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Why Women Flake On

The Phone, And HowTo Powerfully HandleThem!

NEW Special Report

From the desk of

Ross Jeffries The “Guru of

Getting Some”

http://www.seduction.com

For the smart guy who refuses to resort to bullying, begging,buying, bs or booze, in his pursuit of happiness.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

WHY WOMEN FLAKE ... AND HOW TO SUCCESSFULLY HANDLE IT 1 A WORD-FOR-WORD ANTI-FLAKE PATTERN... 7 STAYING STRONG WHEN THEY ARE FLAKEY 16 THE WORD-FOR-WORD ANTI-FLAKE PATTERN IN ACTION! 18 ANOTHER ANTI-FLAKE PHONE PATTERN ... WORKS YET AGAIN! 20 HOW I CAN HELP YOU, STARTING RIGHT NOW! 23



Why Women Flake On The Phone, And How To Powerfully Handle Them!

Copyright 2009, Ghita Services, Inc. All Rights Reserved. 1

Why Women Flake ... And How To SuccessfullyHandle It

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I have a feeling this is going to be one of the mostpopular, well-read, well responded to and forwarded-to-friends girl-getting special reports that I will ever write.

Listen: one of the most common challenges I hear about from my students is dealing with "flaky"women.

How do you handle it when everything seems to be

going smoothly with a woman, and suddenly ...

• They stop calling• Or they don't show up• Or all communication ceases and they just

seem to "disappear"

Now, there are many different schools of thought on this.

Some would say just forget about it and let her go. See if she comes back.

And I can see some wisdom in that.

Others say, get angry . Call her on her bullshit. Be really hardcore about it.

I say, the best answer, first and foremost is to gain some understandingsabout why a woman can act flaky.

1. She just wasn't interested in the first place. Ok, that's possible, but if you use these tools I am teaching properly and screen properly, youprobably are going to create SOME interest, most of the time.

2. She had some interest, but not enough to move her forward in theway you wanted her to.

3. She has some guy (or girl!) in the background that she didn't tell youabout and now she feels guilty and doesn't want to screw it up withthat existing real-hate-shun-ship. Or that person is on an emotionalroller coaster with her and is destroying the stability of her moods and her ability to make a decision.





4. She just has problems with intimacy, or her emotions/moods in

general. She's been burned, hurt, is depressed, emotionally unavailableor shut down. Or she's into drugs and someone offered her a line of cokeor a hit of heroin and you went right out the window! Or she's having a

depressive episode and can't even get out of bed!

5. She's having some serious life crisis or challenge; a relative is sick,she's in trouble financially, she's having legal problems, etc. SHITHAPPENS, even to the chicks we want.

6. She was interested (and still might be) but you just PUSHED TOOFAST, TOO HARD! You interrupted her own "crush" process and timingwith your calls, and attention.

7. Something very positive has happened in her life to distract her. She

landed the part in the movie, she got a new job that excites her, she metsomeone else who closed the deal on her and she had awesome, blow-her-mind sex with him. Now you are out of the picture.

8. She was very interested. You really got to her. But related to reason#4, she is just not ready for strong emotions right now in her life. Yougot to her and it scared her silly. It happens.

9. It's an X-file. A mysterious disappearance that you will never explain, untilyou come face to face with the Aliens who know all and who secretly pullthe strings of human destiny.

Ok. So bear in mind there could be plenty of reasons for whatis going on, aside from you being some kind of destined tolose knob-boy or some technical issues with properly usingSpeed Seduction®. Of course, I assume you have thefabulous Speed Seduction® 3.0 System:

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Now, on the technical side, maybe you failed to establish sufficient comfortand connection. Or maybe you didn't get enough intrigue, arousal, anddesire. Or maybe she gave you all the signals to close the deal, but for somereason you shied away from it and now she thinks you were just teasing her .

But assuming that isn't true, that you did everything right and got greatresponses, if she isn't returning your calls or is otherwise flaking out or actingcold or you just can't get a hold of her, consider it one or more of the 9 thingsgoing on.







The Very Powerful 10th Reason!

Now, let me state a 10th reason: on the unconscious level, she is looking for someone who is strong enough (and HONEST ENOUGH) to call her on her bullshit, without seeming needy in the process.

