7 habits Afzal Khan

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7 Habits of Highly effective PeopleOriginal Book by: Stephen Covey

Presented by: Afzal Khan

Disclosure• Based on a book by the same name• Author: Stephen Covey• Published 1989• Many ideas taken from the web

Personality Ethic

• The success literature of the last half of the 20th century largely attributed success to personality traits, skills, techniques, maintaining a positive attitude, etc. This philosophy can be referred to as the Personality Ethic.

القرن • من األخير النصف من كتاب كبير 20أنجح حد إلى يعزىوالحفاظ والتقنيات، والمهارات الشخصية السمات إلى نجاح

يشار أن يمكن الفلسفة هذه ذلك إلى وما إيجابي، موقف على. األخالق شخصية باسم إليها

Character Ethic • However, during the 150 years or so that preceded

that period, the literature on success was character oriented. It emphasized the deeper principles and foundations of success. This philosophy is known as the Character Ethic, under which success is attributed more to such characteristics as integrity, courage, justice, patience, etc.

وخالل • ذلك، واألدب 150ومع الفترة، تلك سبقت التي ذلك نحو أو سنة . . أعمق النجاح وأسس مبادئ على وشدد المنحى والطابع النجاح على

ويعزى بموجبها والتي األخالق، شخصية بأنها الفلسفة هذه وتعرفالخ والصبر، والعدل والشجاعة النزاهة مثل الخصائص من أكثر نجاح

Character Ethic: primary traits

• Personality Ethic are secondary.

• Secondary traits may help one to play the game to succeed in specific circumstances

• Long term success requires both

• Ralph Waldo Emerson: "What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say."

•. والثانوي األخالق شخصيةتساعد • قد الثانوية الصفات

لتحقيق اللعبة للعب واحدمعينة ظروف في النجاح

المدى • على النجاح يتطلبسواء حد على البعيد

• " : ما إمرسون والدو رالففي عال بصوت هتافات كنت

ما سماع أستطيع ال أذنيتقوله."

The Character Ethic

• Absolute principles that exist in all human beings.

• Examples of such principles are fairness, honesty, integrity, human dignity, quality, potential, and growth.

• Principles contrast with practices that are for specific situations whereas principles have universal application.

توجد • التي المطلقة المبادئ. البشر جميع في

هذه • على األمثلة ومنواألمانة العدل هي المبادئ

اإلنسانية، والكرامة والنزاهة. والنمو وإمكانات، والجودة،

مع • تتناقض مبادئلحاالت هي التي الممارسات

لها مبادئ حين في محددة. عامة أغراض

The Seven Habits Move us through Stages

• Dependence: the paradigm under which we are born, relying upon others to take care of us.

• Independence: the paradigm under which we make our decisions and take care of ourselves.

• Interdependence: the paradigm under which we cooperate to achieve something that cannot be achieved independently.

نولد،: • بموجبها نموذج االعتمادلرعاية اآلخرين على واالعتماد

لنا.

نجع̂ل االستقالل: • النموذج بهذا. بأنفسنا ونعتني قراراتنا

• : النموذج بهذا المتبادل االعتماديمكن ال ما لتحقيق نتعاون

. مستقل بشكل تحقيقه

Habit #1Be Proactive

Based on the work of Stephen Covey

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What happens to a bottle of soda when you shake it up?

It EXPLODES!

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Sometimes things go wrong, and we feel

shaken up. As a result, we might EXPLODE on

someone or something. This is called being REACTIVE. Has this

ever happened to you? Explain what happened

and why. Was this a good way to let go of all of your feelings? Why

or why not?

Journal Entry orDiscussion Starter:

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you make a choice about how you react to the things that happen

in your life. You act like a water bottle. You

might get shaken up or mad, but you stay calm

and don’t explode!

When you are PROACTIVE,

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Is it hard to stay calm (like a water bottle) even when things don’t go your

way? Why or why not?

What steps could you take to be more

PROACTIVE and calm when things aren’t going

well?

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Proactive vs. ReactiveWhen you are REACTIVE, you could explode at any minute. Things happen and they “catch you off

guard”. You aren’t ready for things that might happen. You deal with things when

they happen instead of being prepared.

When you are PROACTIVE, you make good choices

about how you respond to something happening. You

are always ready with a calm attitude. You do

things to make sure that the right things will

happen. You are prepared for anything that might

happen. When things don’t go your way, you aren’t

happy, BUT you stay calm.

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How do you feel on days like this?

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What about sunny days like this?

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If you could “carry the weather with you”….

you could have a good day no matter

what comes your way.

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Do you think it is possible to carry your

weather with you? What do you think this

means? How would your life be different if

you could carry happiness or peace with you no matter

what things happen?

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circleof

influence

circle of

concern

Focus on things you can change or

influence

Circle of InfluenceThings you can’t

control

Things you can control or change

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Things you CAN’T control or change:•Other people•The weather•Things you did wrong in the past•How other people treat me•Homework

Circle of InfluenceThings you CAN control or change:•Your attitude•Your mood•Your reaction to good and bad things that happen•How I treat other people

Can you think of other examples from your life?

