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Everyone grieves differently, at their own pace. Grief is lifelong and will have peaks and valleys of emotions.

If your grief, depression, or stress from your job and relationships have not begun to lessen after six to 12 months, you may need to see a counselor for help with working through the process.

Appropriate Grief

How do you Say Good-bye?

How do you say good-bye to not only a dream, but a part of you? How do you say good-bye to one so

young and small, who lived such a short time - perhaps only in the mother’s womb?

There is no one right way for you to say your good-bye. This is a time when your choices and needs should be met. This is your opportunity to do what would brings you comfort.

You may want to name your baby. Parents have given names even

when the loss occurs very early in the pregnancy. The name you

choose for your baby should be one that comes from your heart. Thename may be one that you had considered as soon as you knew you

were pregnant, or you may change your mind. Whatever name you

choose should come from deep within your heart because that name -

deep in your heart will always be baby’s name. Part of giving baby

a name helps to create an identity for him or her. If the sex of your baby is not known, you can choose one that would fit either one. Again, if your heart tells you that your baby is a girl for example,

choose a name for a girl.

Sometimes parents write their baby a letter, poem or song as a way of saying good-bye. Siblings may

choose to draw the baby a picture. These can be very private ways of saying good-bye, or they can be part

of the memorial service for the baby. Many parents express a sense of peace of having some formal way

of communicating their feelings to their baby. Another way a parent or family may honor their baby is by

planting trees or flowers as a symbol of the love they had hoped to give.

You can hold a memorial service at your house. You can arrange your own private memorial service at any funeral home. You can join in a group ceremony provided by UAMS and Roller Funeral Homes

(free of charge)

PPlanning a service:

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What Parents Can Do: Create a special “memory box” containing such things as the

hospital mementos, sympathy cards, special gifts, personalnotes or a diary of your feelings about your baby and thisexperience.

Plant flowers or a tree in honor of the baby. Make a list of loving things that come your way. Wear a charm. Have the baby’s birthstone set in a ring. Have the baby’s name written in a special place. Buy a special Christmas tree ornament in memory of your loved one. Plan a special service if there is no burial. Find a support group.

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If you are interested in the last option, Roller on Chenal in Little Rock will jjoin your baby with all of the other babies in cremation. We will hold a memorial ceremony every spring to honor and remember your precious little one that was lost too soon. There is a plot at the Riverwood Memorial Gardens in Maumelle, Arkansas ((301 Carnahan Dr, Maumelle, AR)This will be your baby's final resting place and a place that you can visit to reflect, pray,, talk to your baby,, gather in fellowship and remember.

Keepsakes

Keepsakes and mementos are often hard to look at or accept at the time that your baby dies. Pictures are

one type of keepsake that may be difficult to think about. Many parents often refuse pictures at the time

that their baby dies only to regret it later. Your baby can be photographed with your consent and you can

obtain the pictures at a later date. Your nurse will discuss this with you. Other keepsakes include a baby

ID bracelet, footprints, a lock of baby’s hair, the blanket or clothes that your baby wore when you held

him or her. If the baby’s clothes and blanket become soiled, you may be offered a new set instead. You

can decide which set of clothes you wish to keep. You will be given a tiny gold ring as a memento of

your baby. This ring can be worn on a chain or kept inside the box of keepsakes.

Grief/Bereavement Resources for Children

These books have been recommended by a variety of experienced providers and support

personnel, and may be helpful for children of various ages. We recommend that parent(s) read

the book beforehand to make sure it is a good fit for your particular child and situation.

• Always and Forever (Allen Durant)

• Badger’s Parting Gifts (Susan Varley)

• Bridge to Terabithia (Katherine Paterson)

• Children Grieve Too (Joy Johnson, Marvin Johnson)

• Dancing on the Moon (Janice Roper)

• Ethan's Butterflies: A Spiritual Book for Parents and Young Children after a Baby's Passing (Jonas-Simpson, Friis)

• Fire in my heart, Ice in my Veins: A Journal for Teenagers Experiencing a Loss (Enid Samuel Traisman)

• Gentle Willow: A Story for Children About Dying (Joyce C. Mills)

• Grief is Like a Snowflake (Julia Cook)

• Healing a Child’s Grieving Heart (Allen Wolfelt)

• How I Feel: A Coloring Book for Grieving Children (Allen Wolfelt)

• I Miss You: A First Look at Death (Pat Thomas)

• I’ll Always Love You (Hans Wilhelm)

• Kids Worry Too (www.nebraskamed.com/helpingchildren)

• Lifetimes, a Beautiful Way to Explain Death {to your other children} (Bryan Mellonie, Robert Ingpen)

• Love Never Stops (Emilio Parga)

• No New Baby (Marilyn Gryte)

