B'Bayit in the Home

Supplement to Jewish News, November 12, 2012

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Dear Readers,

the things that make a house a home are unique to every person

and family, but the things that make a house a Jewish home are

fairly universal.

Inside a Jewish home, you’ll find candlesticks—used on a

regular basis to usher in Shabbat and during most Jewish festivals

and special occasions. Many young women receive their first candlesticks as a

Bat Mitzvah or Confirmation gift, and treasured candlesticks are passed down

from generation to generation.

A Kiddush cup, also used during Shabbat and on special occasions, is fre-

quently displayed alongside the candlesticks.

Somewhere in a Jewish house, you may also spot a Chanukiah, the menorah

used during Chanukah, a mizrach—a decorative item used to indicate which

way to face during prayers (east), and perhaps a ketubah, or marriage certificate.

Outside the home, and frequently inside as well—whether it’s an apartment,

condo or mansion—affixed to a doorpost will be a mezuzah. Inside a decorative

container is a parchment scroll that contains the Shema; the mezuzah fulfills the

commandment to inscribe the Shema prayer “on the doorposts of your house.”

In this special Home issue of Jewish News, we explore area gift shops where

we can find candlesticks, Kiddish cups and mezuzot, as well as other unique

Judaica. Local design experts share decorating tips and trends, and we discover

the benefits one Norfolk family gets from switching to solar power. We learn how

a local rug shop owner is giving back to those who are less fortunate. And for

our senior population, when staying home is as important as making a home,

we highlight a Jewish Family Service of Tidewater program that helps ensure

that can happen.

From our Jewish News home to yours, we’d like to share a translation of the

Birkat Habiyat blessing, which can be found on artwork and tapestries hanging

on the walls of Jewish homes:

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area experts share decorating design tipsby Laine M. Rutherford

when it comes to

interior design and

decorating, choic-

es are abundant,

popular, individu-

al, classically elegant, ultra-contemporary,

endless.

For some people, redecorating or mov-

ing—whether for the first time or last—is

an exciting challenge. For others, it can be

an overwhelming task.

Jewish News asked three local interior

design veterans to share some of their

design tips, as well as decorating trends

they’re noticing in Hampton Roads. Simon

Driscoll of Young’s Flooring, Shawn Griffey

of Decorum Furniture and Francine Morgan

of Designs by Francine lend their expert

advice on home elements, ranging from

color choices to picking a design style.

JN: There are so many different kinds of

flooring options, from wood to carpeting to

cement. What flooring choices do you rec-

ommend? What kinds of floors are people

requesting?

Simon Driscoll: For cost efficiency,

carpet is less expense; it fits a lot of

budgets and offers a nice comfort fac-

tor. For our older clients, though, we

recommend if they’re going to use car-

peting that they go with a really dense

padding, to reduce any kind of tripping

hazard. Hardwood floors are probably

best for that population. Another great

choice is sheet vinyl. Yes, vinyl is mak-

ing a huge comeback, with the vinyl

plank and vinyl tiles that reproduce the

look of wood and tile. The quality of the

images is so good that it’s deceptive. If

you looked at some of the planks, you’d

think it was real wood, but it’s not.

We are seeing a lot of requests for

dark colored wood floors; the rustic

and dark, weathered look is very popu-

lar right now. People need to realize

though, that just like having a black

carpet, these floors show everything

and they require more maintenance.

Another very popular choice today is

cork flooring. There are a lot of benefits

to cork—it is antimicrobial, it’s an excel-

lent insulator and it’s an excellent option

as a “green” flooring because you don’t

kill any trees with cork; cork comes

from the bark of the tree.

Francine Morgan: I mostly like

hardwood. You can get laminate floors,

but what a lot of people don’t know, and

need to be aware of, is that they make

a lot of noise when you walk on them.

On floors today, we’re seeing a lot of

textured area rugs over hardwood. And,

for me, the carpet of choice is wool; it

is the easiest rug to get stains out of and

lasts a lot longer than other materials.

JN: Paint colors—should we go bold, or

should we go neutral? And what about any

other kinds of wallcoverings?

Shawn Griffey: Paint is such an

individual statement...that is why there

are so many colors to choose from.

Neutrals, and barely there colors are

easiest to live with long term, espe-

cially in large spaces or unifying several

smaller rooms. But color can be such a

wonderful expression of who you are,

and really set a tone for a room.

