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What is Discipline?
The Process of Shaping and moulding a Child’s attitude
and behaviour over the years.
Discipline Discipline is the use of methods to teach
children behavior guidelines.
Teaching these guidelines should begin as the child begins to move around.
To get along in the world…• Children need some
basic guidelines for behavior.
• Adults have the responsibility to teach children how to behave.
• Older brothers and sisters help by setting good examples.
Discipline Teaches.....• Self-control
• Limits
• Behavior patterns that are acceptable to society.
It should involve respect, support and encouragement as well as communication of limits or boundaries.
Effective Techniques
Set limits
with rules
Rules are necessary to
protect a child from
danger and set examples
of acceptable behavior.
Everyone is more
confident and comfortable
knowing how to act in a
new situation.
Communication Tell the child what he or she must do rather than what
they should not do!
Keep explanations simple and brief, they have limited vocabulary and a limited attention span.
Be prepared to repeat over and over to toddlers.
The difficult hostile child is the one who needs love and guidance the most!
Positive Reinforcement
• Children repeat the actions they are praised for!.
• Children give up any actions that are ignored by others.
Be Consistent! Discipline the same way every time that behavior occurs.
Be Fair! Be reasonable and impartial.
Be Firm! Stick to your rules.
Rewards• Reward the good behavior
– don’t only notice the negative behavior.
• Be immediate and direct with discipline and rewards – hugs are free!
DO:
• Set good examples and be the role model.
• Use timeout-remove the child from the misbehavior- this should give them time to think about the misbehavior.
• Take away privileges to promote desired behavior-especially with older children.
• Discipline the behavior-not the child!
DON’T:• Do not Rely on physical punishment!
• Do not Make threats you cannot keep – older children.
• Do not yell – talk to the child and explain why he or she should or should not do certain things.
• Parents should be in agreement about discipline or not be in disagreement in front of the child.
Negative ReinforcementPunishment
It tends to discourage the behavior with which it is associated.
• Punishment should not take the place of encouragement and clearly stated limits.
• It can be part of positive and effective discipline, when used with good judgment.
Children are positively disciplined when:
• They are shown positive alternatives rather than
just told “no”
• They are encouraged to think of alternatives
to the misbehavior
• Their display of appropriate behavior is recognized
and rewarded
• They see how their actions affect others
• They are respected
• The expectations are fair, simple and consistently
enforced.
Children are positively disciplined when
Children are inconsistently disciplined when:
• Different limits are set on different days by the same
person
• Different adults set different limits
• No limits are set
• Limits are able to be changed
• Adult expectations are too high or low
Be preventative
• Cue the child using verbal, model, physical,
props or other prompts
• Ignore the inappropriate behavior
• Redirect or distract from potential problems
• State the rule before it is broken
• Give two appropriate alternative choices before
the inappropriate behavior occurs
Positive discipline is used when:
• Adults use a plan to:
– Respond quickly and calmly, using few words
– Reduce the misbehavior
– Replace the misbehavior by teaching an alternative,
appropriate skill that serves the same purpose as
the misbehavior
Books I recommend:
The Paperboy by Dav Pilkey The Emperor and the Kite by Jane
YolenMahesh Ramamurthy
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