Book Excerpt What Makes You You Chap 5

8/13/2019 Book Excerpt What Makes You You Chap 5

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YOU ARE THE ONE YOURE LOOKING FOR:

Relationship Tools, Reinvention Strateies,

! "e#o$in Yo%r "est Yo%&

'ONTENTS

INTRO(U'TION

)ART I RELATIONSHI) SA**Y +Tools

'HA)TER - YOUR ATTRA'TION )RIN'I)LES..........-/* What You Believe is What You Attract

*Express Your Personal Style * Create Your Power Image* 7 Steps to p!scale Your Image

*Coul" You use an Image #verhaul$* %ow to &now What You Want * 7 'aws o( Attraction

'HA)TER 0 1HAT2S LO*E GOT TO (O 1ITH IT3....45

)he ee"s %ierarchy + Yours , %is * Why You Shoul" 'earn

to -rive * Are You .ea"y /or Your Prince$*Being Single versus Being Alone

'HA)TER / O1N YOUR FE6ININE 6YSTI7UE........89

*Woman + A Wor0 o( Art * Your Image I"entity

* Poise"1 Polishe" an" #n!Point

*You Are a -esigner!#riginal1 ni2ue an" Special

* I"enti(y Your Secret Weapon


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'ONTENTS 'ONT2(

)ART II THE )O1ER OF REIN*ENTION

+Strateies

'HA)TER 4 1HO (O YOU THINK YOU ARE3..........-0

*n"erstan" the Purpose , Power o( Woman

* As a Woman )hin0s333*4etting to &now You * Are you a 'a"y!In!Waiting$

*5ove (rom )houghts )o Action* %ow Your Inner Image Shapes your #utsi"e Impact

'HA)TER ; 1HAT 6AKES YOU < YOU3 THE

=OY OF SELF>(IS'O(IS'O*ERY.............-0/

*Who Am I$ Exercise * )ap Into )he Essence o( Y#%ow to Slay the Enemies Within * Are You a Sel(!Sa6oteur$* Why Wise Women Win

*Step #utsi"e Your Com(ort one

'HA)TER ? YOU CANREIN*ENT YOUR LIFE&...-;4*Be the Change you See0

*8 Ways to )une Into your )rans(ormation

*BE!-#!%A9E *Watch your -ream &illers* See0 the Wis"om o( Intention *You Can Co!Create Your

Worl":*Your Personal 5ission Statement

'HA)TER 8 YOUR "EST YOU A woman can 6e two things? Who an" What she wants3@

'o#o 'hanel

>You get what you want1 not what you as0 (or@

Barbara Stanny, authorSecrets of Six-Figure Women

He really pulled out all the stops that night! The first

part of the evening Beverly didnt even pay any attention

to him. She wasnt attracted to him that way. She didnt

even remember how she happened to be in his apartment.

She was, however, very attracted to what she perceived as

his fabulous lifestyle.


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His apartment stretched a full city block with a thfloor

view overlooking "hicagos #ake $ichigan.

The way he had orchestrated the evening was

brilliant! The %aluha and "r&me flowed lavishly and

eventually turned into white 'ussians with the addition of

vodka. Somehow as the evening turned into night, what

was originally a small gathering of friends, suddenly

turned into (ust the two of them.

)s she prepared to leave, he must have reali*ed her

penchant for partying, and this allowed him to insist on

one last drink in the intimate piano bar downstairs. He

never gave an inkling that his plans did notinclude him

being alone that night. There was no enlightened

conversation to speak of + only cold white castle burgers

at the bar and more white 'ussians. She had completely

lost control of who she thoughtshe was and what she

was doing there, some three hours ago.


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t was the oldest scenario in the world. -et

astoundingly drunk and end up in bed with a stranger.

