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BANISHINGNEGATIVE
THOUGHTS
By Avinoam Lerner
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What is a Negative Thought?
Any thought associated with un-constructive or unpleasant emotional states (such as anger,
anxiety, depression, futility, pessimism, etc.)
How do negative thoughts feel in the body?
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Characteristics
Automatic - they just pop into your headwithout any effort on your part.
Distorted - they do not fit all of the facts.
Unhelpful they stop you from getting
what you want out of life.Plausible - you accept them as facts, andit does not occur to you to question them.
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Categories of Negative Thoughts
Assuming
Over GeneralizingShoulds
Labeling
It's all or nothing!
Believing what you feel
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Where Do They Come From?
They often arise when we are living with:
stress and anxiety
Depression
low self-esteem
self-hate
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The Conditioning Process:
Suggestions Beliefs Attitude Behavior SuccessFailure
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Inner Critic VS Inner Ally
The inner-critic is the voice in your head, whichconstantly evaluate everything that you dowhile at the same time reminding you of your faults, failings and weaknesses.
Whether this is a silent monolog or one youhear in your own voice, the voice of your parents, teachers and friends or even as asimple mental image, it has the power to wipeout your self-esteem.
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Focus on a tiny part of an experiencewhich is negative, use that as the memory
Focus on overall experience, evaluate,find the good
Focus on what you did wrong Focus on lessons learned, achievements
Perfect memory of negative experiences Terrible memory of positive experiences
Picks up sayings and ideas from theoutside, never evaluates, and repeats
Evaluates everything, allows the positivethrough and ignores most else
Has no faith, no goals, sets up for failure Faith, trust in self, goals, looks ahead
Feeds you weakness Feeds you strength
Makes you think everyone is criticizingyou and evaluating you constantly
Knows everyone is too busy listening totheir inner-critic to focus on your faults
Inner-Critic Inner-Ally
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Banishing Negative Thoughts
Decide - to feel good, no secondary gains
The Whole Picture - See things as they are
Focus - Every dark cloud has a silver lining
Self Talk - change what you say to yourself
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A Wise Quote
Life is not about waiting for the
storms to passits about learninghow to dance in the rain.
~ Anonymous
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5 Ways to Cut Down NT
1. First you have to perceive it. Listen toyour inner voice (self-talk). If its negative,
turn it around.
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5 Ways to Cut Down NT
2. Replace the negative voice with a positiveone.
Instead of that jerk cut in frontof me, what an idiot!
replace it with: He must reallybe in a hurry, maybe there issome personal emergency,Im glad I saw him and myreflexes are good.
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5 Ways to Cut Down NT
3. Remove non-positive words or phrasesfrom your vocabulary, such as I cant, or
I hate, or Im pissed off.
Remember the old saying,if you cant say somethinggood, dont say anythingat all
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5 Ways to Cut Down NT
4. Reward yourself!When you do something positive, reflect
on the positive ways it made a difference.
Give Yourself permission to
feel good about your actions.
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5 Ways to Cut Down NT
5. Have someone to talk to who can upliftyour spirit and inspire you. Choose your
company wisely.
Yes, a support -structure is very important.
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Other Self-Help Techniques
Hypnotherapy Use self-hypnosisrecordings
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP)
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USEFUL BOOKS TO READ
Overcoming Low Self-Esteem : A Self-Help Guide usingCognitive-BehaviouralTechniques by Melanie Fennell (Constable &Robinson, 1999)
Creating Self-Esteem : A Practical Guide to Realizing Your TrueWorth by Lynda Field (Vermilion, 2001)
The Achilles Syndrome : Overcoming the Secret Fear of Failure byPetruska Clarkson (Element Books Ltd., 1994)
There Is Nothing Wrong With You : Going Beyond Self-Hate byCheri Huber (Keep It Simple Books, 2001)
Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway : How to Turn Your Fear andIndecision into confidence and Action By Susan Jeffers (Rider and Co.,1997)
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Thank you,Avinoam Lerner