A COACHING MINDSET

TAKING YOUR SKILLS UP A NOTCH

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A MINDSET • Habitual pattern

• Provides a frame

• Defines our choices

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PRACTICES OF A COACHING MINDSET

• Accept Judger – Practice Learner

• Be Aware of Your Own Thinking

• Ask Powerful Questions

• Practice Generous and Deep Listening

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ACCEPT JUDGER

PRACTICE LEARNER

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Defensive

Inflexible

Angry

Conflict

Blame

Pessimism

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Curiosity

Learning

Win-win

Energy

Inspiration

Success

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Shift Happens

• Be Aware

• Explore Choices

• Commit

“The Learner Self lives its commitment to observing, learning, correcting and

creating.”

Marilee Adams

BEING AWARE OF YOUR OWN

THINKING AND FEELING

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Reflection

State

Inquiry

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Ask Powerful

Questions

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Open Ended

What, Where

How, When

Less is More

Silence

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The Kickstart Question

• What’s On Your Mind?

The AWE Question

• And What Else?

The Focus Question

• What’s the Real Challenge Here

for You?

The Foundation Question

• What Do You Want?

GENEROUS & DEEP LISTENING

"Imagine someone listening, not only to your words, but also to what's behind them - who

even listens to the spaces between the words. Someone in tune with the nuances of your voice, your emotions, your energy - who is

intent on receiving everything you communicate. Someone who listens to the

very best in your, even when you can't hear it yourself..."

Whitworth et al, 1998

LISTENS FOR: • What you say • What you don't say • Meaning behind the story • Resistance • Fear • Where you might be out of balance • Who you are becoming • What's next

Mind Chatter

Talking

Judgment

Important

Main Event

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Attending Skills

Reflecting Content

Reflecting Feeling

Clarifying

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PRACTICES OF A COACHING MINDSET

• Accept Judger – Practice Learner

• Be Aware of Your Own Thinking

• Ask Powerful Questions

• Generous and Deep Listening

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WRAP UP

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