Re-Defining Why You Lead

Alycia Sutor @Alycia_Akina

Leadership

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The Building Blocks of Leadership

Competence

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The Golden Circle of Leadership

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“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values,

Your values become your destiny.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Look to the Past

•  Recall 3 examples of times when you made a challenging values based decision –  Story 1: (Organizational) You were clearly responsible to

make the decision. You were involved as well as responsible.

–  Story 2: (Organizational) You were not at all responsible for the situation, but you inserted yourself even though you could have easily avoided it. You were neither involved nor responsible.

–  Story 3: (Personal) In your personal life – family, neighborhood, friends, identify a story that reveals your values in action.

In Each Story

•  You were making choices and decisions that mattered to you.

•  You felt good about you handled the situation (regardless of final outcome).

•  Think about yourself “in the moment” and recall the decisions you made around how to act and do.

•  Make note of what you really wanted for yourself and for others.

Story Notes – Story 1: (Organizational) You were involved and responsible

•  Describe the situation:

•  What did you REALLY want for yourself and others?

•  What did you do? How did you move or act?

•  What mattered most to you?

Story Notes – Story 2: (Organizational) You were NOT involved and NOT responsible but you acted

•  Describe the situation:

•  What did you REALLY want for yourself and others?

•  What did you do? How did you move or act?

•  What mattered most to you?

Story Notes – Story 3: A personal story of a values conflict, perhaps involving time, money or talent

•  Describe the situation:

•  What did you REALLY want for yourself and others?

•  What did you do? How did you move or act?

•  What mattered most to you?

Interview Notes: Story 1

•  Story Summary:

•  What did you really want for yourself and others?

•  What did you do? How did you move? (Ask action/verb questions and focus on key decisions and choices)

•  What mattered most to you?

Ask Verb Questions: • “How did you go about (verb)?” • What do you mean by (verb)?” • What was involved in (verb)?”

Interview Notes: Story 2

•  Story Summary:

•  What did you really want for yourself and others?

•  What did you do? How did you move? (Ask action/verb questions and focus on key decisions and choices)

•  What mattered most to you?

Ask Verb Questions: • “How did you go about (verb)?” • What do you mean by (verb)?” • What was involved in (verb)?”

Interview Notes: Story 3

•  Story Summary:

•  What did you really want for yourself and others?

•  What did you do? How did you move? (Ask action/verb questions and focus on key decisions and choices)

•  What mattered most to you?

Ask Verb Questions: • “How did you go about (verb)?” • What do you mean by (verb)?” • What was involved in (verb)?”

Capture Your Why’s

•  Looking back over your three values stories, identify 1-3 values that are revealed. In both your organizational and personal life you value: –  1. – 2. – 3.

•  This matters to me because:

Values List Accountability Discernment Imaginative Obedience Self-control

Affluence Discipline Influence Optimism Self-discipline

Authenticity Empathy Initiative Passion Self-respect

Autonomy Endurance Innovation Patience Stability

Balance Enthusiasm Insight Power Steward

Belief Ethics Inspiration Purpose Strength

Challenge Excellence Integrity Quality Success

Character Faithfulness Intelligence Reality Teamwork

Commitment Family Joy Reconciliation Tolerance

Community Forgiveness Justice Repentance Trust

Compassion Generosity Knowledge Resolve Truth

Competence Goal-driven Leadership Respect Unity

Confidence Grace Liberty Responsible Value

Control Honesty Love Responsive Virtue

Courage Honor Mercy Reverent Vision

Creativity Hope Mission Risk Will

Culture Humility Morality Sacrifice Wisdom

Diligence Humor Motivation Self-Aware

Identify Your How’s

•  What are two things you could do more of to live out or re-enforce your values:

•  What are two things to stop doing because they erode your values credibility:

•  What are two things to start doing:

A LEADERSHIP MINDSET

Your Choices: Two Games for Playing

Playing Boldly Playing Not to Lose –  Playing full out

–  Taking risks

–  Create and build

–  Open

–  Abundance

–  Living into the future

–  Joy of the game

–  Going as far as you can

–  Playing it safe

–  CYA

–  Protect and defend

–  Closed

–  Scarcity

–  Living from the past

–  Fear of the game

–  Holding on to what you have

Adapted from Larry Wilson – Play to Win © 1998

This is Water – David Foster Wallace

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Alycia Sutor, Partner Akina

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