04 / 200804 / 2008 Bishop-Designate Marcus D. CampbellBishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell 1 Conflict...

04 / 200804 / 2008Bishop-Designate Marcus D. CampbellBishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell 1

Conflict Resolution

A Tool To Assist Pastors and Ministers

Bishop-Designate Marcus D. Campbell 204 / 2008

Definition of Conflict

A natural disagreement resulting from individuals or groups that differ in attitude, beliefs, values, or needs.

Synonyms: Discord, Contention, Battle, Fight, War


Biblical Example of Conflict

Acts 15:39-40 “And the contention was so sharp between them, that they departed asunder one from another: and so Barnabas took Mark, and sailed unto Cyprus; and Paul chose Silas, and departed, being recommended by the brethren unto the grace of GOD.”


Causes of Conflict Past Rivalries (Unforgiveness) Personality Differences Egotism Personal Agendas Lack of Communication Ignorance Spitefulness Pride


Conflict Resolution

Resolving Conflict Within the Family


Factors that cause conflicts within a family:

Lack of effective communication Perceptions of reality Personal Opinions Power struggles Lack of respect Morals/values Feelings and emotions Lack of a desire to understand


Factors that cause conflicts within a family cont’:

Personal Fears Stress Life changes Differences in growth and maturity patterns


Resolution for Family Conflicts

Sit down and talk about the REAL problem Be willing to LISTEN Talk TO the family and NOT AT the family Take ownership for YOUR part Ensure that you understand the problem Agree to consciously work together FORGIVE! (Matthew 18: 21-22)


Resolution for Family Conflicts cont’ Remember your Love for them Be patient with them Consciously be kind Be honest always Pray together


Scriptural Reference

Proverbs 14:35 ; Proverbs 15:1,18 James 1:19-20 Ephesians 4:26-27, 31 Ecclesiastes 7:9 Hebrews 12:15 Psalm 4:4


Conflict Resolution

Resolving Conflict Within Employment


Factors that cause conflicts on the job:

Lack of effective communication Perceptions of reality Personal Opinions Power struggles Lack of respect Morals/values Feelings and emotions Lack of a desire to understand


Factors that cause conflicts on the job cont’:

Personal Fears Stress Life changes Differences in growth and maturity patterns Denial of promotions and merit raises Family problems


Resolution for Employment Conflicts Pray about the entire situation Discuss your conflict with those involved Set an office call with your supervisor and

discuss the conflict and guidance Document all occurrences and conversations Utilize the chain of authority or command Consider relocation within the company or to a

new company or field of employment


Scriptural Reference

Deuteronomy 30:15-16 Matthew 7:21, 24-25 Job 36:11 Romans 8:28 John 15:10 James 1:25


Conflict Resolution

Resolving Conflict Within the Church and Groups


Causes of conflict in the church

Lack of effective communication Ignorance Gossip Clicks, factions, and sets Power struggles Money Acceptance of TRUE Structure and Authority


Divine Structure of The Church

Congregation

Diaconate Ministry(Deacons)

(Deaconesses)

Senior Pastor(Assistant Ministers)

God, The FatherJesus The ChristThe Holy SpiritThe Holy Bible

Our:

1. Anointed Leaders

2. Appointed Leaders

3. Allotted Leaders

Our:

1. Anointed Managers

2. Appointed Managers

3. Allotted Managers

How we serve!

Our:

1. Authority

2. Guidance

3. Foundation

Why we serve!

Our:

1. Relevance

2. Respect

3. Responsibility


Resolution of conflicts in the church Corporate prayer and fasting Establishment of effective communication The Doctrine of Belief (The Holy Bible) The Bylaws and/or Constitution of the church Setting the standard and upholding it Advocating and living holiness Sincere Listening and Loving Always be willing to reason Remember where the true authority exists


Scriptural References:

Acts 1:4-5 Hebrews 10:12-14 Matthew 24:14 Isaiah 52:8 1 Corinthians 1:10 John 10:15-16, John 16: 13-16 Ephesians 4


Conflict Resolution

Resolving Personal Conflicts


Causes of personal conflicts:

Denial Stress Loss of focus Frustrations Unappreciation Lack of rest Unhealthy diet Absence of a prayer life


Resolution of personal conflicts:

Acknowledge where you truly are in life Be REAL with yourself Be real with GOD Seek clarity from GOD on your purpose Disconnect from the inhibitors in life Love yourself Take care of yourself Forgive yourself


Scriptural References:

Matthew 5:44-45 Mark 11:25 Luke 6:36-38 Proverbs 20:22

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