Welcome toPlenary session of Students Social Voluntary Program an

Students Initiative

ANGER

AND

AGGRESSION

MANAGEMENT

MANAGING

FEELINGS

PEER

SUPPORT

COMMUNICATION

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LISTENING

Assessment

DISC Assessment

TODAY’S

TOPIC

ANGER AND

AGGRESSION

MANAGEMENT

Hidden Heart 

    We keep hidden inside are our hurts, emotional pain, scars, and anger. Meant to be shared to deal

with them so that they can experience happiness in their lives once again.

 People who are angry on the inside and keep the

anger buried deep down which leads them to have many negative feelings towards themselves or

towards others. 

MaterialsPaper, Pens or pencils, Scissors, Thin pieces of

ribbon, One small, and one large balloon for each person (not inflated), Permanent colored markers

    

DescriptionGive a small balloon, piece of ribbon, paper, scissors and a pen or pencil.

Balloon represents their heart - all of the pain, hurt and anger Cut slips of paper put in the balloon after writing hurts and anger /pain Tie the balloon closed with the ribbon (do not blow up the balloon). Give one large balloon put their "heart" (the smaller balloon) into the larger balloon.

Blow up the large balloon and tie it shut. Write on the outside of the balloon how they present themselves to others on the outside so that nobody can see the things that are hidden on the inside. Eg. humor to hide the pain; Act confident even though they feel insecure and lonely.

Discuss what is written on the outside of the balloons. Challenge the members of the group to each share at least one thing they have written down on the outside of their balloon.

Then ask each person to state if it is a good thing to cover up what is on the inside or if they would like people to know more about what's going on in their life and if so to think of a way that this can happen.

Pop balloons as a symbolic way of getting rid of all the walls and devices that they use to hide their pain.

After the balloons are popped, the hearts with the ribbons tied around them should remain.

Challenge each person in the group to find someone in the next week's time whom they trust enough to give their heart to.

They should explain to that person what the balloon represents and why they want to give it to them; they should then let that person untie the ribbon to see what is inside.

If possible bring the group back together a week later for a follow up group to find out who was able to find someone to give their heart to. Or simply challenge the group to read what they had in their "heart" to the group. 

Discussion Prompts1.  How are you affected by the feelings and emotions that you keep inside of you?

2.  What things inside of you makes you feel angry?

3.  How can your life change if you get rid of the negative things and leave only the positive in your heart?

4.  How can you get rid of the negative things in your life?

5.  Do you trust anyone with your heart? Why or why not?

6.  How can it help you to find someone to trust with your feelings and emotions? 

Anger: Anger is defined as a strong uncomfortable emotional response to provocation that is unwanted and incongruent with one’s values, beliefs or rights.

Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and no adrenaline.

Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (Such as a co-worker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a cancelled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems. Memories of traumatic or enraging events can also trigger angry feelings.

Aggression: Aggression refers to behaviour that is intended to cause harm or pain. Aggression can be either physical or verbal.

1. Physically2. Emotionally3. Cyber bullying, abusive phone calls,

messages etc.4. Personal insults and name calling5. Verbal threats6. Aggression7. Interruption8. Gossip9. Spreading Rumors10.Excluding from group11.Posturing and Gesturing12.Swearing13.Racial or sexual comments14.Other forms of harassment

WAYS TO TAKE OUT ANGER / AGGRESSION

When we take out aggression on someone, the other person feels:•Aggressive•Guilty•Alone and unwanted•Shy•Resort to sleep •Don’t feel hungry•Anxiety •Not wanting to go to school•Feel stupid•Grades start falling

Emotional consequences

Academic consequences

Consequences of aggression

Physical factors:Stomach upset/ butterflies in stomachRapid breathing &heartbeatClenched fists, jaw & teethForehead frecklesSweating Dry mouthTensionShakingLegs feel weak

Emotional factors:FrustrationFeeling PowerlessAngerImpatienceRestlessnessHostilityDepression and anxietyFeeling upset and starting to cry

Common physical and emotional reactions associated with anger - which may lead to aggression

1.Identify the

triggers

2.Channelize anger

3.Build empathy

4.Become assertive

How to manage anger??????Write a diaryPaintBreatheWaterListen to soft musicGo out for a walk jog etc.Talk to a ‘supporter’Try to forgive

•Self disclosure (figure out exact your feelings and thoughts)•Negotiation (compensation)•Saying NO (being firm with the decision)

Do:  keep your voice calm and even keep your facial expression as neutral as possible to avoid showing emotion  maintain eye contact to show you are giving attention, but don’t insist that the young person maintain eye contact with you  make sure the person has enough physical space  if you need to, take a few seconds to calm yourself down before interacting.

Don’t:ᵪ shake or wave your fingers in the young person’s face.ᵪ glare, sneer, scowl or frown ᵪ get too close ᵪ yell or sigh in exasperation ᵪ slam doors, books or other objects.

HOW TO MANAGE AGGRESSION??????

COMMUNICATION STYLES

AGGRESSIVE

PASSIVE

Passive Aggressive

Assertive

SITUATION 1

YOUR AUNT HAS COME TO MEET YOU. SHE WANTS TO GO SHOPPING WITH YOU. BUT YOU HAVE TO GO TO YOUR FRIENDS PLACE FOR A GET-TOGETHER.

SITUATION 2

YOUR FRIEND IS UNWELL. SHE ASKS YOU TO GET LEMONADE FROM THE CANTEEN FOR HER. YOU SEE THAT THERE IS A LONG LINE.

SITUATION 3

YOU HAVE FINISHED YOUR HOMEWORK ON TIME. YOUR BESTFRIEND IS ASKING FOR IT TO COPY IT. YOU ARE RELUCTANT TO GIVE.

SITUATION 4

YOU HAVE BEEN STANDING IN A THEATRE LINE FOR POPCORN FOR 20 MINS. A PERSON WHO SAYS HE IS UNWELL WANTS TO CUT THE LINE AND BE AHEAD OF YOU.

SITUATION 1

While cutting a lane at the red light, a person scratched your car. You want the person to compensate for the loss.

Hope you enjoyed this

session……So what can we now do to

make the world a better place

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