Post on 22-Dec-2014
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The Verbally ABUSED
HUSBAND
This is compassionately dedicated
to the men who have fought to love and understand
in total solitude
The women that…
The women that…
Rage at them
The women that…
Rage at themCall them names
The women that…
Rage at themCall them namesCriticize their mistakes
The women that…
Rage at themCall them namesCriticize their mistakesJoke about their insecurities
The women that…
Rage at themCall them namesCriticize their mistakesJoke about their insecuritiesMock their interests
The women that…
Rage at themCall them namesCriticize their mistakesJoke about their insecuritiesMock their interestsTrivialize their pain
The women that…
Rage at themCall them namesCriticize their mistakesJoke about their insecuritiesMock their interestsTrivialize their painYell at them suddenly
Threaten them with their deepest fears
Then tell them they deserve it!
Then to top it off…
She denies it all!
If you are one of these men…
We believe in you
in your struggle
your loneliness
and your pain.
It's all very real.
You are not alone!
Here are some signs
Of an abusive relationship
But before we start…
A point of clarification:
This presentation in now way is meant to belittle even in the slightest way the
abuse that women and children are
victims of.
As a matter of fact, the following signs apply to
all abusive relationships, whether the victim is a child, a
wife or a husband.
Our intention is simply to bring to
the world’s attention that
men, like women and children, are victims as well.
Types of Emotional Abuse:
Based on:The Verbally Abusive Relationshipby Patricia Evans
Withholding
Withholding
When a women refuses to empathetically listen, validate, or share emotions. She withholds thoughts and feelings. She thus destroys the core of what sustains an intimate relationship, intimacy.
Countering
Countering
She negates, or counters his reality, feelings or experiences. He cannot say or do anything right.
Discounting
Discounting
Discounting causes partners to believe something is truly wrong with their feelings, thoughts and experiences. It causes a feeling of worthlessness.
Disguised Jokes
Disguised Jokes
Pokes at his most sensitive areas. Demeaning to his masculinity or abilities.
Blocking and Diverting
Blocking and Diverting
Blocking and diverting controls the discussion. When she BLOCKS, she will negate or nullify your statements. When she DIVERTS she will end the discussion, claim confusion, or “tiredness” with the subject. This prevents any possibility of resolving conflicts.
Accusing and Blaming
Accusing and Blaming
A verbal abuser will accuse or blame her partner for causing the abuse she is perpetrating.
Judging and Criticizing
Judging and Criticizing
The verbal abuser judges her partner’s thoughts and actions and then expresses her judgment in a critical way. By doing this, she continues her controlling behavior.
Trivializing
Trivializing
By trivializing his actions, opinions or perceptions, she is in essence saying that he is less significant that she. She thus tries to maintain her power over him.
Undermining
Undermining
Undermining not only withholds emotional support, it erodes confidence and determination. This makes her feel that she can more easily control him.
Threatening
Threatening
“Do as I say or else…”Verbally abusive threats are usually targeted directly at the victims deepest held insecurities. The ultimate statement of power and control.
Name Calling
Name Calling
Simply put, this is the most overt and obvious verbal abuse there is. Name calling is the ultimate nullification of his “self”. In other words “You do not exist”.
Forgetting
Forgetting
Abusive forgetting, i.e. “forgetting” appointments, agreements, and/or incidences is a form of manipulative denial. The abuser bluntly denies the partners existence. In doing so she shuts down any possibility of communication. Its like talking or living with a brick wall.
Ordering and Demanding
She’s in charge here…Ordering and Demanding is meant to demean a partner and tell him he is neither equal nor autonomous.
Ordering and Demanding
Denial
Denial
She feels that she in not accountable.She could read all of these categories and say "I love you, I'd never do anything to hurt you." She may even believe that herself.
Abusive Anger
Abusive Anger
By being abusively angry, the abuser is saying; “As long as I am scary and threatening to you I can have my way”.
If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available:
If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available:
Consult Your Family Doctor
If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available:
Consult Your Family DoctorConsult your Lawyer
If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available:
Consult Your Family DoctorConsult your LawyerLearn as much as you can on the subject
If you are the victim of emotional abuse there is help available:
Consult Your Family DoctorConsult your LawyerLearn as much as you can on the subjectStart the process towards a happier life!
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