Beverly vividly remembered however, some two to three

hours later, him hastily shaking her awake declaring the

had an important meeting and had to leave + and so did

she! She barely had time to dress in the clothes she had

worn to work the day before, pat her hair and rush off to

work. He didnt even offer her a toothbrush.

)s he left her on the side walk in front of his

luury apartment, her dignity in tatters, Beverly reali*ed

that it was a good thing that shed never see him again.

Youve pro6a6ly hear" the ol" saying1 >clothes

"ont ma0e the man@3 )he 'esson that applies here is that

what you see on the outsi"e luxury apartment provi"es

a6solutely no clues to a persons character1 integrity orhis


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plan (or you: )heres a lot to 6e sai" (or a woman

learning how to thin0 li0e a man "oes3 Its o0ay to 6e

(ascinate" 6y the prospect o( having a goo" time + 6ut its

"um6 to 6e so impresse" with what a man chooses to

show you1 while you lose yoursel( in the process3 )his

man ha" a plan (rom the 6eginning o( the evening + 6ut

Beverly "i"nt reali;e it + nor "i" she have one o( her

own3

)he Dourney towar" sel(!"iscovery is a spiritual

one3 It lea"s you towar" "e(ining your purpose an"

mission in li(e an" inventing or reinventing yoursel(1 i(

necessary3

)o"ays woman plays a much more visi6le role in

shaping our worl" than in the past3 An" it 6egins with

"etermining your purpose3 -e(ining your purpose means


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So1 what "i" you learn a6out yoursel( in "oing this

exercise$ Are you rea"y in some areas an" not rea"y in

others$ Start D #on#entratin on @evelopin those

oo@ %alities in Bhi#h Do% are @ei#ient. You will

notice that the areas o( sel( worth1 sel(!love1 sel(!

con(i"ence are in the top (our3 Sel(!con(i"ence is at the

top o( the list right a(ter your health3

A con(i"ent woman is a sel(!su((icient woman who

6elongs to hersel(3 )he 6est way to "evelop the highest

level o( sel(!con(i"ence is to learn to 6e a little 6it more

sel(ish + not sel(!centere"1 6ut to ac0nowle"ge your

uni2ueness an" reali;e that you are important3 )his all

6egins with "eveloping a assure" sel(!image3


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Actually1 there are several proale reasonswhy

some have not chosen to have li(e 6e that goo"?

Who you are Being now is 6loc0ing that

changeO

)he 2uality o( living "oes not (it in with your

current reality conceptO

%aving your "ream come true is outsi"e the

limits set 6y your sel(!worthO

You lac0 the courage an" the con(i"ence (or

choosing outsi"e the 6oxO

What you want out o( li(e is outsi"e o( your

com(ort ;one an" therefore1 so is the

"evelopment1 growth an" enlightenment that

woul" allow you to know who you arean" to

have what you want3


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Its a har" lesson that anything you want that you

"ont now have1 can only 6e (oun" outsi"e the 6ox many

o( us have 6uilt aroun" ourselves3 )here(ore1 whatever is

missing in your li(e1 ac0nowle"ge it now an" "eal with it:

nmet nee"s consume F + K=Q o( li(e3 I( you are

nee"y1 you attract nee"y people3 )he evolve" woman has a

highly "evelope" sense o( sel(1 an" there(ore sees to it that

her personal nee"s are met 6ecause she is oriente" aroun"

her values3

When nee"s are met1 values get clear3 Sometimes

this woman a((ects others so pro(oun"ly that she o(ten

unconsciously helps others "iscover who they are an"

what they have to share with the worl"3


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A maDor purpose o( experiencing con(lict is (or