• Remember the Secret (Elisabeth Kubler-Ross)

• Sad Isn’t Bad: A Good-Grief Guidebook for Kids Dealing with Loss (Michaelene Mundy)

• Something Happened: A Book for Children and Parents Who Have Experienced Pregnancy Loss (Cathy Blanford)

• Stacy Had a Little Sister (Wendie Old)

• Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers: How to Cope with Losing Someone You Love (Earl A. Grollman)

• Supporting Children After a Suicide Loss: A Guide for Parents and Caregivers (Sarah S. Montgomery, Susan M. Coale)

• Tear soup, a recipe for Healing After Loss (Pat Schweibert)

• The Dead Bird (Margaret Wise Brown, Christian Robinson)

• The Fall of Freddie the Leaf: A Story of Life for All Ages (Leo Buscaglia)

• The Invisible String (Patrice Karst)

• This Book is for All Kids, but Especially My Sister Libby. Libby Died. (Jack Simon)

• We Were Gonna to Have a Baby, But We Had an Angel Instead (Pat Schwiebert, Taylor Bills)• What Will I tell the Children? (www.nebraskamed.com/helpingchildren)

• When Dinosaurs Die (Laurie Krasny Brown, Marc Brown)

• When Someone Very Special Dies: Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief {drawing out feelings series} (Marge Heegaard)

• Where’s Jess? For Children Who Have a Brother or Sister Die (Marvin Johnson)\Free Brochures to Download- https://www.nebraskamed.com/patients/child-life/resources

• What Will I Tell the Children• Kids Worry Too

• There are many other resources located on http://www.archildrens.org/health-and-wellness/the-center-for-good-mourning

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Resources

Chaplain ServicesThe Pastoral Care Department at UAMS provides pastoral and emotional support to patients, and their loved ones as they deal with the difficult issues surrounding a hospitalization. Our care begins by recognizing the dignity and worth of each individual and a commitment to treat each of our patients and their loved ones with respect and compassion. We respect the faith traditions of our patients and, when requested, our staff will contact a patient’s pastor or representative of their faith community. We recognize that our patients have their own family traditions, come from different cultural backgrounds, and have their own unique ways of expressing what gives their life meaning. Our chaplains respect these differences and seek to provide the kind of religious support each patient needs as an individual. If you would like to have a pastoral visit or to speak with a chaplain, you may call the Pastoral Care Department at 501-686-6890 or the Chaplain Pager at 501-688-2060.

Women & Infant Service Line Bereavement Coordinator

(501) 251-5996

Email: lovelives@uams.edu

www.uamshealth.com/LoveLives

ANGELS call center: (501) 526-7425Patient Education: (501) 686-8084Lactation: (501) 526-7425- Inpatient Or (501) 526-3558- OutpatientWomen’s Mental Health Clinic: (501) 526-8201

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255Crisis Text Line: Text Ark to 741-741

For Emergencies please go to the Emergency Room or Call 911

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Bereavement Resources for Families

For parents with a prenatal diagnosis of a life-limiting birth defect or condition, or those making

difficult decisions about the care of their infant: BOOKS:

A Gift of Time: Continuing Your Pregnancy When Your Baby’s Life is Expected to be Brief

(Amy Kuebelbeck, Deborah Davis)

Waiting with Gabriel (Amy Kuebelbeck)

Sufficient Grace (Kelly Gerken)

I Will Carry You: the Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy (Angie Smith)

A Time to Decide, A Time to Heal (Molly Minnick, Kathleen Delp)

Difficult Decisions (Centering Corporation)

Loving and Letting Go (Centering Corporation)

Loving Your Baby (Shari Morash)

WEBSITES:

Perinatal Hospice & Palliative Care — http://perinatalhospice.org

Holoprosencephaly foundation -- https://familiesforhope.orgAnencephaly.Acrania foundation -- hhtps://www.lhaaf.orgBe Not Afraid — http://www.benotafraid.net

String of Pearls – http://www.stringofpearlsonline.org

March of Dimes — http://www.marchofdimes.org [Information on birth defects, grief, and loss]

Support groups/information about specific genetic diseases and birth defects:

Genetic Alliance — http://www.geneticalliance.org

Genetics Home Reference--https://ghr.nlm.nih.gov

National Institutes of Health—https://rarediseases.info.nih.gov/diseases

National Organization for Rare Disorders – https://rarediseases.org

Support Organization for Trisomy 18, 13 and Related Disorders (SOFT)—http://trisomy.org

For those experiencing the pain of miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death:

BOOKS: Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby (Deborah L. Davis) Empty Arms: Coping After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death (Sherokee Ilse) Unspeakable Losses: Healing from Miscarriage, Abortion, or other Pregnancy Loss

