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According to The Lectic Law Library, Divorce is the dissolution of amarriage contracted between a man and a woman, by the judgment of acourt of competent jurisdiction, or by an act of the legislature. Divorces areof two kinds: . a vinculo matrimonii, which dissolves and totally severs themarriage tie! and, ". a #ensa et thoro, which merely separates the parties.

$eparation, the %ollins %obuild &nglish Dictionary says, is when people

who usually live together are not together. All children will tend to su'erfrom separation from their parents and siblings. (f a couple who are marriedor living together has a separation, they decide to live apart. They haveultimately agreed to a trial separation.

#y main theme is Divorce)$eparation and how it a'ects the immediate#an and *oman involved.

( have chosen this theme because of my +rsthand e-perience with myparents being separated while ( was ten years old. Though not by law, theyhave been separated/ for 0 years. As we may all guess, the most apparentreason for their mutual separation was in+delity.

1ut (2m not here to discuss reasons for divorce and separation. (wanted to know what happens to my parents and many other persons likethem, while going through a separation or divorce.

3or too long has the focus been on children and how they areemotionally and psychologically a'ected by divorce and separation, but whatabout the parents4 *hat about the men and women that have to live aftersuch separation, what happens to their emotions, +nances and their psyche4

( believe women go through hard +nancial times after a divorce or along term separation. The strain it puts on them to continue a normal lifeafter a part of the +nancial foundation has gone, because of prenuptialarrangements. 5ot to say the men are sel+sh, but it seems to me that if a

prenup/ has to be drafted, the marriage was almost inevitably bound to fail.1ut that2s beside the point. The fact is love wasn2t the only thing lost. #enalso go through the similar hardships after divorce)separation. *ith alowered standard of living of up to 678 is a lot to take on by oneself, for aman or woman. 

( believe that it must be +nancially straining for many couples orshould ( say &9 couples, to +le for and live after divorce. (magine thepayments necessary to get lawyers, to present the most favourable means of dissolution of the marriage that was. 3or women, it is seen to be typicallyharder on them to survive. Though the following statistics show that there issomewhat of a balance of the strain. #aybe not in the immediate relation but

across the board there is balance.(n the process of acuiring primary sources of information, such as

interviews of actual e-periences of individuals that have actually beenthrough or that are in the process of getting a divorce, was hampered by theunwillingness of the pupils being interviewed, to share any e-periences of the past or present. #ainly due to the hurtful nature of the situations and thememories being brought up that have been seemingly buried deep, beingresurfaced by the same person who tried to bury them.

;ence all my sources are from web articles and books on the generaltopic psychology. This also posed a serious challenge in getting information that was strictlyabout the man and woman/ in the divorce. #any articles as you wouldguess led straight to the e'ects that divorce on children. Though ( was ableto gather some information.

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Dr Linda allagher marriage researchers onceagreed,*hen it comes to building wealth or avoiding poverty, a stable marriagemay be your most important asset./(n an overview of chapter ? of the @tah $tate @niversity2s @tah Divorcerientation, stated

%ompared to adults in a stable marriage, divorced adults, on average,have poorer physical and mental health. They e-perience more socialisolation./ (t also goes on to say, new romantic relationships end upproducing greater feelings of loneliness, unhappiness, and lower selfesteem./

An-iety BTypically, after a divorce an-iety levels shoot sky high,B says3ran *al+sh a psychotherapist. ;e also speaks of there being a lot of uncertainty, which can lead to insecurity. ne might suddenly have to move,get a new job, and survive on less money than before. There may alsoinstances of planning the further need to adjust to the backandforthmovement of children between the once married couple. *al+sh says thatan-iety can sometimes manifest itself in controlling behaviour, such assending a lot of emails to your divorce attorney or emptying your joint bankaccount to try to take over the +nances.

Divorce is essentially, +nancially stressful. Cesearchers estimatedivorcing(ndividuals would need more than a 78 increase in income, on average, tomaintain the same standard of living they had prior to their divorce. Aboutone in +ve women fall into poverty as a result of divorce. Three out of fourdivorced mothers don2t receive full payment of child support. #ost mene-perience a loss in their standard of living in the years after a divorce, as

well, a loss generally about 78E678, depending on circumstances. As wecan see, so far there is some balance of the +nancial strain on both parties.*ell, since a divorce is a stressful process and may also be a stressful

life to live after the marriage has been dissolved, what are the implications of this stress4

(n a web article by the name of: 1(> Ceasons *hy Divorce (s #ore $tressful n #en than *omen/ by Ti'any #c;ugh

F%opyright "7?G. $he wrote (t turns out that in the ageold battle of the se-es, men seem to be having a more diHcult time coping with thedissolution of a marriage. According to a recent study from the

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diabetes. A study published in Archives of (nternal #edicine found thatwomen who are divorced Fas well as women who are widowed or in unhappymarriagesG are more likely to develop metabolic syndrome than women whoare in happy marriages.

Aside from medical issues divorce can a'ect ones sociality. *ithdrawal,depression, drug addictions and even mental disorders such as paranoia.

(n conclusion divorce or separation is no easy life change. This at timesis the only solution, but in all cases lives will change in a negative sense.*ith your life changing in a way that it will never be the same ever again. #yview is, that the magnitude of the negative implications are too great for menot to encourage persons to try their best to solve the problems withoutresorting to a divorce, because the cost of a few marriage counsellingsessions is immeasurably less compared to the massive amounts *A$T&D ina court war.