BookReview LifeGameRulesNotes.doc

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If Life is a Game, These are the Rules: Ten Rules for Being Human

By Cherie Carter-Scott

1. Rule One: You will receive a o!"

You may love it or hate it, but it will be yours for the duration of your life on

Earth. Make peace with your body so that it can effectively serve its purpose and share

its valuable lessons of acceptance, self-esteem, respect, and pleasure.

Acceptance

You can either continue to fight against your bodys reality by complaining

and immersing yourself in self-depreciation, or you can make the very subtlebut powerful mental shift into acceptance.

Either way, the reality remains the same; your perception has no bearing on

how your body actually looks so why not choose the ease of acceptance ratherthan the pain of reection!

Self-esteem

"elf-esteem is feeling worthy and able to meet lifes challenges.

You will be tested over and over until you feel confident about who you are

and understand and believe in your intrinsic value.

"elf-esteem is not something to be achieved and preserved, but rather a

lifelong process to be e#plored and cultivated.

Respect

$reat your body with deference and respect, and it will respond accordingly.

%isten to your body and its wisdom; it will tell you what it needs if you ask,

listen, and take heed.

Pleasure

&leasure is the physical manifestation of oy.

'hat brings you pleasure! (o it, and do it often, for it will give lightness to

your heart and do wonders for your soul.

#. Rule Two: You will $resente! with lessons

You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called )life.* Each day in this

school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons.

+s you strive to discover and learn about yourself, you will most likely encounter

the basic lessons of openness, choice, fairness, and grace. %ook at these lessons

as tools to help you discover your own uniue purpose.

Openness penness means being receptive to your lessons.

f you want to truly live from your authentic self, you must be open to

learning all the lessons you are given so that you may grow into the person

you want to be become.

'hat lessons are you resisting!

Choice

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7hoice is the e#ploration of desire and then the selection of action.

8ow does it feel to act on your choices! 9emember that feeling. t is the

essence of living aligned with your path.

Fairness

ur sense of fairness is the e#pectation of euity:the assumption that all

things are eual and that ustice will always prevail. 8owever, life is not fair. You may have a more difficult life path than others

around you, deserved or not.

ocusing on the unfairness of circumstances keeps you comparing yourself

with others rather than appreciating your own special uniueness.

'hat perception of unfairness holds you back!

Grace


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?eginner forgiveness of yourself :?e compassionate toward yourself for

doing the best you could with the resources you had at the time, make

amends, and then release the situation.

?eginner forgiveness of another :dentify with that persons motivation

so you can understand why she did what she did, show compassion, and

then release it. +dvanced forgiveness of yourself :@nderstand why you did what you

did, make amends as best you can, then find it in your heart to absolve

yourself.

+dvanced forgiveness of another :+llow yourself to fully feel the hurt or

anger so that you can release it, then view the situation as a necessary partof your path of spiritual evolution.

!thics

Ethic codes are not universal. $here is no one set of guidelines that works for

everyone around the world, since what we may consider morally wrong in oneculture might be acceptable in another.

+t its most basic, ethics involves choosing right or good behavior in your

relationships with others.

You will know when you are not acting in alignment with your moral code,

because your conscience will remind you of the difference between what is

ethically right and how you actually behaved.

"umor

%earn to invite amusement into situations that might otherwise be disastrous.

%aughter teaches you to lighten up and take yourself less seriously, even in the

most serious of situations.


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awareness if you are to ever progress from where you are right now on your

path.

'hat patterns are you repeating!

$illingness

$he real secret to be able to change is the willingness to do so.

'+A$ leads to 787E, which leads to 7MM$MEA$. "8@%( leadsto (E7"A, which leads to "+797E.

f youre struggling to make a change in your life, ask yourself, )8ow willing

am , really, to make this change!* 9ely on your intrinsic desire to make the

change, not the belief that you "8@%( change.

Causality

7ausality is the acknowledgement that you are the source of your

manifestations.

Everything you attract into your life is coming to you because of something

you are proecting out into the world, and you are responsible for drawing to

you all of your circumstances. Patience

&atience is the display of tolerance while awaiting an outcome.

7hange is rarely easy, and you need to e#ercise gentleness and patience with

yourself as you work your way thru this process.