sel(!"iscovery3 As0ing yoursel( the 2uestion1 >who am I

really@1 on a regular 6asis1 will at least give you a leg up

when the time (or a new change comes aroun"3 An" youll

(in" i( you 0eep on living that the sel(!image an" i"entity

you have o( yoursel( will constantly nee" to 6e re"e(ine"3

TAP INTO THE ESSENCE OF YOU

I( you are alrea"y1 or are see0ing to 6ecome a

$ysti0ue woman1 you will "raw upon your inner essence1

which is who you are at the core level3 )his woul" inclu"e

your thoughts1 (eelings1 personality an" your "esires3

Your inner essence is in(inite1 it inclu"es all things3

Your outer essencewoul" inclu"e your physical 6o"y an"

your (acial (eatures an" characteristics3 )he inner essence


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INNER ESSEN'E OUTER ESSEN'E

Your venera6ility Your strength

Your compassion Your creativity

Your humanity Your wit

Your sophistication Your glamour

Your spirituality Your intelligence

When you learn to com6ine your outer appearance

with your inner spirit1 you can exhi6it everything you

experience through the language o( your image i"entity

without (or(eiting the special an" uni2ue woman that you

are3 You will 6egin to (eel very excite" a6out yoursel(as

well as excite those you come in contact with3 Irresisti6le

attraction sets in when you have i"enti(ie" an" proDect

your essence1 an" continue to per(ect your personal


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uni2ueness3 When you ma0e yoursel( a Mclass act ! the

6est you ! all o( your connections with others will re(lect

the empowere" an" 6alance" you3

HOW TO SLAY THE ENEMIES WITHIN

Personal (ul(ilment can only 6e attaine" when the

numerous levels an" elements o( ourselves are satis(ie"3

)his means that we can evolve into our extraor"inary

potential 6y overcoming your negative sel(!perceptions

an" sel(!impose" limitations3

)here are three things that 6rea0 us an" 0eep us

(rom having all that we want (rom li(e3

+- )ro#rastination? Putting o(( "ecisions an"

actions until a later time or never "eci"ing anything when

a "ecision is in or"er1 wastes your a6ility an" )I5E1


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which is 4o"s gi(t to us an" our most valua6le asset3

When you spen" your time trying to (in" out whats 6est

(or you + youre "oing Dust that + spen"ing your time3

%ow valua6le is time$ )ime properly investe" is worth a

(ortune3 )ime waste" can 6e total "estruction1 so invest

your time3 In"ecision ro6s you o( opportunity an"

un"erta0ing3 )he secret to winning is action:

+0 6ental lainess? )his is the line o( least

resistance in 0eeping you (rom reaching your goals3 )he

Y# that is in you is the Y# the worl" is loo0ing (or3

/orming the ha6it o( concentration1 strategi;ing an"

"ownright har" thin0ing is vital to you having complete

control over your li(e3

'istlessness is a "angerous enemy3 >%o!hum1 (orget a6out

it1 Ill Dust "ri(t along@3 But guess what1 you cant "ri(t

yoursel( to the top o( the mountain3


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+/ 1ron talJin, an@ Neative thinJin?

5ost o( us are li0e an ol" neigh6orhoo" + un"evelope"3 It

shows signs o( 6eauty an" signi(icance1 6ut it is covere"

up 6y "ilapi"ate" 6uil"ings an" "ecaying yar"s an"

si"ewal0s that nee" to 6e reha66e"1 lan"scape" an"

replenishe" to ma0e its

real 6eauty shine through3 )he way you thin0 plays a large

part in what you say1 an" what you say o(ten "etermines

the actions that you ta0e3

.ecogni;ing an" "oing 6attle with these enemies

will propel you towar" the "evelopment o( the (ertile

resources within you as well as 6uil" up your courage to

(ight whats hol"ing you 6ac03 Consistent an" repeate"

acts o( courage are re2uire" in your pursuit o( what you

want an" the person you want to 6ecome3 An"1 this starts

with turning on your P#WE..


