Christian Triage By MiXue. Outline: Decision-making process Decision-making process Important vs...

Christian TriageChristian Triage

By MiXueBy MiXue

Outline:Outline:

Decision-making processDecision-making processImportant vs UrgentImportant vs UrgentDeciding what is ImportantDeciding what is ImportantBiblical PrioritiesBiblical PrioritiesTriaging for important Triaging for important prioritiespriorities

Starting with end in mindStarting with end in mind

TriageTriage

Triage is the process of Triage is the process of sorting/ranking of prioritiessorting/ranking of priorities

in the midst of chaos and in the midst of chaos and turmoil where resources are turmoil where resources are

inadequateinadequate and and limitedlimited..

Sort for:Sort for:

1. 1. DieDie

2. 2. DelegateDelegate to others to others

3. 3. DevoteDevote your efforts your efforts forfor

Sorting is ChoosingSorting is Choosing

SacrificeSacrifice is is

exchangingexchanging something you something you lovelove

for something you for something you love morelove more

Yes Yes == NoNo

to somethingto something to to something something

elseelse

How do you decide?How do you decide?

UrgentUrgent

vs.vs.

Important Important

What is important to What is important to you?you?

What do you value?What do you value?

1. Start with the 1. Start with the endend in mind in mind

2. What does 2. What does GodGod value? value?

Quality TestingQuality Testing

1. Work will be evaluated1. Work will be evaluated

2. Test by Fire2. Test by Fire

What is the test by Fire?What is the test by Fire?

PurityPurity

DurabilityDurability

Revelation of EssenceRevelation of Essence

What is eternal?What is eternal?

PeoplePeople go into Eternity go into Eternity with or without God with or without God

WordWord lasts forever lasts forever

WorksWorks motivated by faith, hope, love, motivated by faith, hope, love,

righteousness, holiness, justice righteousness, holiness, justice

What is important to What is important to you?you?

Whatever you Whatever you spendspend your your resources on:resources on:

TimeTimeMoneyMoneyEnergyEnergyAttention & focusAttention & focus

You You add valueadd value to something by to something by inputting your resourcesinputting your resources into it. into it.

What are you?What are you?

OwnerOwneroror

StewardSteward

Owner:Owner:

Everything I have, I earned and Everything I have, I earned and deserve.deserve.

I own it all and can do as I please I own it all and can do as I please with it.with it.

I answer to no one but myself. I answer to no one but myself.

Stewardship:Stewardship:

I am owned by God.I am owned by God.

Everything I have Everything I have

is given to me by God.is given to me by God.

We are given roles to We are given roles to steward:steward:

good works

Christians

God

parents

ministry

work

children

husband

You

How do we know how to How do we know how to prioritize? prioritize?

TheThe Word Word reveals reveals

GodGod’s values’s values

10 Suggestions?10 Suggestions?

10 Commandments10 Commandments

The Word is The Word is notnot given to given to you you

to make you to make you smartersmarter, ,

But to make you But to make you holierholier..

ObeyObey the Word the Word

What should get What should get Priority?Priority?

Self

Good works

friends

siblingsparents

ministry

work

children

husbandGod

You

#1 Priority for God:#1 Priority for God:

"You shall love the LORD your God "You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. (Deu soul and with all your might. (Deu 6:5) 6:5)

GodGod = Highest Supreme Being = Highest Supreme Being YouYou = Humble grateful servant = Humble grateful servant

Giving God #1 Priority:Giving God #1 Priority:

Spend Spend timetime getting getting to know Himto know Him

WordWord (vs newspaper/readings) (vs newspaper/readings)

PrayerPrayer (vs talking to friends) (vs talking to friends)

PracticePractice (Obedience vs ignoring (Obedience vs ignoring it)it)

#2 Priority for Husband:#2 Priority for Husband:

““For this reason a man For this reason a man

shall shall leaveleave his father and his his father and his mother,mother,

and be and be joinedjoined to his wife; to his wife;

and they shall become and they shall become oneone flesh.” flesh.”(Gen 2:24)(Gen 2:24)