(Kim Kluger-Bell) Life Touches Life: A Mother’s Story of Stillbirth and Healing (Lorraine Ash, Christine Northrup) Three Minus One: Stories of Parents’ Love and Loss (Sean Hanish, Brooke Warner) Remembering with Love:Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond (Levang, Ilse)Loved Baby: 31 Devotions Helping You Grieve and Cherish Your Child after Pregnancy Loss (Philpott)Empty Arms: Hope and Support for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Tubal Pregnancy (Vredevelt)Expecting Sunshine: A Journey of Grief, Healing and Pregnancy After Loss (Chute)Too Soon a Memory: A Guide for Parents Suffering a Miscarriage (Schwiebert)

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WEBSITES: Centering Corporation and Grief Digest Magazine — www.centering.org

Grief resources and books available, such as:

• This Little While

• Healing Your Grieving Heart After Stillbirth

• Miscarriage: A Shattered Dream

• When Hello Means Goodbye

• Too Soon a Memory

• After the Loss of Your Baby: for Teen Moms

[Many other titles and resources available]

Resolve Through Sharing – www.gundersenhealth.org/resolve-through-sharing [Many grief and bereavement resources available]

Share Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support — http://nationalshare.org [Resources for early pregnancy loss, stillbirth, neonatal loss, children, grandparents, and memory making]

The Compassionate Friends — https://www.compassionatefriends.org [Support resources for families after a child dies]

Grief Watch — http://www.griefwatch.com A Place to Remember — http://www.aplacetoremember.comStillbirth -- http://starlegacyfoundation.org/for-families-and-friendsReturn to Zero H.O.P.E. -- http://rtzhope.orgFaces of Loss, Faces of Hope — http://facesofloss.com

[Puts a “face” on miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss]

MISS Foundation — https://missfoundation.org [A Community of Compassion and Hope for Grieving Families]

Arkansas Children’s Hospital Center for Good Mourning — www.goodmourningcenter.org

Holy Sews — http://www.holysews.org

[Mending Hearts One Stitch at a Time]

Miscarriage Association of the United Kingdom – https://www.miscarriageassociation.org-uk/how-we-help/leafletsMommies Enduring Neonatal Death -- www.mend.org

RELIGIOUS RESOURCES:

While We’re Waiting: Faith-Based Retreats for Bereaved Parents — www.whilewerewaiting.org

Spark of Life — https://sparkoflife.org [Grief Recovery Retreats for Hope After Loss]

Through This Valley-A Faith Based Conference to Equip Bereaved Parents –

https://www.throughthisvalley.org

Cards from Genesis and Joy –www.genesisandjoy.com

Grief Share — https://www.griefshare.org

MOVIE:

Return to Zero (Written and Directed by Sean Hanish)

Expecting Sunshine: A Journey of Grief, Healing and Pregnancy After Loss

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MEMORY MAKING: Little Footprints Memory Book (Centering Corporation)

Making Loving Memories (Centering Corporation)

Meaningful Moments: Ritual and Reflection When a Child Dies (Book by Rana Limbo, Kathie Kobler;

available through Resolve Through Sharing online store)

www.gundersenhealth.org/resolve-through-sharing

Mamie’s Poppy Plates (Keepsake plates made in Arkansas): http://mamiespoppyplates.com

Molly Bears (Weighted teddy bears for empty arms): Sign-ups are on the 30th of every month to the

first 150. Can be miscarriage (no weight) to 12 months of age.) www.mollybears.org OR

www.facebook.com/MollyBearsOrg

The Comfort Cub (Weighted teddy bear): www.thecomfortcub.org

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep (Photographers for stillbirth, neonatal death – free of charge):

https://www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org OR https://www.facebook.com/nilmdts

Angel Babies Pics (Free touchups/restorations to pictures for bereaved families of the baby who has passed away – to remove medical cords or make anomalies look a bit more bearable, etc.):

http://www.babyangelpics.com OR https://www.facebook.com/BabyAngelPics

Brody’s Boxes (Free boxes for bereaved families to hold baby’s items): https://www.facebook.com/BrodysBoxes

Bridget’s Cradles (Handmade cradles, keepsake charms, and prayer squares):

www.bridgetscradles.com

Faces of Angels (Paintings that can be requested): www.facesofangels.com Faith’s Melody (Heartfelt custom creations-necklaces/jewelry): www.faithsmelody.com OR https://www.facebook.com/faithsmelody Forever Child (Custom jewelry for infant loss): https://www.facebook.com/myforeverchild Held Your Whole Life (Hand-stamped jewelry with baby’s name on it, free of charge): https://www.facebook.com/HeldYourWholeLife Kayce Jones Designs (Hand-stamped jewelry for infant or child loss): https://www.facebook.com/Kaycejonesdesigns Lil Angels Hankies (Monogrammed hankies with the baby’s name, free of charge):

https://www.facebook.com/lilangelshankies

PATIENT BLOGS: From a Mom Who Lost Her Two Babies — http://kinseygracethompson.blogspot.com

A Group of Moms United — http://fulltermloss.blogspot.com

Miscarriage — https://mymiscarriagestory.wordpress.com

Loss of a Twin, Donation for Life — http://mcginleybabyjourney.blogspot.com

FOR EMERGENCIES, PLEASE GO TO

THE EMERGENCY ROOM OR CALL 911.