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Be Proactive• Change how you handle things. Make a choice

to be positive and focus on those things that YOU can change.

• Make a positive difference in your family, your business, your community and the world!

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Where do you fall?

VeryReactive

VeryProactive

How could you be more

proactive?

Habit #2Begin with the

End in MindBased on the work Stephen Covey

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I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a

difference. I am an important part of my business. I look for ways to be a good

citizen.

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What is “the end” for you? What do

you hope to be doing ten years

from now? Twenty? Make a list of things

you want to do in your life.

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Draw a picture of something that

represents you. It could be an animal,

plant, machine, a food, etc. Explain why you chose what you did.

Before you figure out the “end”, you have to take a look

at who YOU are!

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In ten years a newspaper decides to do a story about YOU! They interview four people about you. These could be

friends, colleagues or family. What would you want them to say about

you?

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Mission Statement, Part 1:Write your name in a circle. Out from the circle, write words

that describe you.

YOU

Artistic

Athletic

KindReader

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Mission Statement, Part 2:

Now think about what kind of person you WANT to be.

Make a list.I want to be a:1.Hard worker2.Good student3.Kind person4.Talented artist

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Mission Statement, Part 3:Use the two lists to write a mission statement. This is a sentence or paragraph about the person you want to be.

Here are some example:

My mission is to:• Laugh a lot• Learn as much I can• Work hard at home, work and in my

sports• Be kind to others• Take good care of myself.• To get better at my art.

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How does saying “no” sometimes help you with

“beginning with the end in

mind”? What things do you have to say no

to?

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Finish these sentences:~If my future had no limits, I

would choose to be…..

~I want to be a person who…

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How good are you at beginning with the end in

mind? I always keep

the end in mind.

I only think about today.

Why did you rate yourself this way?

Habit #3Put First

Things FirstBased on the work of Stephen Covey

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I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to

things I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule, and follow my plan.

I am organized.

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Going for Your Goals

At Home Goals At Office Goals

Set two or three goals for at home and for at

school.

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Sometimes not being brave gets in the way of

doing things that are important to you. Putting

first things first might means putting aside your fears to reach your goal. Has fear ever kept you from doing something great or important?

Explain.

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Big Things and Little Things:Putting first things first means planning your time around the most important, BIG things in your life. Then, you can

get to the little things that take your time.

Big, Important Things That Take

Your Time

Small Things, Less Important Things That

Take Your Time

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Brainstorm some things that you do that

wastes a lot of your time. Sometimes

these things are fun and relaxing. If you do them too much though,

they may get in the way of the important

things.

Time Wasters:

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Write out your regular schedule

for a full day, from start to finish. Is it organized? Do you waste time, or put first things first?

Organizing Your Days

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Making it HappenNow choose one goal for home, and one goal for work. Write your

goals in a circle. Out from the circle, write things that you can do to help you achieve those goals.

Memorize my

multiplication facts

Play x games

Make Flash Cards

Practice in the car…

Have somebody quiz

me

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Where do you fall?

I always put first things

first!

I never to set goals or put first

things first.

How could you be better at putting first things first?

Habit #4Think Win-Win

Based on the work of Stephen Covey

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Is this picture a good one for

Think Win-Win? Why or why not? If

so, defend your answer. If not, design

a better one and explain your thinking.

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I want everyone to be a success. I don’t have to put others down to get

what I want. It makes me happy to see other people happy. I like to do nice things for others. When a conflict

arrives, I help brainstorm a solution. We all can win!

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Think Win-Win Road Blocks •I’ll step on you to get ahead.•I am a loser. I can’t do anything.•At least I am better than her/him.•I’ll let someone else win again.

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Have you ever “stepped on”

somebody else to win? Have you

pushed someone aside so you could

get something good? How does this feel? Give an example.

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Do you always let other people win? Do you not

raise your hand to answer a question because you

know somebody will answer? Do you let people

jump in front of you? Do you let people treat you

poorly? (If so, you are not practicing Think Win-

Win.) Describe a time when you let people

“step on you” to win.

Human Doormat:

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How To Think Win-WinIn order to Think Win-Win, you need to be confident in you. You must not

care what others think of you. You will be happy to see others be successful.

Make a word & picture splash to show what

makes you unique.

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Where do you fall?

Very Good! I want

everyone to do well.

Very Bad! I don’t like to see other

people win.

How could you be better at Think Win-Win?

Habit #5Seek First to

Understand, Then to Be Understood

Based on the work Stephen Covey.

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Listening Road BlocksSpacing Out:

Your mind wanders when others talk.

Pretend Listening:

You don’t really pay attention to the other

person, but you pretend to. You say “yeah,”, “uh-huh,”

and “cool.”

Selective Listening:

You listen only to the parts that interest you.

