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When “I Do”
becomes “I Don’t”
What happens
when “I Do”
becomes “I Don’t”?
When “When “I DoI Do”” becomes becomes ““I Don’tI Don’t””
1.1. What does the What does the
Bible say about Bible say about
Divorce?Divorce?
2.2. What to do in a What to do in a
struggling struggling
marriage?marriage?
Marriage is intended Marriage is intended
to be lifelongto be lifelong
Matthew 19:6Matthew 19:6
“So they are no longer “So they are no longer
two, but one flesh. two, but one flesh.
Therefore what God Therefore what God
has joined together, has joined together,
let no one separate.”let no one separate.”
1.1. AAbsolutely Not ??bsolutely Not ??
Absolutely Not ??Absolutely Not ??
Mark 10:11-12
(see also Luke 16:18)
“He answered, “Anyone who
divorces his wife and marries
another woman commits
adultery against her. And if
she divorces her husband
and marries another man,
she commits adultery.”
1.1. AAbsolutely Not ??bsolutely Not ??
2.2. AAdulterydultery
AdulteryAdultery
Matthew
19:3-9
Matthew 19:3Matthew 19:3--99
v.3v.3 -- Pharisee wanted to test Jesus: Pharisee wanted to test Jesus: “Can a “Can a man divorce his wife for any reasonman divorce his wife for any reason”?”?
Deuteronomy 24:1 (KJV) “When a man hath taken
a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that
she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath
found some uncleanness in her: then let him
write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her
hand, and send her out of his house.”
Rabbi Hillel – burning the food, nagging …
“no favour”?
Rabbi Shammai – unfaithful / adultery …
Rabbi Akiba – found a prettier woman …
“uncleanness”?
Matthew 19:3Matthew 19:3--99
v.3:v.3: Pharisee wanted to test Jesus: Pharisee wanted to test Jesus: “Can a man “Can a man
divorce his wife for any reasondivorce his wife for any reason”?”?
vv.4vv.4--6:6: Jesus reminded that Jesus reminded that marriage is marriage is
lifelonglifelong..
v.7:v.7: Pharisees asked why Moses Pharisees asked why Moses commandedcommanded
a man to give his wife certificate of divorce.a man to give his wife certificate of divorce.
v.8:v.8: Jesus said divorce is Jesus said divorce is permitted (notpermitted (not
commanded) commanded) because because hearts were hardhearts were hard..
v.9v.9: Divorce is allowed if a spouse commits : Divorce is allowed if a spouse commits
sexual immoralitysexual immorality..
AdulteryAdultery
Matthew 19:9
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his
wife, except for sexual immorality, and
marries another woman commits
adultery.”
“porneia”
Dear Abby;Dear Abby;
I am in love and I am having an affair with two different women other than my wife. I love my wife but I love these other women too. Please tell me what to do, but don’t give me any that morality stuff. Signed: Too much love for only one.
Dear Too much love for only Dear Too much love for only one;one;
The only difference between humans and animals is morality. Please write to a veterinarian. Signed: Abby.
1.1. AAbsolutely Not ??bsolutely Not ??
2.2. AAdulterydultery
3.3. AAbandonmentbandonment
AbandonmentAbandonment
1 Corinthians 7:12-15
12 …. If any brother has a wife who is not a
believer and she is willing to live with him, he must
not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband
who is not a believer and he is willing to live with
her, she must not divorce him. …15 But if the
unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the
sister is not bound in such circumstances; God
has called us to live in peace.
1 Corinthians 7:121 Corinthians 7:12--1515
Paul was repeating the teaching of Jesus Paul was repeating the teaching of Jesus -- husbands and wives not to separate.husbands and wives not to separate.
Paul addressed a different situationPaul addressed a different situation -- mixed mixed marriages.marriages.
vv.12vv.12--13: 13: Paul affirms that Christians Paul affirms that Christians should not initiate a divorce just because should not initiate a divorce just because the spouse is not a believer.the spouse is not a believer.
v.15:v.15: But if unbelieving spouse abandons But if unbelieving spouse abandons the spouse, the innocent spouse is not the spouse, the innocent spouse is not bound by the marriage.bound by the marriage.
1.1. AAbsolutely Not ??bsolutely Not ??
2.2. AAdulterydultery
3.3. AAbandonmentbandonment
4.4. AAbuse ??buse ??
Abuse ??Abuse ??
1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, in the same way
be considerate as you live with your
wives, and treat them with respect as the
weaker partner….”
Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your
wives and do not be harsh with them.”
Abuse ??Abuse ??
1 Corinthians 7:15
“But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so.
The brother or the sister is not bound in
such circumstances.”
Extension of 1 Corinthians 7:15 ??
AAdulterydultery
AAbandonmentbandonment
AAbusebuse
What to do in a What to do in a
struggling marriage?struggling marriage?
Be Christlike
Marriage is to be an
ongoing demonstration
of the sacrificial love
that Christ showed His
church
(Ephesians 5:21-33)
“What if God
designed
marriage to make
us holy more
than to make us
happy?”
“If the purpose of marriage were merely happiness
and romance, I’d have to find someone new about
every two years (and some do!). But if holiness is
God’s focus, then living with a difficult spouse is an
opportunity for me to grow in Christlikeness, for me
to be transformed.
If I focus on changing myself rather
than trying to change my spouse, I
find I must depend on God and in
that process I will find deep
fulfillment.”
What to do in a What to do in a
struggling marriage?struggling marriage?
Be Christlike
Be Prayerful
Colossians 4:2
“Devote yourselves
to prayer, being
watchful and
thankful.”
(Amplified Bible)
“Be earnest and unwearied and steadfast in
your prayer life, being both alert and intent in
your praying with thanksgiving.”
What to do in a What to do in a
struggling marriage?struggling marriage?
Be Christlike
Be Prayerful
Be Resolute
“Love at first sight,“Love at first sight,
Leave at first fight”Leave at first fight”
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Jet FighterJet Fighter
What to do in a What to do in a
struggling marriage?struggling marriage?
Be Christlike
Be Prayerful
Be Resolute
ArchbishopArchbishop
RobertRobert
RuncieRuncie
"Here is the stuff of which fairy tales
are made, the prince and princess on
their wedding day. But fairy tales
usually end at this point with the
simple phrase, 'They lived happily ever
after.' This may be because fairy tales
regard marriage as an anticlimax after
the romance of courtship. This is not
the Christian view. Our faith sees the
wedding day not as a place of arrival
but the place where the adventure
begins."
Psalm 147:3Psalm 147:3 “He heals the brokenhearted “He heals the brokenhearted
and binds up their wounds.”and binds up their wounds.”
300 sextillion stars300 sextillion stars
300,000,000,000,000,000,000,000300,000,000,000,000,000,000,000
… verse 4… verse 4 “He determines the number of “He determines the number of
the starsthe stars and calls them each by name.”and calls them each by name.”