Bet Shira October Bulletin 2012
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strategic planJoin a strategic plan committee.Page 6
iSHABBAT Join us for aninstrumental Shabbat service and community dinner.Details on Back Cover
October 2012 Tishrei/Cheshvan 5773 Volume 28 No. 4
surviving & thriving Join us as we honor Bet Shiras Holocaust Survivors.Info on Page 6
Come Celebrate Sukkot!
Sukkot Service, 9:30 a.m.Monday, October 1
Sukkot Service, 9:30 a.m.Tuesday, October 2
Services held in Arin Stacey Applebaum SanctuaryKiddush in Sukkah
Bet Shira ReadsJoin us in reading and discussing Nathan Englanders book,What We Talk About When We Talk About Anne Frank.
Wednesday, October 10, 7:30 p.m.Conversation about Englanders book. Three stories that will be discussed are: What We Talk About When We Talk About Anne Frank, Camp Sundown, and Free Fruit for Young Widows
Wednesday, October 24, 7:30 p.m. An Evening with Nathan Englander at Bet Shira. The 32nd Alper JCC Jewish Book Festival
Andrew and Sharon Corman
Alexander and Barbara Havenick
Joshua and Michelle Rader
Dustin and Amber Young
WE WELCOME OURnEW MEMBERS
CAnTOR KULA &
COREEnS SHEvA BRACHOT
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Rabbi Schuldenfrei with the ECC Kindergarten class helping stuff Isaiah Project bags. September 11
Sisterhood volunteers, showing off their hard work on the Shirabaskets. September 10
Cantor Kula enjoying challah with ECC Kindergarten students on their first Shabbat.August 24
rABBi EmEriTuSDAvID H. AUERBACH
CANTor MARK H. KULA
EXECuTiVE DirECTorLORI SOLOMOn
ECC DirECTorJUDITH gAMPEL, ED. D
EDuCATioN DirECTorMARILYn WOLfSOn
YouTH DirECTorALEX ZAREMBA
PrESiDENTJOSEPH H. SEROTA
SiSTErHooD PrESiDENTSUZAnnE ROBERTS
riTuAl ASSiSTANTAvROn SMOLEnSKY
FiNANCE DirECTorAILEEn LAfOnT
EXECuTiVE ASSiSTANTDOnnA LEIgH-TUCKER
mEmBEr SErViCES/BullETiN BECKY CHOSED
ECC ASSiSTANT DirECTorARIEL KOBETZ
ECC ADmiN. ASSiSTANTgLADYS MARTInEZ
ECC PTA liAiSoNSHIRLEY WILLIAMS
JEC ADmiN. ASSiSTANTILEnE fREIDEL
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COnTEnTSCLERGYS CORNER4 rabbi Brian Schuldenfrei (Dont) Live (Too) Strong5 Cantor mark H. Kula Commandment: Be Happy!
fROM OUR PRESIDEnT6 Joseph H. Serota: Be a Part of Surviving and Thriving
SISTERHOOD7 Suzanne roberts8 Jewel Greetings
RITUAL10 religious Services & Candle lighting Times
SYnAgOgUE EvEnTS & nEWS11 Be in The Know!
EDUCATIOn12-13 Bet Shira: Perfect For The Young ones in Your Family
YOUTH PROgRAM14 Youth Calandar happenings and events
PROgRAMS AT BET SHIRA15-16 Adult learning, movie night, and more
Y ElloW ruBBEr BrACElETS; we all wore them a few years ago. live strongthey proclaimed. We loved the messagefully embrace life. Push forward. Give it everything you have.
This summer, the inspiration for these bracelets, the cyclist lance Armstrong became the latest in a long list of sports heroes to fall from grace because of steroids and performance enhancing drugs. Around the same time as Armstrongs demise, there was a far smaller but equally revealing headline that told of the massive cheating rings at the prestigious Stuyvesant High School in New York. At Stuyvesant, over seventy students were implicated in a cheating scam where one student photographed and distributed answers to a state wide exam. if that wasnt bad enough, the students response was more concerning:Everyone cheats. We just got caught.
it is too convenient to label lance Armstrong and the mark mcGwires of the world cheaters and move on? it is too easy to look at Stuyvesant High School and dismiss them as foolish kids. These stories beg us to go deeper and ask why. Why would a gifted and accomplished superstar inject himself with drugs designed for cattle? Why would the top high school students in New York City, all headed to great colleges, resort to cheating? The question why is most relevant because it is most revealingnot only about any particular athlete or school, but about us. The answer reveals something about us as a society, something that we need to change.
lets ask the questionWhy did lance Armstrong take all those drugs? imagine your whole life you are trained to do only one thing to be the best cyclist in the world. And you are almost there. You are great. You are one of the best. But you have been raised to be the best, not one of the best. is it a big leap to steroids? Clearly, judging by the rampant use of drugs in sportsits not a big jump.