+ lesson will be repeated until learned. t ust takes a little patience.

*. Rule (ive: Learning !oes not en!

$here is no part of life that does not contain lessons. f you are alive, there are

lessons to be learned.

t is a relief to finally understand that you never actually master life, and that

striving to do so will only lead to frustration.

Embrace your role as a perpetual student.


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+ person with humility has a confident yet modest sense of his own merits,

but also an understanding of his limitations.

"ome people e#perience so much success in life that they take it for granted,

e#pecting things to go their way automatically.

'hen an inflated ego ignores civility and patience, the universe introduces

humility in a way to bring the ego back down to Earth. Fle%i&ility

le#ibility is being adaptable to change.

You will be tempted to try to hold on to what is, when, in fact, what is is only

a temporary phase that evolves almost immediately into what was.

%earn to bend and fle# around every new circumstance. 9igidity robs you of

the opportunity to see the freedom of new possibilities.

%earn to be fle#ible. t makes curves in your life path much more easier to

maneuver.

+. Rule i-: There/ is no etter than here/ 'hen your )there* has become a )here,* you will simply obtain a )there* that

will look better to you than your present )here.*

Many people believe that they will be happy once they arrive at some specific

goal they set for themselves. 8owever, more often than not, once you arrive)there* you will still feel dissatisfied, and move your )there* vision to yet another

point in the future.

?y always chasing another )there,* you are never really appreciating what you

already have right )here.*

?y learning the lessons ofgratitude, unattachment, a&undance, and peace, you

can bring yourself closer to fulfilling the challenge of living in the present.

Gratitude

$o be grateful means you are thankful for and appreciative of what you have

and where you are on your path right now.


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%ife has its own agenda and we are destined to suffer unless we give up our

attachment to things working out e#actly as we would like.

&ay attention to the motivations behind your attachments.

n order to learn how to dissolve attachments, you will need to take the

following steps>

0. Aotice what you want and acknowledge the outcome you are attached to./. magine the ideal outcome of your situation, and then imagine the worse-

case scenario. (oing this brings any hidden fears to light and makes it

acceptable for the outcome to go either way.

2. Make a clear statement to the universe by writing our your desire clearlyor saying it out loud.

1. n your mind, create the image of you holding the intention lightly in the

palm of your hand, with your fingers held loosely open.4. Mentally release the desire out of the universe, trusting that whatever

outcome you receive will be the right one. You can use the visuali=ation

of placing your wish n a helium balloon and allowing the balloon to drift

up and away. +ctually see yourself letting go of the attachment. A&undance

+bundance means that all things are possible and that there is more than

enough of everything for everyone, right here and now.

Ao amount of e#ternal obects, affection, love, or attention can ever fill an

inner void. You already have and are enough; revel in your own interiorabundance and you will never need to look elsewhere.

Peace

9ela#ing into the present moment puts you in the mental and physical state of

calm, uiet, and tranuillity and finally gets us off the here-but-gotta-get-there

treadmill. You are too busy being in the moment to analy=e it and find fault with it.

f course you shouldnt float thru life, completely detached from the past and

blind to the future. Bust pause from time to time to be fully rooted in themoment and feel the peace that results.

0. Rule even: Others are onl" mirrors of "ou

You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects

something you love or hate about yourself.

Your reactions to other people are really ust barometers for how you perceive

yourself.

+ssess all the decisions, udgments, and proections you make onto others andbegin to view them as clues to how you can heal yourself and become whole.

+s we learn the lessons of tolerance, clarity, healing, and support, we take a vital

step toward shifting our perspective from others to ourselves.

(olerance

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$olerance is the outward e#tension of acceptance; it is when you learn to

embrace all parts of others and allow them to be and e#press themselves fully

as uniue humans that they are.

'henever you find yourself intolerant of someone, ask yourself, )'hat is the

feeling underneath this udgment that dont want to feel!* ocus on actually

feeling that feeling so that your intolerance can evaporate, and you canembrace both your own emotions and the actions or behavior of the personyou are udging.

Clarity

7larity is the state of seeing clearly.

You achieve clarity in those moments of startling insight when you are able to

shift your perspective by viewing a situation in a new light.

