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Transcript of African American Faith Based Bereavement Initiative
African American Faith Based Bereavement
Initiative
Module 4
Lack of knowledge about the grief process—age old wisdom
Psalm 34:18The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart;
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Reflections on Personal Experiences with Grief
• What have been your own personal experiences with death, loss and grief? – Whom did you lose?– How old were you? – What were the circumstances?– Did your reaction differ based on whom you lost?– Did your reaction differ based on how old you
were and what stage of life?
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Reflections on Personal Experiences with Grief
• Thinking about these reactions:– How long did you experience severe distress?– How long have you felt upset or depressed about the
loss?– How often do you think about the loss now and how
do you feel about it?
• What helped you cope with losses in your life?• When you hear about another person’s loss, does
it remind you of your losses? In what ways?
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Reflections on Personal Experiences with Grief
• When you were grieving, what kinds of things that other people did made it easier or more bearable for you? What things were not helpful?
• Now think about how you react to others when they have had a loss. How does your experience affect what you say and do? Do you assume that their experience is the same as yours? Do you wish that they did not keep sharing their pain with you, because it reawakens your own pain?
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What is grief?
• Grief is the emotional response to one's loss.– Grief is a natural response to a felt loss; our way of
repairing emotional damage.– Grief is individual.– Grief consists of a variety of normal responses that
seem to fluctuate like an emotional roller coaster ride.– Grief is very often expressed differently by men and
women.– Emotional response is expressed differently for
various cultural & ethnic groups as well.
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What do we mean when we talk about the grief process?
• Models of tasks of that families have to face
• Ideas about the journey of feelings they experience
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Grief: The Major Stages/Tasks
Accepting the reality of the loss. Experiencing the pain of grief. Adjusting to an environment without the baby. Moving on, withdrawing emotional energy and reinvesting.William Worden (2001)
Source: Health Care Professionals’ Guide to Bereavement Support; NSIDSPSC
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A Journey of Feelings
John Bowlby’s Ebb and Flow Grief Model
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Shock and Numbness—The beginning
Failure to accept reality Time confusion Impaired functioning Disbelief Short attention span Lack of concentration Difficulty with decisions
Source: Health Care Professionals’ Guide to Bereavement Support; NSIDSPSC
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Searching and Yearning
Restlessness Impatience and irritabilityResentment and bitternessAnger and guiltSleep difficulties/nightmaresPreoccupation with deceasedLack of energy/fatigue Source: Health Care Professionals’ Guide to
Bereavement Support; NSIDSPSC
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Disorientation
Disorganized and forgetfulSadness and depressionSocial withdrawalFatigue and exhaustionPoor concentration InsomniaFeelings of failureFears of shaky grasp on reality
Source: Health Care Professionals’ Guide to Bereavement Support; NSIDSPSC
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Reorganization
Normalized eating/sleeping habits
Fuller spectrum of emotions
Increased self-esteemSparks of energyAble to make decisionsInterest in future
Source: Health Care Professionals’ Guide to Bereavement Support; NSIDSPSC
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Model: Phases Of Grief
Disorientation
Searching/yearning
Shock /Numbness
Acceptance
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Types of GuiltDeath causationRole guilt“If Only” GuiltMoral GuiltSurvival GuiltRecovery Guilt
Source: Health Care Professionals’ Guide to Bereavement Support; NSIDSPSC
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Children’s GriefAnxiety/fear, who will be next?Anger at parents, god, baby and in generalDeath causation/survival guiltRegression
Source: Health Care Professionals’ Guide to Bereavement Support; NSIDSPSC
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Review of the “quiz”
• Now let’s review the questions about grief that you answered at the beginning of this module and review the answers.