Healing TheOrphan Heart

Adam and Eve in Eden

Adam and Eve in Eden• A perfect relationship with God their Father

Adam and Eve in Eden• A perfect relationship with God their Father• An unshakeable sense of their identity

Adam and Eve in Eden• A perfect relationship with God their Father• An unshakeable sense of their identity• Continual sense of security

Adam and Eve in Eden• A perfect relationship with God their Father• An unshakeable sense of their identity• Continual sense of security• A Place of Belonging

Adam and Eve in Eden• A perfect relationship with God their Father• An unshakeable sense of their identity• Continual sense of security• A Place of Belonging • Fulfilling relationships with each other

Adam and Eve in Eden• A perfect relationship with God their Father• An unshakeable sense of their identity• Continual sense of security• A Place of Belonging • Fulfilling relationships with each other• Fruitful, enjoyable work

After the Fall

After the FallSeparation from God and each other

After the FallSeparation from God and each other

– Fear of Exposure – Shame - because They are “Different”– Control - to cover the Shame

Genesis 3:10– Loneliness - feeling abandoned – Jealousy because… They have Lost Everything!

Orphan Heart: our default mode

Orphan Heart: our default mode

• Events that make us feel like an orphan

Orphan Heart: our default mode

• Events that make us feel like an orphan• Lies

– About ourselves– About others– About God

But Jesus

But JesusI will not leave you as orphans; I will come to

you. John 14:18

Father’s Love: Orphan or child of God?

Father’s Love: Orphan or child of God?

For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father."

Romans 8:15

THE ORPHAN HEART

CHILD LIKE HEART

GOD IS MASTER PICTURE OF GOD GOD IS MY LOVING FATHER

INDEPENDENT/ SELF RELIANT

DEPENDENCY INTERDEPENDENT

LIVE BY THE LOVE OF LAW

THEOLOGY LIVE BY THE LAW OF LOVE

INSECURE/ LACK PEACE SECURITY REST AND PEACE

STRIVE FOR PRAISE, APPROVAL, ACCEPTANCE

NEED FOR APPROVAL ACCEPTED IN GODS LOVE/ JUSTIFIED BY GRACE

THE ORPHAN HEART

CHILD LIKE HEART

PERSONAL DRIVE TO ‘IMPRESS’ GOD OR NONE AT ALL

MOTIVE FOR SERVICE DEEP GRATITUDE FOR LOVE OF GOD

DUTY AND EARNING GOD’S FAVOUR OR NONE

MOTIVE FOR SPIRITUAL DISCIPLINES

PLEASURE AND DELIGHT

DUTY DRIVEN/ GUILT/ SHAME

MOTIVE FOR PURITY WANT TO BE HOLY FOR INTIMACY

SELF REJECTION/ COMPARISON

SELF IMAGE POSITIVE

COUNTERFEIT AFFECTIONS

SOURCE OF COMFORT REST IN THE FATHER’S PRESENCE

THE ORPHAN HEART

CHILD LIKE HEART

COMPETITION RIVALRY JEALOUS

PEER RELATIONSHIPS HUMILITY AND SERVICE

DISTRUST AND REJECT IT

VIEW OF AUTHORITY HONOURING

FEEL LIKE A SLAVE/ SERVANT

POSITION FEEL LIKE A SON/ DAUGHTER

FIGHT FOR WHAT YOU CAN GET

FUTURE SONSHIP RELEASES INHERITANCE

BONDAGE CONDITION LIBERTY

Orphan Heart: Core Ungodly Beliefs

Orphan Heart: Core Ungodly Beliefs

• I am all alone.

Orphan Heart: Core Ungodly Beliefs

• I am all alone.• No one cares about me.

Orphan Heart: Core Ungodly Beliefs

• I am all alone.• No one cares about me.• I have to take care of myself.

Orphan Heart: Core Ungodly Beliefs

• I am all alone.• No one cares about me.• I have to take care of myself.• The World is a cold, cruel, dangerous

place.

Typical Judgments and Vows

Typical Judgments and Vows• People are dangerous.

Typical Judgments and Vows• People are dangerous.• I will never trust anyone again.

Typical Judgments and Vows• People are dangerous.• I will never trust anyone again.

• It is not safe to be submitted to another.

Typical Judgments and Vows• People are dangerous.• I will never trust anyone again.

• It is not safe to be submitted to another.• I will not let anyone control me.

Typical Judgments and Vows• People are dangerous.• I will never trust anyone again.

• It is not safe to be submitted to another.• I will not let anyone control me.

• Other people are incompetent.

Typical Judgments and Vows• People are dangerous.• I will never trust anyone again.

• It is not safe to be submitted to another.• I will not let anyone control me.

• Other people are incompetent.• I will do “it” my way

Healing the Orphan Heart

Healing the Orphan HeartWe receive healing from

hurtful events as we...

Healing the Orphan HeartWe receive healing from

hurtful events as we...• Reject the lies we have

believed

Healing the Orphan HeartWe receive healing from

hurtful events as we...• Reject the lies we have

believed• Receive the truth