DevelopingDevelopingSELF CONTROLSELF CONTROLSELF CONTROLSELF CONTROL

Proverbs 25:28Proverbs 25:28“A person without self controlA person without self‐control is as defenseless as a city withis as defenseless as a city with broken‐down walls” (NLT)broken‐down walls  (NLT)

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RR llReResolvesolveto control itto control itto control itto control it

Proverbs 29:11Proverbs 29:11“A fool gives full vent to hisA fool gives full vent to his anger but a wise man keepsanger, but a wise man keeps himself under control” (Living B)himself under control  (Living B)

ReRealizealize the costthe costReRealizealize the costthe cost

Proverbs 29:22Proverbs 29:22“A hot tempered man GetsA hot‐tempered man…. Gets into all kinds of trouble ”(LB)into all kinds of trouble. (LB)

Pr. 15:18 “Hot tempers cause arguments.”(GN)

Pr. 14:29 “… anger causesPr. 14:29  … anger causes mistakes.”(LB)( )

P 14 17 “P l ith h tPr. 14:17 “People with hot tempers do foolish things ”(GN)tempers do foolish things.”(GN)

Proverbs 11:29Proverbs 11:29“The fool who provokes hisThe fool who provokes his 

family to anger andfamily to anger and resentment will finally haveresentment will finally have nothing worthwhile left ” (LB)nothing worthwhile left.  (LB)

ReRestrainstrainm mo thm mo thReRestrainstrainmy mouthmy mouth

Proverbs 21:23Proverbs 21:23“If you keep your mouth shutIf you keep your mouth shut you will stay out of trouble ”you will stay out of trouble.  

(NLT)(NLT)

James 1:19James 1:19“Be quick to listen slow toBe quick to listen, slow to speak slow to becomespeak, slow to become 

angry”angry.

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Proverbs 29:11Proverbs 29:11Proverbs 29:11Proverbs 29:11“A stupid man gives free rein

to his anger; a wise man waitswaits and lets it grow coolgrow cool.”

(NEB)

Proverbs 29:11Proverbs 29:11“A stupid man gives free reinA stupid man gives free rein to his anger; a wise man waitsto his anger; a wise man waitsand lets it grow cool ” (NEB)and lets it grow cool.  (NEB)

Truthful?Truthful?Helpful?I

pnspirational?Inspirational?Necessary?Kind?Kind?

Proverbs 19:11Proverbs 19:11“A man’s wisdom gives himA man s wisdom gives him 

patience ”patience.

CausesCausesCauses Causes ofof AngerAngerof of AngerAnger

HurtHurtFrustrationFrustrationFearFear

ReReleaselease angerReReleaselease anger i t li t lappropriatelyappropriately

Ephesians 4:26Ephesians 4:26pp“If you become angry don’tIf you become angry, don t let your anger lead you intolet your anger lead you into 

sin ” (GN)sin.  (GN)

Proverbs 22:24Proverbs 22:24“Keep away from angryKeep away from angry, 

short tempered people orshort‐tempered people, or you will learn to be likeyou will learn to be like 

them ” (NLT)them…  (NLT)

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Romans 12:17Romans 12:17 2121Romans 12:17Romans 12:17--2121“Never pay back evil for evil to anyone…never avenge yourselves. Leave that to God… overcome evil with 

good.” (NLT)

ReRequestquestqqGod’s helpGod’s helpGod s helpGod s help

Psalm 141:3Psalm 141:3Psalm 141:3Psalm 141:3“Lord, help me control my tongue; help me be careful about what I say.” (NCV)

Matthew 12:34Matthew 12:34“Whatever is in your heartWhatever is in your heart determines what you say.”determines what you say.

Our Words Demonstrate our Heart ConditionCondition

Harsh mouth demonstrates angry heartg yBoastful mouth demonstrates insecure heartTalkati e mo th demonstrates nsettled heartTalkative mouth demonstrates unsettled heartCritical words demonstrates a bitter heartJudgmental mouth demonstrates a guilty heart

Encouraging words shows a happy heartG tl d h l i h tGentle words shows a loving heartKind and comforting words shows a heart of gpeace

Colossians 3:15Colossians 3:15Colossians 3:15Colossians 3:15“Let the peace of Christ rule 

in your heart….” (NAS)