgst

gxnfpig sjg jna ler jndaihdm wredms wns jgr fef, wje stnyga

fna hdaglhdhtgiy nkeut gvgry wredm aedg te jgr. Qhdn trhgs te igt

me el jgr pnst, kut ht sggfs te ìhdm te jgr. Pjg hs truiy iedgiy kut

sjg argnas tjg hagn el fnrrhnmg kg`nusg jgr pnrgdts weuia ketj kg

hd tjg snfg reef. Qjnt jns dgvgr medg wgii.

Gvgd tjeumj Igsihgspnrgdts ahver`ga wjgd sjg wns lhvg, sjgjns vhvha fgferhgs el tjgf temgtjgr. Gvgry gdèudtgr wns n lhmjt

tjnt gdaga hd tgnrs. Jgr fef, niwnys `jnshdm n argnf, fevga

nifest gvgry ygnr. Jgr ana wns n wercnjeih` wjesg etjgr fnoer

prherhty wns arhdchdm. Igsihg wns whtj jhf gvgry etjgr wggcgda,

kut gfethedniiy jg dgvgr sggfga te èddg`t. Jgr fef rgfnrrhga

nda rg-ahver`ga tjrgg ferg thfgs. Jgr ana dgvgr rgfnrrhga, kut

niwnys jna n mhrilrhgda nreuda wjgd Igsihg wns whtj jhf. Igsihgrgfgfkgrs jgr anas mhrilrhgdas ns n rgveivhdm aeer sjg dgvgr

cdgw, wjgd sjg wgdt te jgr anas jeusg, wjgtjgr sjga fggt tjg

edg lref inst vhsht er n dgw edg. Igsihg dufkga eut ns n tggd. Ky

lhltggd, sjg wns arhdchdm nda jnvhdm sgx hd nd nttgfpt te lggi sefg


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Mgtthdm Ptnrtga hd @e-Rnrgdthdm ;=

`jur`j nda lnfhiy aurhdm jgr shdmig pnrgdtjeea, dgvgr rgfnrrhga

kut sjg rnhsga lhvg stredm, meaiy fgd wje nrg nii kghdm usga hd

@jrhsthnd sgrvh`g nreuda tjg miekg.

Nda aedt lermgt fy lnfhiy, wje fncg lrgqugdt nppgnrnd`gs edtjgsg pnmgs. Ndmgihn, fy anumjtgr, hs gigvgd ygnrs eia ns Hf wrht-

hdm tjhs. Jgr lntjgr nda H ahver`ga wjgd Ndmgihn wns twe. Nkeut

sgvgd ygnrs nme, jg rgfnrrhga, nda temgtjgr tjgyrg n kigdaga lnf-

hiy el shx, èudthdm Ndmgihn.

H wns n shdmig fef ler ghmjt ygnrs. Qjgd H fgt Ony, wje jna

iest jhs whlg hd n `nr n``hagdt leur-nda-n-jnil ygnrs nme. ]jgd wg

fnrrhga, H wns kigssga te jnvg tjg eppertudhty te ievg nda `nrg ler

tjrgg ferg `jhiargd? Nfndan,Ogddn, ndaOnred. ]g, tee, nrg n

kigdaga lnfhiy el shx.

]jgrg Nrg ]g Mehdm5

]jgrg ae wg me dgxt5 ]jgrg hs tjhs keec tnchdm us5Qjg dgxt `jnptgr kgmhds Rnrt >? Kgèfhdm n Ptnkig nda Gllg`-

thvg @e-Rnrgdt. Qjg `jnptgrs hd tjnt sg`thed ndniyzg jew ht `nfg

te tjhs tjg rena tjnt jns iga yeu te è-pnrgdthdm, nda wjnt stgps

yeu sjeuia tncg te gdsurg yeur ewd psy`jeiemh`ni jgnitj ler agni-

hdm whtj tjg sefgthfgs jniigdmhdm tnsc el e-pnrgdthdm. ]gii tnic

nkeut tjg suppert tgnf yeu nirgnay jnvg, pgrjnps whtjeut rgnihz-

hdm ht, nda tjg naahthedni suppert yeu `nd gdihst. Nda wgii èdshagrjew te pursug yeur ewd stnkhihty se tjnt yeurg det nppren`jhdm

è-pnrgdthdm whtj nd gfpty tndc, kut rntjgr lref n peshthed el

strgdmtj.