Francine Morgan: You have to be

careful when you use colors other than

neutrals, and the popular ones right

now that we’re seeing are bright orange

and fuchsia. That said, they can really

make a room “pop.” I still love choco-

late brown for walls. Wallpaper was out

of style for a long time, but it’s coming

back, particularly grass cloth. We’re

seeing wallpaper in kitchens and bath-

rooms, and we’re seeing a lot of tile, too.

Mosaic back splashes and glass tile are

very popular.

JN: What about our windows? Do we need window treatments throughout the house? What about upscale blinds or plan-tation shutters instead?

Shawn Griffey: Window treat-

ments can be a useful way to block out

sun and ensure privacy. Often they can

soften a room or dress it up. Cleaner,

more contemporary looks need not

be overdressed, that is why planta-

tion shutters and upscale blinds are so

popular. Modern looks with spacious,

commanding views can look amazing

with no treatments at all.

Francine Morgan: Decorating has

taken a simpler turn, things are less

fussy, so gone are the fringes and trim

on window treatments; that heavy

European look is out and the contem-

porary, clean look is in. You might see

Roman shades or roller shades made

out of fabrics. Instead of draperies, we’ll

use stationary side panels only, hung on

simple drapery rods.

JN: How can we reuse what we have to make

our homes look fresh? And can you suggest

ways to update pieces of furniture that may

be good quality, but just look dated?

Francine Morgan: Lacquer finishes

in different colors on old pieces can

make them look all new. We recently

took an old buffet, lacquered it in white

and it is stunning. You can also apply an

antique chip finish to old wood pieces:

refinish the piece, then take steel wool

and run it just along the edges. It makes

the piece still look old, but fresh and

contemporary at the same time. People

should also be aware that although they

may have a very good sofa or chair that

they’d like to reuse, by the time they

have it reupholstered and repaired, they

could have bought a new piece that’s

just as good.

Shawn Griffey:Repurposing furni-

ture can be tricky. Painting or staining

is the most popular way to transform

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JN: What is the one piece of furniture in which we should really make a significant investment?

Shawn Griffey: The most important

investment piece you should invest in

is. Comfort, which is so subjective. You

and your guests should be comfortable

when sitting, or no one is going to be

happy. Comfort is the key while read-

ing, eating, watching television, and

especially sleeping.

Francine Morgan: Nice rugs and

a comfortable sofa—with cushions

made of spring down—are always great

investments.

JN: What are the best accessories to buy?

(Pillows, lamps, tchotchkes, collections of

items?)

Shawn Griffey: Accessories are the

jewelry for your home…they can make

all the difference. Lamps can be useful,

and beautiful. Pillows can freshen up a

space, and help transform a look. Wall

art is so important because it can truly

transform a space. Art glass has become

popular because it really has so much

personality, and can look so perfect in

the right space.

JN: Should we group our collections or

spread them out?

Shawn Griffey: Small clusters of

accessories that complement each other

based on texture, color, shape are what

usually work best. Don’t be afraid to

contrast or juxtapose items, as lining up

or displaying too much of the same type

accessory can be like a “forest through

the trees.” Try creating several vignettes

around the room.

Francine Morgan: I like to see col-

lections grouped, in cabinets, in tables,

on shelves. A great look these days is

large groups of pictures grouped togeth-

er, maybe over a sofa. While the sizes of

the pictures can be different, all of them

should have the same frames so that the

grouping looks neat.

JN: How important is lighting?

Shawn Griffey: Lighting is the

most important aspect of any room.

Obviously, being able to see is critical,

but the mood and ambience a properly

lit room can create is invaluable.


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JN: Should we go for one design look, or is

mixing and matching good-? Can you give

us any pointers on doing it successfully?

Shawn Griffey: Unifying a space can

be as simple as going for one design

look, but today’s trends are mixing it up

and contrasting modern elements with

earthy, warm pieces. “Urban Organic”

really is about taking a lean look and

adding natural, textured pieces (both

large and small) into the space to add

personality and individualism, remem-

ber your home should be a reflection of

who you are.

JN: Any last advice you’d like to share, or

a special “something” you’d like to share?

Simon Driscoll: If you’re looking to

put carpet in your home, the style right

now is anything with variation and

texture in it. For wood floors, people

like the look of wider boards, but in

this area, we really don’t recommend

anything wider than 4”in solid woods

because of the humidity. Unless the

whole house has humidity control, the

floors can buckle, bow, warp or distort.

There are, though, a broad spectrum

of engineered planks that work well in

this area, and those come in very wide

boards. They have a plywood type of

construction with a veneer of wood on

them and are refinishable and work well

in our climate.

