Avoid Looking Stupid at Dinner
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Avoid Looking Stupid at Dinner
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Job Success
Harvard, Carnegie Foundation and Standford Research Center
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People Skills (whoyou are)Technical Skills (whatyou know)
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The Three Golden Rules1) Not there to eat
A work dinner is a social occasion with an agenda.
Relax, and remember the goals of the dinner while at the table.
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2) Be discreet
You’re invited to be part of the evening, not to be the star.
Human resource staff say about new hires, “New hires try too hard to impress their colleagues.”
The Three Golden Rules
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The Three Golden Rules3) Follow your host
Since you’re not paying, you need to follow the lead set by your host.
Think of the dinner experience as “Simon Says” or “Follow the Leader.”
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Seating Maitre D’ – escorts you to your table.
Ladies, the “D” may pull your chair out for you to help you get seated.
Gentlemen, the “D” may put the napkins on your lap. Just say thank you and move on.
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Seating Napkins
Placing your napkin on your lap seems like such a simple thing to remember, but it’s so easy to forget.
Your napkin should be on your lap at all times. If you need to excuse yourself at any point, put your napkin in your chair, not back on the table. A napkin on the table may be seen as a signal to your server that you’re finished with your meal and your plate may be taken.
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Seating Leave the menu
Once you are seated, do not pick up the menu.
Talk to those around you.
Keep an eye on Simon. Once Simon picks up his or her menu, you can start looking.
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Seating Small Talk
In order to avoid an uncomfortable silence, prior to the meal, you should ask about the people joining you and find out a little about them.
You also might want to freshen up on current events, sports, or other potential topics.
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Seating Handshake
The proper handshake involves eye-contact and a three-second firm grip. That’s it.
Not:The Fish: limp shake with no eye contact.The Gorilla: send the signal, “I can break you.”
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Wine (if Simon Says) Named after the Grape - pronunciations
Cabernet Sauvignon (cab-er-nay sav-in-yon)Chardonnay (shar-don-ay)Merlot (mer-low)Pinot Noir (pee-no-n’war)Reisling (rees-ling)Shiraz (sure-oz)Zinfandel (zin-fan-del)
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Wine (if Simon Says) Named after the Region -
Beaujolais (bo-zha-lay) *France
Bordeauz (bor-doe) *France
Burgandy (bur-gun-dee) *France
Chablis (sha-blee) *France
Champagne (hap-pee-nu-yeer) *France
Chianti (key-awn-tee) * from Italy
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Ordering Wine (if Simone Says) Red or White
The first thing you should ask the table is, “Would you like red or white?”
Or make the decision based on the food:beef, lamb, and pork = red wineschicken and fish = white winespastas = match with sauce
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Ordering Food Words on a menu that disguise their true identity
Bouillabaise and Fricassee – stewsRed mullet – fishCaviar – fish eggsFoie gras – goose liverMorels – brain-like fungusCapers – flower budCeviche – raw fishGnocchi – potato dumplingsVermicelli – thin spaghettiArugula – salad greenCarpaccio – raw beefLeek - onion
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Ordering Food Close your menu
When you are finished selecting your meal, close your menu! It seems so obvious, but if you leave it open, the server is never going to come to your table.
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Table SettingGlasses are on your right.Break plate is on your left.
An easy way to remember:Hold your hands out in front of you in
the “ok” sign. Use a little imagination and you’ll see a “b” and a “d” for bread and drink on your left and right hand.
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Silverware Review
Rule of thumb: Work from the outside in.
Never allow used silverware to rest on the table.
Soup – when you come to the bottom of your bowl, tilt the bowl away from you to get the last of your soup.
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Silverware Butter knife and plate
You should always “butter your plate” first and use this butter for your bread. You never want to continue returning to the original butter.
Tear off bite-sized portions of your bread, and only butter the portions as you eat them.
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Finished EatingOnce you’ve finally finished eating, you should put your silverware on your plate, fork tongs down, in this position (roughly 4 o’clock).
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After Dinner After Dinner Drinks
Port Wine – These wines are sweeter than normal wines and are rarely consumed during the meal. Their alcoholic content is greater than most regular wines.
Whisky – This is a liquor made from grain. Scotch and Bourban are both types of whiskeys. Scotches – There are two kinds of scotches: single malts
(they come from one distillery), and blends such as Chevis Regal, J&B, and Dewar’s.
Brandy – This is an alcoholic liquor distilled from wine.
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Thank YouBesides using manners, another way to distinguish yourself at a business dinner is to send a thank-you to your host for inviting you to dinner.
This may not always be appropriate if the host was your immediate boss (you brown-nose), but a thank-you is important if a client was the host. This simple gesture can go a long way.