$he best way to learn clarity is to identify those times when you are not

e#periencing it; the moments of fogginess can be clues that the lesson of

clarity is being presented. 'hen you are focused on the way someone else hasbehaved, you are in the fog. 'hen you are focused on your udgment of

others, you are not using them as mirrors and thus are stuck in the fog.

+chieve clarity by shifting perspective from other6outer to self6inner. $hose

are the moments to pause and ask yourself thru what personal lens you areviewing the circumstance. $he moment you hold up the mirror, you begin to

approach clarity.

"ealing

8ealing is restoration to a state of wholeness and well-being:physically,

emotionally and spiritually.

@se your outer e#periences as tools to heal your inner wounds. (eal with the

feelings that surface in certain difficult situations once and for all.

'hat wounds do you carry that need to be healed! Support

You support someone when you willing step forward to strengthen, energi=e,

and help her thru a challenging time.

'hen you support others, you are also supporting yourself.

'hen you withhold support from others, it is usually an indicator that you are

also withholding support from yourself.

'hen you find yourself unable to support someone else, look within and see if

perhaps there is something within yourself that you are not supporting.

'hen you give complete support to others, it will mirror those places within

you that reuire the same level of attention.

. Rule 2ight: 3hat "ou ma&e of "our life is u$ to "ou

You have all the tools and resources you need. 'hat you do with them is up to

you.

You create your own reality. You have the ability to script the life you desire.

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$he lessons of responsi&ility, release, courage, po#er, and adenturewill lead

you to the life you were meant to live and provide you with the tools you need in

order to take command of your life.

Responsi&ility

$o take responsibility means you admit your accountability and acknowledge

your influence and role in the circumstances in which you find yourself. 9esponsibility is not blame. ?lame is associated with fault, whereas

responsibility denotes authorship.

Release

9elease is simply the act of letting go.

n every situation, you can either take responsibility and attempt to cause

things to happen, or you can let go. Aeither option is better or worse. Everysituation is different, and only you will know what is the right thing to do in

each case.

You learn the lesson of release when you begin to choose it as a conscious act

rather than as a passive means to hide from responsibility. %et go of certain self-beliefs that hold you back from creating your own

reality:lack of self-esteem, anger, negative memories, for e#ample.

nce you become aware of what stands in your way and become willing to

release it, you signal to the universe that you are ready to manifest the life youwere meant to live.

Courage

7ourage is finding the inner strength and bravery reuired when confronting

danger, difficulty, or opposition.

t takes courage to embrace the idea that what you make of your life is up to

you and to actually do what you need to do.

$hose times when you may be unable to locate that reservoir of courage

stored inside you, draw on the support of loved ones around you. You can

borrow the courage you need from other people who believe in you.

'hat fears stand in your way! ?ring them to light so you can loosen their

hold over you. ears, real or imagined, only impede you so banish them and

create the life you desire.

Po#er

&ower means demonstrating your ability to manifest reality. 'e call upon

this power as we set out to design our lives according to our will.

Your inner power is already within you.

n the times you have difficulty seeing that light within you, identify what isrobbing you of your power and patch the leaks.

Adenture

+dventure is the result of your willingness to live life with a spirit of

enthusiasm.

+n adventure is any e#perience that takes you beyond your comfort level.

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"ince what you make of your life is up to you, you can either create a life

filled with miraculous adventures or stay huddled and safe, never

e#periencing the oyful rush of ourneying outside your world with boldnessand abandon.

7ould you use more adventure in your life! f so, follow the words of

)'hatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. ?oldness has genius,power, and magic in it.*

4. Rule 5ine: Your answers lie insi!e of "ou

+ll you need to do is look, listen, and trust.

Your true messages can come in a variety of forms:)little voice,* intuitive flash,

in a letter, phone call or printed on the inside flap of a bo# of tea, for e#ample.

Even if you are not open to them, your true messages have a way of finding you

no matter where you hide. gnoring your inner voice or closing yourself off toyour inner truth only invites it to show up in other, more negative, ways such as

depression, addictive behaviors or discontent.

%ife flows more smoothly when we heed our inner messages.

$o tune into your inner knowing, you need to learn the lessons of listening, trust,

and inspiration.

)istening

%istening is actively focusing on what messages you are receiving, both

verbally and nonverbally.

$une in and hear your inner knowing.

