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Treasure Your Marriage
By
Cherishing Your Spouse
A Gift For: ______________
From: ____________
Date: _____________
Treasure Your Marriage
By
Cherishing Your Spouse
©Copyright 2014 ~Lulu.com self published
by Suzanne E. Uzzell All rights reserved.
Written permission must be secured from the
Publisher to use or reproduce any part of this
book, except for bible scriptures used. All
scripture quotations are from the King James
Version.
Paper Back ISBN: 978-1-329-71117-4
Dedications
I thank God for allowing me to write this
book he has inspired me in many ways to
remind the Christian Marriages to treasure
the gift he gave to them. The marriage
relationship is dear to Gods heart because he
created the Marriage union.
I dedicate this book to my husband Jahi J.
Uzzell whom I love dearly and stand in love
with. I thank God for allowing us to come
together grow and share what he has given
us.
This book is also dedicated to Christian
Marriages who will develop and grow within
their union. I pray this book will encourage
Godly marriages to prosper, be restored as
they learn how to grow together in God and
in love.
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Treasure Your Marriage
There are hidden treasures
I placed within your marriage
that will take you time to see
as you spend days, months and years together
you will learn how to operate in and appreciate
this beautiful relationship that I
hold dear to me and gave to thee.
I have gifted you with this treasure here on earth
the one I have created, designed and re-birthed.
I want you to cherish the one I placed by your side
but remember to always let me be your guide.
Never forget to show my love, the love
that is from Heaven above.
My love is unconditional, patient and kind
my love will guide you through the test of time.
My love will bind your hearts together as one.
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If I was writing a general letter to spouses
about marriage I would begin by saying
welcome to your union of love where God
intended you to be there are many hidden
treasures you will find in your mate so
cherish the journey where you will explore
many new things about your significant other
that you never saw on the bare surface.
God wants you to begin searching and not
just be complacent with who you think your
husband/wife is he wants to develop you to
find the beautiful treasure that lies hidden
within you and what is hidden within them.
There is great value in our Marriage
relationship and if we are not careful we can
devalue or disregard it. We must recognize
the treasure of this relationship and realize it
has great worth.
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The value potential is much greater than
silver and gold and it yields greater profit
because it is an investment of a lifetime.
When we look at the word treasure it means
to regard or treat as precious: cherish, great
value and highly priced. When we treasure
someone we learn to cherish the person hold
them in high regard and place a great value
on that person or relationship.
We know the worth and value of that person.
When we cherish someone we hold and treat
them as dear, we feel love for them and care
for that person.
God has given us hidden treasure in our
marriage union and he wants us to cherish
our spouse by loving them in order to do that
we must allow God to love through us.
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We must also learn how to value our spouses,
not devalue them or the marriage
relationship.
God wants us to learn how to serve each
other in love. We must also learn how to be
happy and fulfilled with the choice we have
chosen and that is our significant other our
spouse that God blessed us with.
When you are happy with your choice you
become content with your spouse and your
union. You are not sidetracked by other
desires that are not healthy to your union.
God wants to settle us in our marriage union
there are so many couples that are not settled
in their marriage. When you are settled you
are not stagnated, swayed or easily moved.
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No matter what you may experience whether
unusual circumstances or life oppositions you
will be able to work together and remain
committed because you are settled in the
marriage and also dedicated to one another
and your relationship.
God wants us to grow in him and also
together, he wants us to grow in love with one
another.
There are many positive and negative life
experiences a marriage union will face we
were designed by God to endure the
hardships, enjoy the beauty of creating
shared memories, experience joy and bask in
the fun but also pull together and work as a
team through the difficult moments that tests
our union from time to time.
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We can grow and become stronger if we
value the tests that are set before us.
We can cherish our spouse in the greatest of
times and also in the times of facing
adversity and hardship. We can become a
victorious team built to last no matter what
we experience together. It is how we face
these day to day life experiences that will
determine our outcome.
There are so many Christian marriages that
are ending in divorce because they never had
the opportunity to grow together and flourish
and see the value of their marriage. They face
various differences and are easily swayed to
end it when they can’t come to resolve or
resolution.
Some individuals came in the union with an
ideal of fantasy how they think marriage
would or should be. Some have the fantasy
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that being in love was all you need to remain
happy and together.
You never have to nurture or work through
issues in the relationship as they occur. This
fantasy causes blindness and creates a false
sense of belief that romance only or the
emotional state of being in love is all you need
to stay together and remain happy. They
welcome the blissful feeling only and draw
away or dismiss the realities that come along
with being married.
I challenge this false belief by saying once we
walk in covenant relationship after we said
our vows we are called by God to stand in
love not fall out of love.