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ARE YOU A SELF-SABOTEUR 7 SIGNS

Sin - /#CSI4 # W%A) IS #)

W#.&I4 #. #) .I4%)3

)role$: /in"ing that you thin0 a lot an" spea0 a

lot a6out what is going wrong can ma0e you (eel

"issatis(ie" an" can su6"ue your sense o( purpose

an" am6ition3 otice how o(ten you spea0 a6out

things that arent wor0ing3

A#tion: AsJ Do%rsel a neB %estion: 1hats

oin riht3 or 1hat IS BorJin3 "ein to

noti#e all the thins, no $ater hoB s$all, that

are BorJin Bell.

Sin 0 BEI4 S)C& I /EA.3

)role$: -o you worry a lot a6out the (uture an"

what is going to happen or might happen$ Are you

thin0ing a6out your (ears so much that you are

paraly;e" an" ta0e no action 6ecause o( (ear o(

what might occur$


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A#tion: AsJ Do%rsel the %estion 1hat is the

Borst thin that #o%l@ happen3 1rite @oBn the thins

Do% #annot #hane, the thins Do% Bant #o%rae to

#hane an@ a##ept that Go@ is the %lti$ate %i@e an@

Do% are not ale to #ontrol the %t%re.

Sin / /EE'I4 Y# %A9E # 9A'E

)role$: -o you (orget all your

accomplishments an" lac0 pri"e in who you are

an" what you have accomplishe"$ I( you stew an"

o6sess a6out the past or your lac0 o( success or

lac0 o( goal achievement1 then youll 6e stuc0 in

noticing how much you lac0 as a person3 I( you

o(ten critici;e yoursel( or cant accept

compliments1 you arent allowing yoursel( to love

yoursel(3

A#tion: A#JnoBle@e Do%rsel or at least ;

thins ea#h an@ everD @aD that Do% @i@ Bell.

Ea#h @aD, #o$pli$ent Do%rsel on so$ethin

Do% @i@ that Do% eel oo@ ao%t.


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Sin 4 C#5PA.IS# #/ SE'/ )#

#)%E.S.

)role$:-o you constantly compare yoursel( to

others an" then (eel 6a"ly when compare" to

them$ Comparison "oesnt motivate us to "o more

or 6e6etter1 instea" it ma0es us (eel well never 6e

goo" enough an" we arent right now3

A#tion: 1rite o%t the ; %alities Do% liJe est

ao%t Do%rsel. Then Brite o%t Bhat Do% val%e$ost in Do%r lie. "ein to #reate a list o

a@Me#tives that @es#rie Do% < at least 0;

positive Bor@s ao%t Do%rreatness.

Sin ; 5EE)I4 4#A'S A- )%E

'#SI4 )%E53

)role$: -o you not 6elieve that you "eserve to

accomplish goals an" that you are entitle" to what

you want$ What is the story un"erneath + may6e

that you arent goo" enough to have it$


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A#tion: List all the thins Do% have

a##o$plishe@ that then a@e@ aBaD. Si$plD

noti#e these thins Bith love an@ pri@e an@

@ont o#%s on the a#t theD @isappeare@. HoB

@i@ theD rin Do% satisa#tion3 HoB @i@ theD

$aJe Do% eel3

1hat is the li$itin elie that Do% have that

tells Do% insi@e BhD Do% #ant have Bhat Do%

Bant3

Sin ? C%ASI4 AWAY .E'A)I#S%IPS3

)role$: -o you always (eel something is

missing in your relationships or (in" (ault with the

other person$ Perhaps you are a(rai" o( intimacy3

n"erneath this is usually a (ear o( a6an"onment

or exposure that causes you to "istance yoursel(

(rom others3

A#tion: 'reate a list o the %alities Do% val%e in

a relationship an@ the %alities Do% Bant to

attra#t in Do%r partners. ECpress Bhat Do% Bant

an@ @ont Bant to the other person an@ alloB

the$ to eCpress the sa$e to Do%. Fo#%s on Bhat

eels oo@ ao%t the relationship.