Rnrt ; rgfhdas yeu tjnt Hts Det Nkeut Xeu Hts Nkeut tjg

Chas. ]gii ieec nt tjg gllg`ts el ahver`g ed `jhiargd. Pefg el

tjgf fny surprhsg yeu. ]gii nise ieec nt tjg aydnfh`s el tjg

pest-ahver`g weria ler chas, nda nt tjghr agspgrntg dgga te kg nkigte ievg, nda spgda thfg whtj, ketj el tjghr pnrgdts.

Qjgd èfgs wjnt ler fndy el yeu whii kg tjg jnra pnrt? Rnrt

0, @rgnthdm n @e-Rnrgdthdm Qgnf. ]gii ieec nt sgvgrni ahllgrgdt

feagis ler è-pnrgdthdm sefg el tjgf gllg`thvg, sefg det. ]gii


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;: @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs!

tnic nkeut jew te kren`j tjg sukog`t whtj yeur gx, nda nkeut tjg

hfpertnd`g el e-pnrgdthdm fggthdms te ahsùss hssugs whtj tjg chas

hdìuahdm jew te èdau`t tjg fggthdms nda wjnt te èvgr. ]gii

nise ieec nt tjg teumj hssug el rgnthdm èdshstgdt stndanras ed su`jtjhdms ns ahs`hpihdg hd ketj jefgs, nda jew te jndaig tjg gvgdtuni

hdìushed el stgppnrgdts ed tjnt tgnf.

]jnt jnppgds wjgd yeur gx hs udèepgrnthvg, er etjgr lnf-

hiy fgfkgrs nrg `rgnthdm prekigfs, er etjgr èfpih`ntheds nrhsg5

Gvgry è-pnrgdthdm tgnf ln`gs ekstnìgs, nda tjgyrg tjg sukog`t

el Rnrt 1. Fest el tjesg ekstnìgs nrg surfeudtnkig. ]jnt jnp-

pgds wjgd tjgyrg det wjgd yeur gx nkseiutgiy rglusgs te oehd n

è-pnrgdthdm gllert, rglusgs te rglrnhd lref snyhdm tjhdms er tnchdm

n`theds tjnt jurt tjg chas, er shfpiy ahsnppgnrs5 ]g èvgr tjesg

èd`grds hd Rnrt 7.

Gvgdtuniiy, edg er ketj fgfkgrs el yeur è-pnrgdthdm tgnf

whii fevg ed kgmhd anthdm nmnhd, nda pgrjnps rgfnrry. Qjnts

Rnrt 5


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RN[Q EDG

Kg`efhdm

n Ptnkig nda Gllg`thvg

@e-Rnrgdt


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02

@JNRQG[ ;

Jew ed GnrtjAha Ht @efg te Qjhs5

N phedggr ky hrùfstnd`gs, det ky `jeh`g . . .

OEJD Q[GDQ, Rh`turgs Xeur Jgnrt [gfgfkgrs

Ptgvgs stery hs typh`ni el fndy el us? H mrgw up hd n stnkig

@jrhsthnd jefg. Fy pnrgdts nrg sthii fnrrhga, hd ln`t. ]g

nttgdaga `jur`j rgmuinriy, nda gvgrytjhdm H jgnra, ketj nt jefg

nda nt `jur`j, teia fg tjnt fnrrhnmg wns thii agntj ae yeu pnrt.

Fy krhag nda H, wjgd H fnrrhga, jna dgvgr rgniiy cdewd ndy

èupigs wje jna sgrheus fnrhtni ahllhùithgs er wje ahadt jhagtjgf wgii. Pe hfnmhdg eur surprhsg nda sgdsg el muhit wjgd eur

lhrst ygnr el fnrrhnmg wns lhiiga whtj tgdshed nda ndmgr nda udpre-

au`thvg, lruhtigss nrmufgdt. ]g wedagrga wjnt wns wredm whtj

us, tjnt wg sjeuia jnvg su`j prekigfs wjgd, ns lnr ns wg cdgw,

de edg gisg aha.

]g survhvga tjnt ygnr. Kut tjg fnrrhnmg wns dgvgr rgniiy

jnppy, nda tgdshed wns dgvgr lnr kgiew tjg surln`g. Nltgr tgd ygnrsnda twe chas, fy whlg lhiga ler ahver`g.