There is no such thing as the love has died in
my opinion. However I agree with the
statement two people can grow apart or be
indifferent but Gods love never grows cold or
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dies. We must admit if God placed his spirit
within us and we are children of God then we
also have the capacity to allow God to love
through us.
We must surrender ourselves to God daily in
order for this to be achieved in us and
through us.
We can grow apart and also walk in
disagreement this means we can walk in the
spirit of disagreement with our spouse and
this can cause us to see them in a different
light just because we are walking in
opposition instead of walking in agreement
with them.
We can also embrace discord, anger,
resentment and ungodly behaviors that will
drive a wedge in between the spouse and
eventually damage the relationship.
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There are many devices that can pull people
apart if allowed or if entertained. We must be
careful to examine self and these negative
behaviors and obstacles that can cause
detriment to the marriage relationship.
We must learn to walk in the power and
spirit of agreement. When we walk in
agreement we make the decision to walk in
unity. Christian marriages are called to a
level of humility and dependency on Jesus
Christ.
If you are going to walk in agreement it takes
humbleness of heart, prayer, confession and
submission toward Jesus and each other
especially when you face situations where
there is a difference of opinion.
Amos 3:3(KJV) Can two walk together, except
they be agreed?
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God calls us into a walk together and this
requires for us to practice walking in the
spirit of agreement. When you are in
agreement you are operating in oneness.
Mark 10:8 And the two shall become one flesh,
so that they are no longer two, but one flesh.
This is where God wants us because we are
growing to become one. This means we are
learning not to operate from an independent
perspective when coming together. We
should be developing and embracing the
team concept, the unit and learn to become
unified which takes lots of practice,
preparation, persistence and prayer in order
to adapt to this new way of living and
functioning in the marriage relationship.
This is a process that is necessary to build the
team because I is not found in team so we
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must function and develop together instead of
apart.
With that said we must be reminded that
walking in the spirit of agreement will not
alleviate the relationship from facing
opposition and we can also agree to disagree.
God has designed the man and woman with
different thinking capacities when he created
us. We think differently and are also shaped
by different life experiences which may cause
us to handle situations in various ways that
are contrary to one another.
We are also conditioned by our parental
upbringing in childhood along with our own
pattern of thinking which shapes the way we
see things and handle them. However in the
marriage union we are challenged to
congregate and fuse ideas and concepts and
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create new practices that will be great for the
family dynamics.
God has created us to collaborate together
and it is okay to come to the table with
different ideas and difference of opinion but
he wants us to leave the table with great
concepts and proper communication that will
inspire both people to work as a team.
We achieve this by seeking him in prayer for
godly wisdom and discipline every time we
kick against rocks and rough edges in our
union.
When you make the decision to walk in
agreement it means you are always on the
same page operating in the same spirit. When
we seek God for his counsel, guidance,
wisdom and discipline he will help us to
achieve this growth in our relationship. Let
us come to the conclusion there is a lot of
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great work that takes place in order to
cultivate and grow the love that will maintain
the relationship.
We must not operate in fantasy but in reality
when we function in our relationship and we
must view it the way God views it.
This is an excellent work God has called us
into after all this is what we signed up for
when we said I do. However it is regretful
that some of us didn’t get the memo of what
the true marriage union would be like. All we
knew was we truly loved our spouse and we
couldn’t wait to get married to them.
While we were in preparation someone
should have told us or shared with us that
marriage is a beautiful union designed by
God that requires our daily participation and
undivided attention. This relationship is one
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of the most important relationships that can
affect our life in a positive or negative way.
Marriage should not be entered into lightly
because there is a special price both spouses
will pay but the end results will be beautiful if
we would allow God to work on our behalf
and if we see the treasures he placed in our
spouse and they also see the treasures God
placed in us.
There is a great value that we sometimes
overlook on a daily basis. The marriage
relationship brings oneness that God
intended for us to experience. If we learn how
to function in this oneness it would be very
beneficial to the union.
Most of the time we can function from a
dysfunctional point of view where we think
the relationship is thriving so we continue to
let things be and it becomes chaotic.
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God wants to bring us to a functional and
extraordinary relationship. He will bring
order and structure this is where God can get
glory out of our relationship when we allow
him to change our way of thinking and
methods that are not working.
God wants to restore order in our homes and
within us. He wants us to serve him and one
another not from a place of obligation but
serve out of love.
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When we learn to cherish our spouse then we
will love to assist them, care for them, pray
for them, and value them.
God wants us to be happy with our choice not
murmur or complain or be unhappy. When
we look at why we wanted to marry our
spouse then we can experience what were the
characteristics, values, traits we admired and
liked about them.
There are many stages in the marriage
relationship and we must learn and
understand these in order for us to
understand how we grow. It is a process our
relationship goes through here are seven
stages I list that God revealed to me for us to
view.