Selfish Listening:

You always bring the conversation back to you

and your life. You say things like “I had that happen too” and “I know how you feel.”

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We all have times when we are poor listeners. Which “Listening Road

Block” do you most often use? Explain why this happens.

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Everybody wants to be listened to. When people feel like you listen, they are more likely to like you. So, be a good listener,

and you’ll have lots of friends.

I’m All Ears

What are some ways that you can show people that

you ARE listening?

Who is a good listener? Create a list of people that you know that listen well.

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Sometimes you have to listen with your eyes as much as you listen with your ears. People say a lot with their body language and facial expressions.

Listen With Your Eyes:

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Emotion Charades:Find a partner. Practice ‘listening with your

eyes”. Choose an emotion to try to express just with your face and body. You can not use words.

•Angry•Sad•Embarrassed•Tired•Happy•Thinking•Bored

•Impatient•Scared•Worried•Relaxed•Frustrated•Surprised•Stressed

•Confused•Flattered•Nervous•Annoyed•Interested

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Mirror, Mirror

To be a good listener, mirror back what someone says. Repeat back in your

own words what the person is saying. Use statements like “You seem to be

feeling…” and “So what you are saying is…”

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Have you ever had a time with your family or friends when you knew that you

needed to “zip it” and just listen? Why is it important to do this sometimes? How does this help the person

you are listening to?

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Are you a good listener?

Very Good

Listener

Not Such a Great

Listener

How could you be a better listener?

Habit #6Synergize

Based on the work of Stephen Covey.

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I value other people’s strengths and learn from them. I get along well with others, even people who are different

from me. I work well in groups. I seek out other people’s ideas to solve problems. I

know that “two heads are better than one”. I am a better person when I let other people into my life and work.

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They say that, “Two heads are

better than one.” Do you agree or disagree? Why?

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Make a list of times when you

have to work with other

people at office, home or in your

social gatherings.

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Everybody is different, or unique. In what ways is this a good

thing? How does this help you when you are

working with a group on a project?

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How does everyone being different make

things harder? How can you

overcome these challenges? Would it be easier if everyone

had the same personality, looks,

talents and interests?

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Celebrate Differences:Pair up with someone you don’t usually work/play with.

Come up with at least five differences and five things you have in common.

Differences:

Employee 2

Differences:

Employee 1

Ways

You Are

Alike

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What does this quote mean? Is it true? Is it a

good thing or a bad thing?

“Everyone is in love with their own ideas.” ~Carl

Gustav

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“I have never in my life learned anything from any

man who agreed with me.” ~Dudley Field Malone

How can having someone disagree with you help you

learn? Explain your thoughts.


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Dream Team

Person Reason

1. Juan He has great ideas.

2. Suzan She stays calm.

You have been asked to put together a team to accomplish the targets. If you could choose anyone in your company,

who would be on your team. You must explain your reason. You may have 5 teammates.

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Synergy Action Plan Define the Problem Make sure you understand

the problem or task.

Their Way Try to understand everyone’s ideas. Listen

carefully.My Way Seek to be understood.

Share your ideas.

Brainstorm Be creative. Everyone create new ideas.

High Way Find best solution.

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Where do you fall?

I work well with others.

I’d rather work by myself.

How could you be better at working with others?

Habit #7Sharpen the

SawBased on the work of Stephen Covey

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A man has been working hard to saw through a tree for over three hours. He

still hasn’t cut through the tree trunk. What might be

wrong with the man’s saw? What should he do?

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I take care of my body by eating right, exercising, and getting sleep. I spend time with family and friends. I learn in

lots of ways and lots of places.

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Body: Exercise, Be Healthy, Sleep,

Relax

Brain: Learn, Read, Write

Soul:Journal, Think, Pray

Heart:Serve, Laugh, Be a Friend

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What do you do to take care of your body? What

do you NOT do?Could you make any

improvements?

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How you are working to improve your brain? What

could you stop doing? What could you start doing? Can you

think of someone who really works on this area of their life?

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Brain Food

What are your plans for “feeding” your

brain? Make a list of things you want to learn or things that you want to do that

will teach you.

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How you are working to improve your soul?

What things do you do that make you the

most happy?

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Feeding Your SoulWhat feeds your

soul? What inspires you and gives you peace? What are

some songs, books or movies that make

you want to be a better person? Is

there a person that makes YOU want to

be better?

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Does the heart matter? Are you serving/helping anyone? What things

do you do to make friends and/or to make other people happy?

Can you think of someone that really is

good at this?

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What makes your saw sharp?

What makes your saw dull?

Your Saw is Your Life

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How good are you at sharpening the saw?

My saw is very

sharp!

My saw is very dull!

What steps could you take to sharpen your saw?

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Credits:This slide show was created by: Rebecca Radicchi

Compiled by: AFZAL KHANusing the following resources.

1. The Seven Habits for Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

2. The Seven Habits for Highly Effective Kids by Sean Covey

3. The Seven Habits for Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey

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