H wnsdt surg Ha gvgr fnrry nmnhd3 kut n èupig el ygnrs intgr,

H fgt n swggt wefnd H tjeumjt H èuia trust nda fnrrhga n sgèda

thfg. Nii el eur lhvg efkhdga chas teec pnrt hd tjg grgfedy whtj

us.

Qe fy nfnzgfgdt, tjg lhrst ygnr el tjhs fnrrhnmg wnsdt ndy

gnshgr tjnd tjg lhrst ygnr el tjg lhrst fnrrhnmg jna kggd. ]g wgrgketj eiagr, whsgr, nda H tjeumjt ferg rgnsednkig tjnd hd fy lhrst

fnrrhnmg se wjy wnsdt ht werchdm kgttgr5 ]ns ht oust fg5 ]ns

tjgrg sefgtjhdm nkeut fg tjnt fnag whvgs agspgrntgiy udjnppy5


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Jew ed Gnrtj Aha Ht @efg te Qjhs5 0>

]jnt n sgdsg el lnhiurg nda muhit nda lrustrnthed H lgit sgvgrni

ygnrs intgr wjgd fy sgèda whlg, ihcg tjg lhrst, lhiga ler ahver`g.

Qjg anumjtgr tjg twe el us jna kreumjt hdte tjg weria, ihcg tjg

chas lref fy lhrst fnrrhnmg, wns dew lntga te mrew up tjg `jhiael ahver`g. Nii Ha gvgr wndtga wns te kg tjg lntjgr nda jusknda

hd n stnkig nda ievhdm jefg tjnt jederga Mea nda ihvga sgiligssiy

ler gn`j etjgr nda ler jhf. Hdstgna, H wns dew twh`g-ahver`ga whtj

chas ihvhdm udgnshiy kgtwggd twe jefgs.

Jew ed gnrtj jna ht èfg te tjhs5

@nd yeu rgintg5

Gvgd tjeumj Ptgvgs stery fny kg sefgwjnt ahllgrgdt lref

yeur ewd, yeu `nd udaeuktgaiy rgintg te jhs sgdsg el muhit nda

lnhiurg. Ptgvg, ihcg fndy el us, cdgw tjg stnthsth`s nkeut `jhiargd

el ahver`g jew fu`j ferg ihcgiy tjgy wgrg, ler hdstnd`g, te ae

peeriy hd s`jeei nda te gdmnmg hd nt-rhsc kgjnvher, nda jew fu`j

igss ihcgiy tjgy wgrg te fncg n su``gss el tjghr ewd fnrrhnmgs.

Jg werrhga wjnt nii el tjhs fgndt ler jhs `jhiargd nda wjgd jhstggdnmga anumjtgr rnd hdte sukstnd`g nkusg hssugs, jg wns surg tjg

prgah`theds hfpihga hd tjg stnthsth`s wgrg prevhdm trug.

Qjg dgmnthvg stnthsth`s hdveivhdm tjg `jhiargd el ahver`g nrgdt

prgah`theds. Det ky ndy fgnds. Qjgyrg shfpiy tjg fgnsurgfgdt el

jew peeriy fndy det nii! pnrgdts jnvg rgspedaga te tjg dggas

el `jhiargd el ahver`g. Xeu jnvg ht whtjhd yeur pewgr te turd tjnt

shtunthed èfpigtgiy nreuda tjreumj whsg pnrgdthdm nda ky ahih-mgdtiy èiinkernthdm whtj yeur ewd gx-speusg hd tjg edg gdtgrprhsg

tjg twe el yeu fny kg nkig te nmrgg ed? tjg whsg nda nrhdm pnrgdt-

hdm el yeur ewd `jhiargd, tjg `jhiargd yeu ketj ievg.

Kut lhrst wg dgga te udagrstnda wjnts jnppgdhdm. Fest el yeu

ph`cga up tjhs keec kg`nusg yeurg n ahver`ga pnrgdt. Hts `ru`hni,

tjgd, tjnt wg udagrstnda sefg el tjg aydnfh`s el ahver`g.

Qjhs hs det n keec ed ahver`g rgèvgry, nitjeumj H summgst yeulhda tjnt tee. Qjhs hs n keec ed è-pnrgdthdm `jhiargd. Pe igts ieec

nt sefg el tjg aydnfh`s el ahver`g tjnt nllg`t yeur nkhihty te pnrgdt

yeur ewd chas.