You see, I think women crave a man who is strong and also someone who ishonest enough to express it when he is not happy with her behavior, WITHOUTbeing punishing and cruel about it. (Ok, so chicks do want and respond topunishment, but I am assuming you don't want to be around THEM!)

They Want To Trust You AND They Want You To Be Strong

When you call a woman on her crap (without seeming needy or out of control)you are creating trust and showing your strength.

Why?

Because she gets that you are not just saying something "nice" to get into her pants. You are actually saying something that may risk offending her and eventurning her away from you and yet you still do it because you are honorable andconfident enough to speak your truth AND

... You Are Willing To Walk Away!

Your saying what you really think, because letting her hear your truth regardlessof what happens is important to you. And being willing to risk offending her andnot having her in your life demonstrates to her that you really are a guy withself-respect and a guy who has other options and that she'll have to dosome work for you.

Remember, if a woman wants you a little bit, she will want you a lot more if shehas to work for you and if she feels she can trust the communication from you!

Here is the formula:

Some interest on her part +trusting you are being sincere +

seeing she has to work for you +seeing you have self-respect and you are

willing to walk away =

SUDDEN INCREASE IN INTEREST!





More On Creating Trust

To understand women, bear in mind that even (and especially) the hottestwomen have lots of fear-based emotions around intimacy and sex. In fact,the hot ones are the ones who have probably been most lied to, because most

guys will say and do anything to get a hot piece!

So when you say something that might actually drive her away , paradoxically, itcreates trust in her.

Why?

Because now she starts to see that you are NOT like those other guys who willput up with anything or say anything "nice" if it will get them into her pants.

Instead, she perceives that you WILL tell her what you really think, what you

really want, and what you expect, even if she doesn't like it and even if it mightdrive her away!

Avoiding The Two Faces Of Needy!

Bear in mind that being punitive and nasty in your tone or words is not going towork with any self-respecting women. (I am assuming you do not want to attractthe damaged ones).

It will both turn her off and scare her.

(There is a time for genuine, non-punitive anger, later in the relationship, onceshe is deeply invested in you. But now is not the time!)

So you will NOT lose control and get angry.

Why?

Not only would this scare her, but more importantly: getting angry and losing lcontrol spells needy and desperate, as needy and desperate as someone whowhines and begs for her attention.

• Angry/loss of control = aggressive needy

• Begging/whining = submissive needy.

• It is all still being needy, one way or another.

So no whining. And no anger. Period. They both convey needy ... and needydrives women away like a crucifix to a vampire!





(By the way, emotionally damaged women who are very submissive mistakenly view aggressively needy men as being manly and confident! A sick dynamic and another reason to stay away from that kind of response!)

So you will not get angry and punitive (unless you want sick women!)

Nor will you get clingy, whinny and desperate.

The best stance for you to take, for yourself, is to be "neutral".

Neutral just means you acknowledge, to yourself (not her!) the facts of thesituation.

• That you don't like what is going on.

• That you don't know for sure why it is happening.

• And that you don't like that you don't know.

• That, my friend, is neutral.

You would like things to change and be different, you will give it your bestshot, but you acknowledge that you really don't know what is happening.

Remember, these are all understandings to have for yourself, and notnecessarily something you will verbalize to her.

Being neutral keeps you out of the drama of assuming things for the worst. Itopens the opportunity and possibility (though not a guarantee) that things couldwork better. And it keeps you clear and emotionally stable and balanced in anarea of life that probably has, up until now, been very hard and verychallenging for you.

All good outcomes for something so simple: being clear and neutral.

Look: I really do want you to have all the success you could ever want withwomen, without begging or bullying. Being angry and punishing will work: with

women who feel a deep need to be punished. But trust me, the drama and painthey will bring to you, the chaos and emotional roller coasters are NOT WORTHIT.





Peace and piece,

Ross JeffriesFounder, Speed Seduction

P.S. Get the women you really want (and can respect andenjoy as people too) by getting your Speed Seduction® 3.0System today:








A Word-For-Word Anti-Flake Pattern...