Giving Husband #2 Giving Husband #2 Priority:Priority:

Submission: unnaturalSubmission: unnatural

Cultural vs Biblical submissionCultural vs Biblical submission

Submission ≠ AgreementSubmission ≠ Agreement

Put on your seatbeltPut on your seatbelt

Honor vs dishonoring WordHonor vs dishonoring Word

A Wife is Ultimate Team A Wife is Ultimate Team PlayerPlayer

The heart of her husband The heart of her husband truststrusts in her, in her,

and he will have no lack of gain. and he will have no lack of gain.

She does him She does him good good

and not evil and not evil

all the days of her life. all the days of her life. Prov. 31:11-12Prov. 31:11-12

Top 10 Top 10 SubmissiveSubmissive WaysWays

10.10.She doesn’t complain when I bring people home She doesn’t complain when I bring people home for dinner or staying over without prior notice.for dinner or staying over without prior notice.9. She lets me smoke cigars in the home9. She lets me smoke cigars in the home8. She never insists I have to spend time w/ her 8. She never insists I have to spend time w/ her

family. family. 7. She tries not to comment about my driving. 7. She tries not to comment about my driving. 6. She trusts me with our investments including 6. She trusts me with our investments including

home ownership decisions. home ownership decisions. 5. She supported my desire to attend seminary and 5. She supported my desire to attend seminary and

move the family to Hong Kong.move the family to Hong Kong.4. She always asks me about her career decisions. 4. She always asks me about her career decisions. 3. She defers to me in decisions re: raising the 3. She defers to me in decisions re: raising the

kids.kids.2. She tries not to disagree with me/belittle me in 2. She tries not to disagree with me/belittle me in

public. public. 1. She is very attentive to my needs over her own.1. She is very attentive to my needs over her own.

Sex is God’s ideaSex is God’s idea

created for marriage onlycreated for marriage only

otherwise:otherwise:

Fornication/immoralityFornication/immorality

AdulteryAdultery

SexSexBefore Before After After Marriage: Marriage: Marriage:Marriage:

YES! NO! YES! NO!

SexSexBefore Before After After Marriage: Marriage: Marriage:Marriage:

YES! YES! NO!NO!

SEXUAL PERVERSIONSEXUAL PERVERSION

Sex as Spiritual WarfareSex as Spiritual Warfare

Stop deprivingStop depriving one another, one another, except by agreement for a time,except by agreement for a time,so that you may devote yourselvesso that you may devote yourselvesto prayer, and come together to prayer, and come together

againagainso that Satan will not tempt youso that Satan will not tempt youbecause of your lack of self-because of your lack of self-

control.control. (1Cor. (1Cor. 7:5) 7:5)

1+1=11+1=1

Husband/Head Husband/Head +Wife/Helper+Wife/Helper

Oneness Oneness

Christ and the ChurchChrist and the Church

1 + 1 = 11 + 1 = 1

#3 Priority for Children:#3 Priority for Children:

Training: Obedience & DisciplineTraining: Obedience & Discipline

Imparting: FaithImparting: Faith

Security: Best GiftSecurity: Best Gift

Train for ObedienceTrain for Obedience

““The rod and reproof give The rod and reproof give wisdom, wisdom,

But a child who gets his own But a child who gets his own wayway

brings brings shame to his mothershame to his mother.”.” Prov. 29:15Prov. 29:15

Teach children to obey Teach children to obey authority:authority:

1. parent1. parent 2. teachers2. teachers 3. bosses3. bosses 4. husband (if daughter)4. husband (if daughter) 5. police5. police 6. government6. government 7. God7. God

Discipline DisplaysDiscipline Displays

Sign of legitimacySign of legitimacy

EffortEffort

LoveLove

Fruit of DisciplineFruit of Discipline

All discipline for the moment seemsAll discipline for the moment seems

not to be joyful, but sorrowful; not to be joyful, but sorrowful;

yet to those who have been yet to those who have been trainedtrained

by it, afterwards it yields the by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousnesspeaceful fruit of righteousness..