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Sin 8 %A9I4 # P.P#SE3

)role$: -o you (eel you have no reason (or

6eing$ o purpose in li(e$ We all have some

purpose (or 6eing on the planet an" it is time to

notice yours3

Action? 1rite @oBn all the thins that are

i$portant to Do% +in#l%@e possessions, people

an@ eelins. Then Brite o%t Bhat Do% Bant to

#ontri%te to the Borl@. A@@ spirit%alitD to Do%r

lie. Give to others, ive to the Borl@ an@ eel

reat ao%t it. 6aJe re%lar #ontri%tions topeople an@ #o$$%nitD. To ive is to re#eive.


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WHY WISE WOMEN WIN

Wis"om is the a6ility to use 0nowle"ge to 6ene(it

us in all that we "o3 An" where "oes this a6ility come

(rom$ 5ost o( us who have stu"ie" these matters are

aware o( the

limitations o( sense knowledge1 recogni;ing that we are

spiritual as well as mental an" physical 6eings3 It ta0es

wis"om to un"erstan" the limitations o( "epen"ing on

what you see1 hear1 taste an" (eel to rule your li(e3

Spiritual things are as real as material things1 there(ore we

shoul" plan on spiritual things Dust as we "o on material

things3

)he /ive senses have 6een the tutors o( the 6rain3

)his is the only metho" the 6rain has o( ac2uiring

0nowle"ge3 Scientists have "iscovere" that the 6rain has


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no creative capacity or a6ility3 It can comprehen" the

messages o( the senses1 correlate an" categori;e them3 In

other wor"s1 it can organi;e this 0nowle"ge so it can an"

will 6e utili;e" to a"vantage3

)he min" cannot invent3 It can experiment as in

chemistry1 6ut it cannot "evelop anything that the senses

have not 6ought into it3 )he most astonishing thing

"iscovere"1 however1 is that the brain cannot provide

wisdom3 )he (ive senses cannot provi"e wis"om3

Your character is shape" 6y wis"om an"

un"erstan"ing3 What a6out your "ecision ma0ing

capa6ilities$ Everything that you are to"ay is the result o(

the "ecisions you have ma"e -o you allow your emotions

(ear1 "ou6t1 anger to ma0e your "ecisions (or you$ Are

you continually ma0ing the same mista0es or even (in"


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yoursel( in the same place1 "oing the same things1 (ighting

the same "evil year a(ter year$

Its never a goo" i"ea to ma0e a permanent

"ecision a6out a temporary situation an" this is a6solutely

the wrong time in your li(e to ma0e 6a" choices3

Why women nee" wis"om?


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recreate your human spirit 6y transmitting %is own nature

into it1 you will have 4o"s nature1 a6ility an" %is

wis"om3 Your recreate" spirit must then ta0e charge an"

start to "ictate to the reasoning a6ility3 Wis"om will help

you to expose the sha"owy areas o( your li(e andthe

unsupervise" areas o( your li(e3

> live a life guided by wisdom + therefore wont

limp or stumble as run.1 Prover6s H?


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you (rom reaching your -ivine "estiny3 )his is how wise

women win:

Comfort Zone

used to have a "omfort 2one 3here knew couldn4t

fail

The same four walls of busy work were really more like

(ail.

longed so much to do the things 4d never done before,

But stayed inside my "omfort 2one and paced the same

old floor.

said it didn4t matter, That wasn4t doing much

said didn4t care for things like diamonds, furs and such

claimed to be so busy with the things inside my *one,

But deep inside longed for something special of my own.

couldn4t let my life go by, 5ust watching others win.


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held my breath and stepped outside and let the change

begin.

took a step and with new strength 4d never felt before,

kissed my "omfort 2one 6goodbye6 )nd closed and

locked the door. f you are in a "omfort 2one, afraid to

venture out,

'emember that all winners were at one time filled with

doubt.

) step or two and words of praise, "an make your dreams

come true.

-reet your future with a smile, Success is there for you!

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