Now, I will show you how to construct some wordfor word responses to these flaky scenarios to givethese girls a fighting chance to re-qualify for the

right to compete to be in your bed! (How is that for attitude!)

The Incredible Power Of Implication

One of the principles I teach over and over in theSpeed Seduction® 3.0 System course is: use your language to capture and lead a woman'simagination and emotions.

(You can get your course at:

http://www.seduction.com/products/RJ30.php)

Now, a sub-principle I teach is this: whatever youcan get a woman to imagine, will be perceived by her as being HER OWNTHOUGHT, because she imagined it, and therefore she will not resist it.

What you have to argue or pressure or give reasons to a woman about, even if itis really in her own best interests, will be perceived as coming from outside of herself and will usually be resisted!

Now, one good tool to get around this "resistance barrier" is implication.

When you imply something, rather than clearly state it, the listener has to fill inthe blank with their own imagination, so the thought appears to be coming frominside of their own mind.

Let me give you a simple example.

Suppose you weren't returning my calls, for whatever reason.

If I called you up and directly said, "If you don't return my call I won't call youback any more. I'm not going to chase after you to try to make you be my friend"

you would probably think I'm quite a jerk-off and would probably not call me back.

If instead, I wanted to IMPLY that I wasn't going to call you back again after this,I'd say something like, "Hey, it's Ross and I thought I'd give it a last shot at getting a chance to talk. People get busy and have their own reasons but you just seemed like someone worth SOME work at befriending. You can call me back at: 555-1212"








So what does that message imply?

1. I'm not calling again. How does it imply this? By using the words "lastshot".

2. I'm busy too and it's ok with me if you are busy. That's not a reason not toreturn a call. How does it imply this? "People get busy". Notice I didn'tSAY that I am busy or that you are busy. I used the vague term "People".

3. I have my doubts about you but I'm cool enough to give you a shot atproving my doubts are wrong and my initial good assessment was right.How do I imply this? By saying you SEEMED like someone worth SOMEwork at befriending. SEEMED implies maybe I was wrong. SOME workimplies that I didn't place THAT high an estimate on you, so you havesome work to do to live up to my standards.

Now, this message still might not work at all. But by using this implication, it givesyou a chance to get off your ass just in case you were distracted by other things,and reach out for the opportunity.

Using Frames And Positioning

Notice also, the message allows me to position myself as someone with a lot of good stuff going on who is NOT needy and who is totally cool about letting it allgo. I'm saying I will NOT chase you down but I WILL give you a shot at provingyou are a cool person. So I set a frame of strength and that YOU are the onewho is going to miss out.

By the way, depending on how much has already gone on and happenedbetween us, I might actually blatantly state that we are BOTH going to missout, but even there I will use implication to make you wonder exactly HOW youmight be missing out, so YOU will fill in the blank and imagine it!

For example, on more than one occasion, I've let this message for women, after having a seemingly wonderful first encounter (whether that meant making out,going full Monty or whatever) and then not having calls returned:

"Hey Debby, it's Ross. Well, I just thought I'd giveit a last shot at seeing whether spending timeagain is something you realize YOU WANT TO DO.

You know, if we don't it will be a loss for me, butmaybe what you haven't yet realized is, it will be aloss for you as well..maybe in ways you haven'tyet considered. And losing is something no onewants to do. So you can call me back at: 555-1212."





Now, there is something else in this message: I am approaching from a positionof vulnerability without need. I am admitting I will feel some loss (so I don'tcome off as an arrogant moron) yet it is not done with any begging tonality or need.

Remember, I leave these messages with a very matter-of-fact tone, as if Iwere telling someone, "hey, your shoe is untied". It's very matter-of-fact, evenly-paced, even toned, with very little emotion.

If you can show SOME vulnerability but do it from strength and convey noneed, you make a powerful message!

Again, it sets the frame of someone who has SOME interest, but doesn't needthem and that you can walk away.

Also: look at how I get her to consider how it might be a loss for her withoutsaying exactly what that loss might be.

Sure, she might just think, "Who cares? Screw off!"

In that case, nothing would have worked anyway .