(Heb 12:11)(Heb 12:11)

Pass on anPass on anEternal InheritanceEternal Inheritance

"You shall "You shall teachteach them diligently to them diligently to your sons and shall your sons and shall talk talk of them of them when you when you sitsit in your house and in your house and when you when you walkwalk by the way and by the way and when you when you lie downlie down and when you and when you rise uprise up..

Deut. 6:7Deut. 6:7

SecuritySecurity

The The Best GiftBest Gift you can give your you can give your childchild

is is

a loving relationshipa loving relationship

with the fatherwith the father

#4 Priority to Home:#4 Priority to Home:

A hundred men may make an A hundred men may make an encampment, but it takes encampment, but it takes

a womana woman

to make to make a homea home. .

HomeHome interprets interprets heavenheaven. .

Home is heaven Home is heaven for beginners.for beginners.

~~Charles H. ParkhurstCharles H. Parkhurst

Your Your home home gives gives your your

child child

his first his first deep deep

longingslongings for for

heaven.heaven.

"In My Father's "In My Father's househouse are many are many dwelling placesdwelling places; if it were not so, I ; if it were not so, I would have told you; for I go to would have told you; for I go to prepare prepare a placea place for you. for you.

If I go and If I go and prepare a placeprepare a place for you, I will for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself, come again and receive you to Myself, that that wherewhere I am, I am, ttherehere you may be you may be also.”also.” JoJohn 14:2-3hn 14:2-3

Jesus, a Jesus, a HomemakerHomemaker??

#5 for Priority to Work:#5 for Priority to Work:

A working wife and motherA working wife and mother

takes on a takes on a

double-cursedouble-curse

The Double-CurseThe Double-Curse

Curse on Eve:Curse on Eve: Pain in childrearingPain in childrearing Desire to control and dominate husbandDesire to control and dominate husband

Curse on Adam:Curse on Adam: Frustration and opposition with workFrustration and opposition with work Work will be demanding but unfulfillingWork will be demanding but unfulfilling Life ends in DeathLife ends in Death

Triage:Triage:

1. 1. DieDie



Report CardReport Card

WifeWife AAMotherMother AAHomemakHomemakerer

AA

Bible Bible study study leaderleader

AA

Good Good worksworks

AA

friendfriend AA


WifeWife ??MotherMother ??HomemakHomemakerer

??

TeacherTeacherBible Bible study study leaderleader

??


??

friendfriend ??


WifeWife A-/B+A-/B+MotherMother A-/B+A-/B+HomemakHomemakerer

BB

TeacherTeacher ??Bible Bible study study leaderleaderGood Good worksworksfriendfriend



BB

TeacherTeacher C/C-C/C-Bible Bible study study leaderleaderGood Good worksworksfriendfriend



BB

TeacherTeacher C/C-C/C-Bible Bible study study leaderleader

FF


FF

friendfriend DD

#6 Priority to Ministries:#6 Priority to Ministries:

E²E² = Evangelism = Evangelism EdificationEdification

Helping people have a closer Helping people have a closer more vibrant more vibrant relationship to relationship to ChristChrist

Ministry to:Ministry to:

Husband (+ his friends)Husband (+ his friends) Children (+ their friends)Children (+ their friends) Students Students ColleaguesColleagues BossBoss Everyone you meetEveryone you meet

#7 Priority to Parents:#7 Priority to Parents:

Different ways to Honor them as we Different ways to Honor them as we grow:grow:

Honoring our Parents defined:Honoring our Parents defined:0-13yrs – by Dependence0-13yrs – by Dependence13-21yrs – by Obedience13-21yrs – by Obedience22-35yrs – as Discernment22-35yrs – as Discernment36-55yrs – as Appreciation36-55yrs – as Appreciation56+ -- as Role Reversal56+ -- as Role Reversal

Difference between Cultural Difference between Cultural and Biblical Honoring?and Biblical Honoring?

