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Keeping our kids safe.Presented by Sheryl CohenAfricaKeeping our kids safeHow to handle living in South AfricaAnxiety and fearNormal anxietyFear vs. FantasyBehaviors

Response to anxietyFight or flightPhysical symptomsDenialAngerFreezeSadnessirritability Response to fearCognitive errorsRituals (helpful and unhelpful)Talk about themFuture V PresentWhat if thinking

[email protected] [email protected] playOn the way A constructive approach Knowledge is empoweringReassurance doesnt reassureResponsible exposureHelpful behavioral habitsCreative [email protected] homeHelp your children to know!

Have the chat!Stranger dangerFlight, Fright, Freeze

@ homeOnce the news is out show them what to do!

PreparePracticeRole [email protected] homeDevelop WE BELIEVE family statements

We believe that we are safe unless otherwise indicatedWe believe that nothing bad happened to us yesterday so the chances are nothing bad will happen todayWe believe in our inner voice to tell us if we feel safe or if we [email protected] homeCreative containment of difficult feelings

Worry wartDream catcherSharing worriesDrawing worries/badies and burning themNormalize worries Share your own childhood experiences

@ playKnow: where, when, who, how, what

Create what if discussions? And responsible solutions

Let go On the way Helpful behavioral habits

moving in and out the car quicklylisten to mommy or daddyWindow positionsSeat strappingScheduled vigilance (e.g.: when driving into home)Bag under seat Greeting strangersSweets; stuff (distractions)Balls in road (distractions)When it happens?

DAMAGE CONTROLWhat to do:Listen carefully Acknowledge feelingsLook out for fears and fantasies Go for masteryCall a trauma debriefer

Common symptoms of traumatic stressRecurrent and intrusive recollections of the eventRecurrent and distressing dreams of the event (or any nightmares in children)Intense distress when exposed to cues from the traumaEfforts to avoid thoughts and feelings or conversations associated with the traumaEfforts to avoid activities, places or people associated with the traumaInability to recall important aspects of the traumaDiminished interest in significant activitiesFeelings of estrangement or detachmentRestricted range of affectSense of foreshortened futureDifficulty with sleeping; concentration difficultiesHyper vigilance; exaggerated startled response; anger

When to call for help?When these symptoms get worse rather than betterWhen these symptoms persist for more than 1 monthWhen these symptoms impair normal social and work/school functioningTROUBLE SHOOTINGHow Much is too much ?TROUBLE SHOOTINGWhen is anxiety normal and when is it not ?Common myths:It cant happen on holidayIt cant happen to meEveryone has the same standards of safety as I doAsking for help is a sign of weakness. I can manage it on my ownIts all fate and there is no way to avoid what happens to me