No Punish, No Pressure, No Push

But remember, assuming one of the 10 reasons for flaking is at play and she is just distracted or a little scared, this message gives her a chance to stepback up to the plate and show some better behavior your way, without makingher feel punished, pressured or pushed!

It's a "take or leave it" thing you are presenting, but a gentle, non-threatening,non-needy …

Take It Or Leave It!

Remember, the reality is, we don't know what her situation is. By staying vague,sticking to the facts as you do know them, and presenting the right frame, yougive the situation and her a fighting chance to work for you, all the whilepreserving your morale, self-esteem and self-respect.

Another Word For Word Example

Here is a message I left for a woman - she had given me a couple of massagesand seemed to have a more personal interest in me. We met for coffee and shewas wildly responsive to me (people were staring at us getting closer and closer at the coffee place).





Then, for some reason, she flaked on a meeting and stopped returning my calls.

So here is the message I left her, along with my analysis. The message I left isin "quotes" an directly below each line, I give my comments on what I am doing.

"Hey Amber, it's Ross. So, I'm just wonderingwhat is going on. You haven't returned my callsand then you flaked on a meeting. You know, Ithought you and I were at least BECOMINGfriends. But this doesn't feel like the way friendstreat friends. At best it feels distracted and atworst, it feels thoughtless. And that secondchoice just doesn't feel like you. So if you havesome explanation and want to call, you can reachme at: 555-1212."

Let's break this down into its component parts.

"Hey Amber, it's Ross. So, I'm just wondering what is going on."

This just identifies me and why I am calling.

"You haven't returned my calls and then you flaked on a meeting"

This tells her what behavior I am addressing. It is also matter of factually pacingthe situation, stating what is going on.

"You know, I thought you and I were at least BECOMING friends."

This tells her that I now have doubts about her. And it gives her a safe way totemporarily think about our situation with less pressure if she is feeling pressuredor scared. By using the "f" word I can back her up a bit and I feel ok doing thisbecause I got such strong responses during the coffee Sarge. As long as YOUuse this label first, before she does, it doesn't present the danger of you beingput in the "friends" box.

"But this doesn't feel like the way friends treat friends."

Here, you are implying that you deserve a higher standard of treatment than whatshe is giving you. Why? Because you and she are not strangers. Also, it isvague: according to whom does it not feel like the way friends treat friends? Youare deleting who is making the judgment, so it has a hypnotic effect.

"At best it feels distracted and at worst, it feels thoughtless."





You are showing that you understand there is more than one possibility: maybeshe ISN'T being a rude bitch and is just really busy and distracted. You areHOPING she will prove that your best thoughts about her are true and that your worst thoughts about her are NOT true, but you aren't sure which right now.Maybe you were wrong about the good thoughts you had about her!

In either case, it sets the frame that she has to prove herself to you now!

Notice, you have implied all this. If you directly stated it, she'd never call you backagain.

Implication is a woefully powerful tool, my friend. Women use it on us all the time!

"And that second choice just doesn't feel like you"

Here you are showing you really do have a good image of her but you still havesome doubt. It doesn't FEEL like her, but it might, alas and alack, still be true,much to your sorrow!

"So if you have some explanation and want to call, you can reach me at: 555-1212."

Gives her an opportunity to do the desired behavior.

Now, I just recently used this again (it works about 60-70% of the time) and thewoman left me a message falling all over herself apologizing, saying shehoped she was forgiven and really wanted to make it up to me.

It turned out her mother had gone into the hospital with a very serious healthchallenge and that she was besides herself with stress-that she was preparing tofly home to see her mother and her family but could I possibly see her in the nextfew days before she left town?

In this case, this fine young lady just got distracted by a nasty life event thatwould have distracted any one.

By using implication, by refraining from pushing, punishing or pressuring, theSarge is now back on, with the proper frame set that I put value on myself,don't put up with crap, will walk away but also will be fair with her and give her achance to prove to me that she really is a wonderful human being!

Does It Always Work?

Now, nothing works all the time. Remember the rule: when women act this way,we never know exactly what is going on.





When this kind of response that I just explained doesn't work, you can be surethat nothing else would have worked either and you at least gave it your bestshot. Remember, some of those 9 out of 10 reasons just can't be addressed,fixed or handled other than walking away. So be it and so it is.