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0; Kgèfhdm n Ptnkig nda Gllg`thvg @e-Rnrgdt

Qjg Rest-Ahver`g Qhfgihdg

Rsy`jeiemhst nda rgsgnr`jgr hdte hssugs el ahver`g Fnvhs Jgtjgr-

hdmted el tjg Wdhvgrshty el \hrmhdhn jns leuda, hd jgr phedggrhdmrgsgnr`j hdte tjg ihvgs el evgr >,122 lnfhihgs, tjnt tjg lhrst ygnr

nltgr ahver`g hs tjg jnragst naoustfgdt pgrhea. Hd ln`t, tjg strgss

nda ahllhùity hd naoustfgdt hs nt hts pgnc nt tjg gda el ygnr edg.>

Ed nvgrnmg, tjg gda el tjg lhrst twgivg fedtjs nltgr n ahver`g jhts

rhmjt nt tjg pgnc el tjg kgii ùrvg hts jhmjgst pehdt el pnhd nda

ahllhùity. Qjnts wjgd fest ahver`ga pgepig lhda tjg mehdm tjg

jnragst gfethedniiy, l hdnd`hniiy, nda oust hd tjg evgrnii sgdsg tjntyeur ihlg hs eut el syd`.

Qjndcluiiy, Jgtjgrhdmted nise èdìuags tjnt ky tjg gda el

ygnr twe, fest pnrgdts nrg kn`c te n pin`g el lud`thedni stnkhihty

nda aehdm ns wgii ns tjgy wgrg kglerg tjg ahver`g. Hl yeur gxpgrh-

gd`g hs ihcg tjnt el fest pgepig, yeu `nd prgah`t nda pind ed tjg

lhrst ygnr kghdm jnra, kut hts rgnsednkig te jepg tjnt ky tjg gda elygnr twe, yeuii kg fu`j ferg naoustga.

Qjg pnhd nda ndmst nda ahllhùity yeu lggi aurhdm ygnr edg

wedt jnvg tjg snfg hdtgdshty tjreumjeut, ghtjgr, nda yeur nkhihty

te naoust whii hd`rgnsg. Pthii, hts derfni nda prgah`tnkig te lggi evgr-

2 2.7 > >.7 ; ;.7 0

NfeudtelRnhd,

Ndxhgty,nda

Mrhgl

Rest-Ahver`g Naoustfgdt

Xgnrs


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Jew ed Gnrtj Aha Ht @efg te Qjhs5 00

wjgifga, ndmry, nda gvgd jepgigss nt thfgs aurhdm tjg lhrst ygnr.

Aedt kgnt yeursgil up ler yeur dgmnthvg lggihdms3 tjgyrg derfni.

Ahm hd nda ln`g tjgf. Ieec tjgf hd tjg gyg nda agtgrfhdg tjnt

tjgy whii det kgnt yeu. ]jgd yeu rgnihzg tjhs ahllhùit thfg wedtinst lergvgr, tjnt yeur ihlg whii mgt kgttgr sefgany, yeu nd jndm ed.

@jniigdmgs whii èfg, kut yeu wedt kg aglgntga.

Qjg `jhiargd tjnt Mea jns kigssga yeu whtj nrg wertj gvgry

gllert tjnt n thrga pnrgdt puts hdte ievhdm nda supperthdm tjgf

aurhdm tjhs teumj thfg tjg chssgs nt kgathfg nda tjg jums kglerg

s`jeei, tjg sfhigs nt ntjigth` gvgdts nda tjg gxtrn arhvhdm ler tjg

fush igsseds nrg nii pnrt el stnyhdm stredm ler tjg `jhiargd.

Oust stnrthdm yeur pest-ahver`g oeurdgy5 Fnrc yeur `nigdanr ler

edg ygnr lref tjg stnrt el yeur ahver`g, edg se yeu `nd ndth`hpntg

ahllhùity, nda tjgd ler twe, te rgfhda yeursgil ht wedt niwnys jurt

tjg wny ht aegs teany. Xeuii mgt evgr tjg jufp el tjg ùrvg, nda

lref tjnt pehdt ed, yeuii cggp mnhdhdm gfethedni stnkhihty.