Shawn Griffey: If you want to fresh-

en your look, decide what bothers you

the most, and what you really can’t part

with...then edit your look (you may

need help!).

Francine Morgan: The simpler turn

that decorating has taken applies to

upholstery as well as window treat-

ments. No more prints on upholstery!

I like to use linen, upholstery-weight,

in solid colors, and then decorate with

throw pillows in a lot of geometric

prints. Another new thing that’s getting

popular is intaglios. They’re small, oval

pieces that resemble a Roman relief

and are made out of plaster. Mounted,

they’re grouped together on a wall and

they look just wonderful. A few other

decorating choices that have become

popular are farm sinks in the kitchen,

and countertops in the bath and kitchen

made of granite and Carrara marble—all

of which I think are good looks for the

home.


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by Terri Denison

once limited to a mezuzah

at the front door, a single

pair of Shabbat candlesticks

and a Chanukah menorah,

Judaica for the home used

to be pretty simple and not-so-easy to find.

Synagogue gift shops or a trip to Israel were

the primary sources of these essential items

for a Jewish home in Tidewater.

That’s all changed.

Today, couples prominently exhibit their

ketubah, mezuzot are found on multiple

doors, Shabbat candlesticks, Kiddush cups

and Chanukiyot are displayed all year long.

And, that’s just the beginning. Havdalah

sets, traditional blessings for the home on

plaques and tapestries, and Jewish-themed

serving pieces abound.

What’s more, purchasing Jewish-themed

items—from menorahs to clever holders of

a crushed wedding glass—is more conve-

nient than ever.

Susan Krohn, owner of Worththewait in

Virginia Beach, says that Shabbat candle-

sticks and mezuzot are probably the most

often requested gifts of Judaica for a new

home in her store.

“We even sell a lot of mezuzot to non-

Jewish people who like them in their home,”

says Krohn. “And the Hamsa’s are popular.

“I find a lot of times non-Jewish people

buy for their Jewish friends and know that

I can help them pick out the appropriate

gift,” says Krohn.

Worththewait, which also sells Jewish

themed jewelry, is open seven days a week.

Operating during school hours, Hebrew

Academy of Tidewater’s gift shop sells

child-friendly Judaica, in addition to Jewish

games and crafts, says Deb Segaloff, direc-

tor of development for the school. The

HAT store’s offerings aren’t limited to only

children’s items, however.

“We have a lot of ritual items, includ-

ing kosher parchments for mezuzot,” says

Segaloff.

One of her favorite items in the shop

are “beautiful Shabbat candles from Safed

in Israel. They are just $12 and I can barely

keep them in stock,” says Segaloff. Along the

same line, “We also have a hand-designed

Shabbat match box made in Israel.”

Segaloff says both items make excellent

hostess gifts. She notes that all proceeds

from the shop go to support the school.

Clay Barr and Lauren Baros-Barr, own-

ers of the web-based Missions Possible gift

site, spend a lot of time attending gift and

craft shows around the country to secure

unique gifts for all occasions.

“I particularly think that Judaica is

important to impress upon the next genera-

tion what we’re about,” says Clay Barr.

For a different gift for a home, she sug-

gests a challah board. Missions Possible

offers them in a variety of styles, includ-

ing some with salt holders and matching

knives.

“One of my favorite gifts now is a L’Dor

V Dor challah cover,” says Barr. “It is per-

sonalized for each family with photographs.

It makes a great future heirloom.”

Even more unique, is the Israeli artist

that Missions Possible features who crafts

mezuzot and hamsa’s out of concrete. (Yes,

concrete. What will those Israelis come up

with next?)

Since it is on the Internet, shopping at

Missions Possible can take place any time

of day. And, they are available by phone

during the week.

Beth Sholom Village and most area syn-

agogues have gift shops and carry a wide

range of items for Jewish homes. It is best

to call each for hours of operation.


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Benefits of solar power shine brightly for Norfolk family

by Laine M. Rutherford

Growing up, Elena Barr Baum

remembers being the type of

child who, after school, was

pulling litter out of the river.

“And that was even before recycling was

a big thing,” she says. “I believe now, and

have always believed, that any small thing

you can do to lessen the burden of our liv-

ing on this planet is a good thing.”

Five years ago, Baum, her husband

Gary and their three children, decided to

make a change that would help both the

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The family switched their electric-

ity source from a 100 percent reliance on

Dominion Virginia Power, to using the sun’s

power, with Dominion remaining in place if

backup is needed.