Hard Core Flakes: Hard Core Responses

Sometimes the flaking really gets in your face.

I'm not talking about not returning calls. Or a woman being legitimately busy or have a legit emergency.

I'm talking about either: her calling at the last minute and canceling with a verylame excuse.

Or, even worse, cancelling through text or IM and then adding, just for goodmeasure, "I don't feel like talking on the phone."

Or: her not showing up for an agreed meeting and then not calling with a fewhours with an explanation or apology, prior to you have any established historywith her.

(Remember, context is everything. If you have already been intimate with her and are seeing her a few months and she suddenly doesn't show up or call,probably something out of her control went wrong, and it's probably moreappropriate and ACCURATE to be genuinely worried about her! I am talking hereabout women you have just met and/or have not yet been physically intimatewith.)

Last Minute Canceling

In my experience, last minute canceling is pretty bad news. She is almostalways hiding something.

She either already has an involvement and is having serious second thoughts or she has something else going on that is embarrassing in nature that she justdoes not want to reveal.

Could be a drug problem.

Could be she's on probation.

Maybe her pimp called her and told her tonight's a "working" night.





Maybe her herpes simplex 9 has reached "United Nations sanctions levels" andshe is being quarantined.

Hey, you never, NEVER know.

In those cases, just know you did your best and you are not going to getanywhere and should probably be glad about it.

But in about 25% of the cases, she's just having some cold feet and you can getaround it.

Here's what you do when she calls:

"Hi Ross, it's Debby Dimshine. Sorry..I can't make it. I have to wash my hair" or whatever lame-ass story she tells you.

Just go silent on her.

Don't say anything.

"Hello? Are you there?"

Then say, "Look, we made plans and now you're canceling on me at the last minute.. I understand sometimes emergencies come up, but when people make

plans with me, I expect them to keep them. I'll always respect your time but I expect that same respect back. You call me when you know YOU CAN DOTHAT."

Then hang up.

The Very Subtle Implication At The Heart Of This

Now, this is pretty strong stuff. Little or no implication here. But you are stilldoing this without losing control; you are stating what is going on, you are statingyour rules, you are offering to be fair about it and extend to her what you expectfrom her, and then you are telling her what she has to do next IF she isinterested.

With this message, in this circumstance. it is ok to sound a little miffed. A bitpissed. A bit annoyed.

Why?

Because, in this case, you ought to be.





Your time is valuable (or should be). This person IS wasting your time bydisrespecting your scheduling and wasting time you could have spent withothers.

That IS legit cause for a legitimately self-respecting person to be a little

pissed.

But notice, it isn't about losing her.

It's about losing your time. You have implied in this message that your time isvery valuable by saying you expect her to respect it. You wouldn't expect respectfor something you yourself didn't value.

You are implying that you value something more than you value her: alwaysa challenge for women!

You didn't say this directly.

You implied it. Subtly. You silver-tongued Speed Seducing devil!

Sometimes You Can't "Win"

As the Chinese say, "If you can't be grateful for what you've won, be grateful for what you've managed to avoid".

Some women, my friend, are just not worth it.

Some women really are self-absorbed, live-in-the-moment, arrogant shit-headsand flakes and frankly we wouldn't even look at them twice or put any importanceon them if they didn't come wrapped in pretty packaging.

Swiftly letting these kinds of women eliminate themselves from your life is thebest favor they could possibly do for you!

You need an arrogant, self-centered, flaky or deeply disturbed woman like youneed an inflamed pee pee-hole, my dear student!

Remember: set standards for the women who will compete to get into your bed.The man who is the most selective, paradoxically winds up having the best(if notthe most) selections!

Remember that whether that woman you want is pleasing you or frustrating you,ignoring or adoring you, she is still a human, like you. She came in the same wayyou did: naked baby. She will go out the same way you will: no more breathing.

And in between those two events, whether she's sweet as sugar or bitter as abitch, she's still just trying to figure it all out.





Compassion, neutrality, clarity and a sense of humor will power you a goodway longer with people than bullying, begging, rage or sentiment.

So, rather than let uncertainty fuel fires that ought never be lit in the first place,

just admit you don't know for sure what is going on.