Pgil @nrg

Qncgd ndy lihmjts ed èffgr`hni nhrihdgs intgiy5 Hvg tncgd se

fndy evgr tjg ygnrs tjnt, ihcg fndy trnvgigrs, H de iedmgr ihstgd

te tjg snlgty hdstru`theds tjg lihmjt nttgdandts mhvg ns yeu wnht ed

tjg rudwny ler tncgell. H `nd prn`th`niiy quetg tjg sphgi wera ler

wera? Hd tjg udihcgiy gvgdt el n iess hd `nkhd prgssurg, exymgdfnscs whii ags`gda lref tjg èdseig nkevg yeu. Rin`g edg lhrfiy

evgr yeur desg nda feutj. Hl yeu nrg trnvgihdm whtj nd hdlndt er

sfnii `jhia, put ed yeur ewd exymgd fnsc lhrst kglerg pin`hdm edg

ed yeur `jhia.

]jnt5 Qncg `nrg el yeur ewd snlgty lhrst kglerg tnchdm `nrg elyeur `jhia5 Ht megs nmnhdst tjg mrnhd ler dgnriy gvgry pnrgdt! Kut

edg aegsdt jnvg te tjhdc nkeut ht vgry iedm te udagrstnda wjy.Hl yeu stnrt te put tjg fnsc ed yeur `jhia lhrst, nda tjgd pnss eut

lref in`c el exymgd kg`nusg yeu nrgdt wgnrhdm n fnsc yeursgil,

yeu èuia ketj ahg. Kut hl yeu put yeur ewd fnsc ed lhrst, yeu

wedt pnss eut, nda yeuii kg nkig te pin`g tjg fnsc ed yeur `jhia


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01 Kgèfhdm n Ptnkig nda Gllg`thvg @e-Rnrgdt

su``gssluiiy. Xeuii ketj ihvg kut ediy kg`nusg yeu fnag surg

yeur ewd dggas wgrg tncgd `nrg el se tjnt yeua kg stredm nda

nkig te tncg `nrg el yeur `jhia.

[gèvgry lref ahver`g hs sefgtjhdm ihcg tjnt. Xeurg pnhdluiiyèds`heus el yeur `jhiargds dggas, nda yeu agspgrntgiy wndt te

lhx tjgf3 kut aedt hmderg yeur ewd dgga ler jgnihdm nda ler jgip.

Hl yeu aedt tncg `nrg el yeursgil hd tjhs teumj, vuidgrnkig pgrhea,

yeu fny det kg hd ndy sjnpg te tncg `nrg el yeur `jhiargds dggas.

N mrgnt rgseur`g te jgip yeu nssgss nda fggt tjesg dggas el

yeur ewd, nda edg tjnt wns ihlg-mhvhdm ler fg wjgd H wns mehdm

tjreumj fy ahver`g, hs Ahver`g@nrg. H wns nwnrg el ht kglerg fy

ahver`g ediy kg`nusg H jna sggd tjg shmds navgrthshdm tjg fggthdms,

kut H ahadt cdew fu`j nkeut ht. Ahver`g@nrg hs n sgrhgs el wggciy

ìnssgs tjhrtggd wggcs wertj muhahdm ahver`ga pgepig tjreumj

tjg pre`gss el ahver`g rgèvgry nda prevhahdm gdèurnmgfgdt nda

`nfnrnagrhg nt n thfg wjgd pgepig agspgrntgiy dgga ht.

H jnvg te inumj nt fysgil. H wns tee gfknrrnssga te nttgda tjgìnss nt fy `jur`j wjgrg gvgryedg cdgw fg, se H wgdt te tjg

Ahver`g@nrg wgkshtg (www.ahver`g`nrg.èf/lhdanmreup) nda put

hd fy zhp èag. Nt ignst n aezgd etjgr pin`gs hd tjg nrgn wgrg ellgr-

hdm tjg ìnss. H `niiga n èupig udthi H leuda tjg rhmjt lht ler fg n

ìnss tjnt fgt edg dhmjt n wggc.

Hd tjesg ìnssgs, hd tjnt mreup, H leuda tjg strgdmtj te cggp

mehdm. Gvgd tjeumj Hf nd gxtrevgrt (ed stgrehas), H `ndt sny tjntH wns gx`htga te wnic hdte tjnt reef tjg lhrst any hd ln`t H wns

dgrveus. Kut H su`cga ht up nda wgdt hd. Nltgr tjnt, ht wns vgry

gnsy te me kn`c wggc nltgr wggc. ]jnt H leuda hd tjnt ìnss wgrg

etjgr pgepig oust ihcg fg, pgepig wje wgrg rgèvgrhdm lref nd

udpignsndt, eltgd udwndtga ahver`g. Nitjeumj wg nii jna ahllgr-

gdt ihlg sterhgs, wg jna n èffed `nusg. ]g wgrg jurthdm nda wg

wndtga te jgni. ]g wgrg krecgd kut wg wndtga te kg rgsterga. ]gjna qugstheds, fndy sthii udndswgrga, kut wg leuda jepg hd tjg

oeurdgy temgtjgr.