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Counseling Providers in Arkansas

Central Arkansas:

Name of Facility/Clinic Address Phone

Arkansas Psychiatric Clinic (currently not taking new patients)

4 Executive Center Court Little Rock, AR 72211

(501) 448-0060

Behavioral Health Service of Arkansas

10 Corporate Hill Drive, Suite 330 Little Rock, AR 72205

(501) 954-7470

Counseling Associates, Inc. 350 Salem Road, Suite #1 Conway, AR 72034

Additional offices located in Morrilton, Clarksville, and Russellville

(501) 336-8300

Counseling Clinic, Inc. 112 Pearson Street Benton, AR 72015

(501) 315-4224

Families, Inc. (Referrals only)

1200 James Street Jacksonville, AR 72076

(501) 982-5000

Lakewood Behavioral Health Associates

4020 Richards Road, Suite F N. Little Rock, AR 72117

(501) 753-1616

Little Rock Community Mental Health Center

1100 N. University, Suite 200 Little Rock, AR 72207

(501) 686-9300

Living Hope, SE 10025 West Markham, Suite 210 Little Rock, AR 72205

(501) 663-5473

Napa Valley Counseling 12115 Hinson Road, Suite 400 Little Rock, AR 72212

(501) 224-0318

Psychiatric Associates 9601 Baptist Health Drive Little Rock, AR 72205

(501) 228-7400

Riverstone Wellness Center (Waiting list)

5905 Forest Place, Suite 230 Little Rock, AR 72207

(501) 777-3200

Chenal Family Therapy PLC 575 Harkrider St. Conway, AR 72032

OR First Security McCain Building 2504 McCain Blvd. Suite 200 North Little Rock, AR 72116

OR 10800 Financial Center Parkway

Suite 290 (Kirkpatrick Plaza) Little Rock, AR 72211

OR 2217 AR-5

In front of Rivendell on Hwy. 5 North

(501) 781-2230

Counseling Providers in Arkansas Cont’d

Northeast Arkansas:

Name of Facility/Clinic Address Phone

Families, Inc. 1815 Pleasant Grove Road Jonesboro, AR 72401

Additional offices located in Paragould, Pocahontas, Osceola, Trumann, Walnut Ridge,

Ash Flat & Mountain Home

(870) 933-6886

Health Resources of Arkansas

25 Gap Road Batesville, AR 72503

(870) 793-8900

Northwest Arkansas:

Name of Facility/Clinic Address Phone

Ozark Guidance Center 2400 S. 48th Street Springdale, AR 72762

Additional offices located in Bentonville, Berryville, Huntsville & Siloam Springs

(479) 750-2020

Chenal Family Therapy PLC 803 SE Plaza Avenue, Suite 7 Bentonville, AR 72712

(479) 595-0333

Southeast Arkansas:

Name of Facility/Clinic Address Phone

Southeast Arkansas Behavioral Health

2500 Rike Drive Pine Bluff, AR 71613

Additional offices located in Star City, Sheridan & Stuttgart

(870) 534-1834

Chenal Family Therapy PLC 7500 Dollarway Rd. Suite 401 White Hall, AR 71602

(501) 781-2230

Southwest Arkansas:

Name of Facility/Clinic Address Phone

Southwest Arkansas Counseling and Mental

Health Center

2904 Arkansas Blvd. Texarkana, AR 71854

Additional offices located in Dequeen, Hope & Nashville

(870) 773-4655

Chenal Family Therapy PLC 1401 Malvern Ave. Suite 200-B Hot Springs, AR 71901

(501) 781-2230

Eastern Arkansas:

Name of Facility/Clinic Address Phone

Mid-South Health Systems 801 Newman Drive Helena, AR 72342

Additional offices located in Forrest City, West Memphis, Marianna & Wynne

(870) 338-3900

Western Arkansas:

Name of Facility/Clinic Address Phone

Western Arkansas Counseling & Guidance

(Mon-Fri, 8 am- 230 pm)

3111 South 70th Street Fort Smith, AR 72903

Additional offices located in Mena, Booneville, Van Buren, Ozark, Waldron & Paris

(479) 452-6650

Most of these clinics are accepting new patients depending on insurance and

location. Some of them require a doctor’s referral.