“Helping Our Children Do Well in School” by Queena Lee-Chua, PhD Maribel Sison-Dionisio, MA

2004

1. COMMUNICATE regularly & well (Ch.3)

2. PROMOTE genuine SELF-WORTH (Ch. 7)

3. DISCIPLINE with LOVE (Ch. 8)

4. SET Personal, Academic & Life GOALS (Ch. 9)

5. Be there for the FAMILY (Ch.10)

6. DEVELOP STUDY habits

7. Create a conducive ENVIRONMENT for studying

8. Encourage love for READING & judicious MULTIMEDIA use

9. Ensure SOLID grounding in the fundamentals

10. Emphasize EFFORT more than ability

Helping Our Children Do Well in School (book & manual)

by Queena Lee Chua,PhD * Maribel Sison Dionisio, MA (Anvil, 2004)

1. Discipline 2 Goal-setting 3. Self-reliance 4. Family Bonding 5. Supportive Home Environment

Age of INSPIRATION

13 & up

Age of IMITATION 8-12 yrs

“tutok” stage

 REGULAR FUN TIME for each child

 Weekly DATE DAY for EACH child

 Time to chat, train, get to know the child’s talents

M Tu W Th F Sa Su

AM Career Child1 Child2

Lunch Friends/Shop/Self-Care Child3 Family

PM Career Child 4 Spouse

Evening Child1 Child 2 Spouse Child3 Child4 Home Self-Care

 Affirm POSITIVE Qualities

 Catch Child DOING GOOD& SAY it

 ENCOURAGEMENT is given for effort or improvement; It implies a spirit of COOPERATION

  “ I am glad you like adobo and the eggplant omelete.”

  “It looks like you have worked hard to learn the piano piece.”

 That’s a difficult math problem, son, but I’m sure you’ll work it out.”

 Ref: p. 146 Book, Helping our Children do Well in School

  Active listening

 Speak in friendly tone

 Clarify & ask, do not blame

Listening and Speaking to Kids

CHILD “Mom, my new classmate pushed me.”

MOM “Really, your new classmate pushed you?

When did it happen?” (Mirror)

CHILD “He pushed me this morning while we

were playing with blocks.”

MOM “Oh, you’re playing when he pushed you.

How’d you feel about it?” (Feelings) CHILD “I got hurt when he pushed me.”

Listening and Speaking to Kids

MOM “That may really hurt, what did you do when you

were pushed?” (Feelings)

CHILD

“I told the new kid that I will not play with him anymore if he still pushes me. Then I told teacher.”

MOM

“It’s okay to tell him you will no longer will play with him if that happens again, and it’s good too that you told teacher. Are you okay with that?.” (Mom’s message to child)

CHILD “ Yes, I’m okay. I feel better now.”

TEEN “Mom, can I play computer on Saturday with Rica and Meg from 2 to 5pm at Blue Skies?.”

MOM “I see you want to play computer with your friends on Saturday. Sounds like fun!” (Mirror)

TEEN “ Yes it will be fun. I need a break from school.”

MOM “I see you’re tired and need a break. But what is our rule regarding playing computer? Is it ok if you play computer an hour then swim or bake brownies? (choice)

TEEN “But computer is fun. Yes an hour computer only as a rule. Well, I will ask my friends to swim or bake or both!”

MOM “It’s good that you remember our rule. Now what do you think can be done?” (Affirm, ask for solution)

TEEN “Oh, they will go with me swimming and baking. It is the company that counts more than the activity. Bye mom.”

1) Agree on House rules

2) Use NATURAL and LOGICAL consequences

3) Offer choices within limits

4) Make time-out positive

Ref: p. 166 Book, Helping our Children do Well in School

1.  Morning Routines

2.  Eating 3.  TV-Computer

time 4.  Playing w/ Toys 5.  Study time 6.  Free play time 7.  Relating w/

others 8.  Bedtime

Routines

CHILD Whining…

MOM “I see you’re tired, but we have rules. You choose: Pack away the toys after you rest OR You’ll fix it after crying…

CHILD “But I don’t want to pack away…”

MOM “Okay, if I would pack it away, I’ll just keep it for a few days until you are ready & willing to pack them properly after playing.”

CHILD “Don’t keep it MOM!”

MOM “If you don’t want me to hide it, then what should you do?”

CHILD “I will KEEP THEM PROPERLY AFTER I REST.”

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