Then get curious, get playful, consult your intuition, and give it your best shot witha sense of fun!

Doesn't that beat a poke in the eye?

Peace and piece,


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Staying Strong When They Are Flakey

If only the world of women were a lot moreeasy.

The truth is, women do pull 180's on us.They act warm and suddenly get cold. Theyseem into us and then they disappear .

If you are not strongly grounded in your ownenergy, your own belief and your own reality,this can really shake you, especially if you are

just starting to taste success. Here is anemail I got on this subject:

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Hello Ross,

I've been following your newsletter carefullybut still there is one major problem that I can'thandle and this is my neediness.

When I meet girls, I learn how to loosen up, but when things start getting moreintimate, I start demanding too much and too soon. When girls start getting flakyfor example, they just compel me to act needy, I just feel compelled to ask themagain and again and it takes me tremendous effort to suppress it. Do you know

any strategy of how to overcome it, how to just feel "unattached" to the outcome?

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This is such a common problem that I really feel badly for not having addressed itsooner.

It is human nature to value something more when it gets pulled away fromus. We are programmed in many ways to protect what we already have, even if what we have isn't that much or that great. If what we have really IS great,compared to what we are used to having, then we really can panic when it gets

pulled away .

As in handling anything, the first step is to be prepared BEFORE somethinghappens, so you know energetically how you will respond. If you wait for thecrisis and then, in the middle of your panic, try to find an answer, it will be toolate.





So what I want to say, first of all, is: expect that women, for whatever reasons,can be creatures of mood and often these shifts on their part HAVE NOTHINGTO DO WITH YOU.

What if you could practice having this kind of thing happen and you feeling totally

rooted, totally grounded and thinking, "This is just some noise in her system andit may not even have anything to do with me?"

Also, I strongly recommend you learn some physical/breath practice for grounding yourself.

Another way to think about it is this: any response a woman gives you is justinformation you can use and an opportunity to show her you walk throughthe world in a much better, much more powerful way than she.

So what if you were to have the response, when they act flakey or pull away, "I

don't know why you're doing this, but I know I don't like it and don't have time tofigure it out. When you're in a better way and you knock on the door just right, I might still open it".

Finally, I strongly urge you to find ways to make this belief real for you: "I canenjoy meeting and connecting with people on many and different levels and I amalso fine on my own. I make my own fun!"

Now ... you can really can get all the women you want without bullying, beggingor buying. Just go here:


Peace and piece,


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The Word-For-Word Anti-Flake Pattern In Action!

In the previous section, I gave you anexample of a word for word message I haveused with success on women who suddenly

stop calling.

Well, I just left that message about an hour ago for a bartender who I've been Sargingon and off. She had not returned 2 callsover the space of a month.

To refresh your memory, it goes something like this:

"Hey Amber, it's Ross. So, I'm just wonderingwhat is going on. You haven't returned my calls

and then you flaked on a meeting. You know, Ithought you and I were at least BECOMINGfriends. But this doesn't feel like the way friendstreat friends. At best it feels distracted and atworst, it feels thoughtless. And that secondchoice just doesn't feel like you. So if you havesome explanation and want to call, you can reachme at: 555-1212."

20 minutes after I left that message she called me back falling all over herself apologizing.

She said:

1. Her father had a heart attack so she flew to Texas to be with him.2. She'd had the flu for the past week and best of all:3. HER BOYFRIEND BROKE UP WITH HER AND MOVED OUT!

Note to self: when you use that break-them-up spell, make sure you don't afflictthem or relatives with diseases by accident.

Just kidding on that last part.

Here is the most important thing: I really did NOT know what was going onwith this woman.

She was very warm to me whenever I went into the bar to see her, incrediblyresponsive to my touch (you can see what I did to her by going to the websiteand checking out my Advanced Irresistible Arousal videos athttp://www.seduction.com/products/RJ183.php). But for now, I can tell you that







when I'd massage her neck and shoulders I could feel the heat radiating off her bodies and her moans of pleasure gave me a Stiffly Stifferson the size of Miami!

So I knew that she was into me and there had to be something else going on.This was not a case of low interest at all.

