Carers' Perspectives - Mary Simani and Robina Yasmin (MDAA)
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Transcript of Carers' Perspectives - Mary Simani and Robina Yasmin (MDAA)
“We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our homes to remedy this kind of poverty.” (Mother Teresa)
Mary’s Background:
Professional – Carer, formerly with Corrective Services and Diploma in Community Services
Cultural – Indigenous Fijian
Family – 5 Children, 8 grandchildren
Social – Volunteer at MDAA
I have two sons, Jason who is 32 years old and since birth he has had epilepsy, he is also partially deaf in the left ear and he has intellectual disability.
He also had an operation 9 months ago
on his right leg; a type of reconstruction–
replacing the bone in his leg with iron
plates and screws.
My other son Henry has just turned eight
years old; he has Prader-Willi,
sleep-apnoea, behavioural issues.
These conditions were all noticed
between the ages 4 and 6.
MY CHALLENGES:
•I had to face my fears of being alone and raising two sons with disability.•Lack of support as my family were overseas•My financial situation and vulnerability impacting on my housing •I suffered from depression because of the situation that I was in. Before my depression I was in control of my life and was happy; I had a good career, a successful business and a happy family. •Breaking out from the strong cultural beliefs
Cultural Beliefs From my cultural perspective, we Fijians are not allowed to talk about our family members that have disabilities
Responsibility is with the family
Disability is seen as a curse from our forefathers
What kind of service providers I want to work with:A welcoming environment
Cultural learnings and sharing
Staff who are humane
Diverse staff
Inclusive activities that develops our capacities according to our pace
“We ourselves feel that what we are doing is just a drop in the ocean. But the ocean would be less because of that missing drop.” (Mother Teresa)
•Pakistan – Kashmir •6 Children – 3 daughters & 3 sons• Carer •Member of the board – Multicultural
Disability Advocacy Association •Professional accomplishments
• In my culture, people believe that if your child is born with a disability it is a curse and you have committed a sin that is unforgivable in God’s eyes. • I believe otherwise, I believe that every child is a blessing from God. • At times I feel helpless and depressed but all I can do is pray to God to give me strength with my situation
Challenges:
• Lack of Support I had no support from my husband.
I have no support from my family and feel very
isolated. “I felt trapped….” • Lack Independence• Community Attitudes • Financial Difficulties• My own Health Issues
What is a Culturally Responsive Service for me:
• Provides language support
• Respects my religion and my culture
• Respects my confidentiality
• Knowledge of culturally appropriate services
• Involving us carers in training and projects which gives people knowledge, confidence, and self esteem
Lessons:• We are the same but different • Fetch water from the well or from the spring• Do not just look at the surface, hear what
isn’t being said• Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet (Jean-
Jacques Rousseau)