Cultural: It is to repay unlimited debt to Cultural: It is to repay unlimited debt to parents for bringing you into the world & parents for bringing you into the world & making all the sacrifices to raise you. making all the sacrifices to raise you.

Biblical: It is a positive command by Biblical: It is a positive command by God that leaves us with great leeway to God that leaves us with great leeway to obey. Children should start new obey. Children should start new households. households.

Biblically Honoring Biblically Honoring ParentsParents

Good NewsGood News::

You get to determine what your You get to determine what your “honoring” looks like.“honoring” looks like.

Bad News:Bad News:

You must explain your conclusions to You must explain your conclusions to God.God.

# 8 Priority to Christians:# 8 Priority to Christians:

““So then, while we have So then, while we have opportunity, opportunity,

let us do good to all people, andlet us do good to all people, and

especially to those who are of theespecially to those who are of the

household of the faithhousehold of the faith.” .” Gal 6:10Gal 6:10

Why?Why?

#1 Reason #1 Reason ChineseChinese scholars scholars are interested in Christianity are interested in Christianity is: is:

the the lovelove we have for one we have for one another, and also for them.another, and also for them.

#9 Priority to good #9 Priority to good works:works:

Likewise, Likewise, I wantI want women to adorn themselves women to adorn themselves

with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly,

not with braided hair and gold or pearls or not with braided hair and gold or pearls or

costly garments, but rather by means of costly garments, but rather by means of

good worksgood works, as is proper for women making a, as is proper for women making a

claim to godliness. claim to godliness. 1 Tim. 2:9-101 Tim. 2:9-10

God

Husband

Children

Work

Ministry

Parents

Christians

Good Works

Manageability of LifeManageability of Life

Adjust Adjust and and AdaptAdapt

With your life changesWith your life changes

Triage:Triage:

1. 1. DieDie



God

Husband

Children

Work

Church/Ministry

Parents

Christians

Good Works

Neighbors

What to What to DevoteDevote efforts to? efforts to?

What to What to DelegateDelegate??

to Familyto Familyto Partnersto Partnersto Friendsto Friendsto Helper/hiredto Helper/hired

Triage: What must Triage: What must DieDie??

One half of knowing what youOne half of knowing what youwant is knowing what you must want is knowing what you must give up before you get it. give up before you get it.

~Sidney Howard~Sidney Howard

If you aim at nothing, If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time.you’ll hit it every time.

““If you don't know where you are If you don't know where you are going, you will probably end up going, you will probably end up somewhere else.” somewhere else.”

~Lawrence J. Peter~Lawrence J. Peter

““Make the most of your Make the most of your time because the days are time because the days are evil.” evil.”

Eph 4:15-16Eph 4:15-16

What do you want your What do you want your life to stand for?life to stand for?

““As for the days of our As for the days of our life, they contain seventy life, they contain seventy years, or if due to years, or if due to strength, eighty years, strength, eighty years, yet their pride is yet their pride is butbut labor and sorrow; labor and sorrow; for soon it is gone and for soon it is gone and we fly away.we fly away.So teach us to So teach us to numbernumber our daysour days, that we may , that we may present to You present to You a heart a heart of wisdomof wisdom.”.” Psalm Psalm 90:10, 1290:10, 12

If any man's work which If any man's work which he has built on it he has built on it remains, remains, he will receive a reward.he will receive a reward.

If any man's work is If any man's work is burned up, he will suffer burned up, he will suffer loss; loss; but he himself will be but he himself will be saved, saved, yet so as through fire. yet so as through fire.

(1Co 3:13-14)(1Co 3:13-14)

Start with Start with

the the endend in in mind:mind:

““Well done, Well done, good and good and faithful faithful servant.”servant.”

Go for it!Go for it!

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