Solar panels were installed

on the roof of their Norfolk

home, virtually invisible from

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ing houses. The panels supply

3.2 kilowatts worth of power,

which is brought in through

wires that connect to an

inverter, which in turn chang-

es the power so it’s useable

through the house’s existing

electrical wiring.

The Baums also installed a

solar hot water heater, which

feeds the gas water heater they have and

uses much less electrical power.

The investment in going solar was sig-

nificant, Baum says, but at the time the

federal government was offering an imme-

diate 30 percent tax credit on the capital

outlay of switching to solar energy, and

the state was also offering a rebate. After

speaking with neighbors, professionals and

builders, they decided installing the new

system would be worth the expense.

“We didn’t know how much money we

would save on our bills, but we were con-

vinced that with three teenagers growing up

in our home, we’d definitely save some, and

we knew, in a positive way, we’d be helping

the environment.”

Monetarily, since installing the solar

panels and heater, the family has seen its

Dominion Power bills cut in half—even

in the summer, Baum says. An average bill

for their 4,000-square-foot home averages

$150 a month.

The Baums have become solar advo-

cates. For the past four years, their home

has been on a Solar Tour of homes in the

area, and they support the local group that

works with the tour.

“I’m a ‘green’ person, so I think the pan-

els make my roof look more attractive,” says

Baum. “Really, they are very unobtrusive and

I wish more people would use solar power—

it’s been a great, easy change in our lives.”

For more information about the

solar power industry, visit the

American Solar Energy Society’s

website, at www.ases.org.

Meter on the water tank that is heated by the solar energy.

Solar panels on the back of the Baum’s roof.

Elena and Gary Baum with son Asher in front of the inverter in their garage. The inverter charges the solar power brought into the house so that it is usable through their home’s electrical system.


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a significant concern as people grow older is that they may have to leave

their home. This means leaving behind a comfortable setting, familiar

community and memories. Plus, a certain amount of control is lost when

one leaves home. This “control” provides the underpinning to feelings of

dignity, quality of life and independence. One’s home is a strong element in

that sense of security.

In fact, an AARP survey found that more than 80% of seniors desire to stay in their

homes for the rest of their lives. This “stay at home” approach is also known as Aging in

Place, a term used to describe a senior living in the residence of their choice as they age,

while being able to have any services or other support they might require as their needs

change. Many reasons exist for this strong Aging in Place preference, including a com-

fortable environment, being near family, safety and security, familiarity, and feelings of

independence.

The majority of seniors aged 65 and older currently live either with a spouse or alone

in their own home. Many of these people struggle with everyday tasks, their health care

and the lives they lead in their homes. For some, quality of life may suffer as they get older.

This is why an Aging in Place plan is vital.

To Age in Place, one should be aware of community help and services available to deal

with increasing frailty or age-related problems. They may also be needed in the event of

illness. Such services may include:

TransporTaTion— including trips to the grocery store, home delivery of grocer-

ies, and transportation to medical appointments.

Homecare

• Supervision of medication.

• Meal preparation.

• Bathing, dressing and personal care.

• Personal care assistance.

• Private care when hospitalized.

• Companionship and family support.

Jewish Family Service of Tidewater offers this full spectrum of services and more with

certified nursing assistants, nurse’s aides, and home health aides. Licensed practical

nurses are available when more comprehensive care—such as blood pressure monitor-

ing, medication administration and catheter care—is needed. And, if skilled services are

required, the agency has registered nurses, physical, occupational and speech therapists,

and even a registered dietitian on staff to care for the patient.

JFS staff helps develop a personalized care plan that works for the senior and his/

her family.

Aging in Place is for responsible people who want to ensure their quality of life and live

it out in dignity, without being a burden to their family or community. It’s important to

take the time to think about needs, research options and put together a plan that is good

for the entire family.

Aging in Place is also for those caring for an elderly parent or loved one. Caregivers can

be the most help by working with the senior to ensure their needs are met and wishes are

respected. By providing the level of care that is right for them, a senior’s dignity is kept in

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tHaNKSGiViNG at HomeFor a thanksgiving seder, it’s all about the ‘hodu’

by Edmon J. Rodman

LOS ANGELES (JTA)—Sitting down to

the well-set table every November, even

though it is filled with family and food, I

always feel that something is missing—a

Jewish connection to the Thanksgiving

story.

A dinner without the drama of the

Exodus, like the Passover seder, leaves

me just with the turkey to send my spirits

soaring.