By calling her on it and letting her know she was about to lose me yet at thesame time being cool about it, I gave her a chance to cum through andredeem herself.

(BTW, since she was so very nice to call me I treated her to a very erotic trancesession over the phone. Very fun, for us both, to be sure!)

Remember, women's lives can be very chaotic, fast paced, full of stress andchange.

All the more reason to capture and lead their imagination and emotions as fast asyou can and be prepared for the unpredictable and for change.

Oh, and one more thing. A few hours after writing this I walked into thebar/restaurant where she works. She came up behind me, wrapped her armsaround me, covered me with kisses and wouldn't let go of me! Damn, this stuff WORKS!

On the looks scale, she's 3 points above me and easily 20 years younger. And Ihaven't spent ONE penny on her and don't intend to!

Peace and piece,


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Another Anti-Flake Phone Pattern ... Works YetAGAIN!

Recently on my blog, I told you about my student

who had sex with the super-squirting babe whodried up and flaked on a planned meeting.

24 hours before their next scheduled meeting, shetexted him with this: “I have to cancel our plans for tomorrow. I totally forgot about a previousengagement.”

He knew immediately (as did I when he told me) thatit was a flake, a line of total malarkey, because shedidn’t say she was sorry, didn’t immediately offer to reschedule, and tried to hide

behind texting rather than calling him.

A few minutes after he told me about this, I found myself AGAIN inteacher/mentor mode (the place where I thrive). I wrote out a brand-new Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern and e-mailed it to him. As you know, I do mybest work when I am hands-on with my students, helping them succeed in their specific situations with women.

Some of the key points of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern (spoken in mystudent’s voice) are:

•

I’m trying to figure out what’s going on and want to open the opportunityfor you to tell me

• I’d rather have it on the table or in my face, then behind my back (I usethis in one of the screening patterns I use when I Sarge)

• I’ve enjoyed being with you and want to hear what’s going on

As a smart guy who is serious about success with the hottest of super-hot,wet women, he called her that evening and she answered the phone. After shetried to play him off and tell him she wasn’t “in the mood to talk” he had her pause and focus on listening, and then he spoke the Anti-Flake Phone MessagePattern to her, word-for-word.

"Hey Vanessa, it's Ross. So at this point I'm kindascratching my head trying to figure out what'sgoing on.

I'm not a good mind-reader and don't have thetime for it even if I was, so what I just want to dois open up the opportunity to speak your truth and





just tell me what's going on. Whatever your truth,it's cool with me as long as I get to hear it. I'drather have it on the table or in my face thanshoved in a closet for me to have to figure out.

So I enjoyed being with you and want to hear what's going on. You can think of this call asyour absolute permission to do that. So you cancall me back at: 555-1212."

What Happened Next ...

For a “use a knife to cut the tension in the air” 20 seconds, she was silent. Iwould venture her previous men have been Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs)and she’s never been in the presence of a real Speed Seduction® Master whopowerfully claims his desire, his skills, his success, and his future. Now she

was confronted by a man who doesn’t mess around when it comes to gettingwhat he wants, and realized the “game” she is used to playing with men wasn’tgoing to work on him.

Then she said, slowly, “I’ve given this a lot of thought and I just don’t think wehave much in common. You’ll make a woman happy very soon, but I’m just not feeling this. I’m sorry, I’m really bad at this.”

Whether or not this was THE truth, it was, as far as he’s concerned, “her truth”at the moment. And it wasn’t his job to “figure her out.” In fact, in my debriefingwith him he said the only part he really heard was when she said “You’llmake a woman happy very soon.”

Note: The goal of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern is to get her to stepout from behind her game and claim her truth (if she can). In this case, shecouldn’t. This is an indicator of how she would behave toward him if their interactions progressed to “seeing each other” and then “boyfriend/girlfriend.”

By using the Anti-Flake this early in the interactions with her – the VERY FIRSTTIME she flaked on him, he sidestepped a landmine so he can refocus hisSarging efforts toward finding the RIGHT women for him.

Like this pattern? Pretty cool eh? It clears things up so you can focus your energy and efforts on women who will be worth your time. That sure beats a

poke in the eye!





Peace and piece,


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