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HADD Family Support Group
Dr Deirdre Mac Carvill
Kate Carr-Fanning
Carmichael Centre for Voluntary GroupsCarmichael House
North Brunswick Street
Dublin 7
Phone: (01) 874 8349
E-mail: [email protected]
WWW.HADD.ie
Understanding Anger and Anger
Management
Overview
� What is Anger?
� Triggers for Anger
� Appropriate Anger
� Inappropriate Anger
� Body’s Response to Anger
� Anger and ADHD
� Managing anger from a parent’s perspective
What is Anger?
� A normal adaptive emotion which is the response to certain situations we encounter
Anger
� It’s not having the angry feelings that causes problems but
what you do about it and how you express it
Triggers for Anger
� Confusion
� Perceived disrespectful treatment
� Perceived threat
� Perceived Unfairness
� Perceived Provocation
Anger
� It is the behavioural response to anger that determines whether it is appropriate or inappropriate
When is Anger Appropriate?
� People get angry, sort it out relatively quickly and then resume their normal state of equilibrium
When is Anger Inappropriate?
� When dealing with angry feelings is more of a problem
than what caused the anger in the first place
Stupid Angry Stuff !
� Stupid stuff that makes you angry
Body’s Internal Response to Anger
� Extra adrenaline is secreted
� Heart beats more rapidly and blood pressure rises
� Breathing becomes faster
� Blood is diverted from liver, intestines and stomach to the
heart, central nervous system and the muscles
� Cortisol production is increased depressing the immune
system
� Men have an increasing supply of testosterone
Internal Feelings of Anger
� Energy and warmth
� An urge to shout and move quickly and forcefully
External Manifestations of Anger
� Rapid breathing, eyes open widely with dilated pupils
� Facial colour reddening or going pale
� Louder voice and quicker speech
� Movements quicker and our muscles tense
Anger
� This state of heightened arousal puts a great strain on the
body and while it is useful as a short term emergency
response it is not ideal as a long term emotional and
physical state
Supressed Anger
� This can result in feelings of anger being suppressed. This
in turn creates high levels of internal stress that can be
manifested in unhealthy coping behaviours such as self-
harm, alcohol or substance misuse
Anger
� Heightened levels of tension in someone can have someone in a
primed state for anger nearly all the time.
� It is reinforced by their negative interpretation of the things that
happen to them
� Always just beneath the surface ready to explode
� Very easily get themselves into conflict situations which then
reinforces their negative interpretations
� They are highly stressed over time and increase the risk of physical
and mental health problems
Stupid Anger Responses!
� Stupid stuff you did when you were angry
Anger and Children with ADHD
� Moods change very quickly and emotional reactions can
easily be provoked
� Heightened state of arousal gets attributed to feelings of
anger even if it isn’t
� Low tolerance for frustration and low feelings of self
esteem expressed outwardly
� Sometimes children experience difficulties when their
medication wears off resulting in tantrums
� ADHD children’s impulsivity may lead to their
responding to feeling of anger with aggression
Managing Anger from Parent’s
Perspective� Find positive outlets for anger – strenuous outdoor play and exercise
� Limit television and video games - children with impulse control problems may be more easily influenced by the aggressive reactions they see
� Set up clear rules and enforce rules consistently
� Control yourself – make a conscious decision to stay calm. Take responsibility for your own anger. Its never ok to excuse your own behaviour because of your anger.
� Assume a calm posture – “Do I want a conversation or a confrontation?”
� Have self respect – don’t give in to or join the pity party
� Take care of yourself
� Be the calm in the storm –
Managing Anger from Parent’s
Perspective
� Talk to child about what they are feeling and give them different labels for what these feelings are
� Get down to their eye level as you are talking to them
� Be sympathetic about the fact the child is having such difficulty controlling their anger. Its awful you have this problem its not ok you behave this way so what do we need to do to deal with this.
� Create an awareness in the child of the impact of their behaviour