It’s not that I need another haggadah—I

already know why this night is different:

the stuffing isn’t made of matzah meal.

But what about borrowing the idea of the

seder’s four cups of wine—the Tu b’Shvat

seder does this, as well—to help organize

the evening in a Jewish way?

Liking the idea of repeating an action

four times but wanting a change from rais-

ing a glass, I played thematically with four

feathers, four fall leaves, even sticking four

olives—so American, yet a fruit of Israel,

too—on my fingers.

For inspiration I turned to William

Bradford, a passenger on the Mayflower

and later the governor of Plymouth colony,

who as it turned out was a figure who

could bridge the gap between Puritan and

Jewish narratives.

In Of Plymouth Plantation, his journal of

the Pilgrims, Bradford made comparative

references between the Pilgrims’ voyage

and the Israelites’ Exodus. Later in life,

according to Stephen O’Neill, the

curator of Pilgrim Hall Museum in

Plymouth Mass., Bradford “taught

himself Hebrew,” even writing

a book of Hebrew exercises.

According to Bradford’s

journal, the Mayflower

Pilgrims gave thanks upon

their landing: “Being thus

arrived in a good harbor

and brought safe to land, they

fell upon their knees & blessed ye God

of heaven, who had brought them over ye

vast & furious ocean,” reads the text.

“Let them therfore praise ye Lord,

because he is good,” wrote Bradford, quot-

ing from Psalm 107, which in Hebrew

begins with the word “hodu,” “give thanks.”

Here was my repeating element.

Saying hodu, or thanks, four times in

my Thanksgiving seder would work, and

in a fortuitous Hebrew play on words, hodu

also happens to mean “turkey.”

First hodu: Begin your Thanksgiving

seder with a blessing over a glass of wine

or juice. Though historians think the

Pilgrims probably drank water at the first

Thanksgiving, they were not teetotalers—

they later produced a hard cider, even a

watered-down version for children.

Then say a Shehecheyanu. During their

first year in the New World, slightly more

than half of the Mayflower’s 102 passen-

gers survived. Sitting together around the

table and saying this blessing—especially

in a year when nature has made it pain-

fully clear how fragile life can be—reminds

us that God grants us life, sustains us and

enables us to reach this day.

Since the first Thanksgiving followed

the corn harvest, the hamotzi blessing is in

order. Break some bread—at this seder you

don’t even need to dip it once. Say a hodu

for a cornucopia of blessings.

Second hodu: In 1621, Edward Winslow

wrote a letter to a friend in England describ-

ing the first Thanksgiving meal

shared by the Pilgrims

with the Indians: “Our governor sent four

men on fowling, that so we might after a

special manner rejoice together after we

had gathered the fruit of our labors.”

Adding to the menu, we find in

Winslow’s account that to help feed

the assemblage, including 90 from the

Wampanoag tribe and “their greatest king

Massasoit,” the Native Americans “went out

and killed five deer.”

At your table, ever thankful that some-

one else has done the “fowling,” and that

you haven’t hit a deer with your car, some-

body should hold up the turkey (or Tofurky)

platter and thank the “greatest” cook.

To add a sense of family tradition to

the meal, also hold up the other dish-

es, acknowledging what the guest

households—the tribes—have contributed

to the meal. One should ask, from whom

was the recipe passed down?

For tables with children in elementary

school, it’s also a good time for show and

tell. One should ask, from what did you

make that lovely centerpiece? Go ahead

and kvell.

Say a hodu of recognition and dig in to

your Thanksgiving meal.

Third hodu: Before dessert, talk about

the perilous journey of the Pilgrims toward

religious freedom from England to Holland

and finally to Plymouth. Each person at

the table can introduce the story of their

own family about coming to America; one

should tell of the going out.

Say a hodu of freedom and feel free to

indulge in pie.

Fourth hodu: Last year, having a guitar-

playing guest at our Thanksgiving dinner

really gave us a chance to sing out our feel-

ings. After dessert we sang old American

favorites like “Turkey in the Straw” and “If I

Had a Hammer.”

This year I want to add a passage from

“Birkat hamazon,” the grace after Meals” that

begins with the words “Kakatuv, V’achalta

v‘savata,” “And you shall eat and have

enough, and then you shall thank the Lord

your God for the good land He gave you.”

Say a final hodu: As a guest, for the

hospitality of your hosts. As a host, for the

opportunity to bring together your family

and friends.

Then pray you can get up from the

table.

—Edmon J. Rodman is a JTA columnist who

writes on Jewish life from Los

Angeles.

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