And the students at Stuyvesant they have been studying their whole lives to get ahead, to get in to the best colleges, to get on the fast track to success. is it that hard to imagine them taking answers for a test knowing that it could help push them over the top?
This type of pressure, an incessant drive to succeed, is not unique to lance Armstrong. it is not unique to the students at Stuyvesant or students in competitive academic programs. This type of pressure is all around us, and it is part of our own lives. Armstrongs yellow bracelets encouraged us to live strong, but we already live too strong.
it starts with our children. our childrens days are over-programmed, their lives are over-structured, and there are too many demands put upon them. We push them too hard. Studies confirm that the amount of homework given to 6 through 9 year olds has more than doubled in the past twenty years. And after finishing homework there are extra-curricular activities, community service, sports. Where is the time left for a kid to be a kid?
We push too hard, and our kids feel it. According to a liberty mutual study 83 % of teenagers say they are stressed about homework and pressure to excel. The pressure just doesnt dissipateit doesnt just go away. Sometimes the pressure pops. Studies show that children who exhibit physical symptoms of stress are more likely to abuse alcohol or drugs. And sometimes the pressure is so great it changes the child. The Stuyvesant students were not alone; according to one recent survey of 12,000 high school students close to 75% of the respondents admit to cheating at some point in school. Apparently the reaction at Stuyvesant, everyone does it, we just got caught, has something to it.
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This is an excerpt from Rabbi Schuldenfreis Second Day of Rosh Hashanah sermon. To see the entire sermon, please visit
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(Dont) Live (Too) Strong!
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4 C L E R G Y S C O R N E Rfrom The Pulpit: Rabbi Brian Schuldenfreibschuldenfrei@betshira.org
r EFlECTiVE roSH HASHANAH, awesome Yom Kippur and joyous Sukkot, kick off the Jewish New Year. During this opening season of the Jewish calendar, we take responsibility for our Jewish future. We try to let go of what burdens us, damages our being and limits our souls. Better yet, we will build on our finest moments and most excellent experiences thereby advancing our personal, communal and professional lives. of course, following this path leads to the added benefit of helping others and providing individual fulfillment and happiness.
october begins with Sukkot, which Judaism titles, our Holiday of Happiness. From the onset the new Jewish calendar year guides and hopefully inspires us to prioritize happiness. maybe the message is simply do the best you can to be happy. Jewish tradition teaches that upon approaching another person, do so with a happy and pleasant demeanor. A great philosopher wrote that it is good to choose happiness because it is good for you. medical studies support the choice of happiness. Judaism has a serious side that is more than balanced out by its commandments to be happy.
The Sukkah, a fragile structure, symbolizes the limits of possessions. Celebrating guests, family and community that gather in the Sukkah is what matters most and is a primary message of the Sukkah. The fragrant lemony Etrog and luxurious lulav palm greens focus on the beauty of nature. included in the liturgy on Sukkot are our prayers for rain and good seasons highlighting the blessing of sustenance. The entire holiday season ends with the singing and dancing of Simchat Torah.
We are commanded to count our blessings and be happy. in fact, rabbi Schuldenfrei and i begin each Kabbalat Shabbat, Friday evening service, with the invitation of recalling the blessings of the week. Think about it. A secret to being happy is looking at life and seeing the blessing around us. Judaism is on to something about upgrading life. The melodic stream of the Holiday season and the majority of Jewish practices are encouragement to perceive and feel the presence of blessing. The word for blessing, Baruch, has two similar words originating from the same root. Berech means knee and connects to blessing in the sense that our knees brace us for life and enable us to leap upward and forward. The other word is Beraycha meaning pool and it too is related to Baruch, for connecting to blessing envelops our entire being as do the waters of a pool. Go for it and gauge your blessings Blessing conscientiousness will lead to more happiness. As the Holiday season closes this year, may the sweet melodies of the festival linger and the feelings of happiness be a harmonizing feature of the coming year.