Gvgd hl yeuvg nirgnay kggd ahver`ga ler ygnrs, H rgèffgda

tjnt yeu lhda n Ahver`g@nrg ìnss er etjgr ahver`g rgèvgry pre-


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Jew ed Gnrtj Aha Ht @efg te Qjhs5 07

mrnf hd yeur èffudhty nda shmd up. Xeuii lhda suppert ns yeu

dnvhmntg tjg treukihdm wntgrs el iest rginthedsjhp. Hl yeurg oust

rg`gdtiy sgpnrntga nda tjhdc yeu `ndt naa edg ferg tjhdm te yeur

pintg, lhda sefgtjhdm yeu `nd tncg ellyeur pintg ler tjg dgxt lgwwggcs nda naa tjhs hdstgna.

H ignrdga, hd Ahver`g@nrg, tjnt fy grrnth` gfetheds nda lgnrs

wgrg derfni. H ignrdga tjnt fy lggihdms el kghdm gxjnustga nda

evgrwjgifga wgrg te kg gxpg`tga. H ignrdga tjnt ht wns jgnitjy

te mgt ndmry nda tjgd te pre`gss tjnt ndmgr. H ignrdga tjnt H wns

nirgnay fnchdm derfni premrgss tjreumj fy mrhgl nda iedgihdgss. H

wns mhvgd teeis te jgip muhag fy tjhdchdm nkeut anthdm nda sgxuni-

hty nltgr ahver`g. H wns nkig te ignrd lref etjgr pgepigs fhstncgs,

igssgdhdm tjg ihcgihjeea tjnt H weuia fncg tjesg snfg fhstncgs

fysgil. Kg`nusg H wns whtj n mreup el vuidgrnkig pgepig wje wgrg

hd tjg snfg kent H wns hd, H èuia igt fy munra aewd nda det try

te jhag fy ahstrgss, fy iedgihdgss, fy ndxhgty nda ht wns ecny. H

wns ecny! Gvgd tjeumj H fhmjt det sgg gvhagd`g el ht gvgry any, Hwns jgnihdm. Ahsèvgrhdm tjgsg tjhdms mnvg fg jepg.

Kgèfhdm n shdmig pnrgdt wns ihcg rg-`rgnthdm nda rgaglhdhdm

fysgil. H jna kggd pnrt el n fnrrhga èupig. H jna kggd n fnrrhga

pnrgdt. Dew H jna te lhmurg eut wje H wns ed fy ewd. H jna te

lhmurg eut wjnt H ihcga te gnt ler ahddgr whtj Ndmgihn nda wjnt

te gnt whtjeut Ndmgihn. H jna te pind ler jeihanys nda `rgntg dgw

trnahtheds. H jna te ag`hag wjnt èier te pnhdt tjg wniis hd tjg ihttigrgdtga aupigx H fevga hdte. H jna te ag`hag wjgtjgr te sht hd lredt

el n Q\ nt dhmjt nda fhdaigssiy stnrg nt tjg s`rggd er te me te kga

nda mgt tjg rgst fy keay dggaga. H jna te ag`hag hl H wns mehdm te

gxgr`hsg er oust sht ed tjg èu`j nda kg sna.

Ler tjg vgry lhrst thfg hd fy wjeig ihlg, H wns ihvhdm niedg. Ler

nd gxtrevgrt, tjnt hsdt lud. Mrewhdm up, H jna ihvga whtj fy fef

nda vhshtga fy ana. Hd èiigmg, H niwnys jna reeffntgs hd tjgaerfs. Nltgr mrnaunthed, stnrthdm fy `nrggr, H weuia sjnrg npnrt-

fgdts nda tewdjeusgs whtj reeffntgs. Qjgd H met fnrrhga. Dew

H wns tjhrty-twe, nda ed tjg dhmjts Ndmgihn wns whtj jgr ana, H wns

ln`hdm nd gfpty jeusg ler tjg lhrst thfg, lhmurhdm eut jew te fncg


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Ky? Qnffy Anumjtry

Kuy @e-Rnrgdthdm ]ercs! nt _edagrvnd.`ef.

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