%isten closely to hear our messages, as they do not always sound or look the

way we think they will. You need to be tuned in to pick up their freuency, or

else you might miss some important clues being generated from your spiritual

center. (rust

nce you learn to listen to your messages, you then move to the ne#t, deeper

level of growth> trusting those messages.

$ake a leap of faith and believe that your inner knowing is guiding you toward

your greater good.

$rust is the attunement of your instincts to know who and what is in your best

interest, so that you may rely absolutely on the validity of your messages.

You can begin to learn to trust your messages by starting with the small ones.

9ecalling times in the past that trusting your instincts lead you to the right

course of action will also help. *nspiration

nspiration is the moment in which the spirit within is accessed and revealed.

nspiration dawns when something in your outer world sparks a flame within

you and calls forth a message.

t is often easy to miss those moments until you learn to truly hear the inner

)dingF* and give it the space to emerge into your consciousness.

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"pending time with nature, the arts, poetry, literature, music, etc are all

sources of inspiration.

'hat inspires you!

16. Rule Ten: You will forget all of this at irth

You came into this world already knowing all of the information in these $en9ules. You simply forgot them somewhere along your ourney from the spiritworld to the physical one.

You can remember it if you want by unraveling the double heli# of inner

knowing.

'e each have many cycles of remembering and forgetting in our lifetime.

7reate ways to find your way back when you forget by learning the advanced

lessons offaith, #isdom, and limitlessness.

Faith

8ave faith in yourself that you will remember your truth and the knowledge

stored deep within your soul. %ife can be difficult and there may be times when you cannot make sense out

of it or stay afloat. $hese are the moments that reuire faith.

aith is believing, without any tangible proof, that although the truth may

seem eclipsed at times, it does not disappear forever. t simply lies dormantinside you until you reconnect with your innate wisdom.

$o restore your faith during dark moments, surround yourself with people

who know your personal truth and who are familiar with your authentic self,

and you can keep yourself rooted to your truth.

+nother way to keep your faith alive is through touchstones. n your

enlightened moments, collect things that connect you to your source:like

symbols, obects or bits of writing, uotes etc. $hen in moments of darkness,surround yourself with them to remind you of who you are and what you arecapable of.

aith can also be reignited by engaging in any activity that centers you:

prayer, deep breathing, reading, mediating, ogging, drawing etc.

'hat gives you spiritual energy! 'hat acts as your life preserver! 'hat is

the motion that will pull you up when you are sinking!

$isdom

'isdom is the highest and deepest degree of knowledge, insight, and

understanding.

'isdom is not a state to be achieved, but rather a state to be recalled. 'isdom is the highest level of emotional, spiritual, and mental evolutions, at

which you value intuition as much as knowledge. t is where you synergi=e

your deepest understanding with your everyday actions.

$he most direct path to your wisdom is paved with your lifes lessons.

inding the wisdom inside you and reaching your highest levels of evolution

can be one of the most selfless lessons you can learn. t will elevate you and

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propel you along your own path so that you may contribute the results of all

your other lessons to the rest of the world.

)imitlessness

%imitlessness is the sense that there are no boundaries to what you can

become or do. You learn it when you know that your evolution is never-

ending and your potential for growth reaches to infinity. You already have infinite potential within you. $here is nothing you cannot

do, be, or have.

Gnow your limits, not so that you can honor them, but so that you can smash

them to pieces and reach for magnificence.

Each lesson you learn in your lifetime will open doorways to your own sense

of limitlessness.

$here is no limit to your compassion or patience, nor to your willingness,

commitment, tolerance, or any other pocket of understanding you reach into.

You have infinite permission to love, to grow, to re-remember all the wisdom

within you.

ummar"

9emind yourself that you are here to learn lessons.

?e present with your process. &ay attention to what you are e#periencing.

?e diligent with actions which enable you to )get* the lessons presented to you.

+sk for answers and you shall receive them.

%isten with an open heart.

E#plore all options.

"ee your udgment as a mirror.

Hiew each crisis as an opportunity.

$rust yourself.

?elieve in yourself.

%ook within yourself, to your higher self, for guidance on all your choices.

E#tend compassion to yourself.

9emember, there are no mistakes, only lessons.

%ove yourself, trust your choices, and everything is possibleF

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