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    CELIBATE GENITALITY:

    DEFENSE MECHANISM

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    • PROCESS BY WHICH WE PROTECT OURSELVES AGAINST

    UNPLEASANT OR ANXIOUS FEELINGS THAT TEND TO

    EXPOSE AN UNACCEPTABLE PART OF OURSELVES. IT CAN

    BE NORMAL OR MAD. THE YCLOSE US TO EXPERIENCESAND THEREBY DECREASE OUR FREEDOM AND CREATIVE

    CONTROL OF LIFE, AND THEY IMPEDE PERSONAL AND

    INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION SO THAT WE ARE APT

    NOT TO UNDERSTAND OURSELVES AND OTHERS AS WELL

    AS WE SHOULD.

    • DEFENSE TEND TO BE SELF-REINFORCING. THE MORE WE

    USE THEM, THE EASIER IT GETS AND THE MORE DIFFICULT

    IT IS TO CHANGE.

    • DEFENSES EXACT A PRICE. WE WASTE TIME AND ENERGYTO NON-PRODUCTIVE AND REPETITIOUS BEHAVIOR IN

    TRYING TO WHAT AND WHO WE REALLY ARE NOT

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    • DEFENSES ARE NOT ONLY PAINFUL TO US, BUT ARE

    FREQUENTLY IRRITATING AND HARMFUL TO OTHERS. THE

    USE OF THEM MAKES US LIKELKY TO MANIPULATE

    OTHERS TO SATISFY OUR NEEDS AND LESS LIKELY TO BE

    SUFFICIENTLY FLEXIBLE AND OPEN TO UNDERSTAND ANDCARE FOR OTHERS.

    • A PRIMARY REASON IS TO WARD OFF ANXIETY THAT IS THE

    RESULT OF UNACCEPTABLE EXPERIENCES. Exa!"#: W#

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    *#x(a". I * *#"%-$#%#a&.

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    KINDS OF DEFENSES• REPRESSION:

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    DENIAL

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    FANTASY

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    INSULATION

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    #&2(*a

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    ISOLATION

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    *'"a'& '% +a"(#* %)' a0+#*>)#a"3

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    REGRESSION

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    PROECTION A& a#! ' a&a& *#"%-#*## a&$ a$#(a03 /3 /"a& '2#)* %')

    '() *a4#* ') /3 !(& ' '2#) '() '1& (&a00#!a/"# %##"&*

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    T()&& ' !)'*(#* %)' *#x(a" )a%0a'&, $*!"a0# %##"&* %') a

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    a0+#* 2a $' &' !)''# 2#a"23 )'12

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    COMPENSATION

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    N' ' a))3 /#0a(*# 2#3 %##" *#x(a""3< /#0'# *#-0#"/a#*

     12' %)#(#&"3 #&a# & #&a" /#2a+')

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    "a04 '% a()# *#x(a" $#&3.

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    REACTION FORMATION

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    C#"/a03 ' 2# * &'&-#&a" 8 1a3 '% 0'!&.

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    2#*#"+#* '1a)$ 2# '2#) *#x.

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    UNDOING T#&$ ' /# !#)%#0'&*, *0)(!("'(* a&$ !)' ' ("

    Exa!"#: F##" 0'!#""#$ ' 0'&%#** ') $' !#&a&0# /3 #a&* '% !#)%#0 )(a".

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    2#a"23

    SYMPATHISM T)3& ' # '2#)* %##" *'))3 %') 2# a&$ ' *(!!') 2#

    T)3 ' )(& %)' *#x(a" a1a)#** /3 a"1a3* 0'!"a&& a/'( 2*>2#) !)'/"#*

    ACTING OUT

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    8 ' "#**#& #&a" #&*'&

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    POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGICAL WAYS OF

    COPING

    SUPPRESSION

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    %)' '+#) #x!)#**'&

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    $*0!" 8 '& 2# /a** '% %)##$'. M'+##& %)')#!)#**'& ' *(!!)#**'&

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    D()& 2* )a&*'&a" #, a !#)*'& a3 #x!)#** a"'*

    2# '!!'*# '% 2# !a* )#!)#**+# /#2a+'). H#"! #$#$

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    ')%3, &#)a# a&$ *(/"a# 2#.

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    SUBLIMATION

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    R#$)#0& #)3 %)' ' a0+3 ' a&'2#) 2a * 9($#$ ' /#

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    "a# aa&* 2#a"23 )'12

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    RESPECTFUL INTEGRATION

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    G#&a"3 2a* a ')# $)#0 a&$ !'*+# &%"(#&0# '& '()

    !*302'"'0a" a&$ *!)(a" "%#. I 0a& #+'4# a&$ !)''#a(2#&0 &#)a'&

    AMPLIFICATION

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    H#a"23 a!"%0a'& 8 a& #x#&*'& '% 2# !'**/"#0'&*#(#&0#* '% 2# %a&a*3 a&$ "&4* 12 )#a"3.

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    THANK YOU AND GOD BLESS